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I was just wondering why people ask questions about their boyfriends and other innapropriate things that no one needs to be talking about. Doesn't anyone agree with me?


Whilst it IS pretty annoying to see the same(ish) questions pop up time and time again, these people need to learn from somewhere.
Also, it can prevent someone doing something they aren't sure about (such as sex etc).
Plus, it's not too much hassle to redirect someone to Google if they are asking for something quite explicit.

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What doyou collect or cherish the most?

Memories

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Heey . does anyone think its a bit slutty to break your virginity at 13 ?

I don't think it's slutty.
I pity them, because they weren't educated enough to realize what giving yourself at such a young age can do.

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i have a friend..we really close but she has another friend.my friend friend and i are not very friendly with each other. i mean we do not like each other that much. Anyway, my friend always hang out with her friend, and she does not hit me be or text me except if she depresst, need something, or if her friend hurt her. And i feel like i am not in the picture except if she need something from me or if there is no one she has to go to. so is she really a close friend for me or just someone who want to use me whenever she want?

Unfortunately, noone here can tell you for sure - we aren't mind readers.
I think you need to have a little chat with your friend and tell her what's on your mind. Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel and how it seems like she only talks to you when she needs you.
Hopefully after you've had a few words with her, she can reassure you.
After you've told her, if you see no improvements, I think you know your answer..
I'd also like to ask something:
Do YOU make the effort with her? Do you txt/call her to hang out? If you don't, then start doing it. If you already do, then I apologize for asking. :)


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me and my x got back 2othger and i am so happy it been a couple month but we always talk to him and he was not see no one but i am his girl right now i don't trust him and he have a friend name b knowing him he don't have no friend with out doing something to them but i love him but i am just going to try not to fall in love with cause i feel like somthing is going to happen

..and what exactly is your question?

I'll give you a few tips.

Talk to him and express how you are feeling. It's normal not to trust someone right away - like with me for example, everyone has to earn my trust.
BUT, if he hasn't done anything to break your trust, don't assume he's doing things behind your back and jump to conclusions, because trust me, it only makes problems.
Try to stop your jealousy and keep calm. Don't be a fool, just open your eyes.

In future, try to explain things better and in more detail, because the more you explain, the better advice you will receive. Such as how old you are, why you broke up when you first started dating, what's making you suspicious now, etc.

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Okay!!

My friend, I really love him. I told him that... and at that time... he had a girl friend. He said that he liked me as a friend nothing more. Now, his girl friend broke up with him. I think he's really upset. I told him that I am sorry about everything. I told him he can call me if he wants someone to talk to. I REALLY care about him. I want to date him... but... I don't think he'll say yes. What SHOULD I do?? PLEASE ANYONE HELP!

As much as it sucks, you can't physically make someone be with you.
You've told him how you feel previously and I don't suggest doing it again just yet because he will take some time to heal, for obvious reasons.
For now though, show him you can be a good friend and be there for him in his time of need. Offer to hang out with him, talk to him about his problems, why don't YOU call him, etc.
Once he's over the break up, try again. and if it's a no, at least you know you tried.

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using the ept at home pregnancy test, and the results in the circle show a negative but the results in the square show a vertical line... what does that mean?

looks like - l

i know a + means pregnant but they are in dif boxes? idk please help

The test comes with instructions. Did you read them?
There's 2 windows. One window (the circular one with the line in) is just to show you the test has worked. The other window (square one) states whether you are pregnant. If there is no cross, then you aren't pregnant.
BUT to be sure you aren't pregnant, it's recommended you take more than one test, just for confirmation.

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I'm fourteen, my girlfriend fifteen. We've been together for 1 year.

I love her lots and lots and I want to be with her. She wants to get engaged now, however I'd like to wait longer. I want to get engaged to her, but just not yet, maybe in a year or two's time. School will come first, i'm doing my GCSEs at the moment and I intend to go on an do 4 A levels.

Am I right to be thinking this?

Totally.
I'm not saying you're too young to be in love because you know how you feel. but what I am saying and I'm sure you know already: ANYTHING can happen.
If you two intend on staying together, then great - you do not need to get engaged to prove this.
and I'm glad you realize that it should not interfere with your education.

Can I make a suggestion? Get a promise ring.

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I have an iPhone 3g and I still can't figure out how to have a signature when I'm texting I only see a signature box for e-mails!! Does anyone know how I can do this if there is a way thanks.

I have an iphone too and there is no way.
Might be a bit of hassle but if you want a signature effect, type it out at the end of every txt.

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what does it mean if your having sex and his dick slips out? is this normal, or is it bad?
thanks soo much

There's no deeper meaning behind it - it just means his penis slips out of the vagina.
There's a few causes for this happening, such as being too wet (so the penis slips out)
being too excited (and not focusing properly)
his penis can be a tad on the small side
losing his erection
etc
but it's no big deal, it's not bad and it can happen to everyone. Simply pop his penis back in and away you go.
Trying out different positions can also prevent the penis from slipping out. You'll just have to see what works for both of you


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i smoked pot with my friend and one of her friends i didn't like it but we are gonna do it again. should i do it or not???

Why give in to peer pressure?
Curiosity got the better of you the first time and you didn't like it. Simple. Don't try something you don't like again.

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I'm 13(m) and I want to know what I should do. I like this girl and have no idea if I should just forget her and move on because of my young age or if i should go and ask her out or anything else. What should I do?

How old is the girl and have you told her you like her? If you haven't, then do it. What have you got to lose?

