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ok so i'm 15m
theres this girl in one of my classes that i like. i wana ask her out but i just dont now if she likes me or not. she does things that i dont now if they mean she likes me. like she puts her foot like a mila meter over my foot and nudges it sometimes, or she flirts w/ me, or she's always tryin to grab my hand to draw stuf on it or like if i try to take somethin from her bag as a joke she grabs my arm and holds it for like 30 seconds before lettin go. but she also tells her firends that she doesnt like any1. so does she like me and whats a good way to find out if she likes me or not (link)
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You need to be sure that it is a relationship you want from her.
Sounds like she enjoys being close to you and when a girl does get close to you it is a good indication that yeah she feels something between you.
However, it may not be enough for her to be into you.
It is likely she doesn't feel like asking you out or anything but it is also likely that she has or is thinking about there being something.
Try taking her out on date or just hanging out.
she is going to be into you more if she sees you out of school and on more of a casual basis.
Also,keep on flirting! this is good because she will realise and see that you to can be more than friends.
You are off to a good start, don't quit or get to ahead of yourself!
No girl wants to be rushed but then again no girl DOESN'T wish that some guy won't sweep her off her feet.
keep me posted on how this goes!
if you need any more advice just ask!
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how am i to know if i am obsessed with a guy. i mean i really do care about him and i know he cares a lot about me. i think about him all the time and write in my diary about him every day. he makes me so happy and yet i know he may never like me. i know that he loves me as a friend but he already turned me down once. now it seems to be different. but i really dont know how to approach him about it. i prefer not to tell him that i like him again. i told him that i stopped liking him and now i like him again. what should i do? (link)
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You can never really be sure how to feel when it comes to describing how you actually feel so don't try label your feelings.
You say you care about this guy and if you do then that is a great thing.
All you can be is yourself!
Don't try change just to please because he will never like you in that way if he can't see you for you!
Try spending more time with this guy and get a little more flirtacious and he will then start to see you as more than a friend!
trust me it works!
alot of people have these same problems and it just requires to get a little more confidence and... basically follow what your heart tells you!
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well here is my problem i like this boy like alot and liked him for like i think a whole year and the first time i ask him out i found out he liked my friend and he said no. the second time i ask him out i found out he had a girlfriend and they broke up now the third time im ready to ask him out again i just dont know if i should or just let it go. and if i do go for it and he said no should i get over him and just move on!!
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It would seem u are quite hung up on this guy.
I'm not going to tell you to move on or whether you should ask him out again but what i will say is that you need to stop thinking about him so much and preoccupy yourself with other things.
Get closer with friends..(other guys would help)..and just generally get out there and keep busy!
let him know your living life! have fun with other people infront of him! but keep in good contact with him.
stop worrying about asking him out! keep things at a steady pace until it is quite clear that things are ready to be sped up!
(you will know when you are at this stage because you will be closer,more flirtacious and he will let you know that he wants more and let him go most of the way)
don't do all the chasing!
Guys like to chase girls who aren't into them! so act less interested but flirtacious at the same time! and let him go 90% of the way! Then you know that you are at the stage of thinking about being more than friends!
if you have any more quuestions just ask!
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I really like my guy best friend. Ever since i told him two days ago, hes been avoiding me. Im not excatly sure what to do now. Should i leave it or talk to him? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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This situation would require both of you to cool down a bit.
What I mean is that your both feeling the pressure of what has been said and you both don't know how to handle the situation.
My adivce to you is that you let things cool down for a few days.
as they say.. 'time is a healer'
then once you reach a stage at which you both can talk freely and most openly about your feelings and about what you had said.. then talk to him about it and both discuss your feelings.
you don't know how it can turn out..he is your best friend and is clearly shocked but in a good way..and my guess is that he jsut needs time to get his head around it.
Let me know how this goes..
if you have any more questions just ask.
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ok well im 14/f. and i have had a huge crush on my best friend for a while now. but he told me he didnt like me when he found out i liked him. it was really depressing and all but then i got over him and started liking him again. he never found out that i started liking him again. he still thinks im over him. but last wednessday i found out why he didnt like me. its because he was "confused" about his orientation. but he said he is not anymore and that he is strait. he also told me he loves me. he always tells me he loves me but the way he said it was different. he said "did i ever tell you i love you? alot. i mean really alot." it was the nicest thing ever and well im not sure if he likes me. because before it seemed like he did but it turned out he only wanted to be friends. he led me on in a way but its not his fault. now that he is strait i think he could like me. and he doesnt know i like him though. i want to kiss him so badly but i think that would be a bit sudden. should i tell him how i feel? or should i just go for it? oh and by the way my friend also likes him. and he knows it. i appreciate the help.
Jennifer&hearts
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Dear Jennifer&hearts,
The guy obviously cares if he is telling you that he loves you etc.
the best thing to do is to flirt.but keep it subtle.
the last thing you want is for this to go too far as friends because it seems like you both want more.
try spending more time with him and flirt a bit.
try touching his hand when he is speaking and look into his eyes and let him know you are interested.
Be yourself! trust me, it helps!
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Well I have a great bf, and I love him a ton. My best friend keeps saying that I never talk to him, and she says I know nothing about him. I talk to him on the phone every night, and in school we sit next to eachother. So today walking out of a class my best friend is like ask him how he did on the test, cuz u guys never talk. And I told her that I didn't need her help talking to my bf!! And she should stay out of it. She kind of got annoyed but we both let it go. But she keeps doing it!!! She says she talks to him more than I do. I guess they talk a lot too. But I talked to my bf about it and he was like well yah me and her do kind of talk more, but I talk to you enough. And then he said I guess me and her talk more because I don't have to worry about what to say when I am talking to her. And I Dont know what he meant by that!!! Do you guys think that I was being too harsh on my best friend?? And what did my bf mean by what he said!???
Thanks a ton.
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To be quite honest this can be quite common in most situations such as these!
I think that maybe your friend wasn't saying what they said to be mean or jealous. I think they just said it because they are your friend and they care about you and want to see you happy.
You say this person is your best friend and no guy should come between your friendship.
As for what your boyfriend said. I think that what he meant was that he doesnt need to be careful what to say because your friend is just a friend to him! but you are his girlfriend so he feels he needs to think about what he is saying to you before he says it. (complicated i know).
why he feels such pressure i don't know as i don't know the full situation.
Try being more relaxed in your relationship with your bf and talk more openly because then your relationship will develop more and go deeper!
if you need any more advice or have any more questions just ask!
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theres this boy iv'e been liking for a while he like dme for while but the n stoppe dhe now likes my best freind an dsh elikes him to but her other friend like s him so she wont go out with him so what do i do to make him like me? (link)
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Well there is no doubt this is a tough one, but...
the best i can say to you is just be yourself because the best way for a guy to see you for who you are is to be yourself around him.
Try spending a little more time with him too. What will also help is a little flirting. but subtle!
another thing that can be good is keeping yourself busy and not getting to preoccupied with thoughts of this guy. Having a laugh with other people (especially other guys) in front of him will make him realised what he is missing out on! But don't forget that you still need to spend time with him. you just need to make sure you are not coming across to him as desperate!
if you need any more adivce or have any other questions just ask me!
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