Oh good, you scared me for a second. At 15 it should all be new and exciting. Sometimes if you want to enjoy each other more, you need a fresh change of scenary and you don't have to drive to get it. Take some walks together, the fresh air and excercise do great things for stimulating the conversation. Sitting around watching movies does nothing for the brain after a while. Also, working together on a common goal is a bonding experience and will create good memories. Find a little fun project to do together. Paint, build, or create something together. Third, get some friends together and play some games indoors or outdoors, throw the old pigskin, play twister, have some laughs.

Okay, why is this question in spirituality? Maybe it is because boobs are the life force of all mankind? Maybe it is because women are told that they only amount to what they look like in our society and our worth is determined by the size of our ears, I mean boobs? Well, however you got here, you came to the right place. I am the boob guru and can tell you that you have every reason to be concerned. Big boobs are better, because they get the most saggy with age and attract the wrong kind of guys. It is easier to be labeled a slut when you have big boobs and easier to get away with not knowing how to change a tire or pump your own gas. Boobs can get you out of many situations that the useless brain organ can not. Start stuffing your bra and you will see what I mean. When you are old enough make sure to get surgery so that you look like you have two hard melons shoved tightly under your skin and are about to explode. That is really sexy. It is so much fun to be able to wear bra's that look like military strength torpedo carriers and get that attractive red mark across your back and shoulders from the raw skin that rubbed off on the bra. Bigger boobs are the answer to every problem and the only thing that matters. Rub hemorroid cream all over your body except your boobs, so that by shrinking yourself, the boobs will look bigger by comparison. By all means, never accept or love yourself for who you are and don't let anyone else either. That is for pansies.

Yes. Just kidding, I did not read the question yet....okay don't panic...wait maybe panic, no really don't. Winnie the Pooh is freakin adorable and your guy is a sweetie. The hat is probably very cool, so do not take it back, but keep the receipt in case he wants to exchange it. Tell him it will not hurt your feelings at all if he wants to take it back. Even though, I told my husband the same thing and he is taking back most of what I got him and now I am slightly pissed. Oh well, that is my problem and not yours. Cheers!

You are right, everyone in the whole free world has a boyfriend except for you....oh and the other million girls that post on here daily complaining of the same thing! Now, you may not realize this, but 5 billion guys is a lot. Probably you have asked out only 4 billion this year. Don't give up. There are 8 more planets near us and soon space travel will make it possible for you to get rejected by aliens by the trillions. Then, you will have an actual axe to grind. Until then, keep your chin up. We don't want to see you an old old disgusting 20year old frigid wrinkled woman with no std's keeping her up at night. In your whole life of 12 years only one boyfriend? What about when you were two years old...didn't that freckled boy with the stinky diaper have a thing for you for a while? Even if you live to the ripe old age of 15 without a boyfriend and a proposal, don't give up! Robotic boyfriends are the future and the future is now!!!

Yes, I drink four cups a day and I am currently 6 inches tall. Soon, I will be the size of an ant and unable to finish this senten

I know that your pain is very real and that the intensity of all you went through good and bad is real. Saying that, I was once 16 and like you had very intense feelings without the maturity, experience, self-confidence or mental capability to fully put the events that caused the feelings into perspective. Take a deep breath and listen...please. You are young. This is NOT a put-down. I love how passionate you are, but it is not healthy to dwell on this too much. You WILL get past this and you CAN live without him. Time is a great teacher. Let yourself be taught what I cannot convince you of by my words. Trust yourself enough to grow and live and love without this person. Others will come and go. More passion, more heartbreak, new experiences, you will change! You will figure out that most guys you are in love with you did not really know or love. You just needed to love and be loved. We all do and it will happen with the right one at the right time. This is just the beginning...trust me, trust yourself, trust time to show you everything in the right moment.

This is typical competitiveness and nothing more. How gross and boring to fight over a guy no one really wants in the end. Just stay out of it and find something better to do or some more mature friends. I would not want to be around them when I actually found a guy I did like.

