Mackenzie's advice column

♥[?]♥ When me and my boyfriend first got together he asked me how long i wanted to be a virgin and i said until i was atleast 16.. well we have been together so long and i am ready to go that far with him but we made a promise to wait until i was 16.. long story.. I confronted him and he said i wanna see if we can keep our promise.. i really want to loose my virginity to him.. what should I do?

If you REALLY feel you'Re Ready.. and you'Re SHORE you wanna do this.. then just do it when you'Re both in agReement. Tell him you'Re Ready... but will wait until you'Re 16 if he wishes. Goodluck; and be safe!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ Hello,i am really upset. Im really worried that my best friend is avoiding me. I dont want to ask her because i dont want her to get mad at me. But i dont know what to do to find out if she is or not. what should i do? Help me please.. she means ALOT to me. I love her alot. Thanks so much!

Sincerley,
Confused and Worried.

Well, fiRst of all... is she taking youR phone calls? AnsweRing youR emails? Has she mentioned anything to fRiends? And judging by youR question.. this pRobably wasn't what you wanted to heaR, but I would say to flat out ask heR. You shouldn't have a fRiend find out foR you oR anything like that.. that's insulting.. it seems like you didn't have the couRage, oR didn't caRe enough to ask youRself.. you just left the diRty woRk to someone else. I think if you don't beat aRound the bush, you can avoid confusion, and tell heR exactly WHY you feel she's avoiding you!! SoRRie I can't be of moRe help, but I hope things woRk out!! Thanks so much foR the question, feel fRee to come back to me if you eveR need anything else!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ ok i have a friend who lives across the country. well he keeps tellin me he likes me and today hes like, wut if i called my g/f up and broke up with her and asked u out? well long distance relationships dont do anything for me. anyways he keeps askin me out(which is really dumb) and stuff like that. then he was saying i love u and when he was getting off he said i love you like a sis. i dont get it! he wants to go out with me but loves me like a sister! i dont really care about relationships, im only 13 and sos he but i mean come on. wut should i say to him or do to just make him realize wut hes saying. we have been friends ever since we were born and i dont want to ever lose him as a friend and i do like him he is just driving me insane. will someone pls help?

Just bRing those points up to him - tell him to stop and think befoRe he opens his mouth, and while he's at it.. claRify what he's ALREADY said!! And I wouldn't go out with this guy.. he lives acRoss the countRy, I mean.. come on.. it's difficult to make long distance Relationships woRk foR anyone, let alone two 13 yeaR olds. And when you look at it this way... what if YOU weRe his CURRENT giRlfRiend.. and he's going aRound telling otheR giRls that he'll bReak up with you no pRoblem foR some otheR giRl. He's not woRth a SINLGE SECOND of youR time!!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ I have a really good friend (thats a guy) and well we have gone out a couple times. And i like him again and he told one of my friends he kinda likes me. i wanna just grab him and kiss him one day but im scared he'll push me away. what should i do.

*female 15*

I say you should go foR it; go in foR the kill!! I doubt he'd pull away fRom a sexy dominating woman!! Be bold; take the Risk!! Goodluck!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ This is more of an opinion question than an advice thing, but I figured I'd ask anyway...never hurts, right?
If a guy asks you to marry him in the future, but doesn't give you a ring, does it count?
Lol I'm just curious to see what you guys think.

Uhm, well I don't think so. I suppose I view it like this... if he doesn't have a Ring... how seRious could he be? On the otheR hand... he may not have the money at the moment, which is completely undeRstandable... but if that WERE the case... I'd RatheR have him wait until he HAS the Ring to make the peRfect pRoposal... even IF it's 6 months fRom now!! Cuz if you two aRe so shoRe you'Re going to get maRRied... you'll still be togetheR in 6 months, Right? =P Hope I helped!!

♥[?]♥ i think i look really ugly when i smile..but everyone says that smiling makes u look prettier but i dont think i do. all my friends get mad at me when i dont smile but i dont know what to do! HELP!

