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well... i broke up with my boyfriend like a month & 1/2 ago but it was because i couldn't stand never being able to see him (we live like 4 hours apart and nither of us can drive yet) and i got really depressed because i broke up with him. like really depressed, i even cut my self and ate lots of ice cream, and eventually became a depressed fat-ass. then i realized i needed him back, so i called him and asked for a second chance the other night and he said yes. i still love him just as much as i did before, but can someone please help me by telling me ways that i could deal with not being able to see him? i don't want it to ruin everything again... any ideas? thnks so much

I'm sorry that happened to you! But, it's great he gave you a second chance. If you don't already, call each other, EVERY NIGHT! Email each other all the time and send each other recent pics of each other, so you're always updated and you'll sort of see each other, lol. Maybe you can write, too. And ask your parents, if maybe once a month or once every 2 months if you can hang out. Even if it's halfway, it's still a 2 hour long drive, so I'm not sure if they'll say yes or not, but you can try! And when you're older and you both have your drivers liscense, you can see each other anytime you want! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I know this isn't really a sex q, but it sorta is!

i was trying to play songs on my windows media thingy, and i cxlicked on "library" and a porn, well not exactly, but a little clip on a threesoe came up and i think it was my dad who put it on there, but i am way to scared to ask him or even tell him! please help me!

I wouldn't tell him about it. I don't know how it could of gotten there, but if it was him, that's his problem. You didn't want to find it, you weren't snooping around, so don't feel guilty or anything. Just try and forget about it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Girls can answer this two, but it would be really helpful if I got some answers from the guy's perspective..

How can you tell the difference from when a guy just wants to be your friend, or whether he wants more? There is this guy at my school, and he and I are friends, but not GREAT friends or anything. We don't hang out after school or anything. Sometimes in the halls he will catch up to me and start talking to me. And sometimes he will start singing a song with my name in it. Like for example, he will sing Batman, but instead of saying "dananananananana BATMAAAN" he will sing "dananananananana CATHYYY!" (Cathy is my name.) I know that he has a lot of other friends that are girls too, so I can't tell whether he just wants to be friends with me, or whether he likes me more than a friend. Help?

I'm a girl, but I'm going to try to help you anyway. I think he MIGHT like you, but I don't know for sure. The best thing to do is to just ask him. Be like, "My friends keep saying we'd be cute together, what do you think?" And see what he says! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I have a emergency question. The other day my friend said she would tell he who she liked if I told her also. She told me, then I told her. The same day, the guy she liked told her he liked her. I'm 11 by the way. I dont think my crush likes me, but Im not sure. and i told my other friend, and she told me, and i think he likes her also. I feel hated, and really want him to like me.

Aw, I'm sorry, don't feel hated. It's ok for your crush to like someone else. (why else would they call it a crush?) But if you really like him, and you want to get his attention, maybe since he likes your friend, if she ever goes to see him, you could go, too. And if you just be yourself, there's a chance he'll notice you and start to like you. But if it doesn't work out, don't worry, you'll find that someone. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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well i guess me and Tim are together and we have been for about a month, we talk evertynight on the phone and i know he means everything he says because they arent cheezy and he doesnt say he loves me, and i like that because every other guy i dated was like that so he knows what hes talkin about. well we always hangiut and we both really like eachother but he hasnt asked me out and i know he wants to because he told his friend? do you think hes scared or embarrassed, even thought he acts perfectly fine around me? well and a other thing.. im really not trying to sound stuck up, im not like that but my first kiss was when i was 12 and ive been hooking up since but now that we`re 15 he never kissed a girl until me.. and i really dont care about that but he really cannot kiss and i feel bad?i like cant even keep my balance.. im not gunna leave him but is there anything i could do? should i just kiss him when we are layin down how id do it? haha i sound so snobby

It sounds like he's scared, but I really think he likes you. Maybe you should ask him out instead? As far as kissing goes, the more you kiss, the better he'll get. Just don't tell him he's a horrible kisser, cuz then he'll never kiss you again. Lol. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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i Asked a question earlier about me datin a 19yr old.....ok......19 i kno but everytime someone says someone who is older than 16 goin out wit a much younger person every one first thinks "RAPE!!!!!" but i kno if i said he would neva do anything to me everyone would tell me that i cant be to sure.....well thats bull because this guy really really really likes me and im sick of hearin that sex is the only thing on his mind.....sorry but you really got to stop thinkin that every olda guy is gonna rape someone..... thanx to those who gave me good advice........i appreciate it.....


