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How to Deal with Bad Manners?
Well, one of my cousins always comes over to my house, especially during the summer. She's a college student, and she's almost twenty years old; I'm a couple years younger.
Anyways, she lives about 45 minutes away from me, and has a lake cabin a couple miles away from my house. Some days during the summer, she pops in unexpectedly, and walks in the house without knocking or anything.
Her and her brother are nearly the same age, and one time they came over to our house, and my mom ordered dinner. It ended up costing over $40 just for the 4 of us, and my mom and I barely got anything, while each of them ordered a pizza and onion rings. They left after they got done, didn't throw anything away or clean up after themselves, and didn't even say, "Thank you" for the meal!
It's just little things like this; they have no manners, and sometimes my cousin comes to my house with her duffel bag and spends the night without even asking! She just assumes we'll say, "Yes".
Then, we just had a garage sale, and she was selling some of her stuff, and she barely helped at all! She was on Facebook for most of the time we were out setting up for the sale, and one of my friends, who was barely selling anything, was working like a dog! AND WE DIDN'T EVEN ASK HER TO HELP!
My mom and I don't want to say anything because we don't want to create any tension in the family, but it's just getting to the point that something must be said.
Communication is not a very strong point in my family, however, when someone says something, we all take sides, and it just turns into nasty finger-pointing episodes...
What should I do?
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ask her to knock before she walks in, and call when she's coming overnight.
let her know that you are uncomfortable with it.
hopefully she'll get the point!
talk to her when no one else is around.
and let her know it's nothing serious, it's just bothering you.
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well you have to tell her how you guys feel at some point. and it's better soon than never. you guys have to put a stop to it before she owns your house. and maybe she doesn't even realize she is doing it when in fact she is.
TALK TO HER!
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just calmly discuss it with her. let her know youre not out to point fingers or whatever it is she might assume, just that you want to talk some things over.
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