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Can I ever be trusted again?
A while ago, one of my best guy friends told me something in total confidence, and told me not to tell anyone about it. But then at a sleepover, my friends asked if anyone had any secrets that they wanted to just get out in the open. I said I did, so I told them what my guy friend said. Now, I feel like the worst person alive...they swore that they'd never tell anyone, but what if it accidentilly slips out?? I'm scared that no one will ever trust me again. What can I do?
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I think that the girls you told will trust you more after you told them the secret. They most likely wont tell anyone about your guy friend thing. As for that guy friend of yours, you might want to tell him abut what happened and tell himn you are aorry and stuff like that.
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-YOLIV
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It's human nature to need to tell someone especially if it's particularly juicy. As long as the girls you told know that he told it to you in confidence, there's no reason for them to tell anybody else. They can just talk about it with each other. You didn't have that luxury at first. Neither did he. Think of it this way, is it fair that you're the only one that can't share it with anybody? No! People shouldn't put other people in that position. I'm not condoning telling people's secrets to the world, but lets be real here. Everyone does it. It's impossible to keep things to yourself. Nobody should expect you to. As you grow older, people's attitudes with their secrets will change. They'll know that it's impossible to keep things completely secret. People will tell secrets to other people when they know that the person they are telling won't tell people that will exploit those secrets. Not that they won't tell anybody at all. It's about trust, not promises. Promises are always broken because they are a one way street. Trust is a two way street that gives both people the right to do what they want with it. The girls you told aren't going to blackmail him because of what you told them, so what you did fits with trust. It's not like you told his secret to his parents. You told it to people that you trust. Morally, I think that what you did is fine. If it does happen to get back around to him and he asks you directly if you told anyone you are going to have to fess up to what you did. I wouldn't worry about it though. Stuff that happens at sleepovers usually stays with the people that were there. Good luck. :)
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The girl below me is half right. Your relationship with the girls will definitely strengthen, but the relationship with your guy friend might not. If he finds out you told, you're right, he might not trust you again.
You should've never said it, & since you can't go back & change it, just hope & pray no one says anything. Or just tell all the girls not to say anything because you weren't supposed to tell. If they're really your friends, they won't say anything about it.
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Ok, dont freak out. Everyone does stuff like that. And depending on how serious this secret is, no one will probably tell.
A posistive out of this - the girls you told about the guy will probably trust you more. Once you have told them something like that they will be more likely to think of you as a person they are in a position to tell things to. I think you'll see your relationship with them strengthen.
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