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My boyfriend and I were going through a rough period. He started talking to my best friend on msn and they had a very very flirtatious conversation including them discussing having sex, him telling her her naked body would turn him on, her dancing naked would be hot etc. He asked her intimate and leading questions. He hid this from me and she told me, I confronted him and he'd deleted the chat log, but I made him recover it and it's disgusting. Is this cheating? (link)
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Imagine a real-life setting.
You two have an argument and go to separate sides of a room.
Your best friend walks in and starts talking to you boyfriend. Harmless.
Then, they start to discuss sex. He starts to say how if she took off her clothes that he'd get really turned on. She flirts back and discusses having sex with him, too. They are enthralled in the heated conversation. You can physically see them both getting excited over it.
She leaves the room and you approach him about this because it concerns you.
He says, "Oh, I forgot all about that conversation. It was nothing."
It isn't acceptable.
Dump your boyfriend. End it now. Save yourself.
Dump your friend. End it now. They're a piece of crap friend.
You can do better. You deserve to be treated with respect.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half... I love him. I know I love him. We've been dating for a long time and we were friends for yeeeears before that. I know him inside and out, all his flaws and chips. The only problem is, he gets really really mad when I party. Which... okay. I know. I'm sixteen, I shouldn't be partying and drinking but still! I don't know... it's hard for me to argue it when he gets mad at me but I don't think he should control me. Ugh I just don't know what to do... My friends all party and drink so they'll say "foreget it, he'll get mad for a day and then get over it". Which is true but I hate disappointing him and making him mad when I know he only cares about me... I mean, I'm a teenager! He doesn't want to drink because he's working to get a football scholarship and can't afford getting caught. He doesnt' want me to do it because he's scared I'll get drunk and stupid and that he won't be there to protect me. Also he says its wrong... which it is. Gosh I don't know what to do!! (I'm sixteen/girl; gonna be junior, he's seventeen/boy; gonna be senior.) (link)
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You know it's wrong.
He knows it's wrong.
This is your guilt playing on you. Listen to your boyfriend. You know, deep down inside, that every thought he had expressed to you is justified and right. He isn't trying to control you at all. He loves you. This is what love is. Caring about someone. He is caring about you. He is caring about your relationship. He is caring about the future you two possibly hold together.
Look at your friends. Do you think partying is improving their lives? Do you think their relationships are strong and will last a good, long while? Do you think they are happy being the people they are?
Your boyfriend is absolutely right.
There are hundreds, if not thousands, of women who get raped at social parties they have with their closest friends. They get to drinking and, before they know it, they wake up in bed with a guy they don't even recall saying, "Hi!" to in anything more than a friendly way.
Alcohol isn't good. Period. It doesn't create anything good. It hurts your body. It makes you age faster. It slows down the processes in your brain and can make you sluggish. It leads to weight gain and an overall depressed mood.
You're 16, yes, and sure live a little. Live a little doesn't mean drugs or alcohol though. Live a little means splurging on that nice pair of jeans you've been eyeing for months. Live a little means taking the long way home just for the fun of seeing the countryside. Live a little means taking a road-trip to a theme park with your friends to ride the roller-coasters. Live a little means making real, lasting memories with people you care about and growing as a person. Not erasing nights you'll wish you had back when you're just a little bit older (and, believe me, I'm 23. That really isn't that much older than 16 if you think about it).
Nix the booze. Seriously. You're 16. Do you know how many years ahead of you that you can waste on alcohol? Do you realize that drinking is causing your relationship to crumble right in front of your eyes? Do you realize that drinking has absolutely no positive effect in your life?
Look at what it's doing to you.
If you keep this up, you're losing him. Plain and simple. Choose now and let him know so that you can spare him the heartache.
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My friends and I are so immature for our age, we're all sixteen, seventeen, eighteen and we still make that's what she said jokes and talk about nonsense. I love them to death and we always have fun when we are together. I am planning my sweet sixteen happening in just a few days, all the invites are out and all the food and such is planned. I just want to get your guys' take on this and see is this sounds fun. My party is going to be in my backyard, where we can be as loud as we want and have the most fun we can, everyone will know where everything is because it's at a familiar place. I am having my ma set out my chocolate fountain and we are going to have everything known to man that goes good with chocolate out. We are going to have a bunch of fruity drinks out. My best friend is bringing over her volleyball net and that can be up. We may set out some ladder ball. We are renting a moonbounce that has a slide to exit out when you're done or if you just want to slide instead of jump. What I want to know is, would you guys have fun at my party? Be honest. Thanks! (link)
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Heck, I'm 23 years old and I think that sounds like great fun!
What good, wholesome fun for a teen to have. That sounds like a good party to me. If your friends are into that sort of thing, too, then I'm sure they'll have a blast with you.
What do people expect from a 16 year old anyway? Make-out parties and booze? Getting knocked up for your sweet sixteen because you drank too much and couldn't keep your clothes on? Skinny-dipping with 16-year-old boys and smoking pot? Watching x-rated adult films after getting kicked out of a nightclub? Come on.
