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Q: I never quite understood the process of ordering/recieving/paying for a drink at a bar/club.
Do the bartenders keep seperate tabs for everyone? Can't the people order their drink, drink it, and walk away without even being noticed?
I just want to add something in case someone doesn't mention it but generally (well, hopefully) people abide by the unspoken honor system. (definition: in some schools, prisons, etc., a system whereby individuals are trusted to obey the rules, do their work, take tests, etc. without direct supervision)

Q: I need to find a blog, or a story, or even an article on "Change". Of cours eI've googled and found lots, but at the same time nothing that speaks to me.

I want it to either be really funny and sarcastic, maybe along the lines of "some things never change" kinda message.

Or really sweet, and heart-warming.

Or even maybe just full of wisdom? You know - with a great punch line at the end about how the importance of change is to know why it happens, or maybe that sometimes you need to witness someone elses change to wae up from years of sleep, and hear what you've been denying, or you now anything cool like that.

Any interesting text on change basically?
YES! I love this blog: http://www.intensify.org/

Entry on change methinks:
http://intensify.org/journal/1563/

Kind of off topic (introspection/epiphanies):
http://intensify.org/journal/1650/
http://intensify.org/journal/1514/
http://intensify.org/journal/1654/

Browse around.

The rest of her journal entries are here: http://intensify.org/journal/

Q: I've written an application essay (very short, 400 words) but I need someone to correct it. I live in Europe, and am a bit unsure on the spelling and grammatical mistakes I may have made. If anyone could just take a look at it..? that would save my life! Or maybe suggest a program that corrects things automatically? Thanks!
I can help too, if you want. Send one in my inbox!

Q: Hey

Well the thing is im 15/f/uk i have long dark brown hair that sits at like my bra strap on my back. i want it cut but i want to keep it the same length. i am into rock music and my style really resolves around that. my hair is really thick, middle shed and full fringe. i want it to be cut choppy but with my layers not too long. has anyone got any websites/advice/photos that they could show me to give me ideas ??

much love from There.is.a.hole.in.your.logic xx
Join the Livejournal community Mad Rad Hair:
http://www.livejournal.com/community/madradhair

They can help with all sorts of hair problems. You can also browse through hair archives here: http://www.livejournal.com/community/madradhair/info, recieve and give suggestions to other users. Surf around. People there can give great hair advice.

Q: Is there a website where you can make a flashing picture? Or moving pictures? And they flash very fast and its all different pictures. If there isnt a website how do you do it? Is it something you need to download? i really want to know, =]
thanks!
There was a similar question here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505438

Q: is there any way to make my boobs bigger?
There are creams that can make them "swell" and they grow with weight gain. You cannot really make them bigger other than plastic surgery. You can get padded bras and wear clothes to give the illusion of a bigger chest, however. Don't worry, they still grow until 20's for some people!

Q: Does anyone know any sites or sites that have pictures of some cool short, spikey emo hair cuts? I have wavy hair but I use gel to spike it up and its short but I'm gonna grow it out a bit to get a cool hair cut. Also what colors go good with black hair? I'm a guy and I'm thinking of also dyeing my hair too. Anyone also know what kind of style i should dye it? Pictures of it will do.
Join the Livejournal community Mad Rad Hair:
http://www.livejournal.com/community/madradhair

They can help with all sorts of hair problems. You can also browse through hair archives here: http://www.livejournal.com/community/madradhair/info, recieve and give suggestions to other users.

Q: Is the saying "Slow poke" or "Slow coach"? cause my friends usually say slowpoke but my boyfriend says it's slow coach,..so which is it? Slow coach makes sense but slow poke sounds much cuter and betetr ^^
Can I just say that there's a Pokemon called "Slowpoke"? haha

Q: i have medium lengthed hair, very layered and gets a lot thinner at the bottom. naturally wavy/curly

i just got garnier fructis surf hair paste

i really want to make my hair look like this:
http://s183.photobucket.com/albums/x237/sammyxmariiie/brunette/?action=view¤t=beckyloufilip--large-msg-1154643059.jpg

piece-y, wavy, and messy

can anyone give me some tips on how to use the surf paste/any other products to make my hair look like that?
Bumble & Bumble Surf Spray, word up. (pricey, though - you have to buy at a salon)

You can also go to the beach and get your hair wet swimming or you can make your own.