Are you still enough for him to kiss you or are you shyly looking away or at your feet? Look him in the eyes and lick your lips. If that does not bring it on nothing will.

Something is holding you back and you need to allow yourself to listen to that side of the love story. Fantasy is always better than reality, so your dreams, long distance admiration, online chatting are all safe from reality. Get to know him in person and you will know for sure. Part of you is reluctant to do so if you are going to miss the fantasy, but get over it.

I would never kiss a guy I was clueless about anyway. Why not stick to kissing only guys you are devastatingly smitten for? It is much more fun.

Ask a priest...the rest of us can only guess and I'd rather not have that picture in my head! Kidding, masterbation is normal and healthy even for religious people. Some people have tried to say that the Bible is against masterbation, but use very vague passages to try to convince themselves of that opinon. The Bible talks about sex before or outside of marriage as sin. Also, lust is a sin. Gee, we are all guilty of about a billion sins. The good news is that we are not judged according to our sins, but according to our faith in God's love and forgiveness. This is not a license to sin, but a reality check for anyone who thinks he can earn his way in or out of a Heaven that only God commands. The problem with the Catholic Priests is not masterbation, but molestation and child rape. Politically the priesthood is struggling to maintain integrity after so much scandal in the last decade as victims of molestation have surfaced with allegations of sexual abuse.

Wake up dear. This guy is not best friend or even sorta friend material. It is none of our business what kind of marriage he is willing to live in. That is between him and his wife. He is not entitled to have affairs out of pity. Thank goodness you did not fall for that ploy!!! Now his true colors have displayed themselves, and you need to see him for who he is, not who you want and wish him to be. You need to stop concentrating on him and start paying attention to your own life...you deserve better.

Well, if it really is not about sex... what exactly does a 46 year old man have in common with a 20 year old woman? Why is a relationship not possible at this time...waiting until he can get the senior discount for Viagra? You can do better and I think somewhere in that young brain of yours, you know it.

"You are the most overly opinionated person that I know...my goodness you don't even know me. I am not living at home, and I do not look to men as providers...in fact I tend to provide for them. Get your facts straight."

You DON'T know me, remember, just like in that same sentence it is true that I don't know you. However, the information you do or do not provide is the basis for the opinions that will be generated. So, you "tend to provide for (men) them?" That is interesting...and vague and lacking in detail, leading to all kinds of speculation about what and why and how you a 20 year old woman would be "providing" for men. But, like you said...I don't know you, and so the mystery of what and why and how you provide for men must be left to one's imagination.

The "facts" are up to YOU to provide, remember?
Opinions are only that, opinions, and it helps if the one ASKING for opinions gives enough details to make her situation CLEAR. Otherwise, the gaps have to be filled in the best we can based upon our experience with countless others that sound very much the same. Hurray for you that you are not living at home, but you did get extrememly defensive about it, which is always a dead giveaway that something is amiss. Why would your daddy have your cell phone bill if you live on your own and pay your own bills??? Did he break in and go through your things? Obviously, it is not "right" for a father of an independent adult child to behave thus, and that is why instead of jumping to the conclusion that your dear old dad is psycho, I reasoned that the most likely story given your lack of facts was that daddy feels entitled to act like your his little girl, because you have failed to assert yourself as a woman and make good adult decisions for yourself. Either daddy is off base or you are, or maybe you both are...who knows? I don't care if your new stud looks like Brad Pitt, it is NOT normal or healthy for you to be with someone that much older. Even half that age difference would be pushing it!!! This is for YOUR benefit, so if I ruffle your feathers or you feel the need to lash out, then so be it.

Don't cancel it unless you have a problem misusing it. Cut it up immediately and just pay it off. You cannot cancel it until it is paid off anyway, and it helps your credit to keep it open as long as you make your payments.

