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My boyfriend & I just broke up a few weeks ago. We were together for almost a year and he didn't exactly treat me nice. He cheated on me, lied, and just wasn't exactly a good boyfriend. I looked passed all that & fell deep in love with all his great qualities. I still have no idea why I cry over him and miss him so much. We broke up because he cheated on me once again and I had enough of all the hurt he caused. We're friends now and he seems to want to go back out again. I'm trying to stay strong and think of all the pain I went through with him but I never loved anyone more than him in my life. How am I supposed to get over him? (link)
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Wow. I can totally totally realate to your situation. I know exactly how you felt and how you are feeling. It's good that you are being level headed about all of this and realizing that the way he treated you was not right. You deserve better than that. I kinow how hard it can be to let go of someone you really love and care about. There's no exact remedy on how to get over this though. It's to each their own. The best thing you can do is just constantly remind yourself of the awful way he made you feel when he cheated and lied and etc. It's okay to remember the good time too though. You need to learn to treat this as a good learning experience so you are better prepared for the next time you are in a serious relationship. Try to keep your mind off wanting to get back with him though. Try: volunterring, having a girls night out, pick up a new hobbie, go see a ton of movies, eat, write, get a job, read books, shop, cook, re decorate your room, meet new people. In time you will soon she that you don't have to depend on him for hapiness. You'll be just fine on your own, and you'll be thrilled but not dependent on the next guy that comes alone. With that said, it's okay that you and your ex are still talking and are friends. That can be a good thing. But don't eat up every little word he says now to you becuase you really dont know if he is lieing to you or what. Be careful. Keep your guard up with him. But, if in time, thingsd change and he changes and proves to you that he knows how to treat you then, and only then think about getting back with him. Until then. sourround yourself with positive influences. Live your life for you. Be happy. Best of luck! :)
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I'm 14-years-old so I'm not looking for my life partner or anything. Well, my friends and even some people I don't know call me shallow because I only go out with guys I think are hott. And it's true but only to a certain point. Yes, I do look at looks first but doesn't everyone? I look at looks and if I think they're attractive then I'll talk to them and such. But I'll only date them if they have a great personality to go along with their looks. Personality can also make a guy hott to me so even if I'd initially think they were ugly but they had a confident, amazing personality I'd think they were hott. And like I said before, it's not like I'm looking for they guy I want to marry right now; I'm just having fun and meeting different guys. Does the way I see that make me shallow? Or is the way I pick the guys I want to go out with wrong? (link)
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Okay, to answer your question in short, you are so not shallow. It's called being a normal human teenage girl. The fact that you took the time to explain the whole thing shows that you do really truly care about how you come off and such. A shallow person wouldn't care less. If you ask me, I think you sound really level headed. At your age, relationships shouldn't be so serious and dramatic (as some make it) You should just go with the flow, and that's what it sounds like you are doing. And the fact that you don't judge soley on looks is a good thing. And you are totally right personality can make a huge different a be a key factor in being interested in someone. Almost all of my boyfriends haven't been the hottest guys in the world, but they had awesome personalities nad qualities. That made them so hott to me. That sounds like it's the same with you. I think you should just ignore your friends remarks about you being shallow, I mean you know you aren't, and that's the only opinion that you should really think about. You have to be at least someone attracted to a person in order for there to be any kind of initial reaction. The way you are choosing to picguys at this point in your life is not wrong because it's what's working for you. Just keep on doing what your doing. Have fun and live your life as a normal 14 year old. As long as you are yourself and a good person, you can't go wrong. :)
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I am getting sorta tired of the way everyone is so rude on here! There was this girl who was pregnant and scared and crying and this guy came along and told her to shut up! Whats with everyone? When someones mother dies you dont say "Stop complaining bitch" thats absolutely digusting! So my question is...why do some people on here be complete assholes when there are people who need serious answers and have serious questions?!?!? (link)
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Well, I think to answer your question specifically would be hard. It's really to each his own. You can't alwayus control the thoughts, words, and actions of others. Only yours. I do agree with you though. Often times people are way to harsh. Personally, I enjoy giving the best advice I can possibly give, and I take it pretty seriously. Some people probably enjoy just being insensitive and rude. I don't think they are trying to be totally malicious, but they probably get annoyed because some of the people ask pretty dumb questions. But the Advice Admin does the best she can. That's why there's an abuse system, banning, and moderators. A site of this is bound to have issues such as these. You yourself are probably going to get some comments. But I guess just you should just give the best advice you can and outdo the bad advice. Good luck! :)
