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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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stepies to making out with a a human

Wtf?

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I went out with this guy on April 20th, 2003 and we went out for about 9 months. He stopped talking to me all of a sudden, had his friends lie to me and tell me he was in jail..and all this other crap. I soon figure out he had 3 other girlfriends ! Anyway, it look a long time but I got over him. It's been over a year and when I think about him, I dont cry or anything. But latley I've been kinda depressed because pretty soon its going to be April 20th and I think about the good times and just....how do I forget about this guy? I dont want to be 30 and still remembering April 20th as the day I met him! I want to forget him!

15/f/I rate

Find your self someone that is better than him and keep your self busy. Meet new people.

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Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.


Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate.

o0 wow! You have a right to be angry and I see why. Im sorry you got to live with her. When you get a therapist you can talk to them about it and if they see a problem they will try to help. I think your sister is the one who needs therapy. Shes crazy for doing all that. When she hits you hit her back or else she will just keep doing it. Dont let her get to you like that. Your parents need to let her know that she cant get everything she wants and her way. They are the ones who spoiled her and who let her keep doing that. They should ground her or lock her in a roon until she learns her f*cking lesson! x0

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Is coffee fattening? Like just black coffee, nothing added?

Its not unless you add a lot of sugar.

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Hey girl! You seem really cool but anyways
ok i have a boyfriend im 14 and he recently
asked me to have sex with him. I REALLY want to (not to sound like a slut or anything) but i dont want him to go on and tell everybody and stuff i want to wait til summer though what
should i do, and since you are around my age i want to know what you would do in this situation
x0Lindsey

Thanks! If you really want to then go for it. If he was a really good boyfriend he wouldnt go and tell everyone but he would just tell some of his buddies. Tell him you would rather wait until summer. I think that 14 is probablly a young age to have sex but if you are totally ready for it then its your choice and if you are comftrable and ready. Make sure you dont have any regrets about this and that the guy is extra nice and that he treats you right!! Dont let him use you tho! x0

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I was having a semi-asthma attack on the phone with my boyfriend, and if you've ever had an asthma attack you aren't able to talk without hurting yourself. My boyfriend was asking over and over if I could breathe, well obviously not? I wouldn't answer because it hurt for me to talk and I finally answered with "No!" Then he takes it all defensivly and was like "Sorry! I was just trying to help, but you keep shutting me out." I wasn't shutting him out was I? I was just trying to be able to breathe... Any Advice?

Uhm .. tell him that you didnt meant to sound rude but you were only trying to breathe. He will understand. x0

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Im just wonderin, do like a lot of people get messages straight into their inbox??? I hav eonly gotten 1 REAAL question from someone...thats all. Some one else that obviously know me wrote somethin in there but it wasnt a real advice question. Is there somehting i need to know? I mean i do answer many questions...

I get a lot of ?'s in my inbox but if you dont get any then its fine. You dont need to know anything its just that theres a lot of columists to choose from. x0

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ur not a virgin are u ?

Actually, I am.

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I told my boyfriend that I'd never kissed anyone and that I wanted him to be my first kiss. He said he wanted to kiss me, too. But that was about a month ago and nothing has happened. I told him I wouldn't make the move. I'm too shy. I don't know what I'm scared of since I know he wants to. I'm just scared I'll do something wrong, I guess. Any advice?

Its okay to feel like that! Just make the first move or wait for him I guess. Its no big deal and you wont do it wrong. It doesnt matter who goes first. x0

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Okay, to put it plainly me and this guy have been really close for a long time and we ended up breaking up because of this really long story. But he was really close to me and all that jazz. We were friends before and he always knew I liked him but he was going out with his boyfriend at the time, and...yeah. Lets call his boyfriend Bob. Well Bob broke his heart a billion and one times and finally we started to date. I was the only one there for him he was the only one there for me. Well my ex begged for me back and I was stuck inbetween them, I had no clue what to do and I waited to long to decide on what I needed to do and by the time I did decide the guy dumped me. So we got in this huge fight, and didn't talk for a while and I was back with my ex. All this other stuff came out and blah blah blah about my ex and I started to try to talk to him(the guy who would not talk to me) But he wanted nothing at all to do with me. So I cried and all that shit over it but to make a long story short he was abused and shit, and he stayed in it to be here for me and now he can't get out because it is too late.

Well. Anyway...I moved on now and have a new boyfriend I care about a lot. It isn't love yet- I don't think my heart is actually ready to love another person at the moment. But the guy(lets just call him Ed) is really depressed and never talks to anyone and is always by himself and has gotten into bad stuff. I want to let go of Ed because I have someone new that is healing all of my scars. But I can't because...I made that promise to always be there for him because we were always there for each other.

