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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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i used to cut for 2 years but my ex bf told after i went through a lot and he told so now im getting help...well the other day my friend came over and we were talking about cutting but i stopped so she said "well getting high takes it away like cutting does" so i got high, my friends would kill me if they found out...and theyd probably tell and i dont want that to happen...theyd probably all hate me too and i dont want that to happen cauze i love them all sooo much! but the only person who knows is that girl...help me please, what do i do?

okay well its wrong that your friend would encourage you to get high. but look fine, you did it once. leave it at that. dont do it again. its just gonna ruin you in the long run. im telling you LEAVE THAT SHIT ALONE.

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For cheeries ... how long do they bleed for??

some people bleed alot some people bleed a little. just gotta see what happens, i guess.

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my friend is really nice to me when she its just me and her but if she is with another friend she is such a butthead to me and i get mad at her all the time and stuff but then we havce a fun time or we talk o0n the phone and we r friends again like all my friends are friends with her so it sucks and now im mad at her again wut shuld i do ?

well just pull her aside andb tell her how you feel. make it clear that you are not ebing mean about it. maybe she doesnt realize she is being this way. if you tell her maybe she will change. if she doesnt change though, then screw her she is a butthead.

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ok, so i had this party at my house the other night and there was alot of like 21 year olds there. and i started talkin to this one guy, i talked to him for like 5 hours! hes awsome! hes 21 and im 13, and i know nothing seriouse coould ever happen but theres just something about him. i mean he works at ym dads work and everytime i go to my dads work i want to see him. i have a crush on him ya know, but is it ok to have a crush on someone 8 years older then you?

yeah sure its okay to have a crush on someone older than you. but just remember he is alot older, too older and nothign could ever happen.

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Okay today i had this guy over..hes 16(2 years older then me) he has a car but onlii a permit..and he just got outta lock up...hes really fun tho and sweet..plus im...attraced to him like..whoa.? i just love bad boy style...anywayz..so today he drove over to my house n we were just chillin n we went fer like an hour n a half walk round like...half of tha city bc since he onlii has his permit not licenses my mother or dad wont let me ride with him incase he gets caught...well then we were in an ally behind my house n we sorta made out...idk..he is tha 3rd guy i have "hooked up" with in tha past 3 weeks..i dont reallt think im a hoe bc im still a virgin (well i havent had sexual intercourse) but there is this other guy that i hooked up with sorta like a week n a half ago n he has been tellin me he wants us to go out (one of my exs) but now he is made bc he heard that i was just talking to tha other guy i just had over today..i noe he is guna find out that i had him over today n what happened between us..i dont noe what to do..my older sister (23) thinks im doing sumthing wrong but i dont..am i??n what should i do about tha other guy n how he is guna get jealous and mad?!?!?

well you kinda are doing something wrong. its alomst like you are leading these guys on by hooking up with them. i think you need to just make a decsion on who you want to be with and stick to it.

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what should i do with my friend she just sits there and does nuthin all day she just sits there not even watches tv wat do i do

take her out. go shopping or do something fun like go to an amusement park or something. make her get up and move around.

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hey ppl i live in southern cali and dickies shorts and pants are really in style right now, do you think when school starts they'll be out? or do they still have a little style left in them to last halfway through the yearish? THANK YOU!

i live in pa and dickies are still in style over here. people have actually been wearing them for a while. i say if you like them then wear them.

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I have been in a relationship for a long time. I recently discovered that my girlfriend wants to bring another woman into our sex life...what should i do??? I realy care about my girlfriend i wonder if it would ruin what we have???

most guys wouldnt pass this up. but personally, i think 3 somes are never a good idea. you should never bring a 3rd person into your relationship, especially if it a serious one. if someone were to end up falling for the new person, or if the new person ended up falling for you or your girl, it could cause a lot of problems. or what if your girl sees you treating that other woman a certain way sexually and she gets jealous? i just dont think its a good idea. 3 somes may be fun if no one in it is in a serious relationship, i wouldn't know from experience, but i think if you are in a serious relationship there is no need for another person. ask her if there is something else you can do to spice up your sex life with out bringing another woman in.

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ok now i wear thongs and i am kinda the one in skool that no one reallys notices. this is my last year of junor high and i want to be noticed. i want to sit down and have my thong hang out but then i have second thoughts bout it and chicken out. wheat can i do and is it ok if i do this?? plz help me



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your not gonna get any attetion, but negative attention if you do that. people in school will probably think you are being a hootchie. girls will laugh and talk about you and guys will think you are easy. dont go sitting down and doing that on purpose just for attention.

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hey! i have a bf of one year and our anniversary is in a week. i'm going to lose my v. to him after a very romantic dinner and i need some tips like....what to cook, how to set the mood, music to play, etc. my friend is letting me borrow her house since her parents are out of town. thanks!

1st of all since you are only 16, make sure this is what you really wanna do, cuz once you give it away you never get it back. but it seems to me that since you want to go so far out of your way to make this night special, that this guy is probably a nice guy and not a jerk. as for food, i'd say the easiest and probably most fun meal to make would be spaghetti. its really simple to make, and you can do that thing they do in that lady and tramp movie, where one person eats one end and one eats the other til they meet up in the middle. lol! serve garlic bread and a ceasar salad on the side. and to drink, if you can get some, try some champagne. trust me you don't wanna be completely sober when you lose it, lol. make sure there are candles every where. like at the table and in the bed room. you can also put roses or rose petals on the bed, just make sure you clean it all up after, since its not your house. and just play some romantic music. like burn a cd of love songs. good luck! :)

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I am a 15 year old female, and i have been having a lot of sex in the past two years. Im not pregnant but i havent had my period in 2 months i have been throwing up in the morning. Im not sure i dont want to tell my mom but i don't know what to do PLEASE HELP!

if you are scared to say something to your mom why dont you go buy a home pregnancy test. you may be pregnant. if i were you i would actually go to a planned parent hood. they are confidential and wont tell your parents anything if you dont want them to. there you can get a pregnancy test for free. and since you said you've been having alot of sex for the past 2 years, and i'm supposing some of it is unprotected since you think you are pregnant, then you should also scehdule for a check up to get tested for hiv and stds.

