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Does he like me? I don't know!
Hi all =) I'm kinda stuck with this guy that I really like. Usually I ask my friends for advice for this sort of stuff but they seem just as confused as I do =/ I'm sorry if this is long!
Basically I know this guy who I really like, I met him through a close friend a couple of months ago and we were just friends at first but we got close and he told my friend he liked me, and his friends told me that he had told them he liked me. So I told him I liked him and he said it back =)
anyway more to the point, lately we have just been talking and kissing, but he when I was at his house with his friends and we had been drinking, he will just go in a mood with me. I used to ignore it b/c he only does it when he's drunk and it doesn't last long. But since the last time I went to his house and he was a bit moody with me when he was drunk, he hasn't spoken to me properly. I have text him and he didn't reply so I left him to it as I gathered he was still in a mood. (His friends say he isn't in a mood with me, and that they don't understand him sometimes). So he text me days later and asked if I wanted to go to his house for some drinks but I couldn't b/c I was working that night. So I text him a day later and asked how he was, and he hasn't replied to me. Does this mean he doesn't like me? I'm so bad at telling whether guys like me, like the worst! I wish guys were simple, i'm sure you girls agree.
I'm sorry this was so long ha! What do you guys think I should do? Some people are telling me to walk away but it's easy to say that when you aren't involved. Thanx =) <3
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Hey. About the texting:
Just to warn you, I'm not yelling at you only, but all those out there on Advicenators who think that JUST because a guy doesn't text you first, it means he can't POSSIBLY like you.
I don't know what it is that makes people think this. Seriously, sometimes we guys don't feel like starting a conversation because we're not always into talking. Sometimes we are. It really just depends.
And something as little as texting, come on, texting, for goodness sake, shouldn't dictate whether a guy likes you or not. The fact that he talks to you should be good enough, you know?
Since I see texting as the lowest form of communication, other than telegrams and letters, I don't see it as a big deal that he doesn't text you first. Maybe he's just busy and doesn't regularly think: Oh dear, maybe I should text this girl or she might think I'm a jerk.
Guys don't think like that.
So aside from my rant, which has meaning, I think that you should only take offense if he doesn't start the conversation first, if the conversation is IN PERSON, not through text. Like if you clearly make eye contact and he doesn't at least say hello or some type of small-talk, then I would say he doesn't like you as any more than a friend.
As for him as a person, I wouldn't get involved with him, because he sounds like a heavy drinker, and he has two personalities, which will eventually be just the drunken one. Do you like it when he's drunk? If the answer is no, it's not worth it. If the answer is yes, well, just think about that answer; you LIKE him being drunk and a completely different person?
Honestly, I think he cares more about drinking than about you. I know that sounds rash and harsh, but that's what I think.
--Jack
(17/m)
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It sounds like he is just going through a phase. I don't think it means anything. But if it continues for a long time, then he may not like you anymore. You should still talk to him and be loving and gentle. He'll come around. Don't break it off too soon, give him some time. He may be having family issues or is feeling depressed. If he is, then he will be needing you the most.
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As for my opinion: I don't think you should take the whole not texting you for a day thing so seriously. Sometimes, guys just do that. Sure, it's lame, but sometimes guys are just stupid like that.
As far as whether to stay with him, I think you should talk to him about it. Part of me wants to say to stay and give him a chance, but part of me wants to say walk away because he's not worth it. So, I'd say talk to him and let him know how you're feeling, then really think about whether or not you want to stick around and/or if he's worth your time.
-Laura (17-f)
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well first off im not to sure you should go out with someone who drinks excessivly amounts of alcohol.
next thing is when your texting him i'm guessing he is drunk, and probably has a hangover the next day.
i suggest not going out with him.
he might like you, it's a big posibbility!
but i'd stay friends for now.
hope i helped(:
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