Having a cook-out, as mentioned below, is definitely not a bad idea in case somebody gets hungry from all of the activity. It doesn't make any sense to nix the fun just because you're a teen though. What would a birthday party be without a little amusement, music, and loud laughter anyway?
Lots of chocolate, fruity drinks, volleyball, and a moonbounce sounds perfectly acceptable to me. Though, I think you need a little upbeat music to bounce to! ;) Maybe end the party with you and your best buds watching a good movie that you all enjoy or have been waiting to catch. It's a good way to wind down after all of the jumping, playing, and goofing off.
And who cares if someone that isn't your friend thinks negatively of it, right? I mean, if they're not invited then there's a reason why you don't want them to share in the fun. Ignore any rude comments that come about. You're 16, not 60.
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I am a 22 year old female and I have been having "bad feelings" for as long as I remeber. I feel guilty and like I'm doing something wrong and shameful. They usually come on while my nipples are "played" with or after having sex with my husband and it is worse during the day. These bad feelings also can be brought on just by dressing up to make myself feel pretty. I do not have them all the time, but it still makes it hard to be intimate with my husband or dress up to go out. What could be wrong? (link)
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A lot of things could be wrong.
Most likely it stems from something in you childhood or young adulthood.
Do we know? Definitely not.
Do you know? Maybe. Maybe not.
See a therapist. Seriously. They can help you work through these feelings and figure out why they start in the first place. You might be able to uncover your deepest, darkest secrets you don't even know you have.
See out a good therapist and tell them what is going on. Don't resort to doping yourself on medication though. It is important that you figure out what has gone wrong in your mind.
These acts should not make you feel shameful, especially since you are a married woman and this is, basically, a part of marriage (you know, having sex, dressing up for your spouse, etc.).
It could be something lurking very deep within your childhood that you might not recall just yet. It could be something you feel didn't make a large impact on you--but it turns it out is anyway. It could be how you were raised, if something happened to you as a child, or, well, anything really.
It's all in your mind. See someone that can help you figure out the problem so you can begin to heal and change to something more manageable.
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I'm an Atheist and it's something about me that I consider pretty well known amongst my family. My parents know, and don't really care, because they respect me enough as an adult to not let minor things like religion come between us. However, a couple of my other family members can't seem to get over it.
I have no issue with people who are religious, and I'm really very civil towards them, and will continue to be until they start to treat me differently or until they start pushing their beliefs down my throat. I just want to be respected the same way that I respect them. Just because I don't believe in God, it doesn't mean that I'm not a good person. I am. I work everyday, I donate clothes to those who need it, and the majority of the time, I do give money to the homeless. I have morals, and standards, and I make my personal decisions to the best of my ability. But my family members seem to think that because I'm Atheist that I cannot do or have any of those things.
I wanna know how I can get them off of my back. I'm never going to stop being who I am, and I'm certainly not going to change because they disagree with me, but it's getting to the point where they've stopped being civil with me because we have a differing belief. They keep making snide comments, and it's really starting to anger me. I've been over the whole thing, but with them constantly bringing it up and berating me because of it, it's getting hard to ignore and I really am trying hard to keep from snapping.
Any ideas on what I should do?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Many different religions believe that they should not interact with non-believers very much. This is so that they do not get swept up into another person's thoughts versus God's commandments and what have you. People are a big influence on everything in our lives so many religions believe that associating primarily with only other believers will help to increase their trust and belief in God. It's sort-of a way to continue the strong bond between God and believer.
No true Christian will want to see another person get sent to Hell. Sure, we're human and so we suffer from bouts of anger, frustration, greed, etc. but deep down inside we shouldn't want another person to suffer just because we disagree with their ways. The way I see it is that they don't want to see you or anyone else come to harm so they do what they feel will work to change the situation.
Making snide remarks may be the only way they feel they can cope with this sin. They may even feel that the comments will push you into believing again and being spared from the depths of Hell. Making these verbal comments allow them to send a message to other surrounding believers that you may be doing something sinful. It seems that many Christians do feel that pressure will solve such sinful problems.
They aren't going to change what they believe and you sound as if you're not open to believing anything differently either.
If they believe what you're doing could send you, their loved ones, their children, or even themselves into a deep, dark pit of firey Hell...do you think they want to risk it just so you feel included and accepted?
Simply step away. Stop associating with these people. Let them live their lives and worship who they want to worship.
Sure, they're family, but trying to make amends when the problem is your entire belief system (and neither side is willing to budge, of course) is only prodding for more of a problem. The problem cannot be solved unless one side changes. In this case, neither is willing so there isn't much else to be done about it.
Simply ignore the comments and move on with your life. If they don't have a great impact on your day-to-day basis right now then don't start letting them interfere negatively.
When you choose to be something like an atheist then you should realize that many people will disagree with you. Some people will not understand, some people will think of you very differently, and some people aren't going to think twice about it and remain just the same to you. You cannot change how other people feel about atheism, especially when their entire belief system is so strongly against it.
If you confront these people then nothing much will likely happen. They may view your confrontation as something worse than it is. You may lose your cool and do something very stupid in the heat of the moment. Confronting them simply is not what needs to "happen" for change to occur.
Chalk this up to life. They believe that you are sinful and, for the most part, should be outcast so that you do not bring sin to their children and loved ones.
