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Lost touch
In Sept 2005 I went to a different college to all of my mates. They stayed and went to a local college while I went to a private college (It was a hard decision, but I had my reasons at the time). And now I know in some ways it was a big mistake, I never "fit-in" and made "real" friends, college turned out to be a place of study for me, and not the fun adventure it seems to be for everyone else. The main issue is the friendships I considered most important belonged to a group of friends, and my best friend who went to a different college to me. At first I regularly kept in touch with them and we often we up town clubbing, then I got a bf and didn't see my friends as much but kept in touch... then over exams I lost touch with them... we saw each other occasionally when I threw out a limb and emailed everyone to come to a meal, or invited everyone to my birthday party... I even got invited to a couple of birthday parties... But now it feels like unless its me that emails everyone and organises something like a meal, I never get to see them... I had someone email me the other day and ask me if "we were doing something over easter"... The fact is I know they're always doing stuff together which they never invite me to, and if they do I always feel like a third wheel because they talk about how they're going on holiday with the rest of their college buddies over the summer and other things I wouldn't be invited to or know about...
Sorry for the length of this, its difficult to explain as it has been on-going for nearly two years now. But I really want to know what I should do... should I try hard and continue trying to organise meals and things... or should I just forget them and concentrate on making new friends once Uni rolls around?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
This is a super tough decision, but I think you should still try & hang out with them. I mean, when you get older you don't get many friends & it sucks. Every year you find out who you're real friends are, and like, you lose some. You just get less & less friends until you have no one. Just keep trying to be friends with them & set things up. =)
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