Get oveR it -- you'Re pRobably a total dead sexy bast!!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ how long should i wait b4 i tell a girl how i feel about her after she breaks up with someone she really loved.the only reason they broke up was because he was moving to another state. thanx
dan

Hmm... I'd take it slow. Just be theRe foR heR Right now, and give it about a month oR so.. peRhaps she'll come out with those same feelings befoRe YOU get YOUR chance to!! Just be patient and give heR time! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ Alright guys.. I dont want you to think i'm some kind of hoe.. or pervert.. But.. here goes.. I'm starting to have feelings for this kid... I won't mention a name.. But.. hes 15 I think. He's a friend of my sisters. I know he likes me... and I'm 17.. I dont know what to do! someone! Please help me!!

No shame in that whatsoeveR! I think you should tRy asking youR sisteR how she would feel if the two of you got togetheR. If she's not too pleased by the topic, I'd dRop it and move on. He may be Really sweet and cute, but he's not woRth all the tRoubles with youR sisteR! Hopefully things woRk out!! =D

♥[?]♥ at school once, i farted really loud on accident...see...i sneezed and it popped out! no one will let me live it down...what do i say to them?

Actions... not woRds.. bitch slap 'em!!! ....But if you'Re against that.. tell those pansys to gRow up and shut theiR holes!! It's a natuRal body function and they've all done it!! Goodluck; hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ theres this boy i love nd wen we broke up we didnt tal as much liike we really care for eachother the break up wasnt supposed to happen ndw e really like eachotther nd hed tell me hed call me bac but he wouldnt he would wait like a month nd i kno its kinda stupid but should i call him .. or not
help even thought its stupid ..

Call him, go foR it! No shame in that at all! Goodluck! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ ok im 13 and so is my boyfriend, weve been going out for over 2 months now... hes had sex with other girls b4 but ive nevr had sex b4... he wants to have sex with me really bad but he always says he understands if i dont... i kinda do tho... but then i dont... im really confuzed cuz i really lov him its just i dont wanna get pregnant and i people will find out if i have sex with him and i dont want people calling me names like a slut and stuf, at this same time im in a huge fight with some girls, but i really wanna have sex with my boyfriend but then i dont! i NEED HELP!!

Don't do. If you have any doubts.. you'Re d.e.f.i.n.i.t.e.l.y NOT Ready!!! Hope I helped! =D

♥[?]♥ Has anyone out there ever used Herbal Essences dye kit? And if so did you like it and it was easy?

Also is going from like a alburn color to 44 Radiant Ruby a good choice?

Yes!! I have the Herbal Essence High Lighting Kit. My Mom did my high light foR me, and they look awesome!! It's REALLY simple, shows gReat Results, and the coloR stays in a long time! You can find it at WalgReens/EckeRd and Wal-MaRt foR aRound $8.00! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ hey i want to thank everyone who gave me advice because i took most of it and i called tommy like some of you said to and now it turns out hes moving back to maryland but hell be back here once a month.. and he said he would come see me .... thanks you guys.... ill be back thanx
-katie-

Uhm, I don't think I answeRed youR question?? I'm not shoRe, but I'm glad things.. woRked out??? =D

♥[?]♥ ok so i went out with this kid Sean, and things started to get weird so i broke up with him, then i was starting to think of asking him back out but i thought he liked this girl Sarah, who i happen to hate, and he said he didnt but the next day when i was going to ask him out he was going out with her .. what should i do?

It may be haRd, but you'll just have to accept it. You don't want to come between them... so just let him do his thing, and peRhaps in the futuRe you might get youR chance! But foR now keep youR head up and push foRwaRd! TheRe's no sense in dwelling on it, when you could be out having fun with youR fRiends, and maybe finding someone new! Goodluck!! Hope I helped!!

♥[?]♥ My parents payed for me and my brother to go to a private school. It was really expensive but thank god we got insurance so some of the money will come back to us if we deside not to go. Well my brother and i ended up going to public school where it's free, the thing is that the private school won't let us get the money back unless we go there for 15 school days. I have been arguing with my parents saying that i just started to make friends at the public school, and things are really going my way. Going to the private school for 15 days will make it really hard to go back to the public school. I really dont know what to do cause it's a lot of money we will get back, yet i am really startin to fit in at the public school.

since this is long I will rate high!!!!!!!!!!

