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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Last month my boy mate asked me to go to his family's house party he said

"I was wondering if you'd like to with me"
"if you say no dont tell people"

did he mean this as mates or dates because I dont know.I said no though.

But I've only known him for a few months and a couple of weeks ago everyone said he liked this other girl.I just want to know...was he asking me out?????????

He probably asked you as friends, unless you initiated it that you'd like it to be a date.

You could ask him how he meant it as asking you though if you're still unsure.

13 | f how can i get a vibrator without my mom or dad or sisters knowing. and where could i possibly hide it?

Go to Spencer's & buy one. Then hide it somewhere your mother/sister/dad would never think to look, or somewhere they never go near when they're in your room.

i want really nice legs..how can i get them w.o looking like i have man legs??...and also my thighs are sooo bigg....can you lose weight in your thighs??..if so how???...and my arms are really skinny how can i get more weight up there....mostly around the wrist...and i want a flat stomach how can i do that??

You can't make your wrists bigger, and to get a flat stomach you have to do tons of crunches. Just exercise your legs like running or walking. And you can't lose weight in just one spot, it's impossible.

Just eat healthy & exercise a lot.

so i am very scared.and i need some help. me and my boyfriend had sex and ive been getting head aches im always tired.and sometimes my stomach feels weird but i dont feel sick. my freinds say that i am jsut stressing out ..but me and my boiyfriend we had safe sex..and i heard that the chance of u gettin preg is more in the middle of your period like from when it ends to it starts up again. can anyone help me?

It's a possibility you're pregnant.

Next time wear a condom & get on some birth control.. You don't even sound old enough to be having sex in the first place. Way to go.

I bought a shirt at abercrombie & fitch 20 days ago today.
i haven't worn it or anything and I don't like it.
now it's on sale for $20.
I want to return it.... the return policy says 15 days...
any chance I could get them to return it... 5 days after?

any excuses?

Tell them you didn't know the return policy was 15 days. If they tell you it was on the back of the receipts, ask them why the hell you would read the receipt?

And if they don't take it back, maybe give it to a younger sister or a friend for their birthdays. =)

14/f

mmk, so i switched schools, and theres this one kid, that i was like the best of friends with for like 3 years. & i'm a girl & hes a boy, & to me thats kinda a long time to keep a friendship with a guy. so anyways, i dated him like in the beginning when i was friends with him. & then he broke up with me, which i was so heart broken. but then like he ended up coming running back to mee. so obviously, i started talking to him again, & it was super. & like it was kinda obvious we liked eachother & stuff... but i didnt want a boyfriend at the time, because the previous boyfriend i had, before him, cheated on me. so anyways, it was all just great, intill he told me he really really liked me. i didnt know what to say. i kinda thought he was kidding, & thats what my idiot friend said to that he was just joking. so i was like ohh yeah i like you too. & i like put a little winkie smiley. & then so he ended up thinking we were going out. & then one of my backstabber friends, said i didnt lke him like that. so he just blocked me? & stopped talking to him. so i sent him like a milllionn apology IMs. on my other screename.

so, now, im at his school, hes in my lunch period, i pass him in the hallways, like the whole day, & hes even in one of my classes. he hasn't talked to me yet. & i miss him alottt.
but, i dont even know what id say to him? if i talked to him first. but i dont think i want to talk to him first. i mean he always will like look at me. like sneak looks. like illl seem him looking at me & he'll look down. but then this one time, our eyes met, & like.. we looked at eachother for like idno. one of those long stares, yano what i mean.. anyways..

what should i do?
think he'll come around?
should i talk to him?
or no?

Apologize for what your friend did. Explain to him that you really do like him. Just stop him in the hall & explain it to him. If he doesn't seem to care, throw some tears in there, so he'll know you're serious.

so there is this movie called the conrad boys and i really wanna watch it , but i can't buy it cuz i'm saving my money
is there iny sites on the internet were i can watch movies for free? don't say youtube cuz i allready checked there

You could always just RENT it.

Hi...just wantd an advice.i was gng out wid a boy for 3 yrs n i really loved him.in our 3rd yr i didnt hear abt him for abt 2 months.i tried contactng him bt he didnt reply to any of my calls.then one day he told me he had sme serious health probs n that he is fine now so we started gng out together.Now in jan 2007 we broke up again bt he still wants to meet me only to make love bcoz he has again some health prob.i told him no.he told me he wont b able to walk in sometime thats y he broke up wid me..he was quite serious wen tellng. i dnt kno whether to believe in him or not...i need advice :) thnx

No wonder why he dumped you. You can't spell, and by the way you type, you don't look like you can hold a relationship that lasts longer than a week.

