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do I fancy my sisters baby father?
Hello I am 16 years of age. Im going to start slow as mmy story is quite complicated First of all my sisters boyfriend is 16 and my sister is 17 and they have a child on the way (bit too young)Her boyfreinds in prison for assult and I detest of him as the baby is nearly due and he hasnt done one thing to help my sister before he got locked up.. Anyway I know in my head that I do not like him (hates the word) but somehow he keeps on coming into my dreams like me and him having sex? I dont onow whether I have a concious or I actually love him.. My heads saying no I detest and really hate him while my dreams and heart are saying otherwise! I need to know is it my concious or not? ikno the dreams are wierd but is it what the future holds?
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Dreams can be symbolic. They don't exactly tell the future or anything.
Normally you'll dream about things you've been thinking about lately, or things that you've seen throughout the day. I mean you could possibly be thinking about sex, even if it's not with him but then saw him or thought about him and it just combined the two.
I'm positive you don't love him though. Although I'm confused to why you say your heart is saying otherwise. Usually both your head and heart will tell you that you either like that person, or you don't. They don't normally differ. I mean the closest thing would be that your head is saying that it's a bad idea but you still like him anyways. But you're just straight up saying you hate him.
Anyways, if you're interested as to what your dreams might be symbolizing, just look it up. But it doesn't mean that you're going to end up with him in the future.
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Things seen in dreams are usually just symbolic, standing as a sign to represent something. An example of dreaming consistantly about being on a train, plane, ship or bus or car can be signs to let you know you are on a new journey in life or about to take a new path, or travel. All of those are modes of travel. Seeing a person in a dream over and over, no matter what you are doing or feeling does not necessarily mean you like someone, love them or are supposed to have a relationship with them.
It could simply be the fact that you feel such hate, that you see him so often, and maybe your angels are trying to teach you not to have such a strong negative emotion towards anyone.
Someone who is in jail, is currently at this point in life, even if getting out, not a good prospective for a partner, whether as boyfriend or husband. So he is not the best choice for your sis and any guy you ever meet who is similar, is also not a good choice to be with.
Unless the boy raped your sister or lied to her about wearing a condom, she is half the decision there to have sex so its half her fault. And you don't hate her like that. Teens are very susceptible to making bad decisions for one reason that effects all teens and this is because their bodies mature long before their brains do.
Here, let me explain:
The prefrontal cortex, is a section of the brain that weighs outcomes, forms judgments and controls impulses and emotions. This section of the brain also helps people understand one another. The prefrontal cortex section of the brain in teens is still a little immature as compared to adults; and it doesn't fully develop until your mid-20s
I believe it is good to come up with idea, plans, anything you want to try or achieve in your life. Teens need to learn somehow. But until you and sis reach your mid 20s, may I suggest you find an adult or a couple adults you are comfortable talking to to become real and open with, sharing your ideas, using them as a sounding board. That means presenting your ideas and plans to them to see what they think of it. A parent is the most logical choice but if there's a problem with using them, find another adult to be your mentor and sounding board. Mentor means: a trusted counselor or guide. Coming on here for our counsel or advice is a great start but its way better if you can get hold of that trusted adult anytime with a quick call or text, someone who preferably knows you very well, your personality, your strengths and weaknesses..etc...
Once you decide to forgive your sister and the babys father for their mistake, then I am sure the dreams will stop. Nothing can be done to get help from the babys father so do not even focus on that.
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