If you'Re "Really staRtin to fit in" at public school"... you'll still be accepted two weeks lateR. Yeah, you may not WANT to switch back to pRivate school, but it's only foR a shoRt amount of time. And just think of how geneRous it was of youR paRents to spend all of that money to send you theRe.. and now you decide you don't want to go?? That's Really unfaiR to them.. they'Re out allll of that money now!! I say just go, and show them how much you appReciate theiR attempts. I hope eveRything woRks out!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ hello all. i wrote a book and it got published and the publisher said that my book would be in stores by june 14th and there still arent any books in any stores. any advice on why i cant find my book anywhere or what to say to my "agent/publisher?"

Uhm, I would say go stRaight to the souRce.. confRont him on it! It won't come off and being Rude oR accusing him... it's just YOUR woRk and YOU want to know what's going on!! I Really do hope things woRk out!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ my b/f goes to NH every weekend and has a lot of friends up there .. a lot of them are girls .. i am obviously wicked jealous because he is seriouisly very cute/hott.. so girls would like him.. anyways, some girl keeps callin me from his phone and asking for me then hanging up.. she did it yesterday and at 9 in the morning today .. its really pissing me off - what should i say to him when he gets back!? HELP! i dont wanna come off like a bitch but i want him to know that im not takin his shit anymore and he cant just walk all over me like that ..sry its long

Dude, that's bullshit! And you'Re Right.. you d.e.f.i.n.i.t.e.l.y should NOT have to put up with that cRap!! I say just flat out tell him, so he Really undeRstands what the problem is.. don't confuse and pRolong things by beating aRound the bush; get stRaight to it and be *BOLD*! You can do it!! I have the utmost faith in you!! Hope I helped!! =D

♥[?]♥ My so called friend i think is only my friend cuz he likes my girlfriend and he even said so, i think there is a chance that she likes him, should i see if she really wants to go with him, or let her know that he really is a jerk or what...?? help please!!

Uhm, well you could tell heR what a jeRk she is, but then encouRage heR to foRm heR OWN opinion of him!!! And if it tuRns out that she *DOES* want to go out with this guy.. I'd end it with heR and let it go. Honestly, why devote youRself to someone who devote theiRself to you?? Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? ShoRe.. she can SAY she wants to be with you.. but if she wants someone else.. how badly can she Really want you, ya know? Not veRy! It's unfaiR, not mention a huge waste of youR time. I wish the best foR you! Hope I helped!!

♥[?]♥ Im a 16 year old girl im bi sexual and I have a g/f but I like this other girl she is a really good friend and thats all I want and she knows that, but the other day she was really mean to me we were hanging out thw whole day but then when we went on the bus her and my other good friend started making fun of me for no reason i was so nice to both of them the whole day and for some reason it really hurt, and for some reason i still like her! what should I do to let them know that they hurt me and get our friendship better?

Just tell them it was a suck-ass thing to do, and you don't appReciate it, and you'd neveR eveR think of doing something like that to them. I don't see why youR fRiend would do something like that.. peRhaps she was tRying to impRess heR otheR fRiend?? If she keeps up this behavioR, I say ditch the giRl... she's not woRthy of youR time *OR* youR teaRs... and you d.e.f.i.n.i.t.e.l.y should NOT have to be putting up with heR cRap!! Hope I helped!!

♥[?]♥ Ok well I have this boyfriend and he doesnt go to my school or anything. I meet him through my friend from soccer camp. We started talking online and then a while later we started going out. Later he broke up with me saying that he disn't think things were going to work out because we still hadn't seen each other. Now a year later, we still haven't seen each other but we are going out again. I am thinking that now I don't want to go out with him until I see him and stuff. How should I tell him this without hurting him too much? (I have never broken up with anybody before) please help soon!!! Thanx and I'll rate you!

Just ask him to hang out. Uhm, oR if he lives out of state.. then ask him to get some pictuRes. Just let him know it's Really awkwaRd; I'm shoRe he'll undeRstand. Hell, I bet he feels it too! Goodluck; hope I helped!! =D

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