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Okay...I went out with this boy before and his name is lets just say Dave. Well we went out and it didn't work that well because we didn't talk. On and off we liked eachother after we broke up but never got back together. Well I actually have never really stopped likeing him but when i do think i stop he just randomly talks to me and makes me like him again. Well on to the subject. He recently has been calling me like everyday for no reason just basicly to talk and he never used to do that but anyways my cousin was over and she thought we should go back out because she thought he liked me. I'm not really sure if he likes me he says stuff about how he thinks i'm hott and all but i don't know. Well usally i don't ask guys out because I am afraid of rejection but this time I did because my cousin sorta made me. Well I was talkin to his cousin because he put him on the phone and he told me not to worry about it that i wouldn't get rejected. But he hasn't answered me and if I supposedly wasn't going to get rejected then why hasn't he answered yet? And i'm afraid to ask him again what his answer is because i don't know what to say. Could someone please help me figure out what to do. BTW sorry its really long!

just call him or whatever and be like look what is the deal? stop beating around the bush. do you want to be with me or not? i need to know so i can see what i am doing with my life.

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Hello, im 17 years old and i grew up with 3 friends since pre-school. We are soo close. But 2 out of the 3 are racists. I never really cared because they didnt say anything around me. Then i started dating an African-American. And they are saying things about me and my boyfriend. I love them and i have grown up with them but i love my boyfriend ALOT too.. he means alot to me. Now im stuck in the middle between my bestfriends and my boyfriend. What i am i going to do? Thank You.
Sincerely,
stuck so deeply

your friends need to stop treating you the way they are. if they can't then they are not your friends. everyone is entittled to thier own oppionions, but its a whole different story when your oppionion is hurting someone, like it is hurting you. you shouldnt have to make a choice. your man is your man, not theres, and they just have to accept you for you, take it or leave it.

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Hey im 14 years old and i dont really know good tips on doing makeup. Anyone know anything?? Give me some tips. Love yahz ~ xoxx

i think the best thing is to keep that natural look. if use colors that go with your complexion it doesn't really appear as if you have make up. it just accents your natural prettyness. so try like just using black, brown or gray eyeliner, inside of your eye. use a black or brown mascara, to give a fuller look to your lashes. just that will bring out your eyes. but if you want to use some eyeshadow, use something that wont stand out too much, like something that shimmers more than it is a color. that way there is just basically a sparkle on your eye lid. and use a clear or light lip gloss. with this method, you will have make up on, but you wont look like a clown.

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Hey Does anyone know how to get rid of dark circles under the eyes. I want to know about stuff that i can make at home. Or something that i can buy that doesnt cost too much

try to get more sleep and use cover up

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I have allway wanted a pet chicken do you think they are a good pets ? cuz my family is thinkin about movein to a fram like in 3 year and i just wanted no if they would or not :)

if you live on a farm, a chicken is fine for a pet. but if you live in like an apartment or something, it might not be such a good idea.

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K Here's the deal. I recently went to tx to see my dad's side of the family 4 the first time. When i got there my 17 y\o female cousin gave me a tour of the yard as per my uncles request. A wasp flew down her shirt and a so as not to get stung on her boobs she lifted her shirt briefly exposed herself to me. I turned around out of respect but i still saw. And i liked it :(
my question is, that wrong. i mean shes very attractive and a total stranger to me. I mean i would'nt feel that way about any of my cousins that iv know 4 many years.

please help me AIM: MicroSurjj88 email: loser1588@hotmail.com
THNX, Microsurjj 16 Y\O

well its not so strange since she is basically a total starnger. just know that it would be wrong if you actually did make a pass at her, because irreguardless if she is a total stranger or not, she is your cousin, so that would be wrong.

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Okay, well i really love show choir, it might sound dorky to some people but i LOVE it. So now im going to a HUGE high school, and theres not many freshman that make it into my schools show choir group, so at my audition i want to be able to sing REALLY good. I dont really need a private teacher right now, and i sing a whole bunch, but does any body know any good tips for me to make me become a better singer?

well it is always good to keep your lips at a pucker. when you sing "ooo" sounds think "O" in the nack of your throat. always keep your head high and imagine that you voice is projecting all the way to the back of the room.

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I'm 16 and i know im pregnant. Im starting to gain weight, my family has a good reputation,like no pregnancies below 20 i dont know how to tell my mom what should i do

well im 17 and pregnant. when i told my mom and my bfs mom that i was, they were shocked, but they were supportive. they told me it was my decision on what i wanted to do. so what i am trying to tell you is you have to talk to your mom about what is going on. eventually she will find out anyways, especially if you are deciding to keep it. just sit down with her and tell her what is going on. and babies are not always a bad thing, they actually bring people closer.

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I'm 14 and I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 months ago, because we never talked or were able to see each other.Now that were broken up I see him more and more. We started hanging out. Well the other day he told me he still loved me and still wanted to be with me,but I didn't tell him it back because I didn't want to get hurt again.After that we started walkin with his friend and I had a stupid moment and kissed his friend (I've liked his friend for like ever),but I never stopped loving my ex.. Should I feel bad for what I did?

did you kiss his friend in front of him? if so, then yeah you should feel bad. and if you still care about your ex, now that you guys are haning out more, maybe you should talk to him about giving it another try. he probably is hanging around you alot more now because he misses you.

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