I think you should believe him.

Does anyone know where I can buy some pretty camis in Canada that's less then 5 bucks maybe?

Probably Wal*Mart.

How old do you have to be to work at american eagle? Does anyone happen to know. Their website doesn't say. I know you can be 17 at places like hollister and abercrombie kids, but then a and f you have to be 18. Does anyone know anyone who's 17 who works there? Thanks

You have to be 16 & up to work there, I believe.

I haven't worn skirts in years so I don't know what kind of shirt and shoes I'm supposed to wear with them (their both long skirts)

I have a white thin material one (can you suggest colour of underwear i should wear with that too? I'm scared people might see it since it's a really thin material)

and a long jean skirt

thanks so much!

Long skirts are out. Mini skirts are in; so you need to go buy some of those. The only people who wear long skirts are old people.

When you wear a skirt, you can wear a whole bunch of shoes. You can wear high heels, flip flops, boots, sneakers or addidas sandals. Anything, basically. But it's gotta look right with the skirt.

My crush likes my best friend
and she might like him back
i dont know..
i dont want to talk things out because where i live that doesnt work.
help?

How does it not work where you live? Talking things out works in all environments. Maybe people are doing it irationally so that's why it doesn't work.

Talk to her about it calmly. If she's a good friend, she won't go out with him for the sake of your feelings, but if you're a good friend, you'd want your friend to be happy.

hi. im 14/f im gonna be 15 in april. but anyways.. what are some jobs that i can get at my age???

please dont say babysitting because i already do that sometimes. xoxo

There's not a lot of places that 14 & 15 year olds can work simply because most places hire at 16 or older. Try a local supermarket, or maybe a McDonald's since the McDonald's where I live hires at 15 sometimes. =]

What is sex dice?

It's a pair of dice that have sexual acts on each side. You roll the dice, and perform the sexual act it lands on. Therefore being called SEX DICE.

ok ill start by telling you his family backround. when his brother was a baby he has a cyst somehwere on his genitals, and his dad cant have kids because he idk has or hadd testicular cancer. so anyways now, my boyfriend thought he had cysts on his testicles and it was hurting so he went to the doctor and they said they turned into calcium, bones. and they told him he couldnt have kids. i dont know why, maybe its because im indenial but i dont believe that he cant have kids. and i know his little cyst things arent made up because i can feel them, and i know he went to the doctor for it. we used to have unprotected sex, and that was probably for about idk, hmmm 5 months? we used condoms sometimes, but rarely. the reason was, since we had sex so much and i never did get pregnant i thought i just wasnt going to. oh yeah and im not on birth control. and the fact that you can get pregnant just by putting their penis on the outside is just odd that i never got pregnant having unprotected sex that whole time. and of course, he has rubbed his penis on the outside of my vagina. his cum is clear, but like once, maybe even twice it looked a little milkyish. so, do you think he really is infertile? is there a way you can tell without going to the doctor again? im just the kind of person where i have to be proven things or it will bug me because then its hard to believe.

If your boyfriend came inside you all of those times, and nothing happened; infertility for him could be a possibility. But my cousin tried getting pregnant for a year with her boyfriend, and they constantly had unprotected sex, and she just got pregnant maybe a year ago. She's already had her son, but still, there's a chance it'll take a while for anything to happen.

And I would get on birth control just in case because I'm pretty sure you don't want any babies to come into your lifer right now. You don't sound old enough for kids. But, if his doctor says he's infertile, don't go against what the doctor says. There's a reason why the doctor is the doctor, and why you are not.

my boyfriend and i always talking about doing all this sexual stuff and most of the time it never happens. sometimes its because i just change my mind right before it happens. its like when im with him i get nervous or shy or something i dont know.. but ive been going out with him for 8 months so i dont think this should happen. is it normal? and then sometimes he doesnt do the stuff he says he will but thats because hes just shy. is there any way i can show him that i really want to do that stuff with him?

It's normal to have second guessing when it comes to sex. But when you're shy, or nervous, you're not as ready as you think.

I would put sex off for another few months or whatever until you're completely ready. You should have no doubts about it when you go through w. it.

