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OK well here goes i have been thinking. i know other peoples life are worse which by the way you never tell some one they will just kill them self for being weak trust me. So i am only 13 and i already hate my life actually it started a long time ago as late as 5th grade. Then a lot of shit happened and i bottle everything up i self harm and have thought of suicide my mom found out about the scratches on my arm and started acting like a bitch telling me i was a freak and she doesnt know Y I do it she didn't even ask. And others dont see it i am in sports i have some of the highest grades in my class i just have given up hope for any change and i see a future of nothing does it get better?? At all?? (link)
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Life is hard, there is no doubt about that. No matter what age you are, it'll be difficult. But it is worth living, you'll find things worth living for.
In my opinion, there is something more going on. You hate your life for reasons that I don't know. Either way, you need to talk to a counselor. No one deserves to feel this sad and they will help you find better ways to deal with your problems instead of cutting.
I used to cut. My parents found out when I was 15. They called me names too, some people just don't understand and you can't really expect them too. Life isn't too bad and we're young so we should actually be happy and enjoy what we have while we have it. But since that's not always the case and they just don't understand.
Go talk to a counselor. You need help and everything will get better.
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I'm 14 f. My boyfriend is 17. We met 4 years ago. He moved in and we started dating. We've been on and off. I know it's not healthy. But last year in march he said he cheated on me and we broke up and 2 days later he got with some girl he knew I hated. They lasted 6 months and I tried to move on. I talked to so many guys and none of them could keep me from not being sad. It worked for a while but nothing, nobody could stop my heart break when I was alone or when It was night time. He was my first love. My first everything. In September we got back together but we only lasted 2 weeks then he left me again for the same girl I hate. I was furious. Him knowing what struggles I was going through and how I gave myself to him twice and he just does that I was like nah son. I promised I wouldn't get back with him but in November I had a message on Facebook from him. He was saying he was so unhappy and couldn't stop thinking about me and he was suicidal cause he lost the best thing in his life. I didn't feel sorry for him at all to be honest. That's nothing compared to what he put me through! But as my self the dumb self I am, ended up taking him back again. I know I'm young and there's plenty of fishies in the sea but he's my drug and I'm addicted. I love the feeling he gives me but he's ruining my life. I can't get unhooked though. I recently saw his ex (the girl I hate) posting statuses on Facebook saying they hung out and that he doesn'thave a gf, blah blah. I was so pissed cause he blocked her supposesably but he could of unblocked her or used his other account. I questioned him but he denied it. She said shed back off but I don't trust him or her. She's going to try to talk to him at school and I don't know what tO do. I still don't believe him, she's crazy and makes up lies but i don't know who to believe. I feel like hes the boy who cried werewolf. Lies lies lies then when it's true nobody believes him. What should I do? (link)
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You leave him. You already know the answer but I'm guessing you just want someone to tell you.
You've been on and off in an unhealthy relationship.
He cheated and lied.
Then he leaves you again.
You say that he ruins your life.
You're clearly unhappy in this relationship. So leave.
Relationships don't work without trust. You don't trust him, so this relationship will just never work out anyways. Might as well leave him now than waste more time breaking your heart.
First loves are hard to get over. You just need to end it completely. Block him, delete his number, ect. Get him out of your system. Go out with friends, enjoy your life, start doing new things and make a better you. He'll be jealous and you'll be happy. You don't need him.
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I can't tell you how many times I read questions about people who are asking about their self harming. I don't get why people would this. And the worst part is they ask it in a very matter of fact way. Honestly, it makes me really upset when I read these things. I almost tear up (link)
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Like everyone else said, it's a way to control and a way to cope with their emotions.
It's a horrible thing to go through and it's really good that you don't understand. If you understood, then that would mean that you felt what they felt and nobody wants to feel that way. (Unless you took classes and learned about depression and such)
Anyways, there are so many reasons why people self harm. To generalize it up, most of the reasons have to do with control and depression.
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I dont know what to do, im inlove with him i think about him all the time we text and call all the time and she has no idea.. i feel so guilty (link)
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Well first of all, they are broken up. You shouldn't feel too guilty. I mean, you should have talked to her and let her know though.