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Okay! ( This is sorta long...SORRY! )

I've been liking this guy since the beginning of the school year. His name is Matt. At , the beginning it was like a crush, but now... me and him are friends. Were , pretty close. We have been texting a lot recently. Well... I told him I loved him , and he told me he had a girl friend. He said he likes me as a friend nothing more . Well... before I told him that I loved him... I REALLY thought he was interested. He looked at me A LOT during the week. Now , he doesn't. I don't understand that!! Does anyone know why he stopped? Like, I REALLY still like him. Also... just recently I asked him if he thought I was pretty. He said "Yea." Do u think that means ANYTHING?! My friends think that he might be lieing.... what do you think? Should I get over him? I DON'T want to ... I still LOVE him. He's so nice to me. I talk to him at school sometimes.. hardly ... because he's in 8th grade and I am a 7th grader. Do u think that matters?
Well... PLEASE... anyone help!



Thannnkkkksss!!!

Hunni, I have to agree with theymos. I've seen a lot of these and it should be clear to you now that Matt doesn't like you in that way. If he did, you would have definitely known by now.
Looking at someone doesn't mean you like them in THAT way.
Thinking you are pretty doesn't mean he likes you in that way either.
There's also one big problem here - he has a girlfriend. I'm sure he appreciates the courage you made to tell him you like him, but since he's taken (and doesn't seem interested), it's totally best you stop beating yourself up over him and please, move on.

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18/f.
so i met this guy, and we have hooked up and had sex a few times, with no emotional attatchments. we don't call ourselves a "couple" but just friends. we've both agreed that we don't want to be more than this, but recently, i told him that i had hung out with this guy and he got mad, or jealous even?? i like having this kind of relationship when im not dating anyone, but if he's going to get attatched like this i don't really want to continue.

CONDENSED VERSION: should i continue a "friends with benefits" realationship if the friend in question is getting too attatched and i don't feel the same way?

thanks advicenators.

In short:
If he's getting feelings for you, end it, before he gets hurt more.

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how do some people get so many friends on myspace and by the way if u have one add me
email is- bunnbaybee@yahoo.com

Trains/groups

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what is something that you would stay in a hospital for one week, without it being TOO serious. to be quiet honest my friend allie wants to fake an injury to even see if this boy cares about her, its cruel but she has the right intentions. and she wants to have ppl tell him that shes in the hospital (he doesnt live close so she wont even really be in a hospital) and i was wondering if you do answer this question, to give me good details. like something a car accident? what would have happend, what injuries. or a sickness? what sickness and how serious. you know what i mean? PLEASE HELP! ASAP.

This is the worst way to do it. And it won't prove a lot. If she makes up some ridiculous lie, of course he's going to sound concerned - anyone with a heart would.
If he ever found out, don't expect him to care for her in the future. I know if someone did something like that to me, I would hate it. Especially not living close because I would feel helpless. I'd also lose my trust for that person.
As far as the question itself, a week is very drastic. Hospitals tend to only keep you in that long if it's something serious. So if she lies, she can easily mess up. Keep that in mind.
You shouldn't come to this site for advice on lying like that.
If she still wants to do it, come up with the illness or injuries yourselves.
That is what google is for. Research some things.

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Hi. Recently, I've been having some problems down there. I vagina has been stinging badly, even more when I go to the bathroom. And it itches, a lot. When I do go to itch, it hurts even more. Also, it hurts to put in and take out a tampon. This has been happening for about 2 months. And, any discharge is thick and yellow and it smells very strong (stronger than it usually does), and it even has sort of a urine smell to it. Could it just be from my underwear rubbing against it? Often, to be on the safe side if someone's home, my boyfriend will finger me through my underwear. Let me clarify this, my underwear DO NOT go inside of me, it just rubs against it. Do I have an infection of some sort? Can it be more serious? What could I do to fix the problem? Would it sound suspicious if I told my Mom about it? Any answers would be a great help. Thanks.

The itchiness, stinging (is it more of a burning sensation?) and the change in discharge makes me assume it's a yeast infection.
With a yeast infection, sex (or inserting things such as tampons) can be painful.
I doubt it's a UTI, since you've had it for quite a long time and UTI's worsen over time, making you feel unwell.
Since I am not a doctor and you probably won't find one here, I urge you to see one, to give you a proper diagnosis and prescribe meds if you need them.
If you don't, your situation won't get any better.. it may even get worse.
Make an appointment right away and sort it out, since having those problems for about 2 months can't be very fun!

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hey there, so i understand if you cant directly answer this question for content, but i have a question about giving my boyfriend a handjob. i've never done it before, and i wanted to know some things like if you reach under their pants and their boxers or what? or like do they get hard on your own or if you have to do it? im really confused haha and id really appreciate it if someone can help me out or give me a website. thank you!! :)

Hey, thanks for your Q.
I can't answer this in much detail because minors use this site, but I will try my best.
Basically, do what you are comfortable with. Grope with pants on at first, or just go straight in, or both. Ask him how he likes it. It's not embarrassing to ask him for advice, because all guys are different and like things done in different ways. It may also be a turn on for you both if he guides your hand with his. Before you do it, ask him if he can let you know whether to change anything as you are doing it (faster, slower, harder etc) because like I said, everyone's different.

As for getting hard.. it can be both ways. He may already be hard if you're doing things before you give him a hand job.. or he may like you to get him hard too.

only search advicenators.com

This search will not show up on your comp btw. and they will go into things in a lot more detail.

Have fun and remember to play it safe. :)!

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just turned 16/f
is it possible that breasts can not start growing until you are 16?

Yeah. You can grow 'til you're 21. Unless you're gaining weight..

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when cooking instant noodles, why does it matter if you wait until the water is boiling to add both the flavoring and noodles in?

They aren't really going to taste their best if the water isn't boiling - it also helps the flavour to reach all the noodles.

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