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I used to go out with this guy, Tom, who I had liked for a long time. We only went out for a day because I also liked his best friend and I realised I liked his friend more. I have been dating his friend, Jon, now for 4 months and I like him alot. Tom is still my best friend, I totally trust him and I really like him, but I don't feel attracted to him. Today, Tom told me that he fancied me and he asked me out. I turned him down and told him that I loved Jon and that I didn't fancy Tom. Now I feel really bad. I don't want to be with Tom and I'm in love with Jon but I don't want to hurt Tom. I don't know what to do. I don't want it to cause trouble between Jon and Tom, I don't want to put their friendship in jepardy. What should I do? (link)
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Well, you are in a bit of a sticky situation but i think i will be able to help you out. I think the best thing to do in this case would be to just stress the importance of friendship to Tom. Explain to him that while you love all his attributes and other characteristics you aren't interested in him in that manner especiallly enough to posdsibly risk losing a friendship you cherish. Explain to him that while Jon is your boyfriend, Tom IS and will ALWAYS be your best friend;your confidant. Stress that nothing will change that or take his place in your heart. He sounds like a nice guy so I am sure he will understand. True friends and people who really care about you want you to be happy, even if they don't get what they want. I understand why you would feel bad about this whole situation, but don't. It's not your fault. Just the cards you were delt. You handed everything really respectably and maturly. Maybe set aside some time for you and Tom to hang out with one another..go play some mini golf!! That would be a hoot. Just enjoy y'alls friendship. Also, when you talk to Tom about all this tell Jon you are telling him all this and express to them both that you care too much to ever hurt either one of them, and that's never your intention. Just speak to them from your heart. Good luck. :)
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How do you REALLY make out.... I need to know...and dont say "oh its easy theres really no way to explain it just go for it...go with the flow" thats stupid and doenst help... say what you actually do...i need help!!!!! (link)
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Hey there-Before I answer your question it is first and foremost to make out only when both parties involved are 100% willing and ready. With that said: Just remember these things in case you are really worried:
Making out is basically kissing with mouths partially open and tounges making contact with each other. Start with a basic kiss on the lips then open your mouth slightly, and slide your tongue out a bit, until it just touches your partner's lips. Lick against them gently until your partner gets the hint and opens up a bit. Keep sliding your tongue in further, tickling your partner's tongue and lips with your own tongue. Think of your tongue as a finger, lightly brushing against your partner's skin. The touch is soft but tantalizing.
Don't be doing lots of other things with your hands while you French kiss. This distracts the person you're kissing! Just hold them and have them focus on this tongue and what it's doing. That should be the primary focus in a French kiss.
When you're both comfortable with the tongues touching, start getting even more erotic. Slide your tongue along your partner's tongue. You're sort of reproducing the sex act here, with your tongue. So slide your tongle along the other tongue gently at first, and then more and more quickly. Do circling moves, where you go around the tip of the tongue, and then do a thrusting slide down the length of the tounge. Then ease off and circle again.
This isn't about strangling your partner with your tongue or getting slime all over the place.
Don't be nervous!! It's no big deal and it's going to be a great memorable experience for you. :)
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do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between. (link)
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Every persons school years always seems like some of the most trying times they'll have to endure. While it would be a ot EASIER to just go with the crowd to fit in to what is percieved to be the norm, the WISER choice would be to go the other path. Dare to be different. You have to stand up for what you believe in; even if you are standign alone. Set an example. In the long run, more people will admire you, and most of all;RESPECT you. The United States has and will always serve as a melting pot of different people with different characteristics. Be a leader; not a follower. Do whatever makes you happiest. In the long run, it will pay off. :)
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ok what should you do when you have parents that buy themselves alot of things but nothing for you (link)
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Get a job? I know it may seem like your parents don't buy things for you, but you are just probably not taking into consideration the things they do buy for you. I know as we grow up we want more and more, and it seems like we get less and less of what we really want, but a lot of times parents can't afford to give us everything we want and they are also trying to enstill values in us. Be appreciative of what you do have and get. Liek the basics: Tv,Movies,Clothes,Shoes,Stereo,Shampoo,FOOD,etc.
