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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

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Hi guys, I was wondering if and how I could possibly change my advicenators columnist name?
I dont want to make another column because I have put too much work into the one I have currently.
thanks

If you have a really good reason, DangerNerd might do it for free. It's a one-time, thing, so make sure it's what you want.

dangernerd@gmail.com

Or, if you get a paid account, you can change it as many times as you want while you have it.

Here's info about Paid Accounts:

http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php


--Jack
(17/m)

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My boyfriend and I are pretty serious, and I am fully aware that he really wants to have sex. It would be both our first times, but when is the time your least likely to have sex? He'd obviously wear a condom and he said he'd 'pull out' before he 'came' but I just still feel so paranoid, I want to do it but I'm nervous about getting pregnant. I just want to know when the time is that you can least likely get pregnant like in the 28 day cycle.

It doesn't matter if it's your first time, your second time, your 100th time, or your millionth time; the chances of getting pregnant are equal.

Tell him to wear a condom, like you said he would, because that will help a lot. The pull-out method isn't effective; you get panicked and he pulls out really fast, and probably rips the condom, and then there's sperm everywhere, increasing your chances of getting pregnant.

Birth control is a good idea, but I have no idea when you should start taking it.

Pre-cum, which is the liquid that comes out before ejaculation, can get your pregnant, so just be aware of that.

--Jack
(17/m)

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can you french kiss with braces? i met this guy i really like and i think were ready to take it to the mext step.

Just make sure that you don't like flip your upper lip upward, because then they feel your braces, and it kind of hurts [I know from experience].

Just go slow and everything should be fine.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i was masterbating the other day using a cylinder-shaped-thing. i felt like i had to pee when it got close to the climax, but i heard thats what happens when girls are about to orgasm. so i kept going. and when i thought i was orgasming, i peed. is this normal??

im going to be having sex soon, and i dont want to pee during intercourse. is there anything i can do? how will i know if its a real orgasm or if i just have to pee really badly?

thanks!

If it was pee, then maybe you should try going to the bathroom before you have sex, and make sure not to drink anything after you go to the bathroom.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i feel like a lump

what do you guys *really* do each day? (not counting eating, showering, sleeping of course)

i hate when people ask me what i am up to because really, i don't do anything except like watch tv. and being at home during the summer while in college sucks bc no one else is around and its hard to get a job nowadays

Here's how you can not be so bored:

www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.



But as for what I do each day, sometimes I dance, sometimes I read, sometimes I write, sometimes I hang out with friends. I pretty much do whatever I'm feeling up for.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have a blogger.com account, but I was just wondering if it's possible to make that private. I want every entry to be specifically for my eyes, and I tried to figure it out, but I couldn't.. lol.

If for some reason I'm not able to make it private, are there any other blog websites you would recommend that are good to use? Thanks.

Wordpress lets you lock pages and I think you can make your posts private.

www.wordpress.com

Enjoy. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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when do you use talking "to" and talking "with" someone?

Talking "to" is used if you are doing most of the talking.

Talking "with" is used when both of you are talking equally.

At least that's the way I've understood it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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being idle for 10 min from the computer or just facebook? like if im on another tab but still on the comp just not perusing facebook, is that counted as idle?

I think it's the computer. Because for AIM, if you're idle, it's when you're idle on your computer.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Do people with braces on their teeth normally kiss? If so, is there any difference from those who don't have braces? Especially French kissing.

My ex girl and I are likely to make up in a few days from now. She recently got braces, and I wonder if it will be normal for us to be kissing, now that she has braces :-)

I've kissed someone with braces. It hurt a little bit, because she like flipped her upper lip up and I felt her braces. They kind of pinched my lips.

It wasn't too bad. As long as she knows what she's doing, it shouldn't be different.

--Jack
(17/m)

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thanks so much for helping me...but my plan got a little messed up...so we just talked on the phone about some stuff and he said he still has feelings for me, but he isn't ready for a relationship because he kinda just wants to have fun and he thinks its hard work. he then said that if he went to a party with me he wouldn't trust himself because the good feelings would come back. he also said that he's been only thinking about the good times we had together and none of the bad. i asked him to go on vacation with me because i thought the time was right and he said he definetly wanted to but he has to make sure his dad will have left by then (he's a soilder in iraq and comes home for like a month). but he made it clear he definetly wanted to go.... so how can i make him see that he can have fun AND be in a relationship (not fun as in have sex with other girls, but like not have to have relationship stress on his shoulders) i miss him tonssssss =/

How can you make him see that he can have fun? That starts with actually having fun when you hang out.