"Simply purchase an empty spray bottle and a package of Sea Salt from the grocery store and you are ready to go. Mix a couple of teaspoons of the Sea Salt in with two cups of water. Pour the blend into your spray bottle and shake well. Once the Sea Salt has dissolved, you are ready to create gorgeous beach waves.

Your Sea Salt mix will have a strong hold and can be used to create a wavy hairstyle by spraying on wet hair and scrunch your locks around your fingers.

Scrunching your hair will set the wave. Allow your locks to air dry to ensure that your waves do not become frizzy. When your tresses are fully dry, spritz lightly with hairspray to make certain your luscious Sea Salt waves last.

air that is healthy goes a long way towards making you look beautiful. If you are creating your own Sea Salt Spray at home, never use more than a couple of teaspoons of salt in your bottle. By using more you run the risk of leaving your locks dry.

Another way to create glorious Sea Salt waves is with braids. Keep in mind that it is often easier to work on hair that has not been freshly washed, as your natural hair oils will help to hold a hairstyle better.

Sea Salt Spray For Loose Sexy Hairstyles

Styling Steps:

Begin with dry hair that has not been freshly washed.

Use a wide toothcomb to detangle any knots in your hair.

Spritz your locks liberally with Sea Salt Spray.

Braid your hair in a number of loose braids and secure. The smaller the braids and the more braids you create, the greater the amount of wave you will be left with.

When your locks are fully dry, remove the braids.

Spritz lightly with a little more Sea Salt Spray.

Use your fingers to arrange your hair to your satisfaction.

You can opt to create your braids just before bed if you desire."

These surf sprays ("also called sea spray, surf spray or beach spray") will make your hair look loose, sexy, and beachy, which is what you want. Also they help bring out your natural curls better. "Spray it on damp hair and air dry or scrunch while blow drying or diffusing."

"This is by Ken Pave (Jessica Simpson's stylist)

Secrets to Year-Round "Beach" Hair
Summer is coming to an end, but beach hair is still riding high on the wave of style! Hold on to this sexy style all year long, it's as easy as a day at the beach.

To transition this look from beach into fall fashion think "polished." This sexy look for the beach was tousled and wind blown. For fall, it gets all dressed up with ultra shine and a little refinement. This is how I styled both Jessica Simpson and Paulina Rubio for the Latin Grammy Awards.

Work With Your Hair:
Not against it! Depending on your hair type, you can easily achieve amazing beach hair all year long.

For fine to medium texture hair that is straight to loosely wavy:

Shampoo and condition your hair before bed and towel dry.

Evenly distribute a conditioning mousse (with hold) in sections throughout your entire head, when finished comb through.

Scrunch your hair and get a good night sleep! You'll wake up the next morning with bed head with texture and volume! From here you'll only need 10-15 minutes to refine this look.

Begin at your nape, twisting and curling your hair around a medium size curling iron from the midshaft to the ends. Once you reach your crown twist and curl your hair from the roots to the ends. (Working on hair that is "dirty" helps your style to last longer).

Allow your hair to cool and then soften your waves by finger styling your hair with a greaseless lightweight shine serum.

For thick, curly or coarse hair:

Shampoo and condition as usual. Towel dry enough so your hair will dry by morning. I recommend applying a relaxing balm to your hair in sections and then combing through. This will help smooth your curls and tame any frizz. You should be fast asleep by now,dreaming of your loose waves!

In the morning, finish by beginning at your nape and twisting and curling your hair around a medium size curling iron. (From the midshaft to the ends). When you reach your crown twist and curl from the roots to the ends.

Allow your hair to cool.

Finish by loosening your curls to a soft summer wave by finger styling with a lightweight greaseless shine serum.

Island Perfection
For those who dare to surf into more adventurous territory, try setting your hair into braids before bed for a true beach look. For fine hair apply a conditioning mousse and for thick hair apply a relaxing balm to your towel dried hair. Remember always comb your product through for even distribution. For a more modern look, I recommend starting your braids two inches from your scalp. Also, larger braids will produce looser wave and smaller braids will result in a crimped look. When you wake up unbraid your dry hair and loosen your waves by finger styling with a lightweight greaseless shine serum.