>>now ill ask again..sould i listen to my friends?....or go wit wat my heart tells me to?

Go with your heart. You know that he won't do anything, so it doesn't matter what your friends think. And besides, if you go out with him for awhile, your friends will see that he's not doing anything. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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hey um this is kind of awkward, but i'm 13 going on 14 in a couple of months, and i belive i have met "the one" and he wants to um finger me, and i am totally comfortable with it, but my parents arn't. should i do it behing my parents back, or listen to my parents and not do it at all, but my mom is the one whos conserned my dad doesn't care. i've already talk to them about it, have you ever got fingered of done ti to someone? if not then how old were you when you did it, please.... im so CONFUSED! i'll rate!

It might make your mom feel better if you waited a few years, because 13 is pretty young. You might want to wait until your 16 or older to that. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My boyfriend and I are over. He broke up with me and I thought I was okay and didn't still feel for him but I do. He broke up with me because we weren't right for each other but I still love him. I need him more than anything and I can't get over him, don't tell me just to forget it and move on because I can't.

Talk to him about it. You don't want me to tell you to get over him, so I won't. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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does anyone know how to change the subject buttons on the top of your advice column... like instead of "ask for advice" it could like say, "ask me a question", those things. if someone can tell me wut 2 do 2 change them i'll rate 5s!

You have to be a paid member to do that. It's only $10/yr, so I would upgrade it. That's what I'm going to do! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I was wondering if it's possible to get pregnant from swallowing...my boyfriend and I have been messing around so this question came up. Thanks.

Definitely not!
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~*Erin*~

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this guy and i are in all of the same classes and everyone says that we flirt and that we need to go out! lately he has always been hanging around me a lot! like there was a chair near some girl but i was sitting somewhere else so he was lying down on the table that was next to me! what should i do? and i was wondering how can i get him to give me a hug?

It sounds like you really like each other. Say something like, "Everyone keeps saying that we'd be really good together. What do you think about it?" If he says no, just leave it at that, and if he says yes, then there ya go! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok, my best friend is a guy. I heard from my friend that he has a girlfriend, but he told me he doesn't. I don't know who to believe, and I really wanna believe the guy because I really like him. Let's call him...*Jake* and let's call the girl...*Mary*. So Mary, Jake, and I are all best friends. Mary has been lying to me a lot lately. She's also been trying to steal my guys. Jake and I hang out all the time, and he and I always tell each other "I love you Jake!" and "I love you...*Anne*!" but we both know we're joking. And we're like "wow, you're so hot tonight" and all these random things as if we were going out, but we're not. He and I constantly flirt. When my friends ask him why they won't ask me out (i don't ask them to do this!!) he says he and I are just like the bestbestbestbestbestbest friends in the universe. I know that's true, (the best... friends part) but I don't know how to get it out of him whether he really does like me or not. What should I do? We have all these inside jokes about "loving each other" and "last night was great" (like i said...inside joke...i've never done it or anything) and all these other things. We always give each other hugs and sit on each others laps and I really want to be an item. We will go to the same school next year, but we don't now. WHAT SHOULD I DO????? Please help I rate! And sorry about the length.

signed
confused best friend!!

Talk to him about him, whether it's through email or AIM or face to face. Whatever. Just do it, and find out what he really thinks. And don't worry if it doesn't work out, be thankful for your friendship like it is. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I have been working for a company for about a year and a half. Last Christmas time I got a bonus of $20. This year, when I was really depending on that small bit of bonus, I got nothing.

The company recently sent a letter to all of it's employee's scolding us on leaving early. I was one of the people who had left early sometimes. I haven't done it since, but could that affect my Christmas bonus?

I know it isn't that the company can't afford it.

What I'm wondering is what the proper thing for me to do would be. Would it be uncalled for if I asked them about a bonus? I need to call them before Friday about working on Christmas, so should I just ask about my pay on Christmas weekend, and if there will be a bonus at the same time?

Should I just ignore it and decide that they decided to not give me a bonus this year, or treat it as a mistake on their part and ask them about it.

I'm just not sure if I would be out of line in some way if I ask them about a bonus.

