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what do you do to get a guy to notice/like you?
Theres someone I i've just met and like, i haven't really been in a whole lotta relationships and am very shy, and maybe sorta
standoff-ish because im inexperienced, not dated frequently...as most girls my age I have friends but don't ask advice cause i don't want to talk to them about it. I want to become more comfident and calm, and actually ask him out, or get him to.
any advice about being more comfident/calm or flirting tips that subtly tell someone "i like you"? please help out...
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First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.
I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?
Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."
So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.
As far as the flirting portion goes, it's really not that hard. Take it slow: start with smiles and eye contact. Eye contact is a major thing in flirting. Then, move on to things like asking to hang out alone, texting him just to say good morning, commenting his picture on Facebook telling him he looks cute, etc.
Honestly though, don't stress about it too much. Flirting isn't hard and once you start doing it, you'll get used to it and you'll be a pro in no time! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Your description of yourself sounded exactly like me before I met my current boyfriend. Had one previous boyfriend, really shy and I was afraid to get hurt so I wouldn't get close to people. I decided to make a change when I was being set up with my bf. I realized if I wanted a true relationship then I would have to be myself and he's going to have to like me for me but how do I show him the real me when I'm so shy? When I met my boyfriend we were with mutual friends so I forced myself to act like I would if he wasn't around and I was just with friends. I was happy, acted like I was having a good time (wasn't hard, I was with a good looking guy and my best friends) but I wasn't too bubbly or giggly. I still threw in my usual sarcastic comments as often as I normally would. Well obviously he like me, we started dating and I asked him what was the first thing that attracted him to me and it wasn't how I looked, what I was wearing or how I acted towards him (I barely talked to him when we met) but he said it was my smile and my laugh and how being around a happy person made him happy.
So if you can be with friends and with this guy at the same time that'd be good. Don't ignore him but try to forget he's there..I know its hard. It'll help you act natural.
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