Air Dry for Healthy Hair
I truly believe that the basis of any great hairstyle begins with healthy hair. Allowing your hair to dry naturally overnight eliminates all of the damage from blow drying and will keep your fall locks in super shiny easy-to-manage shape! Touching this style up in the morning only requires minutes. I recommend getting 2-3 days' wear out of this style. The style lasts longer as a result of the wet set and leaves you with more time to enjoy your day."

See more: http://beauty.about.com/od/hairbasics/a/moretips.htm
http://beauty.about.com/od/hairbasics/ht/sexywaves.htm

Q: anyone know the name of that movie where that girl has a baby in i think walmart?

she names her americas?

i think i spelt it wrong but yeahh

helpp??
"Where the Heart Is", starring Natalie Portman and Ashley Judd. The supporting cast includes Stockard Channing and James Frain.

Q: Would the top I'm wearing in this (http://a357.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/92/l_f36d2f7fbd4d9098d78bf0c646408f94.gif) picture, go well with these (http://sc7img.dillards.com/is/image//DillardsZoom/swp897_zi_silver?layer=comp&op_usm=2.0,0.5&&rgn=0,0,1760,2040&scl=6.666666666666667&fmt=jpeg&id=0LQSgqUAkaoN2tkHCx4i99) shoes?

That's cute! Yes, silver shoes will go with a black top, especially since you are wearing a silver necklace and the blue part of your necklace simultaneously brings out your eyes as well!

Q: are filipinos pacific islanders? or asians? or both?
Filipinos are from the Philippines.

In short, people say that they are Asians but specifically, Pacific Islanders. Like, for example, my friend is Asian but specifically she is Japanese. Asian is like an umbrella term and underneath you have like subcategories.

More info here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071127114411AA89SUd
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080203005937AA9A7RZ

Inhabitants of Russia's Kuril Islands, Alaska's Aleutian Islands, and the Taiwanese, Japanese, Filipino, and Indonesian islands, although technically bordering edges of the Pacific Ocean, do not fall under the definition of "Pacific Islanders" because such islands are not actually located within the Pacific or therefore any of the three regions of Oceania (Polynesia, Micronesia and Melanesia), and ethnicities native to the latter four among the aforementioned are thus classified as "Asians" on the U.S. Census.

Despite this, a growing number of Filipino-Americans have denied the classification of being "Asian", instead claiming to be "Pacific Islanders", which has provoked dismay among some Pacific Islanders who actually belong to the Oceanic cultures comprising the commonly accepted definition of the term, and has also prompted allegations of cultural denial from other Filipinos, the worldwide majority of whom identify themselves as being Asian (as the Filipino government has stated since its foundation that the Philippines is a part of Asia). However, it should be noted that both groups, as well as aboriginals from Taiwan, other countries of Maritime Southeast Asia (including Indonesia), and the Madagascar Malagasy are all closely related ethnically and can be grouped together under one umbrella term, the Austronesians.

From:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pacific+islander

Searched from:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&channel=s&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=jQ7&q=Filipinos+are+from+the+Philippines+asian+pacific+islanders&btnG=Search

Q: whats the name of the movie where a houdini dies because of a water stunt he was doing....

and whats the name of harry houdini's brother who took over him?


Theo Houdini is his brother.

Harry Houdini, age 52, on Halloween, in the afternoon of October 31th, 1926. He was sick at his last performance at the Garrick Theatre in Detroit, Michigan. Then was hospitalized at Detroit's Grace Hospital. He died because of a ruptured appendix, peritonitis, or possibly some suspected food poisoning, not because of a stunt for the movie.

Q: Well can anyone tell me about any free websites I can go to , to get free music. If you do please help me, thank you very much!!!!
There are many options for you:

1. You can search for "mp3 rotation" websites. There are a lot of music blogs too.

ex: SEARCH: mp3 rotation shakira hips don't lie

2. Or use this to narrow down your search. Just change the name of the song to suit your needs. These will lead you to a specific song and artist. You can try the examples below: (look at URL you are downloading from-Google will list it below the main link thingy. dont go to sites whose names sound like those yourmp3.com sites because the downloads usually don't work)

a) {-inurl:(htm|html|php) intitle:"index of" +"last modified" +"parent directory" +description +size +(wma|mp3) "song name and artist"}

ex: {-inurl:(htm|html|php) intitle:"index of" +"last modified" +"parent directory" +description +size +(wma|mp3) "shakira hips don't lie"}

b)?intitle:index.of? file extention file name

ex: ?intitle:index.of? mp3 shakira hips don't lie

3. Also, you can visit http://www.livejournal.com/community/screwyouhippies

OR

http://community.livejournal.com/mp3_share

and request a song there.

