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I have a serious problem. I went to my cousin's hometown to stay a weekend with her about 2 months ago. It was fun and i met tons of new people...including two special guys, the centers of my problem. It was a while, and i was communicating with the both of them, and I took a special liking to one of them, as did he to me. We were pretty good except for the fact he just broke up with his girlfriend the day he met me. He said he wanted 2 give it some time to blow over before we would date. So, i gave it time, and waited,and waited,and waited. I thought he was worth the wait, but i eventually got sick of waiting, and conversation became dry between us. This all made me lose some interest, but I still liked him,despite not communicating. Eventually his best friend started talking to me more and more, my innitial thought was that it meant nothing, but supposively he liked me as well. We stayed up for two whole weeks talking on instant messanger every night until around 3 a.m. I grew a liking to him, he was such a sweetie! He then admitted how he felt about me, and i could'nt resist but say the same back. We eventually clicked and i forgot about his best friend, well, kind of. I felt as though the 1st guy had no interest in me, since he showed none at all. Now it was a constant thing with me and the 2nd guy flirting and having fun together, and not to mention, talking NON STOP for hours at a time. He then asked me to be his girlfriend two nights ago, and it was perfect! He was perfect, i had everything going for me, until the first guy came back into the picture. The first guy then admitted his hidden feelings of how much he liked me to my cousin, and how he now hated me for dating his best friend.My cousin then called me and explained this all and how i should rethink it all, now knowing he felt that way too. I am so confused! The first guy blocked me on instant messanger until last night when he unblocked me so i could explain. He didnt have much to say, but he didn't believe a word I said. It was then and there where i realized i like him still, more than my own boyfriend(his best friend)!Now I am not sure what to do, break up with his best friend for his benefit?Stay with this perfect,sweet guy?Get them both out of my system?I HAVE NO CLUE!!! I like them both, maybe the first guy a little more...what should I do? (link)
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Well, first dont brake up with your boyfriend for the other guy's sake. He sounded really mad so he probably wont take you back, at least not easily.
The reason you think you like the first guy more now is because you want what you cant have. Its human nature - your boyfriend looses value the second you get him. So wait it out a while before making a decision you might regret.
As for washing your hands of this whole mess - its up to you. How attatched are you to these guys? If you wanted to just leave this all behind you it sounds like it would be relatively easy because all contact is through the internet and you dont have to see them often if at all.
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A while ago, one of my best guy friends told me something in total confidence, and told me not to tell anyone about it. But then at a sleepover, my friends asked if anyone had any secrets that they wanted to just get out in the open. I said I did, so I told them what my guy friend said. Now, I feel like the worst person alive...they swore that they'd never tell anyone, but what if it accidentilly slips out?? I'm scared that no one will ever trust me again. What can I do? (link)
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Ok, dont freak out. Everyone does stuff like that. And depending on how serious this secret is, no one will probably tell.
A posistive out of this - the girls you told about the guy will probably trust you more. Once you have told them something like that they will be more likely to think of you as a person they are in a position to tell things to. I think you'll see your relationship with them strengthen.
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What are the signs you see in your body b4 u can be sure you are pregnant.Beside going 4 pregnancy test. (link)
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Really you have to get a pregnancy test. The way you asked the question sounds like it would be very early on in the pregnancy, so there might not be any physical symptoms at all, or if there are there really isnt any universal changes. They can be erratic from person to person.
But after a while you can expect soreness and swelling in the breast where they get ready to fill with milk. Also, sensitivity to certain smells, naseua, certain food cravings, and obviously growth of the abdomen. That can lead to back pain.
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Okay, my boyfriend of 18 months graduates high school in May. I was thinking about just giving him $100. Good idea? Should I even give him a graduation present? If so, what?
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Ok, this is just my opinion, but do not by any means give your boy friend money for a graduation present. Seriously, thats the least thoughtful gift ever for a significant other.
100 dollars is a good amount of money to spend on a present. What is he into? Music or sports, something like that? If there's a particular person he likes - like a sports star or something - 100 dollars should be more than enough to get him a hat or something from Ebay signed by that person. That is something he will think is special, thoughtfull, will keep for a long time, and probably wouldnt buy for himself.
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Ok, so everyone is told that we need a certain amount of sleep every night (usually 8 hours, sometimes more). My question is, does it matter if all X hours are in a row? Or is it equally healthy to, for example, sleep 6 hours and then take a 2 hour nap?
In case there is a difference, I am interested in knowing the answer to this question both from a general health point of view, and also in relation to muscle regeneration (following weight lifting/ fitness activities). Please do answer even if you only know one or the other.
Thanks.
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No, its not the same at all is you break up your sleeping. there ae different stages of sleep, and the one that really regenerates your body is REM (thats when you dream). To get to REM you have to go through some other stages, so it takes some time. Also, the more sleep in a row you get the more REM you get and the more refreshed you will feel. Muscles work the same way, REM not only refreshes your mind but your muscles. It is actually harder on your body to break up sleep like that often.