If you want things to change, maturally ask your parents if you can start working more around the house in exchange for more things. Do some chores. Or, if they still say no, get yourself a job. Even something as simple as babysitting can make a difference. I bet your parents are just trying to teach you the value of money. :)
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Well I am kinda in a long distance relationship and it is hard because i dont get to see him like everyday. I am only 13 and i am a female and I think he is the one and I love him every much. Do you think this will last forever????? NEED HELP FAST!!!! (link)
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Hey there. Well, first off-I am glad that you seem happy. With that said: Long distance relatiionships can be hard for couples of ANY AGE. It is especially hard for young teens due in part to the fact of lack of independent transportation. (Meaning, neither of you can drive to go see one another). While these kinds of relationships can be a burden and struggle, they are possible. It just take more effort, time, commitment, trust, and communications. But in order for that to happen both parties must be willing to put forth the necessary effort. I realize that you may love him, and you may think that there is no one else out there for you. But, you have to realize you are very young. Sometimes are first real or serious relationship can make us think that it's the only one. You have to understand that there are going to be a ton of guys you'll meet through the years. It's okay to styay with this guy, and if in the long run y'all do last 7 years from now, well then good for y'all. Just don't be too disappointed if it doesn't work out like that. But if you both are willing to try and beat the odds here are some things you can do:
Set aside a time each day for hte 2 of you to talk on the phone and or computer
Email one another
Write him letters
When you are able to see one another make the best of it
Get each other little " I'm thinking of you gifts"
And again, communication is key. Best of luck! :)
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Happy New Years!! (link)
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Thank you, and the same to you. :)
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I really want a new sn for AIM.
I don't want anything with dance, sexy, baby or any of that stuff... My names Amy I graduate in 2008 My boyfriends name is Javier, Any ideas? THANKS!! My initials are AGR .. Javiers are JAF and I don't want XO's..
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Here are a few ideas for you:
Amy08
Amyloveyou
AGRnJAF
AmyNJavy
Ames4you08
Greatin08
Ihaveabf
AmyMoMamy
IamAmyIam
If you need some more give me a little more info about yourself and I would be more than happy to come up with some more for you. :)
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I'm inviting 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering party. We're going to the movies, which'll take up like 4 hours.. But do you guys have anymore ideas.. Thanks XO (link)
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There are tons and tons of things you can do:
-eat
-bowl
-video games
-card games
-board games
-twister
-cook
-dance/listen to music
-rent some videos
-make overs
-hide and go seek!!
-call some boys
-limbo
-pin the tail on the donkey
-truth or dare
-roller blade
Just use your imaginations and don't hesitate to be dorky!! Sometimes as we get older the more childish games become more fun! :)
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Okay so tonight for new years eve i was supposed to be going over to my boyfriends house and drinkin and...what not. Then i tried getting my best friend to go with me and she was gonna but then some shit happened and her mom said no so we're PISSED. I love my boyfriend a lot and all but i can't decide on if i wanna go to his place tonight and see him or if i wanna stay here with my mom and spend time with her then see my boyfriend tomorrow or something. If i went to his place i know i'd get drinkin and then come home and my mom would probably notice and be PISSED and id die. What should I do???!!! omg this sux. THANKS PLZ HELP!!!! (link)
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Okay, well it sounds like you already know the right answer for yourself. I'm guessing from the info you have given that you aren't 21 which would make it illegal for you to drink, thus your more getting angry. I know that hanging out with your boyfriend and drinking and partying and what not seems like the coolest thing to you right now, but whether you like to hear it or not, it's not a WISE choice. With each year that passes you are supposed to become more responsible, wise, and knowledgeable. Use your head and make the right choice. Why don't you just invite your friend and boyfriend over to your house (with your mom there) rent some videos put on some cds and get some sparkling grape juice. If your boyfriend thinks it's lame and drinking alcohol is the cool thing, he obviously has his priorities mixed up. Think about it. Best of luck. :)
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if you have "pin worms" can you just let them stay there??...must you get meds or see a doctor, waht if your too embarassed,,how dangerous are they? how do you know if you have a bad or mild case? HELP HELP HELP!