It's just a gift really, and it would be kind of rude if you asked about it. But wait a few more days, maybe you'll get it! And if you don't, don't worry about it, it's only $20. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Today at lunch my boyfriend of three and a half months broke up with me. I was very upset and cried for the rest of lunch, when I came home I sat around crying. Then, my friends came round and we all went to my other friend's house. I soon cheered up and realised that I was better off without him. Later on, most people left and we went to my house. After everyone had gone home, it was just me and one of my best friends (male.) He said he had to go home so we hugged and then he asked if I was okay. I told him I was and then he said: "Anything I do in the next minute is a mistake and doesn't mean I fancy you." Then we started making out. I don't understand, I know it was a total mistake but things are going to be really strange now. I have no idea whatsoever why I did it. What should I do? He's my best friend.

Try talking to him about it. He might like you, but didn't want you to know, so he told you it was a mistake, and then made out with you. idk. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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About a week and a half ago I saw my best friend Dylan over the weekend. We just hung out and went to the mall. We later on went back to his house. When ever I see him we kiss and cuddle and I love it more then anything. My parents picked me up at his house around 10:30 and when I was walking out of the door he told me to call him. I called him the next day 1 time and he didnt pick up. I didnt leave a msg bc I thought that he would see my # and call me back but he didnt. I havent talked to him in over a week and I miss him a lot. I thought by now he would call me, but he hasn't. I am not sure if I should call him because latly it seems like he and I are drifting a part. I live 20 mins away from him so I dont get to see him much. Its like we dont talk, and then I will go in town and see him, we'll chill with eachother, then I will leave and go home and we wont talk for a few weeks. I want to call him but I dont want to be one of those girls that call's the a guy all the time. Its like we are bf/gf, we are only good friends. Should I call him and talk to him and tell him that I miss him? Its kind of a more then friends thing bc I think I am in love with him. What do I do?

Keep calling, but not like, 10 times a day. If you have his email, try emailing him. Find out what's going on. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Well i have thins friend lets call him Jen. Well Jen is so ANNOYING she follows me around EVERYWHERE. Everything i do she does. (ex: i color my hair, she does the same. i cut my bangs, she does the same. i make up crazy words, she says she did.) its getting really anoying and i cannot even joke with her about things and then she gets all mad. even my friends know her for a month and thinks she is annoying. She even tried to steal my BF and she didn't even like him she just wanted a bf. She also like a guy after one hour of knowing him. She always complains about not having a bf and i will never have one. and i cannot do much about. So what should i do be friends or not?

Think of it as a compliment, because she wants to be just like you. But tell her that you don't like it, and to stop. She'll probably get embarrassed and stop. Also, tell her that she can't go around stealing your bf, and to get her own. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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ok welll i am like in love with this kidd but he doesnt like me i do everything he says like wear whath he says but this one girl likes him and i was joking and said he is mine soo she gott madd at himm and hess mad at me when i was joking what do i doo!

Don't wear what he says or anything like that. Just try to forget about him. What's the point in chasing someone you don't have a chance with. Wait until someone actually likes you. (sry, if that sounded mean, I didn't mean 2 be) Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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i have a puppy she is about 5 months old and my mom is very alergic to her .. she is now living in teh gaage bcz my mom almost died ! we wanan give her away to a family taht loves her but dont know who my question is .. how could i let ppl know about my dog ??? thank u soo0o much and p.s she is a girl if that helps

Sell it on Ebay! Haha, no I'm j/k. Ask your friends if they would like it, or ask them to spread the word, and they could tell their other friends or relatives. You could also try putting up a flyer in your local grocery store. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Ok there is this guy we have been friends now for like 2 months well the other day he asked me out and i said yes but like now i dont want to be with him i have no interest he annooys the crap out of me and i think im falling for his best friend and he is obssesed with making out with me and im not like that but like i dont know what to tell him please help me!!!

Just tell him how you feel, and tell him that you think you'd be better off as just friends. That happened to me a couple times, but the guy always understood. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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It's almost xmas, and I don't have any gifts for my family. And worse of all, I can't go out and get gifts for them because I'm broke. Does anyone have any ideas how I can "make" a gift for my family? [I have one bro, 19, two parents, age unknown, and one sister, age 21.] If anyone could think of creative fun things I could make out of house hold items, I'd love you forever.
--Giftless

Candles are good. There are probably websites you can go to and they show you how to make them. Photo albums are good, too. My friend made that for me a long time ago, and I still have it. You can just make it out of construction paper and ribbon and stuff. For your brother, that's really tough. Maybe make a collage of sports pics and stuff if he's into sports. Also, you could bake cookies! Yummy! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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