In my opinion, it's fine for friends to date their ex. As long as they broke up because they just weren't compatible together. If they broke up because he cheated, lied or was abusive in some way then I don't even want to know why you're going after him.
She should be ok with you dating him. I mean some people just aren't meant to be and just because they weren't right for each other, doesn't mean that you guys aren't.
You need to have an honest conversation with her. You don't need to go into detail or anything just tell her that you guys have been texting and getting to know each other and you have feelings for him.
You might expect her to be upset or angry. Hopefully she'll come around though. Just tell her you wanted to let her know.
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Hi
im 17 years of age and I smoke marijuana (on accasions e.g. Partys and christams) and my mom has notice my drug usage.. Im not a violent person when I smoke it and I dont do it often.. Anyway my mom said it can lead to the use of cocaine and stronger drugs like mcat but I dont think it does! Does it always lead to stronger drugs? Does it depend on you state of mind (crave stronger side effects)? Or do people start stronger drugs just because they have been offered some? Ive been smoking for a year and a half and I havnt got craves for stronger drugs?is my mom right or just concerned? (link)
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It really depends on the person really, as well as other factors.
Most of the people who use cocaine and other stronger drugs started out using marijuana. Not all, but most of them.
There are people who do crave something more when marijuana just isn't doing it for them anymore. You said you've been smoking for over a year, but you only do it occasionally so that could be the reason why you don't want anything more. But of course, you just might not be that type of person.
Some people have addictive personalities too. I mean people can get addicted to things that don't even have anything harmful in them.
So in a way, yes your mom is right to an extent. It's definitely not impossible for people who start with weed to start using stronger drugs. So just be careful.
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Hello I am 16 years of age. Im going to start slow as mmy story is quite complicated First of all my sisters boyfriend is 16 and my sister is 17 and they have a child on the way (bit too young)Her boyfreinds in prison for assult and I detest of him as the baby is nearly due and he hasnt done one thing to help my sister before he got locked up.. Anyway I know in my head that I do not like him (hates the word) but somehow he keeps on coming into my dreams like me and him having sex? I dont onow whether I have a concious or I actually love him.. My heads saying no I detest and really hate him while my dreams and heart are saying otherwise! I need to know is it my concious or not? ikno the dreams are wierd but is it what the future holds?
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Dreams can be symbolic. They don't exactly tell the future or anything.
Normally you'll dream about things you've been thinking about lately, or things that you've seen throughout the day. I mean you could possibly be thinking about sex, even if it's not with him but then saw him or thought about him and it just combined the two.
I'm positive you don't love him though. Although I'm confused to why you say your heart is saying otherwise. Usually both your head and heart will tell you that you either like that person, or you don't. They don't normally differ. I mean the closest thing would be that your head is saying that it's a bad idea but you still like him anyways. But you're just straight up saying you hate him.
Anyways, if you're interested as to what your dreams might be symbolizing, just look it up. But it doesn't mean that you're going to end up with him in the future.
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So i got my 1st period few months ago and i already had it few times, i always tried to tell my mom but i didnt know how to.. And one time i got it , it left red mark on my bed and she saw it and asked me what is this and i said i dont know and i feel horrible for lying to her !! Please help (link)
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Pretty much every girl goes through this. I don't see the point in lying at all. It's not like you have something to be embarrassed about..
Just go talk to her when she's alone, maybe ask her how old she was when she got her period or something. Or you could just walk up to her and be like, "Hey mom, I got my period." If anything, write her a note. It's not a big deal.
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For the past week or so, I've been talking to this guy I really like in my english class. As in talking, i mean sometimes flirting and saying how we want to hang out and stuff. But the thing is, we haven't hung out yet. He stopped texting me on New Years for no reason, and last friday he said "sorry I've been busy" but after we talked for like an hour, he said he had to go. He hasn't texted me since and I see him tweet/instagram all the time. Is he a waste of my time? Please help me because I dont want to get my hopes up! (link)
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In my opinion, you're over thinking all of it. So many girls do this though, so it's not uncommon.
He most likely stopped talking to you on New Years for a reason. He even told you that he's been busy. So that's a good sign and it means that he still has interest in you and is letting you know that he's not trying to ignore you or anything. I mean he even talked to you for an hour.