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You really really need to see a doctor for this as soon as possible. Whether its a bad case or not depends on how many are in there and how long they have been there. I know it may be hard to see a doctor but you really need to in case that have or will go internally which can be a lot more damaging. The longer it goes un treated, the worse off you will be. Get some help. Take care. :)
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My husband and I of 1.3 years of marriage got into a huge fight yesterday and he hit me several times, twice in the head. He kicked my butt real hard, threw something at my leg or my arm-can't remember which over something that was really stupid. I did say somethings I know I shouldn't have like I didn't love him, hated him and wanted a divorce. But does my saying those things warrant him hitting me? And that wasn't the first time. He normally hits me real hard on the legs when he gets real mad or he feels I've pushed his buttons.
Last night, he went to a motel with his son to get away and he would not talk to me at all. I didn't even know if we were going to be together. I was hurt and upset about the whole situation and did something real stupid. I filled out one of those eharmony personality profile things. I didn't chat with anyone or nothing like that. I just did it, don't know why. I was depressed and I did pop a lot of pills as I have tonight to try and sleep. None of it his an excuse. He found the eharmony thing today when he came back and now he won't have anything to do with me. I love him and want to work it out and I know I have to change also, not just him. All the times he's accused me of doing things I never ever did, I guess I just filled out that eharmony thing out of spite. He has called me a slut and a whore and that I'm so big now vaginally wise that no man could do me any good. I have apologized for filling out that personality profile. It was dumb of me. How can I save this marriage and convince him that I don't want anyone else, PERIOD. I love him and want to work this out more than anything in this world. Help me please. (link)
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To answer your first question: Nothing warrants a man hitting you or speaking to you like that. Wow. Well, I can relate to your situation and you may not agreee with or like the advice I am going to give you, but it's my honest opinion. You need to get out of this relationship, or else the later consequenses could be far worse than you may have already taken part in. It's not healthy for any of the parties involved. Now when I say you need to get out, I mean it in two ways. A. you could leave the jerk right now and get coustody of your son or B. you could demand that he change his ways (if I were you I would choose A, but that's just me)
I really feel for you though. And I can understand why you may want to stay with him (ie: your son, money issues, love, commitment, etc) Coming from a family where there was abuse and knowing several other families that have dealt with it I can say that's its not good for the child or rather anyone in the long run. If you really really think that your husband can change his ways and won't blow up at you even more for you suggesting change, then go for it. Tell him that you are sorry and you want to make things work and you want the both of oyu to put forth some effort. Get yourselvesi n family counseling and some anger managment classes. Give it some time and see if you both are putting forth the needed effort. If you don't think you want to work through this all, get your son and you and get out of there. File for divorce. Put a restrainign order on him if need be. I know it all sounds harsh but this guy sounds really dangerous. You could even have him arrested. If you have marks on you take pictures. I can't stress enough the fact that none of this is healthy, I know how hard it is to leave someone after such time and effort put in to the mix, but the longer you wait, the harder it will be. If there is any doubt in your mind that the way he is treating you is right or wrong or not,, that should be answer enough for you. Please seek help. You can call this number: 1800 799 7233 They can also provide you with a place to stay if you so choose to leave. What ever choice you make, think which one would be the safest, and wisest. Best of luck. :)
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is it normal to have little alive white worms in your ass?? im not trying to be sick but i have worms like little tiny white worms, that live in my ass. they make it itch and feel irritable. not to gross anyone out
-silvia (link)
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Okay, well you have pin worms. Here are some things to know about it:
