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Should I move on?
For the past week or so, I've been talking to this guy I really like in my english class. As in talking, i mean sometimes flirting and saying how we want to hang out and stuff. But the thing is, we haven't hung out yet. He stopped texting me on New Years for no reason, and last friday he said "sorry I've been busy" but after we talked for like an hour, he said he had to go. He hasn't texted me since and I see him tweet/instagram all the time. Is he a waste of my time? Please help me because I dont want to get my hopes up!
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In my opinion, you're over thinking all of it. So many girls do this though, so it's not uncommon.
He most likely stopped talking to you on New Years for a reason. He even told you that he's been busy. So that's a good sign and it means that he still has interest in you and is letting you know that he's not trying to ignore you or anything. I mean he even talked to you for an hour.
So instead of always saying that you guys need to hang out, make plans. Say that you're going here or there and invite him along. Hopefully he won't be busy. Or even say that you want to go bowling or to the movies and ask him which day he's available.
If he keeps saying no, blowing you off, or not ever answering your text messages, then he's not interested and that's when you know he's a waste of your time.
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Guys tend to prioritize things of importance differently than girls when it comes to the opposite sex. A female is more likely to have a guy as the one and only priority in her life while a guy is more likely to take a handful of things in his life and give them all equal importance and commitment, such as his job, school, his male friends, his family and his girlfriend, (potential one) or life partner.
So of all the things important for him to give time to, as long as you make it to one of the top 3, you have nothing to worry about. Probably due to the amount of time you see each other and the amount of contact there is, you just haven't made it high enough on his list of priorities yet.
The fact that he said "sorry I've been busy" is a good sign, shows he still has interest and indicates that he had other things that took his attention. The fact that he found time to talk for an hour before he had to go is also a good sign. The call would have been much shorter if he was not a little interested.
For all you know, he may hate texting and prefer typing on a computer keyboard when he is intentionally taking a moment to get out messages.
If he's on the computer in other communication venues where you are also and are his friend on there, and you hear nothing, just post a question asking if he prefers keeping in touch via instagram, Skype, FB or whatever instead of texting, or maybe he really prefers just talking on the phone or in person instead.
Best idea yet is to ask him questions in person next time you see him that help you get to know him better, like what family life is like, what his hobbies are, what takes up his time when he's away from school?
If you want him to know how important he is, ask him to call instead of text next time, cus you'd really love to hear his voice, its the next best thing to being in his presence. That will confirm for him your interest in him and he will likely make more effort to actually find time to spend hanging out with you. Sometimes the actual problem for teens is 'where' to hang out. Let the parents know you have a male friend at school that you'd like to have come over to the house. More parents are comfortable with hearing that term instead of I have a boyfriend, or 'a guy I have a crush on', cus lots of parents connect the term boyfriend, with two teens who have strong feelings for each other that may be close to getting to the point of being sexual with each other and every parent will worry about their daughter that way. Other concerns are that a guy will treat a girl nicely. 4 of 5 teen girls today experience some form of abuse from a guy.
I know thats not what every teen does and the best relationships, start out as just being friends and evolve over the years into something more. So try that angle, get the okay for him to come over and hang out with you and your family. YES, its best they are there so they can get a feel for him as a person and therefore become comfortable with him. Try inviting him to come hang out at home to watch a movie on Saturday or bring his favorite music and share your favorite music together. If there was something solid, not just wishful thinking of getting together, it's more likely to happen.
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