about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

ok i just got a new mac
i used to use microsoft and i got my music by limewire. does limewire still work on mac? and if it doesn't, are there any other programs that downloads free music that works on mac..

help is appreciated.

It should. Download it to your computer, and try it.

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i cut. how did you stop. i try to stop i wouldnt cut for like a day but then i do again. how do i stop.

It was really hard for me to stop cutting myself, but I got through it because of my family, and my friends & most importantly: music.

My family basically yelled & screamed at me for it, but some of my family members were there for me, and tried to help as much as they could. Them just being there, and trying to help out, was nice. And when I saw how much it hurt them, I tried stopping. Plus, I was ruining my body. My scars are still horrible, and I'm ashamed of it everyday of my life. I wear hoodies even if the summer because I'm so ashamed of my arms. There are scars EVERYWHERE, and it looks horrible. I can't wear normal things throughout the year because I know someone's gonna say something, or someone's gonna judge me. I don't care what people think about me, but it still hurts when someone makes a rude comment about it, or calls you a name.

My friends basically helped me throughout everything. The only person I can really say helped me the most throughout it all was my ex boyfriend Brandon, and my friend Katina. Brandon also used to cut, so when I would do it, he would do it back to make me see how it felt when someone I loved hurt themselves. As for my friend Katina, she told me that if I didn't stop, I was eventually going to die. And she cried when she told me that [as did Brandon]. They both were hurting because of something I'd done. And to see someone hurting because of me made me wanna die even more. I didn't wanna hurt them anymore, so I eventually worked my way up to it. It took me a while to not go for my razor, or my scissors, or my glass [basically whatever I was using at the time]. But it was well worth it.

Music played & still plays a really huge part in my life. When I was cutting, I'd listen to music. Most times it stopped me from doing anything to myself, but I'd sometimes give in. When I met some of my favorite bands, they saw my arms & asked me if I still did it, and I told them no, because it was their music that stopped me. And to see their faces, and their reactions from what I had told them, was just amazing. They told me that they were happy that their music stopped someone from killing themselves. And that they're happy they helped a person to keep living. To this day, I still get the urges to cut, but whenever I feel like doing it, I turn my favorite band on & just listen to them, and I can just remmeber how flattered they were that they impacted my life in such a way, and I stopped because of them, my family & my friends.

When you cut, you may think it's helping you, but all you do is bleed. At the time, you think "Oh, my problems are going away, and I don't feel anything anymore, this is so awesome." But really, when everything is done, your problems are still there, and sometimes a lot worse. And when you see what it does to you, it makes you wanna die. I mean, waking up each day for me is hard because I know I have to go another day with a constant reminder of all of my scars, and everything I've done. It sucks to have to remember those times & want to go back & tried not to start up. If I regret ANYTHING, cutting myself would be it. With all the people I've hurt, and all the scars I've got, I feel horrible about it. But there's nothing I can do to change it.

And I'm glad I stopped. I mean, whenever I think about it, I get so scared to do it because it's like "I could cut right now, and die." It's taken me a lot of counseling, a lot of family impact, a lot of friends who cared, and music to help me stop. And hopefully those things can help you to stop too. Because when you die, [whether accidentally, or on purpose] that's it. There is no coming back. And everyone you love will be so hurt, and so confused as to why you did it. And there's so much guilt & regret for them. They get these thoughts like "Was it because of me? Why didn't I stop her? I could've helped her, but I ignored it because I thought she was okay." All of those thoughts just flood them like a river, and then what? Hurting someone is probably the worst thing you can do. And it's just horrible to hurt someone. I never wanna see anyone ever hurt because of me ever again. It's the worst feeling in the world.

And I also realized I had a lot to live for, and whether I realized it or not, it was there. I could be anything I wanted & make a ton of money, or have happiness. If I killed myself, there would be so many things left unsaid, and undone. I would never get married, never graduate highschool. I'd never get a career, & never be able to hang out with my friends again. I'd miss out on so much. No matter what you think, or what you've convinced yourself, you can do ANYTHING you want. Anything at all. You can be an astronaut, you can fly, you can be a lawyer & help put criminals away. You can be a scientist & find the cure for AIDS, or cancer. You can be a counselor & help people just like you. You can create clothing or music that people will love. You can do anything you want, but that's only if you stay alive. You're capable of anything. Don't listen to the people that put you down, or tease you. You're better than them, and you always will be. Just believe in yourself, and tell yourself what you can do. And it can happen.