You believe that you're doing nothing against, well, anything. You're happy and satisfied in this belief and refuse to budge. Understandable.
Nothing will change unless one side does.
Ignore the comments and move on with your life. Being 19, you probably have the ability to now move away and cut down on association to these people. Apartments, especially for college-aged people, are quite affordable now. You can CHOOSE to not go to many family functions where these people may be. Being 19, you have a lot of power in this situation to move away from this entire issue and on what where you want your life to head.
Don't believe that all Christians are like your family. Your family may actually mean well by what they are doing. They may be in such fear that you are going to be sent to eternal damnation that they are verbally saying, "You are wrong! Please, stop! Get help! Save yourself now while you can!" They might just not have the tact to explain this to you more directly. You should expect Christians to want you to live a good, wholesome life that includes a relationship with God. That is what they believe and that is fine and dandy to believe. There is nothing wrong with having a strong belief system, especially when it entails wanting the best for other people, too. Some people, Christian or not, simply do not have the best communication skills to say, "Hey...I care about you. What you're telling me scares me a lot because it goes against every single thing I believe in. I believe that what you're telling me can cause a whole lot of pain and suffering. I don't want you to be hurt."
Just move on, move out, and move away.
P.S. In grasping a better understanding on the belief systems you may want to choose to pick up a copy of the Bible and begin reading it. This way you can understand their prospective in what you're telling them about not believing.
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Ok so I think I have a yeast infection... And I think I've had it for awhile... How do I bring it up to my mom:.. I really hate talking about that stuff! But anyways how do I bring it up and is it bad that I realized I think I've had it for Awhile and not done anything bout it? Will something bad happen? (link)
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"Mom...this is kind of embarrassing for me but I noticed some things not, well, "right" down there recently. I looked it up online to see if it was something I should be worried about and I think I might have an infection like a yeast one or a bacterial one. It's really embarrassing and bothersome so could you please call the doctor for me so I can get it checked out?"
Yeast infections happen from nearly anything.
You could have gotten a yeast infection from very basic things like:
Wearing tight pants (or tight underwear, even), not changing underwear often enough, washing TOO much down there (especially with soap), wearing thongs, having sex, fingering yourself, eating too much sweets/sugar, wearing tampons, douching, engaging in oral sex, etc.
Your mother probably won't ask about how you think you may have gotten the infection. If she does, you can throw something really simple and plain out there like, "Well, I don't know, but it did start after I wore this one pair pants that are kind of tight down there..." or, "Well, I thought I smelled weird down there one day and I was washing and I think I got some soap in there because afterward I started seeing these symptoms..."
While a yeast infection is not going to hurt you if you left it untreated, a bacterial infection can actually cause some serious, long-term, irreversible damage.
The thing is: A bacterial infection has the exact same symptoms (or lack of symptoms) that a yeast infection does.
How do you tell the difference? You can't. You just don't.
How do you get a bacterial infection? The exact same ways you get a yeast infection in most cases.
What happens if you leave a bacterial infection alone for awhile? Some serious damage, actually. We're talking about damage to your delicate reproductive organs. You could develop a health condition called Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) that can actually cause you life-long pain. Leaving this sort of infection alone can leave you infertile. That means no babies--ever.
So, while chances are you probably are just suffering from a normal yeast infection, you absolutely must see a doctor. If your doctor runs a few really quick tests (usually just a swab from down there) he/she can tell you what it is for sure. If they say it's a yeast infection they will give you treatment similar to the over-the-counter stuff you can buy at a pharmacy. If it's a bacterial infection then you'll need some antibiotics (if you've left this untreated for awhile then it may require some strong antibiotics).
So...
A yeast infection? It won't cause you damage if you leave it untreated. You could buy something at the market and use it BUT it's always wise to see your doctor FIRST just to make sure it isn't anything more serious.
A bacterial infection? Man...you don't want to deal with those consequences. There are no over-the-counter treatments available for that.
See your doctor. See your doctor immediately. It might be something serious and it might not but do you really want to take those chances?
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I got my nose pierced a few months ago, then removed it once I got a job. If I go to get my nose re-pierced and already have the starter piercing, will the piercer let me use it and not charge me full price? (link)
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Yes.
No.
Maybe.
It really depends.
The problem is with sanitation here.
Do you really, honestly, truly want to shove a piece of metal through your skin, into a fresh wound, that has remains of dead skin cells and the live bacteria growing off of that?
Did you know that alcohol doesn't necessary kill all of those nasty, icky germs?
Call your piercer. Ask if they have an autoclave to sanitize jewelery. If they're worth anything as a professional body artist then they have an autoclave. If they don't have an autoclave then you should, for your own health, step away and find a different piercer. Seriously.
Then, ask if you're allowed to bring your own jewelry in with you if you were to get pierced.
Now, the catch here is this:
Many reliable, health-conscious piercers are going to say, "Yes," and most certainly allow you to bring your own jewelry as your initial piece to get pierced with. The catch is that the autoclave machine they use to properly sanitize the metal costs big bucks. They have the ability, as a professional artist, to charge you a price to sanitize the jewelry you brought in with you. Essentially, the autoclave is necessary BUT the jewelry they already have handy has already gone through the machine to be sanitized. Why should they shove another piece of dirty, icky jewelry into their high-cost machine just because someone wants to whine about getting pierced with this oh-so-special piece, right?