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Hey Sasha, I have been admiring your page and I have finally decided to ask a question. What would you do if your son was at home crying all alone on the bedroom floor cause hes hungry and the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money? (link)
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Hmm, well that's a tough situation to be in. It reminds me of this song. I think Tim McGraw sings it. I would say the best thing to do wouldb e to go out and become the best damn prostitute you can be! Great question Kelly and Clare! :)
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How can u earn someone's trust back knowing that they don't believe a word you say? I just want this girl to know that im better than that. Thanks and take it easy! :) (link)
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Well, this is a really tough thing to do. I for sure know the feeling. It take a lot of effort and determination. Once trust is lost, people's feelings often change for you so you have to work really hard to gain it back. First and foremost, you have to be trustworthy, sincere, and honest. There's not really one thing in specific you can to do to make this happen. You can however, just be yourself, and show the person you have changed through your actions. Sometimes actions say more than words. So go with that. In time, anythng is possible. In time, they will probably see the progression and things will ease back to the old days. You really just have to give it time and effort. Be kind, be loyal, do things without being asked, take the initiave, go the extra mile. If this person's trust means that much to do you you'll do anything and everything. Good luck! I am rooting for ya! :)
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What is a discharge? does anyone know please answer! (link)
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Discharge is that clear kind of sticky fluid like substance that comes out of your vagina sometimes. It's completely natural. It happens to all girls. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. It just means you are a healthy maturing young woman. Some girls get more than others. It can come every day too. If it bothers you, you may want to wear a pantyliner. Sometimes it is also an indication that you are about to start your period (for the first time). But don't worry, that's all it is. :)
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i'm black and i don't think people will understand the facts that i like 2 listen 2 rock and skateboard and all that punk stuff. (link)
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Hmm, well let me ask you this...why do you even care. You need to focus on doing whatever the heck you want and what makes you happiest in life. The United States serves as this huge melting pot which is contrived of people from all different backgrounds, cultures, and races. We are all different and unique in our own way. Be a leader, not a follower. So what if people, don't get it! The only think to get is that you like rock and you skateboard. That's awesome! I wish I could skateboard! Punk is cool. Be an individual. Be yourself. You should continue doing what you love to do and break the mold of that sterotypical "I like r&b or hip hop or whaterver". People will respect you in the long run if you proudly show what you stand for. Live it up! :)
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Thanks, i like those but ugh my sister has one like hers is candi and i want one kinda like her..i like cari but i want somthing that will at leats be close to my name? i do like those...but ugh i want somthing that everyone else dont have...lol
Ashley (link)
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Haha, okay then I have like the perfect solution for you! Just make up a first name that's like super old fashioned and dorky. I do that all the time to my friends. Like today I started calling this one girl Nancy. Pick a name like:
-Gertrude
-Abigail
-Ellouise
-Thelma
-BettyLou
-AshleyLou
-Frances
-Helen
-Dorthy
-Ethlyl
Or if not that route, try taking a combination of you first and last name
Like I have a friend called "Emlowe" and another friend called "Ashburn"
Just play around with it! Have fun with it too! I think it would be really funny to do the old lady route! :)
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Hey yall, i need help with a nickname...my name is Ashley i have nicknames like Asha,Ashems,Ashlynn but i dont like them! So can u help me out with a new cool nickname?
Thanks, Ashley (link)
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Here are a few suggestion for you
-Ashbash
-Ashy
-Ashanator
-Ash
-AshHole(hhaha, sorry it reminded me of Meet The Fockers)
-Ashley Marie
-Ashypoo
-A
-AshLEEEEy
Need some more, let me know (also, if so be sure to add some more info about yourself so i could come up with some that are not based on your name) :)
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I just bought this really cute long sleeved, navy blue, button down shirt. It's adorable... but I do not know what pants to wear with it. I was thinking jeans, but then I thought that might be too much blue/ too dark. What would be the best color pants to wear with the shirt (I don't have khaki's). Thanks! (link)
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There are tons of pants you could wear with navy blue!