So instead of always saying that you guys need to hang out, make plans. Say that you're going here or there and invite him along. Hopefully he won't be busy. Or even say that you want to go bowling or to the movies and ask him which day he's available.
If he keeps saying no, blowing you off, or not ever answering your text messages, then he's not interested and that's when you know he's a waste of your time.
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Hi 16/ female. My boyfriend was over yesterday and we attempted to have sex with no condom because he said he wouldn't cum in me so we tried but I was to tight so his penis was in me like under my skin but not in me like in a hole and he didn't cum so could be pregnant? I'm scared half to death I always overthink things and he fingered me a lot and now my stomach hurts although that happens. Help please (link)
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Just because he didn't ejaculate, it doesn't mean it's not impossible for you to be pregnant. Pre ejaculation alone can get a girl pregnant and most guys don't even feel it.
So even though it's a very low chance, it is possible.
If you don't get your period when you're supposed to, just take a pregnancy test.
If you plan of having sex, get on birth control and be smart enough to use condoms.
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I have a very strong relationship with my mother and due to this people consider her my best friend(as well as mother of course) while others disagree and just say that she is just my mother. What do you think? (link)
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I think it's possible for a mother and daughter to be best friends. I don't think anything is wrong with it either. I mean if you feel close enough to call her your best friend, then why not?
I think it's the same with siblings. You can call your sister your best friend and you can call your brother your best friend. There's really nothing wrong with it and I think it's all possible. Some people are closer to their siblings and parents more than other friends.
So honestly, it really doesn't matter what other people think of your relationship with your mom. If you want to call her your best friend, then do so.
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Hello 15/F*
My mom keeps reading my diary! I try to hide it but she is allways snooping around!! I write EVERYTHING °̩n there because that's the way I express my feelings. I don't act weird I'm allways bubbly, but I have my down days. Why does she keep reading it. And any good ideas where to hide it? I can't hide it °̩n my matress or pillow. So any other ideas? ThxX lvj! XxX (link)
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I can't really tell you why she keeps reading it. She most likely just wants to know what's going on or she doesn't trust you.
I think you should sit down and have a conversation with her. Let her know you don't want her to read your diary and you'd like to have privacy where you can express your feelings.
I wouldn't know any other places to hide a diary. I'd suggest using an online diary or online journal, there are tons of sites. She wouldn't be able to get on there because she'd need the username and password.
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So my friends were bugging me to talk to this boy and I finally talked to him last night it was around 9. We start playing 21 questions but after he says I'm really cute but before the game he said he really didn't like anybody at school . I'm so confused right now I mean I wanna get to know him better but him hiding his feelings are bothering me (link)
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What did you say when he told you you're cute? Like Dragonflymagic said, it probably would've been good to bring it up and ask for clarification.
I mean he could just be being honest, unless you left out some other information. He could think you're cute but not having feelings for you yet. It's possible to be attracted to somebody and not have feelings for them.
Anyways, just keep talking to him, getting to know him and if the subject comes up again and you get confused, just ask for clarification. Communication is key.
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I have a crush on this guy.He's 19.He likes me but just as a friend , not even a close friend.i always have to knock him and he replies with short answers and sometimes he doesn't even reply.I told him that i like him and all he said was "aww".i also asked him "why don't you feel the way I feel about you?" and he told me that "You're a kid". But guys older then him asked me out , why does he feel that way?I mean I want him very badly.Don't know what to do :( (link)
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It sucks when someone doesn't return the same feelings.
If he doesn't even care, why do you keep wasting your time? By trying to talk to him, it isn't going to make him want you back.
Like the other columnist said, he thinks you're too young for him personally. You might not be for other guys, but maybe he's just not interesting in dating someone who's your age. And also like they said, it also could be the maturity differences. He might be more mature than the other guys that ask you out. Who knows.
So the best thing to do is to let him go and move on to someone else who actually want to be with you. Don't keep waiting around for him, he might never change his mind.
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Ive had a bad personality for a while.. I cry and look at negatives a lot. Ill cry over the smallest things bc im so hurt inside. How can I stop and learn how to take stuff better? Not cry and not look at things bad.. Everyone says I need to "Glo Up" meaning grow up and stop doing what im doing. I think way to much and idk how to stop (link)
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That can be really difficult. I'm first going to try to suggest to build your self confidence. That will definitely help. You can also try writing. It's really good to let things out but then try writing out the positive things in your day.