So, ask.
You:
"Hi there. I was interested in coming in for a piercing, specifically a nose piercing, but I had a really important question. Do you all have an autoclave machine at the shop?"
Shop:
"Yes, we do have an autoclave..."
You:
"Great! That is wonderful that you care about my health by sanitizing the metal. Anyway, I was curious if I came in for the nose piercing this week if you would allow me to get pierced with my own jewelery that I've already purchased. I know you would have to autoclave it for sanitation..."
Shop:
"Yes, we allow you to bring in your own studs..."
You:
"Wonderful. So, out of curiosity, would I get charged for having to use the autoclave for bringing in my own piece? I actually had a thought to ask if I could get a discount of some sort for bringing in my own stud but then I got to thinking about it needing to be properly sanitized for my own health. Do you know if I actually could get a discount, if this would actually cost me more, or if all of the charges would be the same anyway?"
Shop:
[There answer here!]
And there you have it. Grab your phone book and go searching for the number. Ask a few questions. They get lots of them each day and don't mind a bit about you wanting to know their usual procedures.
For note, if they charge you for sanitation purposes on your stud then it will probably be less than $10 or $15. In the end, it might be more expensive to want to bring your own materials in. Make sure to call and ask before setting up an appointment so you're not caught off-guard if this particular shop does charge.
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i have small warts under the skin on my middle fingers on both hands... i have a few questions if anyone can help...
I have been using bazuka and when i take it off every day it peels my skin off too. is this right and how do i know when its gone?
also my boyfriend is very weary of touching me now, when i have the bazuka on is it still contagious? and how at risk is he of catching them anyway?
Any help would be much apriciated! (link)
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When you have the Bazuka gel on your partner can still contract the wart from touching the area.
The Bazuka gel solution will probably make you shed excess skin on the area but don't worry about it. It won't be a problem unless the area looks red, inflamed, irritated or is painful.
The wart is gone after the wart goes away. There will be no more "lump" on that area of the skin. The skin will be fully healed. You will still actually have the HPV strain that caused the wart so you can still pass it along but the risks are much less after the the wart has disappeared.
Keep using the solution. When the bump goes completely away and the skin heals up to look normal again then that's that. You might get other warts because of the strain you've contracted on your hands but it isn't a big deal. Simply use the solution again as soon as you notice it to keep the problem down.
Warts are actually caused by various strains of HPV. HPV can be spread through short contact on an infected area. Make sure to keep your hands clean and avoid coming in contact with others until you get this cleared up completely.
Your boyfriend is right to not want to contract the wart. It isn't deadly or painful in most cases but is pretty unsightly. There's no reason to risk passing it on because it just becomes a chain reaction and, before you know it, lots of your friends have warts, too!
I hate to break it to you, but the Bazuka can take months to get rid of the wart. HPV strains are not easily combated and the warts that they produce are pretty strong, living on your own immune system for survival. Keep the wart covered up to reduce the risk of spreading this. Keep a bandaid on it or a small wrap. Let it breathe (sleep without a bandage) at nights when you won't be touching anyone though.
So, basically:
Yes, you are still contagious even though you have a cream on it. The cream do not neutralize the HPV strain that caused the wart.
Yes, the skin will probably peel off some, too. It shouldn't be a problem as long as it doesn't look painful or feel painful.
The wart is gone when it is gone and not visible to the naked eye. You still will probably have the strain of HPV that you contracted through various ways (hand warts are fairly common) so you might experience a wart or two some time in the future.
For note, strains of HPV usually are specific to an area. Touching your foot with a warty hand probably won't give you warty feet. Touching your warty hand to your genitals probably won't give you a warty vagina. You should still wash your hands plenty though, keep the area covered, avoid other people coming in contact with your wart, and keep treatment on it until it's gone away. While you probably won't give your boyfriend penis warts--who wants warts on their hands, right? Be respectful and don't pass it along if you can :)
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Ok, so this has been driving me crazy for years now.
People always point out that I speak weird, but no one ever knows what kind of "accent" I have so I'll point out a few words people bring to my attention.
Anything with an "A" right after the first letter, just about, I pronounce differently.
Mad becomes Miad Like (mee-yad)
Sad- Siad
Happy- Hiappy
Anything with O's get stratched out apparently, like when I say no I make it longer or pronounce it like "knew"?
I add the "I" after the beggining letter in a lot of random words like "how" and stuff.
I know it sounds confusing, it'd be so much easier to explain through actually speaking to you haha.
Always becomes Ahhhways
Accent is Axint and the "nt" is very subtle and soft like the endings in French words haha
Add is a-id
Hahaha, there's so much more but I'd have to ask my friends.
No one is going to answer this, it's confusing.. lol (link)
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This, to me, sounds like you're describing Nanny Fine from The Nanny. If I recall correctly, Fran Fine (played by Fran Drescher) was suppose to be from New York--Flushing, Queens, NY.