Be careful with washing your hands and body
Wash all clothing and linens in HOT water
There is a medicine you can takwe for this that is over the counter (get it at the drug store)
If it is a bad case you are going to need to see your doctor to get a stronger perscription
This was prolly contracted from a lack of cleaniless or just not washing reallt thouroughly. Be more careful in the future. Fell better. :)
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a friend from school died about 3 weeks ago from cancer. now one of my close friends has cancer too. its making me so incredibly frustrated and upset and angry and so worried about my friend all at the same time. i need someone spiritual to please give me a new outlook on all of this, because right now i can't stop praying and questioning why the hell things like this happen. (link)
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Wow, that's really got to be hard to take for all parties handled. Your situation really hits very close to home for me. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, I was so mad at God. I couldn't understand why he was doing this. Why he would let something so bad happen to someone so good. My uncle is also very very terminally ill, and everyday it kills me inside. I've sat and thought about all of this for hours and cried my eyes out. The best conclusion I have been able to come to is that sometimes God lets things bad happen in order to teach us how lucky we are and to bring us closer to Him. I think it's good that you are praying. I think you should also maybe write about what you are going through. Try to help both of your friends and their families in any way possible. Maybe cook them something. Or you could get the kids at school to all make condolenses cards. Just arious different things. The important thing is to learn from all of this and just keep on having the faith. If you ever need anyone to talk to I am always here. God Bless. :)
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okay my boyfriend didnt get me ne thing for christmas and i feel kinda guilty for getting him something...and now i got a ring in the mail from someone and i dont kno who it was from...what should i tell my boyfriend when he asks...that is if he asks? (link)
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I think you have a rigth to feel guilty about all of this. It is kind of crummy of him to have not gotten you anything; especially considering the factthat you got him something. But, you have to take into consideration that he may have not had any money or time. Maybe calmly approach him about all this and ask him in a subtle way. Don't be rude or greedy about it. Just say it to him sincerely. Or you could be like "i would of loved to get a ring for Christmas...and then jokingly say "oh wait, I did; was it from you?" That way you get your point across to him without making a huge deal about it. If he really didn't get you anything; just tell him how it made you feel. Maybe he'll do better for Valentines day. But if it wasn't him who got you the ring; find out who!!! :)
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Is a 2002 celica & mustang alot of money? I want the price range for both please!! (link)
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Hey-
Mustangs are actually more affordable than the Celica, but they are both a pretty good deal. Depending on the type of Mustang the price varies. I'd say a *good condition* Mustang (2002) can cost you about 11,000-15,000ish. The Celicas are about 5 thousand more than that. Check out EBAY for more details! :)
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well, my hair is straight, but the ends go all retarded and wavy and this totally kills my hair. does anybody kno why this happens and how i can get rid of the waviness? thanx lotss (link)
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Hey! Don't freak. That happens to a lot of people's hair. All you have to do is just blow dry the ends of your hair even more or some (if you don't normally do it at all) and straighten the ends with a straightener. If you don't have one you could use a crimper or even a curling iron but just quickly go through that section of your hair a few times. Also, you might want to think about applying some hair spray or Thermal Active Setting Spray (By Biolage); it sets in the look without making hair feel firm. It also prevents frizzyness. It's about 10 dollars at beauty supply stores. Good luck! :)
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Hey yall!!!
I just wanted to get some advice/ideas on what to get my new boyfriend as a holiday gift that is under $20 bucks. He is 19 years old.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS & HAPPY NEW YEAR 2 EVERYONE HERE!!!
