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a long story.
Okay, to put it plainly me and this guy have been really close for a long time and we ended up breaking up because of this really long story. But he was really close to me and all that jazz. We were friends before and he always knew I liked him but he was going out with his boyfriend at the time, and...yeah. Lets call his boyfriend Bob. Well Bob broke his heart a billion and one times and finally we started to date. I was the only one there for him he was the only one there for me. Well my ex begged for me back and I was stuck inbetween them, I had no clue what to do and I waited to long to decide on what I needed to do and by the time I did decide the guy dumped me. So we got in this huge fight, and didn't talk for a while and I was back with my ex. All this other stuff came out and blah blah blah about my ex and I started to try to talk to him(the guy who would not talk to me) But he wanted nothing at all to do with me. So I cried and all that shit over it but to make a long story short he was abused and shit, and he stayed in it to be here for me and now he can't get out because it is too late.
Well. Anyway...I moved on now and have a new boyfriend I care about a lot. It isn't love yet- I don't think my heart is actually ready to love another person at the moment. But the guy(lets just call him Ed) is really depressed and never talks to anyone and is always by himself and has gotten into bad stuff. I want to let go of Ed because I have someone new that is healing all of my scars. But I can't because...I made that promise to always be there for him because we were always there for each other.
So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to be with Ed again, I just want to help him and get him to talk to me but I seriously don't know how. I want to get over him completely and have no more feelings for him. But I don't know how. I'm sorry this is long and the question is not quite clear. But basicly. What do I do? All of this is my fault, and I can't let myself fully love my new boyfriend because he is always there, a little voice in the back of my head blaming me on what happened to him. (which it is my fault). I want to get over him. I want to get him out of my life because he knows how to get to me and everytime I help I always end up crying. Please.. Someone can you help me? I'm sorry this is really long.
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i think you need to talk to ed about everything and how you feel and are starting to feel about this new guy. and how your ready to move on but tell him lightly so he wont try to commit sucide again and that your always there for him and stuff but you need to move on.
tell me how it works out. {im always on!}
<3 britt
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Gee, why are you all so depressed sounding?
Let me tell you one thing for certain, it is never, ever to late to get out of an abusive relationship.You just up and do it. If Ed can't get up nerve to leave....well, you can't blame yourself for that.
You are right, you won't get over him if you are constantly there for him.....cruel as that may sound. I really think Ed needs counsiling if you can talk him into it. Sound's like a little might not hurt you either.
It is a little confusing, hope i've helped somewhat. You can email me at address on my column if you'd like to with more info.I'm on most of the day and late night so, wouldn't take long to get back with you.
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o0 wow! Not everything is your fault so dont even say it is! I think you can help Ed just by being friends with him. Get a hold of him and let him know that you are only there for him because you care for him as a friend. Stay with your boyfriend but just talk to Ed. Let him know that you will help him out with everything and always be there for him. Dont let him get the wrong idea tho. Only as friends. x0
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wow all i know is that you are having it kind of twisted their ..you have to pick one. one that you know that you can trust and stuff..someone you will really love
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Wow! I can't even imagine the bond that you two share. It must be really storng if you guys almost killed yourselves over eachother. If you feel that your feelings for your boyfriend are lost, then break up with him. You may think that it will just be upsetting for him, and will add more to his sadness, but you are giving a lot less stress if you were to got out with him when you didn't have feelings for him but he did for you instead. You also have to undertsnad that your only way of helping him is not by dating him. You can help him out if you guys are friends. Don't forget about him completely just because you have found another guy because he is in an emotional state, and he needs someone's help bad, and you are the only one at this point to supply him with that help. If he's depressed, then you need to talk to him to find out what's troubling him before he does something drastic. If you really care for him, then get him some help and be there for him all of the way through. Help him before it's too late. I hope I helped!
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