I really hope I helped, because I don't wanna see someone die over a stupid thing like cutting. Live your life, love your friends & do whatever you want. Life is short, and it's taken a lot for me to realize that.

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where else do you buy the arm things that go from your hand to your elbow with a thumb hole. i love them but my mom took all mine.

Hot Topic.

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Okay so. This might sound realy stupid but I really need advice on it. Anyway, I've been best friends with this girl Sadie since the first grade. Sadie is the typical all american girl; Tall, extremely pretty, she has a nice body and she like, never breaks out. Whereas me, I'm pretty much the opposite. So on monday (yesterday) we met this kid at this park thing. He was really sweet to us and stuff and the best part was that he was actually noticing ME. Usually guys look at Sadie, and thats all they can see. But with this kid, Sadie was hitting on him and flirting (even tho he wasn't really flirting with us) when she has a boyfriend, and she was talking bout how she was going to dump her boyfriend. I was talking to our other friend who was hangin with Sadie later and she said "ohh all she could talk about was this boy she just met."
It's not so much the boy, more like the whole situation. Just the fact that sadie has this awesome boyfriend and shes hitting on this boy who she just met and stuff. And once sadie goes after a boy she gets him. I dont know what to do. Should I confront her? Leave it?

If you're sick of your friend always getting the guy, then go after him for yourself. If he was noticing you, he must've saw right through her. And confront her. She might get mad at what you're gonna have to say, but it's the truth, and you're just trying to be a good friend by saying something to her face instead of behind her back to someone else.

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Well, there's this guy I supposedly like. My friends at lunch knew I liked him (we have pretty much the same friends, so I asked about him) but he didn't know who liked him. So my friend Christy pted. me out. My other friend, Dusty who knows him asked him what he thought about me, and he said"She's really pretty, and asked "Why don't she just come down here and talk to me?. She told him, "Cuz she's really shy" . She told me that, I was excited so I decided that day to say hey, he looked at me and smiled and said hey, (it wasn't until the end of lunch by the time I said hey)the next day I didn't get to see him at lunch (cuz I had comp.) but Friday, I thought would be perfect to go up to him, I came in and sat by him, he looked at me and turned his head. I was like okay?.. He was ignoring me. I didn't say anything though. I just sat there. Then my friend Dusty came down there and said" Hey, everybody!, hey Justin* how are you? So Justin what are you doing this weekend?" He mumbled something to her but I couldn't understand him, I kept looking at him but he'd glance for a 2nd at me then turn his head. Then Dusty asked Justin" So what's going on? Yall are sitting next to each other and not talking" I looked at him, he just shrugged his shoulders, looked at me then he went to talk to his friend. I was like wtf? I asked him if I was bothering him just sitting there and he said no. We was angry. So me and Dusty were mad so we went back to our end of the table. I was so embarrased by that. This week I've skipped lunch, and sat out by myself. Then I found out he too hasn't been to lunch either.. He's been avoiding his friends and I've been avoiding mine.. I'm comfused what's going on?.

I would get your friend to talk to him, or talk to him yourself. He might be shy, or he might be feeling weird about something. You should talk to him about it.

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i wana redo my room. 13/f gothic and my mom hates goths but im gothic. so i cant do gothic well nothing she would think would be but any advice on what colors for walls and everything else.
so how could i make it look like a gothic room but not black walls.
i like purple black white red and pokadots or anything
i hate pink blue green

Okay, if you hate pink, blue & green, you basically hate the outside? Haha.

Anyways, paint your walls maybe a deep purple, or a deep blood red. Then have like black bedding & try to get black/red carpet. Or white. Basically anything.