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There are tons and tons of things you could get him (or even make):
-Shirts
-Watch
-Cd
-Wallet
-Belt
-A basket of all his favorite things and necessites
-Movie/DvD
-Video Game (Like Halo2 or Madden 2005)
-Make him a scraptbook
-Colgne (small bottle)
-Bake him something and cook him a special dinner
-Book
-Subscription to a magazine (like Maxum)
-Necklace
-Poster
-Something for his car
-Gift Card
Happy holidays! :)
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I have an oral presentation to give on monday (it's powerpoint) and i'm terrified... like this is one of my biggest fears ever. Whenever i go to give a speech or something my voice starts really quivering and shaking and it sounds like i'm crying. Is there any way to stop this from happening? also... any other advice on giving speeches would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!! (link)
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Aww, I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I was younger I was a sports boradcaster for a radio station in Houston and the first time I went live on air, I totally freaked! I was shaking my voice cracked and all sweaty. The thing that helped me get through it was just to kind of pretend I was only talking to one of my closets friends or someone from my family. Just like I was practicing or something. It also helped me to pretend that I was this kind of famous person that was just my goofy self. But before you give your actual presentation try giving it to your family (they are your biggest critics). Also do the same with your friends. You could try giving it in front of a mirror so you can watch all the lil' gestres you make. And this is also helpful, to give your speech or presentation while a video camera is recording. Just practice..you'll get better each time. Just totally relax! You can do anything you set your mind to. Good luck. :)
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I'm not sure but I may be a victim of emotional abuse. I've been with my guy since high school, more the half of a decade ago, and we have a child together. Now he doesn't call me names and put me down to my face, though he's come close before, but it's like whenever he's in a bad mood he takes it out on me, he blames EVERYTHING on me that comes to his mind. It makes me feel really low. I think he does it to make himself feel better but then I feel like total crap and I hang my head down and sigh for like hours. Sometimes I get so sick to my stomach over it. It's just this vicious cycle that keeps on going. He acts nice again and I love that person that he is when he is nice so I forget everything and am able to relax again for a little while. But when he changes faces again I'm like, "Oh why do I put myself through this, here we go again." I feel like such trash for putting up with it. I just love him so much, and I know he loves me but wonder if there's a part of him that hates me because he has to blame so much on me. And if I say anything when he is angry, ANYTHING, it makes him angrier and he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. His father treated his mother like this and I think he's following in his footsteps. I don't want my son to think this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. So I'm just wondering if this is considered emotional abuse. Thanks. (link)
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Well, first of all, don't feel alone. You seem so warm and level headed. I think in your heart of hearts you know the answer to your question. Of course this is a form of emotional abuse. Isn't all of this effecting you emotionally, so yeah. You know it's okay for couples to argue, and bicker, and say things to one another that may hurt, but hopefilly they do not do it intentionally or mean to hurt you fully; only to get a point across. You are absolutely right when you said this is all like a vicious cycle. As hard as it may be and although it may cause even more fighting and anger I think you should try civily talking about all this with your companion and maybe calmly suggest that the two of you seek couples counseling. It sounds like the two of you do have a loving and comitted relationship together, but due in part to the fact that you were originally together in your youth, he has inherrited some of those immature and youthful tactics and actions. I think he also is now so comfortable with you and your relationship that he thinks you are going to tolerate everything he puts in front of you. Maybe bring that fact up to him ( not when he is already angry) Approach him with all of this when he is decent and just express to him how distraut you are feeling over all of this. If the two of you so choose to seek some form of counseling, go for it. Help your guy make changes for not only you and your son, but for himself as well. If he continues all these harsh patterns and shows no intentions of wanting or trying to change, you need to really think hard about your priorities as hard as it may be. Best of luck. :)
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I'm a 24 yr old girl...and I met this great guy at a bar a few weeks ago and since then everytime I'm out, no matter where I am, he seems to be there. (Like it's meant to be?) Well, I went over to his house after leaving the bars twice. The first time we just hung out, we didn't even kiss... and then the second time we went a lot farther then that. I think he's wonderful and I want him to like me for me even though everytime I see him I'm pretty wasted.. I want to keep talking to him and I don't want to ruin things because I feel wierd and don't know how to act because I went too far with someone new.. but I really like him, I think he's so perfect... what should I do?? How should I act??? (link)
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Hmm, well in a way you have put yourself in a bit of a sticky situation. You really really have to be careful that this guys intentions are as sincere if not more than yours. Don't let him just use you for a quick lay. You can't take back what you did, you can only shape and form what happens in the future. So with that said, I think the best thing to do is to call this guy and asks if he wants to get off or a quick bite to eat. If he says no right then and there then you know without a doubt this guy just wants some. If he says sure, well then great. Go out with him to a resturant or a local coffee shop. Don't order and alcoholic beverage. Just stay sober. See how he acts around you. Is it the same? Sincere? Pissed off? Observe all these things. If you are getting good signals from him, then I'd maybe at the end of the day express that you are glad the two of oyu got a chance to get to know each other better 1 on 1 soberly rather than intoxicated. Tell him that's not how you usually are. If he says, yeah me too, well then you know you can continue things with this guy SLOWLY. If he's like, want to go to a bar? You know he just wants you when you are drunk, and you deserve better than that. Good luck! :)
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