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I need a girlfriend fast!
I'm 17 going into my senior year of high school. I was wondering what I should do to get a girlfriend fast and easy. Be specific. I need something other than " try talking to her".
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Well- you can't MAKE someone like you. It has to happen naturally. Sure- you can do nice things for them and hope that they like you more for them- but you shouldn't thrive to make a girl like you. There are plenty of girls out there that will like you for who you are. Here is a list of things you can do to make a girl smile, that I found:
-Tell her she is beautiful (not fine, or sexy)
-Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
-Kiss her on the forehead.
-Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
-When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
-Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
-Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
-Write her notes. (she loves them)
-Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
-Play with her hair.
-Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
-Sit in the park and just talk to her.
-Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
-Let her fall asleep in your arms.
-If she's mad at you, kiss her.
-Give her piggyback rides.
-Bring her flowers
-Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
-Look her in the eyes and smile.
-Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
-Kiss her in the rain.
-If your in love with her, tell her.
If you really want to win a girl over- you need to be confident and always smiling. A shy and timid guy, while somewhat attractive to some girls, will not attract the girls you're looking for. A girl also likes to see success in a guy. She probably won't be attracted to you if you're off smoking pot or drinking alcohol. She will like if you're clean and as successful as you can be at your age.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Hiya,
Right firstly, why do you feel like you "have" to have a girlfriend?
Shouldn't it be about when the times comes and when you find someone who you genuinely like, rather than just wanting a girl to have as arm candy?
Just concentrate on who you are, let the girl find you, looking for that special someone never does you favours as it usually just leads people to dissapointment. Concentrate on your personality, your life, your appearance, how you are towards people.
Treat girls with respect, I'm not saying be over the top with the gentlemen ways, but show a girl you don't just want her for sex. Maybe make the effort, if you see someone you like, "go talk to her" or find her email/website or get her number and contact her.
Girls love abit of confidence!
Don't go all out to impress though, be yourself, don't try TOO hard with girls!
And even though you should be nice and friendly towards a girl you have your eye on, also keep it cool and be a little aloof; have your own life.
What is it that your struggling with that is making you feel desperate for a girlfriend?
Email me if you want :)
Love Sugar x
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Be sweet, be outgoing, make her laugh, be there for her, but dont be there too much or you will fall into the "friend zone" Meet someone new, that way they dont know you and you can pull all the strings to get her to fall for you.
If you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me!
Hope i helped =]
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From there:
It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.
Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]
Personality wise, here are my top 5:
1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".
2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.
3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.
4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.
5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.
Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.
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First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.
I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?
Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."
So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.
Good luck :)
-Laura (17-f)
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im 14 and yes im a frickin girl ha ha i figured this would be an easy insight of how we think ...if you hav the folowing ur almost set to aproach who your checkin out
*good breath
*confidence
*fashion sense
*sense of humor
*patience
*and last but not least ..drumbroll.. please an ego!!!
NO CORNY PICK UP LINES LIKE "DO your PANTS HAV MIRRORS CAS I C ME IN DEM " PLEASE ...WE HATe THOSE UNLESS UR HITIN ON A SKANK
try looking at social places close to your school aproach somone who looks your age and is catching your eye try a light joke nothing too raunchy or gross(idc bout gross jokes b cas im a tomboy but most woman do) make her laugh then start talkin bout the event see the vibe she gives off (smile laugh serious look w..e)baased on how she reacts about what your sayin decide wether or not to ask her (oh and dont sound nervous r stutter wen yuh ask)
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Why do you NEED to have a girlfriend before going into school?
Anyway..If you know someone that you like you can always ask her out.
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