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What do guys mean when they say stuff like this ?
So my friends were bugging me to talk to this boy and I finally talked to him last night it was around 9. We start playing 21 questions but after he says I'm really cute but before the game he said he really didn't like anybody at school . I'm so confused right now I mean I wanna get to know him better but him hiding his feelings are bothering me
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What did you say when he told you you're cute? Like Dragonflymagic said, it probably would've been good to bring it up and ask for clarification.
I mean he could just be being honest, unless you left out some other information. He could think you're cute but not having feelings for you yet. It's possible to be attracted to somebody and not have feelings for them.
Anyways, just keep talking to him, getting to know him and if the subject comes up again and you get confused, just ask for clarification. Communication is key.
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And what did you say or what did you ask when he said you were cute but earlier said he didn't like anyone at school? If you did not say anything, how did you expect to get clarification?
Anytime that two human beings need to interact like in a classroom/teacher-student, at work boss or coworker and you, family, a potential boyfriend or many other .... interactions, good communication is important or there will be confusion, assumptions, or mistakes or missed opportunities.
The sooner you learn this, the less problems you'll have in all areas of like including dating.
there's never any time like the present to ask questions right when the situation is occurring. It is much harder to bring up a similar subject at a future time and steer the conversation to the thing you are wondering about so you can ask a question.
I will give you an example. When he said after the game that you are really cute, without sounding like you're interrogating him, you could have asked for clarification in the following manner. "Um Jake, I am kinda confused here. You just said I am cute, so is that just an observation and comment you're making or are you maybe attracted to me? I am wondering because of what you said earlier of not liking anybody at school and I go to the same school? Or is it that you just never noticed me before at school?
All people...even grown ups make the same mistakes in communicating...they may not choose the best words or their words sound misleading without them intentionally trying for double meanings. So we have to ask when ever we are not clear on what was said, even a simple comment that may not end up being important. As soon as you find yourself questioning what someone said, ask.
I do not understand why you state that he is hiding his feelings? How do you know that is what is truly happening? Is there some piece of information you have not shared here that might shed some more light on what is gong on?
For example, if he is known to be very shy with everyone, doesnt talk much or share his thoughts, ideas and feelings with anyone, including friends? Is this some character trait of his?
If it bothers you to think that he is not outgoing enough to share more information up front without being asked,it's best if you realize that he may not be intentionally hiding anything, he's certainly not psychic where he can know what your thoughts and questions are and automatically begin answering your questions just by seeing a puzzled look on your face, and he may be young, shy, inexperienced in talking to girls, etc...
If you want to know if he's really interested in you, body language can share lots. Look for his attempted to catch your eyes, staring at you often, finding flimsy excuses to come and stand or sit near you, at least within arms length. Any two people who subconsciously do that will also back away from someone they are not comfortable with and attracted to or they stay put or move even closer. A person interested in you will lean towards you when talking with you. And another thing someone does when interested in the other person is begin to mimic their movements, again without conscious thought so it may not be exact, like repositioning your legs as seated, the other will move theirs too right after you do your but maybe not the exact same position.
Think of your life as a series of 21 questions and another 21 questions, make that 21,000 questions...don't ever stop asking questions. And so my dear, for you to know what this guy or any guy means when he says stuff, you have to ask the particular guy. What one guy gives for an answer will not automatically be the same thing another guy feels, beleives, etc... No assumptions, only questions.
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