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Perfect isnt always pretty
Everytime I look really "nice/good/pretty/stylish/glamorous" my friends always spot something on me. Like a little bit of smudged eye liner, or peanut-butter breath, messy hair, lipgloss not on the lips, or make-up prob. Its just so annoying. I hate it. I wish they would just compliment me. but they always find something. So I try to look good but then they always are so mean. I always feel bad after they told me that and embarassed. Its like they never have something to say nice to me. what should i do about this?
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You should tell them how you feel. If they are your real friends, they will listen to you and will value your views on the situation. Good luck!
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You should tell them how you feel, and if they are good friends, they will realize how you feel and try to catch themselves. if i were you i would be a snot and try to do that right back to them, but trust me, dont do that...it probably wont turn out good. try to be nice about it and just say it makes u feel uncomfortable. hope i helped.
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Whenever they're mean to you about something just tell them straight out that if they don't like what you're wearing, how you smell or how you look then that's their problem & not to hang out with you anymore.
They're not really your friends. Friends usually compliment each other, but they also know what looks good & what doesn't. They probably don't realize they're being mean. Just confront them about it, and if they're still being rude, then find someone who'll appreciate you.
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You should confront your friends. If they laugh because you're confronting them, then either a)do the same thing back or b) find new friends. If you know that you look good, no one elses opinion should matter.
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They're jealous. It's a pretty typical answer but it's true. If you have people constantly trying to find little flaws, they're totally jealous. Watch out for them, they don't sound like quality friends.
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Your friends are obviously having an inferiority complex with you. So if you know you're looking great, why dont you give them an answer for every thing they say?
For example:
1. When they say you have smudged eye liner, tell them that you did that purposely.
2. When they say you have peanut-butter breath just say it cant be possible because you've just had mints(And do pop in a few before leavin' home just to be careful.)
3. When they say that you have messy hair say that it's the latest look and they have no clue about it because they all follow the same old way of hair styling.
4. When they say that your lip gloss is not on your lips tell them that it's not lip gloss that you've put it's the latest and most expensive lipstick which they can just dream of buying. Tell them it's meant to be the way you've put it to make your lips look fuller.
5. When they say anything about make up tell them it's the latest trend.
These were just examples to let you know how to answer jealous girlfriends. If you keep answering them like this they will shut up after sometime. All you need is self confidence and the right attitude.
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxxx
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There just jealous Because your PRETTY & there Not
Easy Tell Em To get a life & to not worry about yours & to stop worrying about you things, worry about theres befor thay even say something bout you thay should make sure there own hands are Clean...
[ A N Y W A Y S ] if there you real friends thay wouldnt try to make you feel unpretty about your self ya maybe its good to point out a few things like maybe say you need to fix your make up. ( so you dont look bad ) be every Little thing is just a N0!
dont worry about what thay say about you < - may guess is you prettyer then them, :]
hope i helpd <333
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It sounds to me like your friends are jealous. They seem to have rather low self-esteem. Most women with low self-esteem, or who see another girl who they think is more attractive then they are will try to pick the other woman apart. They look for flaws to make themselves feel better. That's exactly what your 'friends' are doing to you. While it's a hidden compliment, it does still make one feel bad to hear critique 24/7.
Have you tried talking with your friends about how you feel? Explain to them, when the time is right, not at a playful or goofy time, that you don't enjoy them picking you apart every day. Tell them a compliment would be nice every once in a while, rather than rude comments that make you feel bad. They should understand(at least if they are mature about it), and make an honest effort to change. It might take them a while, it seems like this behavior is engraved in them, but if you keep reminding them when they comment on something 'not right', they will eventually work themselves out of it.
However, should your friends laugh at you when you talk to them about this issue, or should they critique you more often than they do now, just because they know it upsets you, I would suggest finding new friends. Real friends wouldn't intentionally hurt you. You don't need that kind of influence, it could lead to self-image problems in the future. Though, I think it is more likely that this is not intentional, and you just need to bring it to your friends attention.
Good Luck, I hope everything works out.
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well friends should not be so mean. they should compliment you if you are trying to look good. they just have low self esteems and need to feel better about themselves and so they attack you to help them feel better. i would say not to surround yourself with people that can not be polite and encouraging. you shouldnt have friends that bring you down. you deserve better.
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as hard as it seems to believe this, they're just jealous. they see that you have worked hard in making yourself up and they feel threatened. They don't want you to steal the spotlight, which you are doing =].
maybe next time just ignore them and try thinking that they're just jealous which i know is hard and you still feel bad, but you have to be confident in yourself!
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