I've lived in North Carolina, West Virginia, Kentucky, and North Dakota. None of those sound like what you're describing.
I've traveled to and through places like New York, New Jersey, Virginia, South Carolina, Tennessee, Georgia, Florida, Ohio, Wisconsin, and Minnesota. The only one I would have guessed, especially based on your "miad, siad, hiappy" way of talking I would have said New York.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xkp7wsJc8MI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1C_Fj-9UZY (Long Island, NY accent for "coffee" and etc. with "o")
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_7ib8E1Bug ("Bag" is "biag" though)
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Is hamam cream good for your hair? what if you put t on your hair if you blowdry it once a week? what do you think? will it ruin?? (link)
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From what I have read, hamam cream is very good for the hair and can help it become stronger so that you can grow it out longer. It seems to be a common product in the middle east and comes in various brands.
It will safe to apply it to your hair but do not blow dry your hair immediately after application, I would say. Blowdrying your hair once a week would be fine with this product. It shouldn't have any ill effects with the cream.
It won't ruin your hair. Many people use hamam cream and have beautiful, shiny, long hair. Blowdrying is very bad for the hair because it dries it out quickly and makes split ends. Hamam cream isn't going to prevent blowdrying from hurting your hair but it can help to keep the hair shaft moisturized and healthy so that blow drying won't hurt it as much.
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Males, what do you think when a female is in the pit? (link)
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I knew some guys who moshed every time they went to a concert (and boy did they go often). I actually asked them if they ever moshed with women before and how they felt about it. They, mostly, all agreed that they were afraid to hurt the woman so they tended to avoid making contact with her but weren't opposed to bumping around if she got close enough. They had no interest in "copping a feel" in the mosh pits but really just didn't want to injure a woman. They were more focused on NOT hurting the girl when a girl was around.
They still moshed with them though and had fun. One of them said, "Well, if they want to do it then fine. I'm not going to go purposely mosh on her but if she gets close enough or whatever then she's fair game. She does choose to be there, after all. She knows what's going on and that she can get hurt."
I asked if they thought these girls were extra-hot, sexy, or attractive. They all kind of beat around the bush to say that they have never seen an attractive girl in a mosh pit in all the times they had gone. They followed up by saying that they all typically looked like ugly dykes (whether they were lesbians or straight) or had been using drugs hard before so they weren't very pretty at all.
"Would you date a girl who moshed at concerts?"
"It would be kinda cool but at the same time...no. Just no. I wouldn't want her to mosh."
These were 11 guys between the ages of 15 - 20
So, basically, it made these particular guys uneasy but they dealt with it just fine.
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How do you contact Disney corp? I need corportain key people numbers and emails if that is possible. I cant find the main numbers nor can I find anybody at disney who can help me so thats why I need they key people.????
Thanks (link)
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The Walt Disney Company is the third largest media and entertainment corporation in the world. As you can imagine, things are pretty private and they don't throw around mailing addresses, phone numbers, and email addresses lightly.
Request Autographed Pictures (Characters or Executives!):
The Walt Disney Company
Attn: Fan Mail Dept.
500 South Buena Vista Street
Burbank, CA 91521
Walt Disney World Info/Guest Letters/Letters to Mickey Mouse:
P.O. Box 10040
Lake Buena Vista, FL 32830-0040
You could always send some compliments, complaints, and suggestions for them here, especially if you want to request they have a special address for a specific thing (such as a specific famous character or group like The Cheetah Girls):
Walt Disney World Guest Communications
P.O. Box 10000
Lake Buena Vista, FL 32830-1000
You can always send mail to the Disney Channel, and anyone in particular that may work/be there that you'd like to send mail to:
[Name if Applicable]
Disney Channel
3800 W. Almeda Ave.
Burbank, CA 91505
Send Emails to Disney / Disney World below. This really works, as I've done this before. Feel free to ask them any questions, especially about specific addresses to send certain things to if I missed it somewhere:
https://secure.disney.go.com/wdw/contact/contactUs
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http://home.disney.go.com/guestservices/contact
Here are a couple of lists of phone numbers that may be helpful in the future if you plan on going to Disney World and need some more information, reservations, or special accommodations:
http://www.explorethemagic.com/disney-world-contact.asp
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http://www.hiddenmickeys.org/Contacts.html
An online Disney Fan Club is right here, for free sign-up if you are interested for any reason:
http://www.disneyfanclub.org/
If, by chance, you need to actually write to an official Disney executive or such, then this link may be helpful in finding their address:
http://allears.net/pl/contact.htm
Lastly, the generic email address you can write to and get responses from is:
wdw.guest.communications@disneyworld.com
Start with the basic emails and phone numbers and work your way up from there. If you aren't in contact with EXACTLY who you want to talk with then let the person on the other end know who you're trying to get in touch with. Many times they will not publicize important people's phone numbers or private email addresses from large companies like this so that they don't get creepy stalker mail or serious threats. They kind of keep it anonymous to some respect.
