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Liking a best friend is hard
I really like my guy best friend. Ever since i told him two days ago, hes been avoiding me. Im not excatly sure what to do now. Should i leave it or talk to him? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
(14/f)
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He's not into you so he's avoiding you. Leave him alone & try to get your friendship back to normal. He's just in shock.
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your not suppposed to let him or her know that you like them more than what the friendship is. Thats the reason why he or she is avoiding you,because the friendship is not what it once was, so leave it be and get your friendship back.
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What this means is that he is not into you in a romantic way. He's avoiding you as it was a shock to him. He also is evading you because he hasn't figured out how to tell you he isn't interested.
What do you do? Go about your usual business and leave him and the situation alone. He will either address it on his own in due course or he'll walk away entirely as he cannot be open with you.
I'm sure he will come around on his own though.
When he does approach you again and he raises it as an issue tell him you would rather be friends than nothing at all. Having gone through this situation several times with friends in your position 99.9% of the time it means that the guy or girl isn't interested.
He doesn't know how to tell you without creating hard feelings and causing the destruction of a friendship. The best thing you can do is leave him and the situation alone and wait and see what he does.
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It's a very tough situation I've been in numerous times. It's tough, and always depends on the guy. In your case, hes being stubborn.
What i would do, is talk to him. Tell him that you didn't want you liking him, to ruin the great friendship. Tell him you like him as more then friends, but being friends is just great enough.
If you need any more help, leave me one in my inbox. :)
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This situation would require both of you to cool down a bit.
What I mean is that your both feeling the pressure of what has been said and you both don't know how to handle the situation.
My adivce to you is that you let things cool down for a few days.
as they say.. 'time is a healer'
then once you reach a stage at which you both can talk freely and most openly about your feelings and about what you had said.. then talk to him about it and both discuss your feelings.
you don't know how it can turn out..he is your best friend and is clearly shocked but in a good way..and my guess is that he jsut needs time to get his head around it.
Let me know how this goes..
if you have any more questions just ask.
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