Some of them may sound weird at first, but just trust me on this one;it'll look great, especially with the right shoes, belts, earings,etc.
Color pants:
-Forest green
-Light pink
-Pale Yellow
-Red
-Light blue
Or any pants with navy blue in them (other than jeans, like if they have a design in them)
I am sure you'll look great in whatever you decide! :)
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Hey everyone, well i'm a little late with my period this month. I'm definitely a virgin but i was wondering if there was a reason that you could skip a period one month without being pregnant. answers anyone? (link)
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Hey there. You have nothing to worry about. If you are a virgin there's really no reason for you to think you are pregnant. Girls skip or are late on their periods all of the time. Especially so if htese are the first 3 or so years of you having a period. Also, if you are heavily athletic they can sometimes prevent you from having a period. No biggs! :)
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i was wondering when a baby's unblilical cord is supose to heal and what age i should start bathing them at..thanks (link)
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Hey. You can go around the baby's actual chord as soon as whenever. Like with alcohol or some drying stuff you can get from the doctor. Whenever the umbilical chors falls off is usually when it is healed. It may look a little red, but that's okay. For each different bsaby the amount of time it takes for the chord to fall off varies. The dryer you keep the area, the soon the chord will fall off. Then you can bath them all over. Have fun! :)
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My mother is forcing me to join a gym of some sort, and she wants me to join "weight watchers".. I was wondering if any one knew like what you do at these meeting things. Thanks :) (link)
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Hey there! Cheer up hun. This could be a great experience for you. If you are uncomfortable joining a gym because you are shy about working out in front of a guy, you may want to try an all female gym. Check around for places in your area. Most of the time it's more like circuit training but you are only with females.
As for weigh watchers, it's a great idea. It's a good way to strting to eat healthy and shed some extra pounds. Every weeks you go in for a "weigh in" and see if you lost, gained, or stayed the same. It's all about a point system. Certain foods are a certain amount of points. As a teenager you are alotted like 20 points I think (per day). I am sure they will tell you more at the meetings. The meetings just serve as a support group/check up. Be appreciative that your mom signed you -it's expensive! I am sure you'll do just fine. Go to weightwatchers.com for more info. Good luck. :)
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im a freshman in high school and i've never had a boyfriend before. i can think of tons of guys i would jump at the chance to go out with but i don't know how to flirt really well or convey my feelings without putting myself on the line. im not really ugly but i think when a guy starts flirting with me i just automatically turn shy and kind of ignore him which i know is bad because he probably mistakes it for being mean! how can i flirt without being too bold, but still getting the idea across...? (link)
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Well, first of all, don't get too bent out of shape about not ever having a boyfriend yet. Tons of girls don't have a boyfriend until they are in college. You should only want a boyfriend when you are entirely ready for one and have already discovered yourself. With that said: have confidence in yourself. When you have confidence, guys will see that. Smile. It goes iwth everything. To help you get more comfortable around guys, talk to your guy friends more. Hang out with them more. Just be yourself around them. Now as for the flirting aspect..just start it off simple. Maybe next time you are in class and a guy you think is cute and compliment him. Like: "Oh Bobby, that shirt looks nice on you." Then flash a quick smile. This way, he feels ood about himself and notices than you noticed him. Or, maybe if you are in the hall walking to classand you see a guy from your class walk beside him and say:"Did you get the homework last night?" Little subtle comments always break the ice. Just try little things like that and work your way up to asking guys to hang out on the weekends with you. (In a group) Or, ask a guy for his number for "homework help". Just have confidence, and most importantly-BE YOURSELF!! :)
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in my class ther's this guy who sits behind me who's really hot and he blows on my neck and flirts with me but im not sure what to do. i mean he has this huge reputation for like having sex and i want to keep my virginity at least for freshman year! he's a year older and im pretty sure sex is all he's interested in but i really like him and he's really cute! i don't know how to handle this... (link)
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Well, I think deep down you already know the right answer to this. You should never ever sacrifice your morals or respect for yourself, especially so for a boy. There are going to be lots of guys you are going to come across throughout highschool; some good, some bad. You have to weed out the bad ones. So, with that said: The guy may be cute and great and all, but if he's just going to use you for something you are not ready to do, DO NOT DO IT. Stand up for yourself. Don't ruin your reputation all because of one guy. On the other hand, if you really really feel like this guy couldb e sincere about his intentions you could give him a chance, but just keep your gaurd WAY UP. The minute he starts to pressure you to do something you aren't ready to do, WALK AWAY. Take charge! :)
