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how do you know
how am i to know if i am obsessed with a guy. i mean i really do care about him and i know he cares a lot about me. i think about him all the time and write in my diary about him every day. he makes me so happy and yet i know he may never like me. i know that he loves me as a friend but he already turned me down once. now it seems to be different. but i really dont know how to approach him about it. i prefer not to tell him that i like him again. i told him that i stopped liking him and now i like him again. what should i do?
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You can never really be sure how to feel when it comes to describing how you actually feel so don't try label your feelings.
You say you care about this guy and if you do then that is a great thing.
All you can be is yourself!
Don't try change just to please because he will never like you in that way if he can't see you for you!
Try spending more time with this guy and get a little more flirtacious and he will then start to see you as more than a friend!
trust me it works!
alot of people have these same problems and it just requires to get a little more confidence and... basically follow what your heart tells you!
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I don't think you're obsessed, I just think you really love him. And love's not a crime hun, it's a wonderful thing. I would try telling him how you feel one more time, and if he doesn't feel the same about you, then that's his loss. When he tells you how he feels, just listen to him. If he likes you, then go out. If he doesn't, then try to find another guy you're interested in. Become his friend & then hang out. Do things together, talk to each other & become close. If things are going well, tell him how you feel. The worst thing any guy could tell you when you tell them how you feel is that they're gay, taken or that they don't like you back. Just don't stress out if he doesn't like you because he's not the only guy out there. There's tons of other amazing, cute guys out there, so concentrate on them too. =) Good luck!
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Sounds like full-throttle obsession to me ;) You cannot deny how you feel or mask it. He will pick up on your feelings rather easily without you telling him. Should you confront him with it again? If I were you I would give it one last try.
Tell him that feelings are hard to hide and you cannot do it any longer. I mean what can he say to that? The word "no" never killed or harmed anyone. He might even say "yes" to you. You need to find out where you stand with him on this so that you can move on.
Your revelation won't kill or impact your friendship. If it was going to do that it would have already done so the first time. I think you should tell him and see what happens. At least you will know what to do then.
The diary, and all the other things you mention means you have to get the truth out.
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Well, the worst part of being obsessed with one guy is that you are missing out on dozens of opportunities to get to know other guys. You may not think you'd be interested in the other guys, because your obsession seems above them all, but he really isn't. Someday you might regret all the wasted time and energy and all those missed opportunities. Take it from a girl who knows.
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