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hey..well this is really weired but i have a boyfriend and we dont go out much becase my mom wont let me. so we always talk on the phone every night for hours. and i just want our relationship to get a little deeper so i was wondering what can i say to him to get him horney without him thinking im weired or him knowing that im trying to get him horney because that would be weired, and feel awkward
all answer would be greatly appreciated thanks!

Tell him you're gonna go commando to school tomorrow.

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For my bithday, my step mom gave me her '98 convertible BMW z3 Roadster. There was some things that needed to be fixed on it such as inspection, registration, a bald tire, and the rear window was sun burnt and needed to be replaced. My dad also added a new radio. Note that my step mom GAVE me the car and DAD has been the one to fix all of it's problems.

The only problem is that I don't have a lisence and everytime I mention going to my driving school and picking up a form for classes, he avoids the subject so it makes me think he doesn't want me to have a lisence or that he doesn't really care.

Now my dad has given me the rules in driving my car but then when he drives it, he breaks most of the rules and I am very anal about my car so the last thing I want is him dirty-ing it up.

Yesterday, I accused my dad of fixing the car for selfish reasons(such as him fixing it so he would drive it) and he was VERY offended and accused me of being ungrateful. He wouldn't talk to me all yesterday and I spent my day after work smoking bowl after bowl with my boyfriend and crying about it.

Today, dad seems alright at work and he's talked to me about several different things but I still want to apologize to him. Someone give me some good words to apologize?

Tell him you're sorry you snapped at him, you were just frustrated & it wasn't your intention to hurt him.

But honestly, if you were sncere about this apology, you would think of what to say yourself or let it come from your heart. Not a site.

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I always feel like I bring everyone down. Or like after I talk to people I feel stupid, like why did i say that... And then I feel unconfortable when I'm around those people... I just feel stupid everytime I open my mouth... Is it lack of confidence? I don't know. Sometimes I just stay shut or sit in a corner by myself, so that I won't feel this way afterwards. What can I do to change this?
And please don't say to stop caring what others think, cause that's obvious.

I think it is lack of confidence. Just tell yourself that you're not dumb, you don't bring everyone down, and that you're not a loser like you think you are. Or you could just think about what you say before you say it.

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I am a 14 year old girl from canada, and i was wondering wat is it a guy really likes in a girl?

Every guy is different, but they usually like the same things.

A nice personality, and a pretty face.

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Everytime I look really "nice/good/pretty/stylish/glamorous" my friends always spot something on me. Like a little bit of smudged eye liner, or peanut-butter breath, messy hair, lipgloss not on the lips, or make-up prob. Its just so annoying. I hate it. I wish they would just compliment me. but they always find something. So I try to look good but then they always are so mean. I always feel bad after they told me that and embarassed. Its like they never have something to say nice to me. what should i do about this?

Whenever they're mean to you about something just tell them straight out that if they don't like what you're wearing, how you smell or how you look then that's their problem & not to hang out with you anymore.

They're not really your friends. Friends usually compliment each other, but they also know what looks good & what doesn't. They probably don't realize they're being mean. Just confront them about it, and if they're still being rude, then find someone who'll appreciate you.

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stupid question but i had a bf and he gave me this singing toy for valentines day.

i dumped him, and now i hate him and i never see him anymore (he moved). well whenever i look at the toy it reminds me of him. i really wanna get rid of it, but i dont wanna throw it away cause he spent his money on it, and i cant give it back to him cause i lost contact with him, and i cant give it to any of my friends cause i told them what he got me.

oh ya and i am not going to be in any relationship soon so i will not give it to my future bf. (anyways its ugly as hell and i hated it when i got it)

lol any ideas on what to do with it?

Give it to the Salvation Army.

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When I get my period...and I use the bathroom...or take a shower...I notice these...weird, bloody...plasma-things....in the shape of little balls......on my pad/or in the shower/bathroom. They're like clots....and when I have my period...and am sitting down, I sometimes feel them come. Is it normal?

It's normal. I get those too.

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Hi.

I'm not a big fan of dresses, but I would like to try the style out.