So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to be with Ed again, I just want to help him and get him to talk to me but I seriously don't know how. I want to get over him completely and have no more feelings for him. But I don't know how. I'm sorry this is long and the question is not quite clear. But basicly. What do I do? All of this is my fault, and I can't let myself fully love my new boyfriend because he is always there, a little voice in the back of my head blaming me on what happened to him. (which it is my fault). I want to get over him. I want to get him out of my life because he knows how to get to me and everytime I help I always end up crying. Please.. Someone can you help me? I'm sorry this is really long.

o0 wow! Not everything is your fault so dont even say it is! I think you can help Ed just by being friends with him. Get a hold of him and let him know that you are only there for him because you care for him as a friend. Stay with your boyfriend but just talk to Ed. Let him know that you will help him out with everything and always be there for him. Dont let him get the wrong idea tho. Only as friends. x0

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I'm very shy and quiet, and I not a geek or anything but I'm not exactly popular either. There's this guy that I think might like me.. but he is really popular and outgoing, so I'm not sure if he really does like me or if it's just my imagination. Is it possible for a popular, outgoing guy to like a shy, not-so-popular girl? What are the chances? I don't know what to do because of my uncertainty.. should I flirt back or not?? Thanks in advance!! :-)

Yes its very popular! Just because you arnt popular doesnt make you any different from other girls. Flirt back! You might end up going out =]. l0l x0

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ok i have a few very close friends and some not so.. But what i was wondering is... if i ended up on disney channel what do you think they would do? be jelouce? would they still want to be my friends? or just use me?
What would you think if you're friend suddenly out of the blue got excepted on a popular show?
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They would support you if they are your really good friends. They might get a lil bit jelous maybe but thats normal. I dont think that they would use you tho. x0

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Hello,

I'm that type of girl who never wears make-up at all. Some girls that I know look, well, scary without make-up, but I don't really look that bad, and I'm pretty critical of my looks. I was wondering, is there any make-up tips that you can give, such as how to apply eyeliner, what shades look good on my skin type. I'm pretty tan so my skin is fair. Is there anything I can apply so I don't look like a make-up junkie, but people notice I started to put on make-up? I don't want to put on too much make-up, I'm only 14.

I could help you here. I love make up but anyways. Eyeliner is easy to apply. Put it on the bottom of the eye lid on the think skin .. I dont really know how to explain. The color I would choose for your skintone would probablly be brown. Eyeshadow- Tan colors really natrual and light. You porbablly wont need foundation or powder so just get some blush and put it on your cheek bones. Get a nice light glossy lipgloss. x0

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My friend really likes this girl and he is to scared to ask her and a keep bugging him what things should i say to him to maybe help him out (my friend is such a wimp)

Dude..make him talk to her. Girls dont really like shy guys so he has to step up and ask!! Maybe you could ask for him. x0

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ok..is it possible for someone to only have their period every other month??...i rate

Yea so normal!

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all my friends are really pretty. they are all blonde and skinny and rich. im the opposite. im ugly, not good clothes, overweight. everytime i go somewhere like the movies with my friends the guys all want to make out with them and sit with them when they just ignore me. when my friends suggest they makeout with me they pretend to gag and say ewww. it makes me really sad. help! how can i make myself prettier or find a guy who appreciates me? sometimes it feels like i deserve a boy more than the other girls. im a good person and friendly.

Babe! Dont worry about it! You are pretty no matter what anyone says okay! Looks arnt the only thing that make you beautiful. Your personality does too alrite! Dont worry about guys. You have plenty of time to find your self a guy who will appreciate you for who you are. If you really arnt happy with your weight and looks maybe you could go on a diet but I dont think you really need to. Start doing your hair different wear make up go buy new clothes once in a while. Be happy with yourself and with who you are. x0

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hey you help a lot of people and i was wonderin could i get ur screen name?and do u shave below the belt?

L0l my sn is x0x Teza and yea.

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ok so i liike tthis boy he likes me..but i never talk to him EVER what do i do?

Talk to him. At school,online,phone or w/e! x0

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ok well im a 13 yr old female and i had my FIRST period on the 7th and now i am having it again on the 28 and i dont no if this is normal please help me and i am a virgin so i no im not pregnat



thx 4 ur help i ll hate 5's to EVERY1!

Yea its normal and it wont stay for very long. x0

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I like to be, well, free. When I'm in my room and the doors are closed I like to take off my shirt. I don't mind the free feeling, but I also go and stand in front of my mirror and look at myself. Is it wrong to look at myself like that, because I don't just do it for a short amount of time, I ususally have a stuck stair at my boobs.. what do I do, is this wrong?

No its not wrong. You just like your boobs! x0

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