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I need him to love me again
I was with this guy Mike for 9 months and we were both very in love with each other. We even wanted to get engaged as crazii as that sounds, but we were that in love with each other. We fought just like every couple did and we each made mistakes. Then I made the mistake that ruined it all I gave this new boy Chris my number. Mike found out and exploded. I told him it was just if Chris needed a friend.. Mike didnt believe me. Then we crumbled. We tryed to date again but then I found a note he wrote to me but never gave me and after that we were torn. Its been a couple months since our break up but I can't let go. I cry myself to sleep most nights because I love him soo soo much. I am so stupid for hurting him. My question is, is there a way to make him see I've changed and need him in my life? Please help me. I cant go on without him in my life. We are still friends but I want him to be mine again. I know we were meant to be. So please I beg you help me
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I know that your pain is very real and that the intensity of all you went through good and bad is real. Saying that, I was once 16 and like you had very intense feelings without the maturity, experience, self-confidence or mental capability to fully put the events that caused the feelings into perspective. Take a deep breath and listen...please. You are young. This is NOT a put-down. I love how passionate you are, but it is not healthy to dwell on this too much. You WILL get past this and you CAN live without him. Time is a great teacher. Let yourself be taught what I cannot convince you of by my words. Trust yourself enough to grow and live and love without this person. Others will come and go. More passion, more heartbreak, new experiences, you will change! You will figure out that most guys you are in love with you did not really know or love. You just needed to love and be loved. We all do and it will happen with the right one at the right time. This is just the beginning...trust me, trust yourself, trust time to show you everything in the right moment.
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Tell this guy of course! In an e-mail maybe, or a letter. Tell him how you cry yourself to sleep with him in your thoughts and how you love him so much. Explain to him that you didn't mean to turn away from him when you gave your phone number to Chris. Tell Mike that he's your only one. Describe how much of a loss he is and how you feel about losing him.
If he ignores your letters or IMs, tell him face-to-face. Use emotions. Be over-dramatic. =) But don't overdo or you'll end up looking like a freak.
Just explain to Mike how much you care. Compliment him. Tell him how much your life has changed every since he slipped out of it. He'll be touched if he's a caring guy.
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
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