Losing weight quickly is not necessarily the best or safest way to lose weight and it usually will not stay off. A couple pounds per week is much more of an attainable and safe goal. Drink lots of water and continue to eat a healthy balanced diet, or you could really mess up your immune system and metabolism and end up burning calories slower and risk sickness. To burn more calories you need to build up muscle as well as do an aerobic activity a few times a week for about 30minutes. The scale is a poor determinator of fat loss, so use a tape measure around your waist instead. The scale can't tell the difference between fat loss, muscle loss or water loss. Exercise is great, just don't forget that it is only one part of a healthy lifestyle and should not be misused. Good luck and stay healthy!

You could be right that some of it, but not all of it is in your head. Guys are a lot simpler than we women are, and we are the ones that usually overthink things and attach meaning to things that have little meaning to the guys. So, my advice in general with men, even though yeah there could be exceptions, is to let his own words and actions speak for themselves without thinking about them too much. As I see it, he likes you both (multiple crushes are very common) and is having fun flirting. No one can drag you along unless you let them, so if you are not comfortable with the situation, you could consider him just a friend for now, or ask him directly if he is into this other girl. Be up front with your attraction to him and desire to be a couple if he tells you that it is just friendship. You could ask something like, "Well, do you consider us just friends, or are you like secretly hot for me?" Say it in a funny and not too serious way, in case it does not go well. Good luck, and never settle for being second place, because there is probably at least one guy around you that would love to have you as the Grand Prize.

If you really disagree, then get a second opinion, but what bothers you the most about what she told you? Is it because she is wrong, because she is right, or because she labeled you and that is a form of control. Eating disorders are all about control, and the obsession of controlling calories and body weight. Go to your regular doctor and ask how many calories would be healthy for you to consume daily. My guess is that you won't go for it. Self-image is easily distorted by our inner feelings and it is almost impossible to see ourselves the way the world does. Listen to some objective opinions. If you know it is not healthy, then why are you okay with it? Your food and your body are your business, and no one else can control them for you. Your health and life are at your own mercy. What you decide is your's to live with. You don't have to defend yourself in the end to anyone else, but you are accountable to yourself and you have an obligation to your own wellness to be honest about your feelings and the relationship you have made between your feelings and your food. I had an eating disorder at a particularly stressful time in my life and understand the sense of well-being that comes from controlling food, but it was a cover-up for fear and loneliness. It took a while for me to feel good enough about myself to take care of myself. I hope that you are on that path.

The perfume is not going to work on its own, but keep it light and ask him to smell your wrist or neck and tell you what he thinks about your newest scent. Don't catergorize him yet, because he could easily be more than meets the eye or a romantic at heart. You are on the right track by wanting to keep it simple and not go from just friends to seductress overnight. Keep a little mystery...guys like a challenge. So, keep being friends and add a little flirting, light touch on the shoulder, a couple looks his way without saying anything etc...Keep it sweet.

Either she is not being totally honest with you or you are missing something. There has to be something else, so either ask her up front and in person why she is suddenly giving you the cold front, or think about anything you could have done that would turn her off or make her uncomfortable with you. Your word choice is very interesting..."it's like she's given up on me." This sounds like a deeper emotional attatchment then is normal for a short term relationship. Maybe she is overwhelmed with your intensity? Give her room to figure things out if you think this could be it. If she dumped you, then you will have to accept it and move on. Try to get some clear answer, but do not be demanding...that will only backfire on you.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.coolnurse.com/

http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

drug/alcohol abuse help go here: http://www.4drugabuse.com/addiction-treatment.html

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/1800-273-TALK(8255)
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis. If you need help, please dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential. -----------------------------------

http://www.kidscrisis.com/

http://www.teenadviceonline.org/gethelp/numbers.html

You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

TTY line available for the hearing-impaired at 1-800-448-1833

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Callers talk to highly-trained, professional counselors who listen and give "right now" answers. They're sympathetic people who have expertise dealing with these and other problems:

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http://www.anorexicweb.com/anorexicweb.html

Report Child Abuse
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
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All our motivations stem from two: Love or Fear. When in turmoil or indecision, ask yourself from which of these you are acting. If you want an honest response outside of yourself, you need to first be honest within yourself. Bless you on your journey!

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