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when is a good time?
My boyfriend and I are pretty serious, and I am fully aware that he really wants to have sex. It would be both our first times, but when is the time your least likely to have sex? He'd obviously wear a condom and he said he'd 'pull out' before he 'came' but I just still feel so paranoid, I want to do it but I'm nervous about getting pregnant. I just want to know when the time is that you can least likely get pregnant like in the 28 day cycle.
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Get on birth control. Google planned parenthood and visit the closest one if you have to, getting an appointment with a gyno is a must once you're sexually active, they can proscribe it as well.
Take that step, if you're adult enough to have sex you're adult enough to find your way to a gyno.
Next, visit CVS. On the condom asile is VCF. Vaginal Contraceptive film. Follow the instructions, its a spermicide thats quoted as effective as a condom if thats the only method of contraception. Used with a condom its a second line of defense.
Get some lube and condoms while you're there. Look for a water based lube that isn't KY, lube is always a handy thing to have around, just in case. VCF can absorb some of your moisture, so a little dab of astroglide can sort it out.
Last, if you want to plan it cycle wise, you're least fertile in the days after your period ends. Those first seven days you're fairly unlikely to end up pregnant.
But to give you an idea. Sperm can live for a few hours in the vagina, a day or two in the uterus, and as much as five to seven days in the fallopian tubes. You're in direct danger a week after your period ends or less. Most girls ovulate somewhere around 11-14 days after their period ends, so that tells you the times when you're actively fertile, just remember that theres alot of variance. People have gotten pregnant during their periods before, always safety first.
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It doesn't matter if it's your first time, your second time, your 100th time, or your millionth time; the chances of getting pregnant are equal.
Tell him to wear a condom, like you said he would, because that will help a lot. The pull-out method isn't effective; you get panicked and he pulls out really fast, and probably rips the condom, and then there's sperm everywhere, increasing your chances of getting pregnant.
Birth control is a good idea, but I have no idea when you should start taking it.
Pre-cum, which is the liquid that comes out before ejaculation, can get your pregnant, so just be aware of that.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Okay so first off, I didn't read anything in there about YOU wanting to have sex. All you said was that you are aware he wants to. So before I answer your question, I feel obligated to say please please please make sure that you want to do this just as much as he does, or else you might regret it.
Okay so now that that's said, I totally understand your paranoia about pregnancy. If it's possible, and trust me this will make you feel better, get on birth control.
Now if that's not possible, make absolute certain that he pulls out, because condoms very often rip. Okay so your best bet would be the week following your period, preferably closer to the day it stopped, because a new egg will take about that much time to travel down to your uterus. So it would be smarter to do it before the egg gets there. However, be aware that sperm stays in your body for a few days after it is released, so if anything goes wrong with the condom or him pulling out, there still might be a slight chance of pregnancy. It's small, but it's there... Be careful and good luck!
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