The relationship part is tricky, and I really don't know how to convince someone that they should be in a relationship with you, mayhaps that comes with showing him that you two can have fun together.

Thanks for inboxing.

--Jack
(17/m)

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The guy i was talking to and me stoped talking before this instance started , but we decide to be friends with benfits but the rules are we arent allowed to TALK TO TALK TO anyone or mess around with anyone else , i told him what happen and now he said wont talk to me at all , and i said im sorry but he told me he dint care but why wont he talk to me ?

I don't really understand your question. Can you rephrase it and then ask it again to my inbox?

Thanks.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Mae (pronounced May, just a cooler spelling), Rena, Lynette, Jesirae, Amira, Kiara, Lena, Kaylee, Amina, Rose, Anissa, Liliana, Arabelle, Lilibeth, Ayla, Nikia, Ciana

I like Rose and Liliana, because Liliana can be shortened to Lily.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi all =) I'm kinda stuck with this guy that I really like. Usually I ask my friends for advice for this sort of stuff but they seem just as confused as I do =/ I'm sorry if this is long!

Basically I know this guy who I really like, I met him through a close friend a couple of months ago and we were just friends at first but we got close and he told my friend he liked me, and his friends told me that he had told them he liked me. So I told him I liked him and he said it back =)

anyway more to the point, lately we have just been talking and kissing, but he when I was at his house with his friends and we had been drinking, he will just go in a mood with me. I used to ignore it b/c he only does it when he's drunk and it doesn't last long. But since the last time I went to his house and he was a bit moody with me when he was drunk, he hasn't spoken to me properly. I have text him and he didn't reply so I left him to it as I gathered he was still in a mood. (His friends say he isn't in a mood with me, and that they don't understand him sometimes). So he text me days later and asked if I wanted to go to his house for some drinks but I couldn't b/c I was working that night. So I text him a day later and asked how he was, and he hasn't replied to me. Does this mean he doesn't like me? I'm so bad at telling whether guys like me, like the worst! I wish guys were simple, i'm sure you girls agree.

I'm sorry this was so long ha! What do you guys think I should do? Some people are telling me to walk away but it's easy to say that when you aren't involved. Thanx =)

Hey. About the texting:

Just to warn you, I'm not yelling at you only, but all those out there on Advicenators who think that JUST because a guy doesn't text you first, it means he can't POSSIBLY like you.

I don't know what it is that makes people think this. Seriously, sometimes we guys don't feel like starting a conversation because we're not always into talking. Sometimes we are. It really just depends.

And something as little as texting, come on, texting, for goodness sake, shouldn't dictate whether a guy likes you or not. The fact that he talks to you should be good enough, you know?

Since I see texting as the lowest form of communication, other than telegrams and letters, I don't see it as a big deal that he doesn't text you first. Maybe he's just busy and doesn't regularly think: Oh dear, maybe I should text this girl or she might think I'm a jerk.

Guys don't think like that.

So aside from my rant, which has meaning, I think that you should only take offense if he doesn't start the conversation first, if the conversation is IN PERSON, not through text. Like if you clearly make eye contact and he doesn't at least say hello or some type of small-talk, then I would say he doesn't like you as any more than a friend.




As for him as a person, I wouldn't get involved with him, because he sounds like a heavy drinker, and he has two personalities, which will eventually be just the drunken one. Do you like it when he's drunk? If the answer is no, it's not worth it. If the answer is yes, well, just think about that answer; you LIKE him being drunk and a completely different person?

Honestly, I think he cares more about drinking than about you. I know that sounds rash and harsh, but that's what I think.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Some background information before I start: I'm in high school. My boyfriend just graduated high school. We have a fairly strong relationship and plan on living together as soon as we both finish college. He's had one other serious girlfriend, who he dated for 3 years. He loved her but went too far one night with another friend of his. Though he was completely honest about it with her and they tried to repair their relationship, the damage was done, and they broke up. He met me soon after, and our relationship began.
Even though I know we truly love each other, I can't help but think that I'm only second best in his heart. He has conflicting feelings about his ex-girlfriend still, after all of this time with me. He says that he can't stand her anymore and wouldn't talk to her if he saw her, but it's clear to me that somewhere inside, he still loves her.
This is where the problem begins. They're going to college together. The chance that they would see each other is very high, and knowing the type of person my boyfriend is (the type who likes problems resolved and who can't forget problems), he would talk to her. I know he wouldn't plan to do anything with her and that if anything did happen, he would tell me straight away. But I'm scared that it will happen, and that he'll choose her over me. I would be truly heartbroken if I lost him.
I'm scared to talk to him about this because I'm afraid of the truth, hearing what I don't want to be true.
What do you make of this situation?
P.S. Sorry about the long post!