I wasn't entirely sure what specifically you wanted to contact them about so I listed everything that is currently available to the public. If I've missed something then I do apologize and hope that you're able to find what you need through some of those links anyway. Remember, even if you say, "Hi, this is so-and-so and I think I've gotten the wrong extension. I need to speak with so-and-so. Is there any way you can redirect me or let me know that particular number so that I can get in contact with them today?" usually works pretty well. Remember to be nice and clear so they know exactly who you're trying to reach.
If you don't know the names of the people you're trying to contact then you're likely not going to be sent straight to their offices like that. Simply talk with the person on the other end and let them know you'd like to speak to someone in (the particular part of the studio productions). The person might give you someone to contact so that you can be satisfied but don't expect royal treatment because you called in ;) you might not get the head-guys of the corporation but you can still talk to a few people on the lower half of the ladder that can help you.
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so i know there's the whole menstrual cycle, typically 28 days long. i know there's ovulation & fertility - but what are those?
in which part of the cycle am i least likely to get pregnant?
when do the ovulation & fertility parts of the cycle occur?
so basically, if i were to have sex, when would it be safest to do it at my most unlikely time to get pregnant?
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Ovulation is when you're at your peak fertility. It's when you body temperature slightly changes, cervical mucus is better for sperm motility, and your egg is in a good position to be fertilized. Every woman experience this once a month.
It usually happens mid-way through you cycle.
During a 28 day cycle a woman may ovulate on day 14.
During a 24 day cycle a woman may ovulate on day 12.
During a 20 day cycle a woman may ovulate on day 10.
During a 30 day cycle a woman may ovulate on day 15.
The catch is that all women are different.
I have a nearly perfect 28 day cycle. You would assume I probably ovulate around day 14 then, even according to things like the Family Planning Method. I don't. I'm not "typical" but I have no "signs" or "symptoms" that would have told me that. I've taken a lot of over-the-counter ovulation tests and I actually ovulate at about day 20. That is how I found out. I would get pregnant at an entirely different time than "most" women. This makes things much different when you take into account:
The typical lifespan of sperm within the female body is between 3 and 5 days. They have been known to still be alive inside of a woman for over a week though.
It only takes ONE sperm to fertilize your egg. ONE. Not 10, 100, 1 thousand, or a billion. One single little, tiny sperm. One.
If you engage in sexual intercourse near your ovulation date then you're at the greatest risk. The other times of the month you're not getting off scott-free though. Sex is always a risk. Always.
How do you know when you ovulate for sure?
Purchase home tests for 6 months. These usually come for $25 for a month's supply. You'll need to buy 6 months worth at least. That's about 150 you will have to dish out to get a decent idea of when you USUALLY ovulate. To get an even better idea, track your cycles, your cervical mucus and discharge, and internal temperatures every single day for 6 months straight.
A condom. A packet of birth control pills. Spermicidal lube. Pulling out before ejaculation.
That is your best method to be "safest to do it at [your] most unlikely time to get pregnant."
Nobody will be able to accurately predict the day you probably ovulate. Nobody. Not even a doctor without extensive testing for at least 6 months. Really.
Use your head and take the proper precautions to help protect yourself to lower your risks of pregnancy. Sex makes babies. Everybody knows that. That's what we do it for, initially.
You don't want to get pregnant?
Use the above method (A condom. A packet of birth control pills. Spermicidal lube. Pulling out before ejaculation) to be more sexually responsible or don't have sex at all.
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I am really afraid of using anal bleach. Are these don't affect the vagina and vulva area? (link)
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Anal bleaches are to bleach the skin back whiter to your anal opening. This area is also referred to as you butthole.
Do not ever apply these products to your vaginal area or vulva. They are not specifically meant to be used there or they would say that.
If you must choose to find a vaginal bleaching kit for your vulva area then look online for a good brand with good reviews. There are also "vaginal whitening creams" that you might be able to find available online.
Meladerm seems to be a preferred cream. It reduces the skin pigmentation slowly though. It is not harsh on the body and also it is known to have no side effects. You still should not put it INTO your body but applying it to the outer skin should pose to be not a big problem.
The cream is never--NEVER--suppose to go internally. Do not ever put it into your vagina. Putting it on the outer lips will risk various infections still though.
Would I use the bleach?
Hell no.
I would love my body the way it is and know that plenty of men out there would still find me just as attractive. I wouldn't put such harsh chemicals on such sensitive areas in hopes of creating some illusion of the idea of sexual beauty. Beauty comes within. If you've having sex with someone who doesn't love YOU then why are you even letting them see your body, right? If someone loves you, it doesn't matter what difference you might have down there anyway. Love is love.
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i met this guy online
he lives 15 min away and wants to hang out
i know he's real cause i video chatted with him
but i think all he wants to do is hook up (actually, i know. he straight out told me he wants to.)
im 18 years old, never been kissed (i know, pathetic)(and he doesnt know about this, i was too embarrassed to tell him)
hes not a virgin
idk what to do!
should i take a risk and hang out with him(he could end up being my first kiss! but i feel like he wants to do more...)? am i stupid for even thinking about doing this? and he keeps telling me im beautiful and stuff.
idk what to do! :| (link)
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He is giving you all of the signs that he wants to use you.
Deep down inside, you're very aware of this.
"...all he wants to do is hook up"
Ask yourself this:
Do I really wanted to be used?