I've become this depressed slump in the pass couple of months and there's no one to blame but myself.
I let selfish feelings take over and I got attached.
My mind is eating itself up and everytime I seem to open my mouth, no one seems to care.
I don't even care anymore.
The thoughts I have are stupid and fuckin pathetic.
But I can't control them, Or hide them like I use to. I need a release. But I don't have one anymore. Hanging out doesn't work, going to shows doesn't work, Writing doesn't work - Everything I write is an added complaint to the last thing I wrote.
I feel like I bring everyone down when they're around me.
I'm mad. And I feel like no one cares... And the people that do seem to care, I just can't bring myself to open up to them. So yet again, this is all my fault.
Sometimes I get too stressed and end up crying. I can't control it anymore.
Other days I feel like destroying everything in my sight... Luckily, I can still control that.
I wonder how long I will be able to.
I actually had this feeling not too long ago and it's 1 am in the morning.
I'm scared of what's coming. I no longer have school to keep my mind busy.
Graduating should be a great experience. But it wasn't.
I still can't stop thinking about him... I fell in love. How could I have let this happen again?
Why do I get attached to people and always end up getting hurt?
It's an endless cycle and I don't know how to kill it.
It hurts. Everything hurts, and I don't know how to kill this pain.
I need something, but I'm not sure what it is.
I'm not sure of anything anymore.

I've been in that position so many times. And I know exactly how you feel. But you're letting a boy make you feel this way? A boy is making you depressed? I doubt he was that great if he hurt you.

Whenever you're in a relationship, or about to be, don't get attached. It seems hard cause you're used to it, but it's really not. Just think: "Well, maybe the relationship won't work out, so I'm not gonna put a lot of time into it." Or something like that. Or, you could have space from each other, because if you're together constantly, you're gonna get attached & whatever, and it just sets you up for heartbreak. It happens everytime. But if you've got space, you're not worried about him, he's not worried about you, and no one's attached.

Remember, when you're in a relationship, you do have a life besides that relationship. Don't let your boyfriend take up your whole life. And don't give him everything you've got, even if you want him to have it, because when you do that, & they break up with you, you've got absolutely NOTHING left.

Get a counselor though, or get a close girlfriend you can talk to. Because counselors don't usually work [well, they didn't for me], and some kids are homeschooled or whatnot & can't go to one unless it's a real one that you've gotta pay for. But one of your close girlfriends is always gonna be there. And find something else to occupy your time with. Keep writing [even if it is complaints], because most of the stuff you write when you're depressed/mad or any sort of unhappy, it turns out to be your best. Some of my best work is from when I was having a case of depression.

As for a release, keep music with you. It seems like it's not exciting, but it always helps me. Whenever I get pissed or depressed, I put on my music & turn it up as loud as possible & just sit there. It helps me, and it usually stops me from doing stupid things like destroying stuff, or cutting myself.

And don't get any ideas about cutting yourself, it's not worth it; AT ALL. Also, when you get mad or depressed, go to sleep. I do that, and when I wake up I forget what I was mad about. Or I skateboard. I do a whole bunch of things.

I write, I skateboard, I listen to music, I sleep. All of those things seem to help me, and I've recommended them to other people & they say it works just as well for them. So try it. =] Those are ALWAYS my escapes, and I love them.

But also, if you need someone to talk to, you can leave your screenname in my inbox, or feedback, and I can try to help you through IM as well. =]

I'm a sophomore in high school, and lately my grades have sort of been dragging, and I feel like I'm spread out pretty far, although I don't think that's the case.

All I want to know, is if it's normal to feel this way and if I'll ever get over it? I've just sort of lost my motivation. In 9th grade, I was rolling out a 3.6ish GPA no problem, but now I'm struggling along with a 2.7ish. I don't know if it's the material or what, I just feel like my brain has no interest in learning the difference between preterit and imperfect verbs in Spanish or other subjects. My only As are in PE and Photography.

Help please.

Yeah, it's completely normal. My grades were amazing up until 6th grade, and then they started to suck. I got my first D ever, and just stopped caring about school all together. But, when I realized that if I didn't get my act together, then I was gonna fail, I started doing my work again.

Just look at it that way. If you don't start doing what you need to, you're gonna fail.

Ok I'm going shopping for the first time in two years for clothing (I never grew for two years so I didn't need to buy anything..) but it's spring but it's as hot as summer! I'm going to buy tops but should I buy a sweater? Probably a top but girls these days still wear jeans in the summer plus a sweater and top underneath no matter how hot it is!

Shop at stores like American Eagle, Hollister, Wet Seal, Pac Sun, Zumies & Abercrombie. You'll find everything you'd need for summer. =)

ohkay so i weigh 148 and im 15 and im like 5'3 5'4ish and i wanna lose like 25 pounds before the middle of june.what can i do to loseee it?[if 25 pounds is realisticccc]

I weigh 4 more pounds than you, and I'm 5'4". Does that mean I'm fat too?

You're not fat, and it's impossible to lose that amount of weight within a less than 3 month period. No way.

Just eat healthy, stay away from sweets/sugars/fast food & sodas. Drink lots of water & milk, and exercise everyday for 20 minutes.

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