Thats not to say that taking naps is bad - as long as it is in addition to a substancial amount of sleep in a row.
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this boy, he lives so far away, i only see him 3 times a year. winter break, a week in the summer, and spring break. well, this sunday im gnna see him for spring break. his family and my family are both going, and, were gonna be swimmin all day, and then its like fancy dinners at nights. and, i like him so much. how do i make him see this? without saying anything that has the word "like" or love in it. like i cant say "i like sombody" because i dont want to be that direct, i just want to hint it to him because he might have a girlfriend, and i dont want to look like an idiot. also, how can i flirt without being to direct? usually, i just smile a lot, and the boy will get it, but this boy isnt so much of a flirt. also, hes 14, almost 15, and im 13, almost 14, and so hes older, and thinks of me like younger. how can i show him that im a big girl? it helps that im taller then him, but just by a little. and he said "woah, are you wearing makeup?!" when i was. is this good that he noticed? because im such a girly girl, i wear makeup everywhere and im not going to stop for him, i just want to know if its a good thing or not. okay, thank you to anybody who took the time to read this, i know its obnoxiously long.
xoxo,
MMEE!!! (link)
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first you should find out if he has a gf - cause you just need to move on if he does
also - this is going to be really hard because you almost never see him, so it would be impossible to have a relationship. since it sounds like wat you want is for him to be your bf, i think u shouldnt get your hopes up and try to find someone nearer to your location
but to directly answer your question about flirting and getting him to think of you as older, first dont worry about the makeup thing, but maybe try to make it look more natural. wear low cut tops or short skirts. think of interesting things to say, this generally will get him more interested than "flirting". the most important thing is to NOT act like your trying too hard...thats whats going to make him think of you as younger or older. its better if at the beggining of the visit u seem attractiv and interesting, but not neccesarly interested in him. that gives him time to get interested in you. then towards the end of his visit flirt obviously, maybe even make a move, so he knows your interested too.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3months and we're starting to become sexually active. when i think about that im fine with it but when we're in a room, alone i get really nervous, almost to the point of shaking. its not that i don't trust or love him enough, we was my best friend for years before we went out. i can tell him anything and i know he'd listen if i told him i wanted to wait to do anything but i don't want to wait. im so confused. my mind is ready for the next step so what's wrong with my body? (link)
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ok, so there are basically two options here - you really arent ready for this, or its just nerves.
so it could be completely natural to get jittery when it gets down to the moment. its a nerve wrecking thing to do when you rele care about the other person and what they think about you. life isnt like a movie, things dont happen that smoothly. youll get over it with time when you more comfortable in this new area with your bf
or, you really arent ready for this step. your trying to back out of it, and this is kind of an excuse. maybe just the fact that your asking this is a sign that your rele not ready.
so its either persormance anxiety, or you might just be in denial about not feeling comfortable doing this...talk to your bf about it, ill bet u can owrk it out
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ok,i have two bestfriends Aimee and Vanessa, the thing is both of them live in gigogantic houses,both parents togehter,money,everything that i dont well ok i have the looks and attitude but the thing is i always get jealous.its not good for me to feel this way but its hard not to.I dont want to jeapordise our friendships because their lives are better,but what do i do? i dont want to feel this way!! (link)
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I have this problem as well, my best friend is obscenely rich and I am...well...not. Jealousy is iminent, but it seriously will go away if your friendship is strong enough. Just dont think about it, you are just as good as them, if not better because you dont have things handed to you. Unless their rubbing it in your face, in which case you should just tell them that it bothers you, time will heal this wound.
Also - think about your values some. Their lives are def. not better than yours just because of money. You need to learn to be happy in the life your given. If you can do that, you wont ever have a jelousy problem because you wont be thinking about it.
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DunO what catorgary to put it in loOl
Umm wel my birthday is in may and im turning 15 and im gonna have it at my house im gonna invite 5 girls and 5 boys can use please tell me what are some things we cna do and please dotn sya 7 minutes in have mum dosnt like the whole flirting thing please HELP !! (link)
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ok - generally at this age one can put on music and teens can amuse themselves dancing, etc. Also - watching a movie is good. Something scary is usually best and most interesting for coed parties. Otherwise you can always resort to twister, or sardines, games that sound lame but with friends can be really fun.
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ok,my problem is that im too skinny, im 13 and 106 pounds not that healthy if you ask me.my spine is always showing and its really starting to make me feel scared that i might have anorexia.
how do i gain weight without getting two fat? (link)
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First off, dont be scared that you might have anorexia, unless your purposefully not eating. What you probably have is a genetic preposition to fast matabolism, or something else that makes you thin naturally. A good way to gain weight without getting fat is to eat what you normally eat, but then add something fatty. For instance - your normal lunch + a donout(sorry i couldnt think of anything more practical, but you get the idea). Make sure you eat the entire item. Do this for lunch and dinner most days, and you'll slowly start gaining weight, so its easy to manage.
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