Do I really want to be just another hook-up for this creep?
Do I want to be treated as an object and not as human being with thoughts and emotions?
A first kiss isn't worth getting into a messy situation. You might be pressured to go further than you're prepared for, too.
The "you're so beautiful" remark is what a lot of guys do to bed you. They know it works with many girls. They throw out compliments so that you feel good being with them. It's how they get you close to use you or to continue using you. Ask nearly any girl who has been in a friends-with-benefits situation. They never understand that the compliments are not real and always pursue a deep-meaning relationship with the man who only wants to have some sex.
Back off with hanging out with him. It is not a good situation to put yourself in. Your first kiss will happen in time. You don't want your first kiss to be by the boy who just wanted to use you or who didn't really care about you at all. A first kiss can be quite meaningful if you actually have a real connection.
If, for some reason, you decide you still want to "hang out" with this boy then be prepared. Meet in public and stay in the public so that he doesn't try to take advantage of you or the situation and pressure you into something you don't want to do with him. I don't recommend the meet though.
Just because he's a real life human being doesn't make him a good guy.
There are a lot of people who want to use you in this world. You have to be prepared to stand up, fight back, and be strong against them. You might really, really want to have a kiss but this guy is not someone who you want to share that moment with. Trust me.
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my underarms are not bright white but quite dark. is there any ointment or something i can apply? (link)
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There are tons of things you can do to lighten your underarm skin.
You have to consider how it got darker in the first place though. It isn't natural for it to develop into something "quite dark" compared to the rest of your skin in most healthy humans.
It's a big sign of diabetes actually. Make sure to get you regular check-ups. If I were you, I might even ask the doctor to run a quick thyroid test to make sure things are functioning properly. It doesn't hurt to make sure you're in good health.
It might also be a sign of something called acanthosis nigricans. It's, basically, a form of insulin resistance. With this problem you might notice the darkening around your neck and places where your skin folds or touches (backs of knees, etc.) You should see a doctor immediately if you suspect this may be the cause.
It could be your deodorant that has stained your skin. I noticed when I used the stick kinds of deodorant it was hard to scrub off. It sort-of sealed my skin in from the water--which is what it is suppose to do. Try switching to a roll-on for awhile and see if things improve over time. My roll-on does not contain aluminum so that might even be the answer for you. I purchase it from places like Wal-Mart and it's called Naturally Fresh Roll On Deodorant. It's affordable, works great, and had a nice smell.
In the meantime, scrub your armpits well. You can actually use a pumice stone on this area and scrub gently with it to remove dead skin and old bits of deodorant that won't come off with regular soap, water, and a washcloth.
If you're a woman, remember to shave frequently but lightly. You might also want to dip two cotton balls into some alcohol and clean off your underarm area after you get out of the shower. It can help to kill off any germ that might be causing the discoloration.
As for creams, they probably won't offer a permanent solution so you might have to keep repurchasing to keep results. Skin bleaching creams are not permanent if you don't figure out what is causing the discoloration first. Right now there are quite a few on the market. The best reviews do seem to be from a product called Mayfair 1 Week Whitening Armpit Cream.
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was wonderng f you could get a dsease if a guy who doesnt have any diseases cum's in your butt? because i ased that on ask.com and it said yes so i got scared. (link)
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Yes.
Anal sex carries a lot of disease risk. Think of it this way:
A homosexual male gets AIDS but doesn't know it (his test doesn't show positive yet--sometimes these things take years before they show positive for infection)
He has sex with another male.
This, typically, means he puts his penis into another man's anus.
He transfers the AIDS to the next man through that sort of intercourse without even knowing he had an STD.
Anal sex is sex. Sex brings a lot of risks. It can spread deadly diseases fast and you might not even know it for weeks, months, or even years in some cases.
There's no way to know if your partner is 100% disease-free unless you went to the clinic with them when they got their STD/STI test. Many clinics won't even test for some diseases like herpes without your specific request. Then, even at that, there is absolutely NO test on Earth that will tell you if your partner has any of the over 100 strains of HPV (and, by the way, if you got the HPV vaccine shot you're only "safe" from 4 of those strains). Anal warts is probably something you don't want to deal with.
Anal sex can very well transfer illnesses. It's important to always be picky when choosing a sexual partner. Always use condoms so that your risk is lowered (you can still contract STDs though). Get a full STD test every 6 months and require all of your partners to do the same thing.
Take care of yourself, most of all. This is your body. This is your life. Don't destroy it right away by doing something stupid.
You can contract STDs by engaging in ANY form of sex. You can get them from vaginal sex. You can get them from anal sex. You can get them from oral sex. You can even get them by masturbating other people in some cases.
Among the diseases with which anal sex is associated are HIV, anal cancer (seriously), typhoid fever, and various diseases associated with the infectious nature of fecal matter or sexual intercourse in general. Among these are: Amoebiasis; Chlamydia; Cryptosporidiosis; E. coli infections; Giardiasis; Gonorrhea; Hepatitis A; Hepatitis B; Hepatitis C; Herpes simplex; Human papillomavirus (HPV); Lymphogranuloma venereum; Pubic lice; Salmonellosis; Shigella; Syphilis; Tuberculosis. Using condoms will decrease these risks; however, they do not protect 100%.
