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finnicky girl
alright so i'm a guy, and i recently met this girl. and well things between us may have started off too fast. but you can't really undo what's been done. so we had a good thing going, we talked as much as we could, saw each other often, and things were blossoming between us quite well. we'd kissed, hugged, all that stuff, and life was going good. and then she leaves for a couple weeks on a cruise for her cousin's wedding (the cousin was the rich side of the family and paid for the whole family to go) and well we talked as much as we could while she was gone, things seemed to be going great between us. and we were fine. she got back from her trip saturday before this last one. and this is where things started getting lame.
it turns out all the text messaging and stuff we'd done got her a $400 phone bill, and all the offers i gave to help her out she would hear none of. so her parents take her cellphone, and we suddenly lose a major means of communication between us. and as last week went we saw each other once, hardly talked and didn't really do much together. well after the suckage that was last week i decided i had to come up with some way to see her more often one and two give her, her christmas present. so i go to her house this morning, no one's home. that's cool, i wait til the evening and call her house and talk for a few moments but she has to go as her mom needs to use the phone. i call back an hour later (it's 10PM by this time) and i get the it's too late to call thing from her. and that's understandable seeing as people go to bed around then. so i go and check her myspace and find that all the comments i've left her have been deleted, and that she hasn't responded to any of the messages i sent her.
so my question stems from this: could a girl i've been with for about two months lose total interest in me after a week of not talking much? could she be mad at me? am i just pushed out of the picture? what do i do? and how can i get her to realize that we're not gone, we're still on? or do i just take this as a breakup and leave it? she's hanging out with some other guy friend of hers tomorrow during which time we'd have normally hung out and quite frankly i'm pretty pissed about all this. it's like she's not even trying anymore. it's like she's given up on me. what do i do?
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dude thats alot well females can lose total intrest in a week if she keeps avoiding you than leave her alone dont sweat it chicks come and go let me know what happens
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Either she is not being totally honest with you or you are missing something. There has to be something else, so either ask her up front and in person why she is suddenly giving you the cold front, or think about anything you could have done that would turn her off or make her uncomfortable with you. Your word choice is very interesting..."it's like she's given up on me." This sounds like a deeper emotional attatchment then is normal for a short term relationship. Maybe she is overwhelmed with your intensity? Give her room to figure things out if you think this could be it. If she dumped you, then you will have to accept it and move on. Try to get some clear answer, but do not be demanding...that will only backfire on you.
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My impression of all of this is probably that her parents have asked/told her that you're not a good influence, etc.,(calling at 10:00) and that she was spending too much time and energy (and their money, with the $400 bill) on you and she needs to cool it. She's probably following orders.
You admit that things went too fast in the beginning. Probably her parents don't want her getting that attached at her age. My advice is to play it cool. I gather that you are young. This girl is probably not the last one you'll be with. If she felt a need to be with you, she'd be with you. So don't push it if she's not willing. You've done everything, including offering to help with the bill. You don't need to 'break up' with her - a 2-month relationship is not a binding contract. Just make sure that if you feel the need to put more effort into this relationship, you won't just end up irritating her or her parents more. If you *can* manage to get her alone, ask her point-blank what's going on. Otherwise, take the hint gracefully and move on to the next in line.
Good luck.
Sabine
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Well, interesting. I was in a similiar position this my guy this summer. He just stopped doing anything with me. Turns out he was deciding where our relationship was going, and after this "cooling" off period things where better. But...I don't know this girl. I would say that she is mad at you, but it is hard to tell why. You should just try and back off and let her come to you, trust me eventually she will if she truly cares about you. It is VERY tough waiting it out...but, do you think she is worth it? Also, when you do get back together make sure that don't hold the "break" over her head. Don't bring it up all the time, that will just make things worse. Hope that this helps.
Jenn
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