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I feel stupid
I always feel like I bring everyone down. Or like after I talk to people I feel stupid, like why did i say that... And then I feel unconfortable when I'm around those people... I just feel stupid everytime I open my mouth... Is it lack of confidence? I don't know. Sometimes I just stay shut or sit in a corner by myself, so that I won't feel this way afterwards. What can I do to change this?
And please don't say to stop caring what others think, cause that's obvious.
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I think it is lack of confidence. Just tell yourself that you're not dumb, you don't bring everyone down, and that you're not a loser like you think you are. Or you could just think about what you say before you say it.
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Heyyaa.
Dont Feel stupid :]
I have the some problame oh. what i do to get over it is just ask your friends if you said the wrong thing & if there a true friend the'll tell you my friends do <3 but [anyways] you dont have lack of confidence to me it sounds like you a very confident person. :] & im not saying to stop careing about what other thing or anyhting like that. just dont worry about it as much! if you feel the need to feel stupid. & if its a boyfriend or something like that laugh at him. & say something like that was corny. & he'll something bacc atcha if its bad give me a call & i hurt him for you. ;] j/p j/p
i hope what i said works for you, [let me know how it works out]
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Have you ever heard the term,"Take the bull by the horns"? The same phrase could be directed twords your situation. I know what it's like to have lack of confidence, I used to be in your shoes. But I broke out of that shell by putting myself out there more. The more you hang out with other people, the more comfortable you'll be with them(and eventually with strangers as well). It will be hard, I wont lie to you. But it's well worth it.
I used to feel like everything I said was stupid, and I used to stay recluse, to avoid humiliating myself. But I eventually learned that most of the people I talked to didn't think what I was saying was stupid at all... it was only in my head. I took hold of my fears, found some people who I felt like I could relate to, and threw myself out into the world. Now I relate very easily to many people, even strangers who come into the store I work at. I laugh with them, make jokes with them, explain about products and services in our store, and I don't feel uncomfortable at all.
You need to do the same thing. It's hard not to care what other people think, but you really should. Besides, those other people aren't ever 1/4 as critical of you as you are. So, take hold of your own fears, and as uncomfortable as you might be, throw yourself out there. It will take time getting used to it, but you'll get there eventually. A year or two down the road, you'll be giving someone else the same advice. ;)
I hope everything works out for you.
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i think you might be lacking confidence. i feel the same way around certain people. i have found that the best way to gain confidence is to try to feel more comfortable around these people. when i started hanging out with a new group of people i felt like the odd one out but in time i started adapting and had more things to talk about with them. making friends can be very challenging. if you find yourself bringing people down, then even though its hard, try to think before you speak. sometimes a little thinking can go a long way. my mouth tends to slip too sometimes and i wish i could take things back. just try to have fun and let loose. chances are that when you are having a good time it shows and people are drawn to this type of happy energy. for example if you are in a group situation try to make at least one of the people in that group a good friend of yours. that way you never feel left out and always have someone to talk to. it really does take time though. and sometimes the people you least expect to become close with end up being the best friends you could ever have. and that is the best feeling in the world. good luck dont be discouraged. and have fun! anyting you need feel free to message me.
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