Physical damage to the rectum and anus are serious and hemorrhoids, anal fissures, and rectal prolapse may occur. Damage is more likely if communication is poor or if technique is clumsy; condoms do not help protect against this sort of damage. Basically, if you don't know what you're doing or you end up doing something wrong by accident you may end up in the emergency room having surgery or stitches too.
Small tears that can happen during anal sex can easily become infected. The membrane inside the rectum is VERY thin and fragile so it tears very easily. Even if there seems to be no complications the tears can be very irritating and can become inflamed later on. It doesn't matter how "gentle" your partner is, your will probably suffer some tearing and possibly even some bleeding. It can also become uncomfortable for you to pass a stool afterward.
It is also very easy to get a vaginal infection from anal intercourse if your partner enters the vagina after being in the anus. Even if he knows not to enter the vagina afterward, he may accidentally slip. The infection would be bacterial can actually do major damage to you--rendering you infertile. Really, anal sex is more likely to result in an infection than vaginal sex would.
Incontinence has also been reported from engaging in anal sex. Basically this means that the anal sphincter loosens up from the activity. This also means that anal leakage can become an issue for the receiving end. It also may mean the inability to completely control your bowels when needed.
For a very last note, the sperm (semen, ejaculatory fluid, or cum) is NOT what carries the disease. It's the penis itself in many cases. So, even if your partner pulls out and does not cum inside of you then you still are at a very high risk to contract infectious diseases.
You should very well be scared. Think things through next time. Protect yourself by using your head. In the end, it's YOU we're talking about.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite a while now, and we are really uite fond of each other :) He is just so amazing.
The only thing is, we are leaving for college soon, and will be hundreds of miles apart. I want to plan one last, special date night for him and I.
I just want some ideas of fun places to go, somethings to do on our last day together. I was thinking maybe going some places we have gone before to prom or something, to revisit. Also, I should let you know, we are not sexually intimate, so please don't include things of that nature in your plan ideas :D
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What about you two have a special picnic where you've set up the items and made his favorite foods? :)
It's cheap, easy, creative, and really shows how much you deeply care about him. You two can cuddle below a nice tree or just enjoy the clouds passing by after. If you plan it for a lunch-type picnic then you could have the rest of the day to go to the places you first met, had you first date, first ate out at, or some place he's really wanted to see, go too, or revisit himself.
Do something sweet and kind, something that beings back good memories, and something to have fun and create another fun memory. You care about him, have fond memories with him, and want to keep creating those great everlasting memories--so make a day of it and show it, do it, and live it :)
You could end the day with a movie, bowling, miniature putt-putt golf, laser tag, or having a little surprise party with cake and his closest friends and family (since it's summer...pool party idea!).
So, I'm thinking:
.-Special picnic alone together
.-Revisiting first place you two met or first-date place (if these are, for some reason, not appropriate then what about catching your first movie you two watched together at home on a DVD? You can go bowling, or something fun, after to get him out of the house again.)
.-Surprise get-together party-type deal with his friends
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what does this mean...if she looks like a duck, talks like a duck, walks like a duck, then she must be a duck. someone in my family said that about my gf and i have no idea what it means. (link)
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They probably got a very bad impression about the girl.
It's like...you say..."She's a trashy woman."
Well, she might be if she has all of the tell-tale signs of a trashy woman. If you don't know the exact context of the conversation then they could be saying a multitude of things like she's a slut, cheater, dumb, etc.
If something:
Looks like a duck
Quacks like a duck
Walks like a duck
Acts like a duck
then it's probably a duck ;)
If someone:
Looks trashy (physical appearance, dress)
Sounds trashy (her voice, choice of words)
Walks trashy (sleezy mannerisms)
Then they're probably on the trashy side.
Using the "duck" reference is just how people say this sort of thing without sounding vulgar in front of others. You don't want to say, "Wow! His girlfriend is such a whore! Look at her!" so you say, "Well...if she looks like a duck...she probably is one!" Most people will pick up on what the person is saying then without them needing to say the choice words they are thinking of ;)
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that gum makes your breath smell worse when making out with a guy?!
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It can because chewing gum actually causes your stomach to begin producing the acids to break down foods. The chewing motion sends a signal to your brain (which sends a signal to your stomach) that you are eating. It's just a natural response that will always happen in healthy people.
Gum chewing has actually led to acid problems such as acid reflux or severe indigestion. The stomach begins producing this natural acid to break down food that it thinks will be coming down soon and the acid just kind of sits there on that tissue. It can rise up into the esophagus and is pretty foul smelling (and damaging). It can also create things like stomach ulcers, which can cause a whole series of other problems such as candida (yeast) overgrowth within the gut.
Many times bad breath comes from within the body, specifically somewhere throughout the digestive tract. If the foul smelling odor is caused by an overproduction of stomach acid that has caused other things to occur within the body then the chewing motion can cause that smell to occur rather quickly.
So, yes, it very well can cause your breath to smell worse than before you popped a piece of chewing gum into your mouth.
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