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Have a crush on my friend and don't know what to do!
13/f bisexual. I've been pretty close friends with this girl who I've known for a year. We get along pretty well, and somewhere along the lines I started to like her more than friends. I've always known that I'm not straight, but she's the first girl I've liked like this. I asked her out to the movies in August and we had a great time, but I don't think she knew I meant it as a date. I think she is straight. I dream about her a lot. Just like, us hanging out and eating food at romantic places and stuff like that. I really want to know if she is straight or not, but how do you just casually bring that up in conversation? And I don't want to ruin our friendship. Any advice? All appreciated.
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I'd probably just straight up ask her.
If you don't want to take that route, then maybe while you guys are talking, talk about boys you think are cute, and maybe ask her if she's ever been attracted to girls.
I mean you can even play truth or dare with her to find out.
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You're at an age where hormones recently became active, and this is the point at which teens find themselves attracted to others sexually, some to the same sex or the opposite sex, and some to both.
You did not include anything of a sexual nature as to what you fantasize about. Ask yourself if you have deep feelings for her that do not include having sex. In todays time, women are portrayed in the media as being all into their looks and competitive with each other, much into fighting to be the best, the dominant and the prettiest with most male admirers. The lines between being very close female friends have been blurred with those of being gay or bi-sexual.
Todays girls think that if they enjoy their best girl friends company above all else and don't want to do anything without her, really love her deeply, possibly more than a sister, and admire her, then they auto matically think it must mean they are gay or bi. That is not so!
As a young teen, I had a girlfriend I was close to like that, we have strong feelings of love for each other...not romantic love...remember, you dont love mom or sis or auntie romantically but can have deep love in your heart for them. Neither of us felt attracted to each other sexually.
So the question for you here is: How do you really know that you are not straight?
Most people would say they just know in their minds even if they have little or no experience that way. When the word sex or sexual is used, it implies that not only does a persons body think a certain way in the mind mental aspect) and feel something in the heart (emotional aspect) but there will also be a physical reaction to the other person. How do I know I am straight when I can admire a beautiful lady for her looks? Cus the physical aspect is missing, my pantys aren't getting wet, and my nether regions are not tingling, no butterflies in my stomach and my heart beat not picking up a step....thats how I know. You are just starting to discover your sexuality. Don't stick yourself under a label where you may not really fit. But if you are pretty certain that you are indeed bi, then find some article on line about bi sexual girls that is informative, save it, and in convo, tell her you read an article while skimming the internet about teen girls and how they know if they are bi-sexual, gay or straight. Give some of the statistics you read and ask her where she thinks she fits in. You can tell her then that by what you read that you feel like you must be bi-sexual. If she also feels she might be too, then you can reveal how you feel about her currently. Just as in dating boys, even relationships with girls can last a short time and end in a breakup cus feelings change. One thing for sure in its favor, being bi and going for sex with girls in the early teens is a good way to take care of ones horniness without having to fear getting pregnant or taking the pill.
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