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hey um this is kind of awkward, but i'm 13 going on 14 in a couple of months, and i belive i have met "the one" and he wants to um finger me, and i am totally comfortable with it, but my parents arn't. should i do it behing my parents back, or listen to my parents and not do it at all, but my mom is the one whos conserned my dad doesn't care. i've already talk to them about it, have you ever got fingered of done ti to someone? if not then how old were you when you did it, please.... im so CONFUSED! i'll rate!
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you ask your parents these kinda things. im 13 and i never ask my parents these kinda things i think you should keep it quiet because i dont really know one person who asks or tells there parents things like this.
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luv Britt
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first of all dont tell your parents these things. if you really like him do it behind their backs and dont say a word about it ever to them. im 14 turning 15 and i wont go past kissing but thats what ive planed and thought about. you need to sit down and think if you really want to do this or if you want to wait. its up to you and dont let anyone pressure you into something you dont want to do. for me im waiting till im married and do everything past kissing but thats just me. hope i helped
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honey i really doubt this boyfriend is the one if you're 13 but if you're comfortable with it then do it, just make sure you are infact comfortable with it and that you talk about it with your boyfriend.
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okay um. I'm not gonna say 'do what you think is right' because i know i hate it when people do that.. that's why we're asking you dur? I think that 13 is really young.. i'm 14.. and I know I wouldn't want to do that.. if he's pressuring you into anything don't do it.. but that's just my opion
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think about it. are you going to wish you never did it afterward?? consider everything. you're only 13 years old. there's going to be other guys as you get older. i'm the same age as you, send me something if you want to talk more.
x33 Kristen
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wait...whoa. you told your parents? hmm well i guess if youre cool with that lol. but umm i guess if youre reay go for it!
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your mom is just conserned with you and she doesnt want you to do anything you will regret...your moms just looking out for you...and most kids do stuff behind their parents backs anyways but about that i dont know if i should tell you to or not because your only 13 and just do what you think you should do...i mean if i were you i would wate a looooooog time befor i did anything like that i mean kissing's ok but stuff like that at your age isnt...just make sure you dont have sex with this guy untill you KNOW for sure hes the one. I hope i helped-Nikki
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It might make your mom feel better if you waited a few years, because 13 is pretty young. You might want to wait until your 16 or older to that. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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Alright, first off, you're thirteen and you think you've met "the one." Are you sure??? Because that's awfully young. I mean, I know you probably really like this guy and can totally imagine yourself marrying him and traveling the world with him and having his kids and all that, because I used to be the same way. I thought every boyfriend I had would last forever. But really, you're most likely just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
But now for your question...
You need to do what you feel is right. I mean, you won't get pregnant by getting fingered (even though you could get some sort of nasty disease or infection, because think about it. Someone's nasty hand is going all in your.....). But, when your relationship with this guy ends, it could still leave you feeling really violated and ashamed of yourself. Keep that in mind. So, it's really up to you and what you feel okay doing. Just think about whether or not you're gonna' have a guilty conscience if you don't listen to your mom and go ahead and do it. Good luck, and I hope you make a decision that you know you won't regret.
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alright.. the decision of you doing it behind your parents back is totally up to you! they aren't mine so i have no right to tell you to do it. i don't see why you shouldn't if you are truly comfortable with it. i don't expect you to always be a good girl.. i know there is things people have done behind they're parents back. it's totally normal!
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