If there are specific songs you want, go search on http://www.radioblogclub.com/ and if you see it there, follow the directions here: http://radioblogdownloader.com/radioblogclub/ to rip music.

Also, this site: http://www.esnips.com/ If you don't see a download link for the file you want, look at the URL on the top and if you see "doc", write ns before that. Press the Enter key and a download to the file should pop up.

Best of luck to you!

If you have any questions, put one in my inbox!

Q: Just wondering what i could do to recycle old clothing into new design? Like turning old jeans into a mini skirt, but different ideas with t-shirts.
Thanks
Generation T: 108 Ways to Transform a T-Shirt by Megan Nicolay is the answer! Get it at your local bookstore. See link: http://www.amazon.com/Generation-T-Ways-Transform-T-Shirt/dp/0761137858

Q: my boyfriend and i like trying new things when we make out. we've done it with gum, mints, and up-side-down (which is really hot, by the way).

what other things can we do or add to make it more fun? :)
Make out with pop rocks! They're fun to eat alone or with a friend. Picture: http://image.funexpress.com/feimg/k289.jpg

Maybe you can move on to new foods like ice cream or an ice cube.

Or try kissing in the rain.

On That '70's Show apparently it is hot if you do that rolling your tongue thing like when you pronounce the Spanish "rr". You guys can learn how to do that together and practice on each other to see if it's working!

By kissing upside down do you mean Spiderman-style?

Q: so i am asian and i have been going tanning in a tanning bed and im pretty dark now. i stop in 2 weeks so i was wondering how long will my tan last if i just totally stopped in 2 weeks? oh and the tans from tanning outside last longer than tans in a tanning bed?
I would not suggest tanning outside or tanning in a tanning bed as you can get skin cancer (melanoma). The sun doesn't work for everyone and you may get burned, even with sunscreen on. Tanning beds are a lot safer nowadays but try to see if you can get a "tan shower". Research into alternative ways that do not require using a tanning bed or tanning in the sun. I recommend Jergen's Natural Glow. It can be found in drugstores everywhere and it really works. See here: http://www.jergens.com/Our_Collection/Collection.asp?CollectionID=2&CollectionName=Enhance
You can Google other people's reviews on the product.

Q: Can anyone tell me any websites where I can get free music, thanks for all your help!!!!!
There are many options for you:

1. You can search for "mp3 rotation" websites. There are a lot of music blogs too.

ex: SEARCH: mp3 rotation shakira hips don't lie

2. Or use this to narrow down your search. Just change the name of the song to suit your needs. These will lead you to a specific song and artist. You can try the examples below: (look at URL you are downloading from-Google will list it below the main link thingy. dont go to sites whose names sound like those yourmp3.com sites because the downloads usually don't work)

a) {-inurl:(htm|html|php) intitle:"index of" +"last modified" +"parent directory" +description +size +(wma|mp3) "song name and artist"}

ex: {-inurl:(htm|html|php) intitle:"index of" +"last modified" +"parent directory" +description +size +(wma|mp3) "shakira hips don't lie"}

b)?intitle:index.of? file extention file name

ex: ?intitle:index.of? mp3 shakira hips don't lie

3. Also, you can visit http://www.livejournal.com/community/screwyouhippies

OR

http://community.livejournal.com/mp3_share

and request a song there.

If there are specific songs you want, go search on http://www.radioblogclub.com/ and if you see it there, follow the directions here: http://radioblogdownloader.com/radioblogclub/ to rip music.

Also, this site: http://www.esnips.com/ If you don't see a download link for the file you want, look at the URL on the top and if you see "doc", write ns before that. Press the Enter key and a download to the file should pop up.

Best of luck to you!

If you have any questions, put one in my inbox!

Q: So like the subject says, are there any dances like the Soulja Boy dance and the Cupid Shuffle? I really apreciate anyone who answers.

Thanks, Shawneesrock
For more hip hop/rap dance moves: http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1578592/20071227/soulja_boy_tellem.jhtml
http://www.mikesmoves.com/souljaboy.html

Q: I have a really bad hickey.
How should I cover it up?
sdlgjhsfdl !
http://www.wikihow.com/Remove-a-Hickey

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