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Well I have a great bf, and I love him a ton. My best friend keeps saying that I never talk to him, and she says I know nothing about him. I talk to him on the phone every night, and in school we sit next to eachother. So today walking out of a class my best friend is like ask him how he did on the test, cuz u guys never talk. And I told her that I didn't need her help talking to my bf!! And she should stay out of it. She kind of got annoyed but we both let it go. But she keeps doing it!!! She says she talks to him more than I do. I guess they talk a lot too. But I talked to my bf about it and he was like well yah me and her do kind of talk more, but I talk to you enough. And then he said I guess me and her talk more because I don't have to worry about what to say when I am talking to her. And I Dont know what he meant by that!!! Do you guys think that I was being too harsh on my best friend?? And what did my bf mean by what he said!???
Thanks a ton.
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I don't think you were too harsh with your best friend. I mean, it was getting to the point that she was telling you how and what to do with your boyfriend and she should stay out of it. You did the right thing about telling her how you feel and also telling your boyfriend about the situation. When he said that he talks more to her because he doesnt have to worry about what to say, he meant that with you, since he likes you so much he doesnt want to say something stupid that will get you upset at him, you know? Like, he just cares about you more and doesnt want to lose you, and there's nothing wrong with that! :)
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To be quite honest this can be quite common in most situations such as these!
I think that maybe your friend wasn't saying what they said to be mean or jealous. I think they just said it because they are your friend and they care about you and want to see you happy.
You say this person is your best friend and no guy should come between your friendship.
As for what your boyfriend said. I think that what he meant was that he doesnt need to be careful what to say because your friend is just a friend to him! but you are his girlfriend so he feels he needs to think about what he is saying to you before he says it. (complicated i know).
why he feels such pressure i don't know as i don't know the full situation.
Try being more relaxed in your relationship with your bf and talk more openly because then your relationship will develop more and go deeper!
if you need any more advice or have any more questions just ask!
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I think he means that he wouldn't mind talking to you more.
I don't think your best friend meant to make either of you angry. She's probably worried that an otherwise great relationship could fail because she doesn't SEE you talking to each other. Don't be too hard on her. Apologize for overreacting (even if you think you didn't). At the same time mention that your relationship is FINE, but you love having her around and knowing she's there. That's what best friends are for, right?
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It's is pretty obvious, to me anyways, what is happening here.
The three of you are trapped in a very fun little game of broken telephone. Your friend and boyfriend talk about your relationship. She understands what he says in one way, and tries to hint you in that direction (not very subtly either!). But there is no way to know if she understood him correctly! There is also no way to know if he is just isn't being honest with you about what he wants.
Break the cycle. Tell your friend in no uncertain terms to butt out of your relationship. It’s cool she has a friendship with both of you, but she needs to learn to keep those friendships separate and not put herself in the middle where she is only causing everyone stress. Tell her if she really wants to help your relationship with you boyfriend, that she should encourage him to come to you with things he has to say, NOT to interfere herself or try to make you do all the work.
As for what your boyfriend meant, I don’t have a clue, but I would bet he isn’t really sure either. You both sound a bit nervous in your relationship (and your friend’s meddling certainly isn’t helping matters!) Tell him if he has something to say you really wish he would say it, because the pressure your friend has been putting on you has really got you worried and you want to deal with any problems. If he says there aren’t any problems, believe him, and let it drop, but gently remind him, if there are ever any problems, you guys are in this together, and he can talk to you about them. Hearing about trouble from other people is just scary and confusing.
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