It's a process that won't happen overnight so it'll take time.
If it still isn't working well for you, go see a counselor. They'll help you find way to deal with problems better and try to find ways to look at the positive side of things.
I mean hey, it just might not be something you can do by yourself.
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Hi, I am a teenage girl. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for a year and we really like each other. This other guy and I have been friends for a while now, and I've always had a thing for him, but it was just here recently he told me he had feelings for me. I'm really confused. My boyfriend can be really nice to me sometimes, but he kind of has the tendency to control me, but there is just something about my boyfriend that makes me stay with him. My guy friend is really sweet to me, but I want to be with him. I don't know what I should do. Which one should I go with? (link)
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I'm first just going to suggest to take time off from your boyfriend and figure out your feelings. You obviously can't have both but take your time to figure out how you feel.
You don't want to be with someone who controls you.
The reason why you always stay with him is probably because it's comfortable and familiar. You've been with him on and off for a year, you guys keep going back to each other so it's just habit at this point.
So take time off and figure out how you feel.
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i asked my bf to talk to his friend and ask him to stop asking me out.. and then they got in a fight should i just end everything? i need help... PLEASE AWNSER (link)
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So you want to break up with your boyfriend because he got in a fight with his friend over you?
Why?
That friend of his wasn't even a real friend if he wasn't respecting boundaries. Just leave it alone, if the guy continues asking you out, just straight up tell him to stop and you're not interested.
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I hooked up with this guy earlier ini the year and he was my first hookup. We didn't do everything but we did everything but sex (I'm in college and still a virgin btw). He seems disinterested in me every time I see him now. I know it was my first time and I wasn't the best but I didn't think it was full out bad. I can't stop thinking about him now. Months later. Even though I didn't let him have full sex with me, why would he be avoiding me totally? (Like ignoring texts and acting indifferent in public). How can I get him to want to be with me again? (link)
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It sucks when hooks up don't last. But that's just what it is and if he's just not interested, it probably isn't going to happen again.
If you want to know why he's completely ignoring you, you can just ask him. But since you guys aren't friends or anything, he doesn't need to tell you why he's not interested anymore. He can just simply ignore you and get away with it. It really sucks.
I'd just suggest moving on. It doesn't seem like he's gonna come around any time soon.
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13/f bisexual. I've been pretty close friends with this girl who I've known for a year. We get along pretty well, and somewhere along the lines I started to like her more than friends. I've always known that I'm not straight, but she's the first girl I've liked like this. I asked her out to the movies in August and we had a great time, but I don't think she knew I meant it as a date. I think she is straight. I dream about her a lot. Just like, us hanging out and eating food at romantic places and stuff like that. I really want to know if she is straight or not, but how do you just casually bring that up in conversation? And I don't want to ruin our friendship. Any advice? All appreciated. (link)
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I'd probably just straight up ask her.
If you don't want to take that route, then maybe while you guys are talking, talk about boys you think are cute, and maybe ask her if she's ever been attracted to girls.
I mean you can even play truth or dare with her to find out.
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Hey everyone. Well my boyfriend and I will be dating a month next Wendsday and I want to get him something for our 1 month anniversary but since we have only been dating a month I don't want to go overboard mabye something small . Does any body hsve any ideas? (link)
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I think it's a good idea to get him something small. Maybe make him a homemade card and write something sweet in it.
You can make him cookies or brownies.
You can get him a small picture frame and put a picture of the two of you in it.
You can even buy him candies and his favorite drink.
Be cute and creative and he'll love whatever you get him.
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I Have a boyfriend but I haven't kissed him yet, I want to practice on something but I don't know what. Any good ideas???? (link)
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This reminds me of watching TV shows when I was younger where someone was nervous about their first kiss so they'd kiss a stuff bear or their pillow or something.
Either way, no matter what you practice on, it won't be the same.
So honestly, I don't think there is anything you can practice on. Only because he'll be kissing you back. The pillow or bear won't kiss you back so it'll only be you moving your mouth.
Kissing comes naturally anyways. No reason to be nervous.
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