What are some websites that sell dresses that are comfortable and you can wear out shopping, or with friends? Nothing to fancy. I really like the punkish style too.

Thanks.

Well, I don't really know of any websites except for one:

www.hottopic.com

But I know stores you could try out.

- Rue 21.
- Rainbow.
- Charlotte Russe.
- Wet Seal.
- H&M.
- 5-7-9.
- Old Navy.
- Delia's.

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sry this might be weird, but i really want to know. what does cunt mean? ive seen it written one time, and it was like "shes an evil c***. so i assumed it was cunt. but i dont know what it means. pleeease help me!!!! thankssss

It's basically slang for the vagina. And it's insulting to females.

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this is a little weird, but what percentage of people do you think shave "down there"? would you suggest it

I think about 80% of the world does. I would suggest it, but it's your own decision.

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--- BIIGGG MESSS --- ---L0NG ST0RY---

Okey so basically.~14/f~

i met this boy about 2 months ago,
how we met i was bout to fight him over the stupidest thing L0L [anyways] we'v hung out a few times like i know him &n he knows me & one night my friend kiki got in a fight with him & thay where madd at eatchother so i was like yall are gay stop fightin; so yeaa i got really madd & walkd off then my friend scoot & the boy i like came up behide me & thay was like why aint you with kiki & i was like cause i'm madd at her but then he said something & i was like i dont carree & then scoot was like your actin funny, & i was like i'm madd & then the boy i like said if you want me to live you alone i will [didnt sayy anything] & thayy buugg`d me to death about leavein me alone thay askd me again i was like do wat you do. & then thay left well later that night my sister ask`d him if he liked me & he said -- yeah a little bit - *hesmiles* well theres more two that storyy. --
wanna know ill tell. but later on that--

but lately iv been soo busssy wit cheerleading i didnt get to go over to kikis house & hang with them i found out he was moveing!

& so yeah he moved but not far from where i live. & i guess you could sayy i miss him --.alot.-- like i dream bout him ([ i know prettayy lame ]) allwayyss thinkin about him 24/7 i told my self to get over him but something wont let me. i wouldnt call it inlove just idk what it is.

i havent seen him for awhile or talkd to him i dont even know if he has a girlfriend
but everyone else in my hood has seen him.

That was really hard to read, so you know. So try to use correct grammar next time so your question won't get deleted.

Ask your friends if any of them have his number or his screenname so you could contact him that way. If they do, then call him up & ask him to hang out. If you like him, tell him that. Then you guys can go out.

I don't think you're in love either, I just think you've got a crush.

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my vagina lips are very big and im still a virgin. how could i get ride of biggness?

You can't. It's more than likely genetic, so you shouldn't be ashamed. If a guy really likes you, he won't care about it, he won't notice, or he'll love it.

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how do you get other people who dont have advicenators column to ask you a question, instead of just people who are memebers??

Go to your "Profile Settings" and then scroll down. You'll see a thing that says "Who can ask you questions?" and the three choices will be "No one" "Registered users only" or "Anyone." Click anyone, and then save your changes. =)

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how am i to know if i am obsessed with a guy. i mean i really do care about him and i know he cares a lot about me. i think about him all the time and write in my diary about him every day. he makes me so happy and yet i know he may never like me. i know that he loves me as a friend but he already turned me down once. now it seems to be different. but i really dont know how to approach him about it. i prefer not to tell him that i like him again. i told him that i stopped liking him and now i like him again. what should i do?

I don't think you're obsessed, I just think you really love him. And love's not a crime hun, it's a wonderful thing. I would try telling him how you feel one more time, and if he doesn't feel the same about you, then that's his loss. When he tells you how he feels, just listen to him. If he likes you, then go out. If he doesn't, then try to find another guy you're interested in. Become his friend & then hang out. Do things together, talk to each other & become close. If things are going well, tell him how you feel. The worst thing any guy could tell you when you tell them how you feel is that they're gay, taken or that they don't like you back. Just don't stress out if he doesn't like you because he's not the only guy out there. There's tons of other amazing, cute guys out there, so concentrate on them too. =) Good luck!

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