I think that just because he had the girlfriend in the past doesn't mean he's going to go back to her.

Talk to him about it; let him know how you feel. If you both talk out your feelings, things will be clear for both of you, and you'll be able to feel more comfortable with him seeing his ex.

Other than that, you can only pray that he will remain faithful to you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm 17 going into my senior year of high school. I was wondering what I should do to get a girlfriend fast and easy. Be specific. I need something other than " try talking to her".

Well- you can't MAKE someone like you. It has to happen naturally. Sure- you can do nice things for them and hope that they like you more for them- but you shouldn't thrive to make a girl like you. There are plenty of girls out there that will like you for who you are. Here is a list of things you can do to make a girl smile, that I found:

-Tell her she is beautiful (not fine, or sexy)
-Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
-Kiss her on the forehead.
-Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
-When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
-Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
-Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
-Write her notes. (she loves them)
-Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
-Play with her hair.
-Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
-Sit in the park and just talk to her.
-Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
-Let her fall asleep in your arms.
-If she's mad at you, kiss her.
-Give her piggyback rides.
-Bring her flowers
-Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
-Look her in the eyes and smile.
-Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
-Kiss her in the rain.
-If your in love with her, tell her.

If you really want to win a girl over- you need to be confident and always smiling. A shy and timid guy, while somewhat attractive to some girls, will not attract the girls you're looking for. A girl also likes to see success in a guy. She probably won't be attracted to you if you're off smoking pot or drinking alcohol. She will like if you're clean and as successful as you can be at your age.



--Jack
(17/m)

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my acne is sort of mild, and i wanted to know that if anyone who had pro-activ, if it is helpful? and should i buy it?

It didn't work. It actually made me break out even more.

Try Clean and Clear or Neutrogena, which actually worked for me.

I have mild acne, too. I get breakouts, but I get some really bad acne once in awhile.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My boy bestfriend and I made out . I never thought he saw me that way , he has a girlfriend , and i have a boy im talking to seriously , Ive always been very confused what Ive felt for him , and I think maby he feels the same but im scared to ask if he has feelings for me Should I or just let fate run its course ?

I think you should stay away from the girl with a girlfriend. You don't want to be known as the slut that broke them up or something.

As for the guy you're talking to, try things out with him. Maybe if things don't work out with him, things might eventually work out with your boy best friend.

But I wouldn't tell him you don't know how you feel about him. I mean, he might like you, but things will get complicated if you make him decide when he's already in a relationship. It's not fair to him, yourself, or his girlfriend.

--Jack
(17/m)

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does eating chocolate make people feel good? personally, it does not do much for me. i dont know if i even get happy doing anything. maybe i have an endorphin dysfunction??

Chocolate tends to make girls happy, because it tastes good, and when girls are PMSing, chocolate comforts them.

Personally chocolate makes me feel good because I just like chocolate.

--Jack
(17/m)

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besides new england, are there any other regions of the u.s.? like what states exactly are the west coast, east coast, south, and midwest consisting of?

maine counts as both east coast and new england?

Ok.

Mid-west is like: Michigan, Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, Iowa, Missouri, Wisconsin, Nebraska, the Dakotas, and perhaps Kansas.

South: Kentucky, Tennessee, Georgia, Florida, Arkansas, Louisiana, Alabama, South Carolina, Mississippi, Oklahoma, and Texas.

West coast: California, Oregon, and Washington State.

East coast: Florida, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, Virginia, Maryland, Delaware, New Jersey, New York, Rhode Island, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Maine.

Maine is both east coast and New England.


--Jack
(17/m)

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does the prank where you put a sleeping person's hand in a bowl of warm water to make them pee really work? won't the water get cold fast?

Yes, it works. It goes with the trick if you have to go pee, if you run your hand in warm water, you'll be able to go.

I have no idea why it works, but it does. And the water won't get cold fast. It would take at least a half hour for it to get to room temperature from warm.

--Jack
(17/m)

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