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I have a flame who who i can't stop thinking about, i have hope that someday she'll find out how i feel! What should i do..? (link)
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Aww, that so cute. I for sure can relate. Is it kind of like that flame is always lingering in the back of your head? Well, that's how it is for me. And, I compare all my relationships to that one. I think you should for sure stay positive and keep the hope alive. You really know what an outcome will be. If you have faith anything is possible. Next time you are around your flame stike up a casual conversation with her, and try to get the point across that you are still interested. Chances are, she is too. It's just that sometimes girls or even guys are very hesitant to expose their feelings for free of getting hurt or some type of rejection. If you get the oppurtunity though, take full advantage of it and seize the day. The worst thing that could happen is she doesn't want to be with you. But if you don't step it up she'll never know. Open up. Good luck. :)
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well lets see im 14/f and lastnight was my winter formal... it was realli fun and i got my first kiss from my boyfriend... we started makin out alittle but i think i messed up... i really didnt knwo what i was doin... can anyone give me tips on how to make out for next time? (link)
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Hey there, well you may have not messed up, you just may thinkWith that said: Just remember these things in case you are really worried:
Making out is basically kissing with mouths partially open and tounges making contact with each other. Start with a basic kiss on the lips then open your mouth slightly, and slide your tongue out a bit, until it just touches your partner's lips. Lick against them gently until your partner gets the hint and opens up a bit. Keep sliding your tongue in further, tickling your partner's tongue and lips with your own tongue. Think of your tongue as a finger, lightly brushing against your partner's skin. The touch is soft but tantalizing.
Don't be doing lots of other things with your hands while you French kiss. This distracts the person you're kissing! Just hold them and have them focus on this tongue and what it's doing. That should be the primary focus in a French kiss.
When you're both comfortable with the tongues touching, start getting even more erotic. Slide your tongue along your partner's tongue. You're sort of reproducing the sex act here, with your tongue. So slide your tongle along the other tongue gently at first, and then more and more quickly. Do circling moves, where you go around the tip of the tongue, and then do a thrusting slide down the length of the tounge. Then ease off and circle again.
This isn't about strangling your partner with your tongue or getting slime all over the place. you did.
Good luck! :)
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heu guys! any help would be appreciated... for the past couple months i've been getting really bad headaches, and it hurts to look at light or hear noises and stuff. Well I think they might be migraines. I try to tell mom but she won't listen. Is there anything i can do at home to make them better? and medicine doesn't work... (link)
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Hey, I know how you feel. Migranes can suck majorly, and people who do not suffer from them tend not to understand how sucky they can be. I know you said medicine doesn't work, but I HIGHLY suggest either of these pills or a combination of them. Try: Furenol or Imetrex
They are both the best on the market. I think you should gert both though and tke the Furenol when you feel a headache coming to head it off at the past. Once it becomes a full blown migrane try the Imitrex. It comes in pill form, shots, and nasal spray.(See your doctor for a perscription) Some things to remember, put one of those heating pads on your head (the kind with rice in them) Try to eat something like a cracker and if you feel like you are going to throw up, go for it..it will make you feel better..SLEEP IN THE DARK when you are having one. Best of luck. :)
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online some of my friends say: sos when i ask whats up. i dont know what sos means and i would feel so stupid to ask one of them! (link)
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Hey there. It's nothing major. It just means : Same Old Stuff! Have fun chatting! :)
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what's the best way to get word out about a club? even if it is a slightly academic one? it's a lot like debate, but it's still different.
please and thanks. (link)
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There are tons and tons of things you can do:
Put up flyers in the halls and on the ews bulletein boards.
Ask your school administrator or news coordinator if you can have a spot on the student announcements in the morning or throughout the day. Also, ask if you can add the notice in the school daily news sheets.
During your classes ask the teachers to let you announce the news and write it on the chalkboards
Offer some time of food and drink to the first club meeting. Lots of kids will come for free food and drink!! Ie: Queso with Chips and Coke.
Good luck! :)
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