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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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14/f. I have a hairy stomache. I thought this was normal untill my one friend said something to me. Theres like blonde hairs on my stomache, its not that noticable, but it is somewhat. Is this okay? If not what is wrong with me?

All girls have body hair. I shave mine. If you don't like it, then remove it by either shaving, waxing, or using something like Veet or Nair.

I want to get my tounge pierced. Does it hurt? And I was told you cant eat dairy products for like a week? and does it require a lot of maintence? Also do guys like it?

I wouldn't know how a tounge piercing feels, but my brother got his done, as did my cousin who's the same age as me.

When my brother got his done, he couldn't eat solid food [chicken, french fries, etc] for about a week or two. So the most he could eat was soup, ice cream, or Jell-O, and he said that drinking things worked too. My brother said it didn't hurt at all.

When my cousin got her's done, she drooled a lot. And said that it didn't hurt when she actually got it done, but when the process was over & done with.

After you get the piercing, your tounge will be swollen, and it'll be diffucult to talk, and you'll sound funny, but the piercing should be fine.

As for the pain, it's different for everyone. It hurts for some [like my cousin], but not for others [like my brother]. So what hurts to you, might not hurt to someone else.

Whoever told you that you couldn't eat dairy products might want to learn what they're talking about, or rethink it.

It might require a lot of maintenance due to the simple fact that to clean it you need to use mouthwash. Where I live, they want you to use the Yellow Listerine instead of any of the others because they said that that bottle is better for the healing process.

Some guys like it, and some guys don't. I personally think it's trashy, but I don't care if people get it done. It's their decision, their tounge & their sacrificed food.

Make sure that when you get this piercing done, they open everything in front of you, and let you know everything. Such as what they're going to do, how it's done, how to clean & take care of it, and what to eat & what not to eat. If they don't do that, or already have their needles out, walk out & find yourself another place because they might be dirty & give you an infection or a disease. Also, be careful with this piercing because there are a lot of nerves that you cannot see & if they were to hit one of these nerves while piercing you, you wouldn't be able to feel your tounge, tell the difference between hot & cold, or taste again. So please, please be careful. And good luck!

i'm a 17 year old straight male. lately i've been kind of attracted to my step-brother. he's 20 and also straight.

why am i doing this? i basically have the urge to have oral sex with him, but i know that i would never be in a relationship with a guy. i guess i just want a one-night-stand kind of thing, because i know that i am attracted to women. it's just the thought of going down on him that excites me. what's going on?

(please don't say that i'm developing a homosexual lifestyle. i like women and i know it. and i'm not bisexual)

I don't think you're devoloping that lifestyle, or becoming a bisexual person, BUT I think you're curious as to what it would be like to be with a man.

It's not a problem though, as it will pass.

This is a REALLY wierd question but -- I can't stop thinking about it, lmfao.
In school, in a boys public bathroom, are the urinals out in the open? Or do they have walls to seperate them. Because couldn't boys make fun of other boys' penis' size?
Haha, i'm just curious :)

At my school, they had the urinals out in the open as far as I know. Haha, I got a little curious & decided to go in one of them one day. But some schools are different & have little walls to seperate them for privacy.

Hey im a 14/f and i am haveing boyfriend issues or obvi. ex boyfriend cuz he dumped me but we were going out for alomos a year. And he just dumped me in front of all his friend's. and it was very humileating. and it made me feel so bad. And now he is talking crap about me and calling me all this sh** And saying that i do drugs and stuff when we all no i dont so can you help ??

Just ignore the rumors. If you know they're not true, don't let them get to you.

He wants to get a rise out of you. Don't let him get that joy.

any sites BESIDES youtube and musixzone that have music that i can listen to the album for free? and like just open it up? also, totally random, but if you know, what kind of music is paramore like?

What other bands are like them you mean?

The Almost.
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Taking Back Sunday.
The Hush Sound.
The Sounds.
Everlife.
Boys Like Girls.
The Academy Is...
Sugarcult.
Senses Fail.
Saosin.
Pistolita.
Envy On The Coast.
Therefore I Am.
Down To Earth Approach.
All Time Low.
This Providence.
Say Anything.
New Found Glory.
Avril Lavigne.

ive had my period for almost 2 years now and i still cant use tampons. it just won't go in! what do i do?

You're probably doing it wrong.

ok so like im reading a magazine. and im thinking about love and guys. duhh. lol so i was just wondering like what do you guys like in girls? like i know this question is always asked. but im going to give stuff and you guys can answer me.
+ do you find it annoying if the girl is clutzy or is falling sometimes or alot?
+do you care if she wears designer clothing?
+what do you look for as a gift? liek for your b-day
+do you get mad if a girl wraps the present really nicely? or if its hard to unwrap it
+do you hate it if the girl is smarter than you?
+ do you care if the girl is chubby?
+ or if she sucks in her stomach? so it looks like shes skinny
+or how she always has to look good?
+ if she has love handles? or really really small ones?
+ if shes really athletic?
+ or not at all?
+ if shes blonde? (like brains wise)

thankss =]

I'm not a guy, [although I am bisexual] but I'm going to answer like one. I was a tomboy for many years of my childhood, so I know how they think most of the time.

[1] Sort of. I mean, it's okay sometimes, and can be kinda funny, but when it happens to much it can get on someone's nerves.
[2] Nope. As long as she's clean & dresses nice, that's fine. I don't need name brands to impress me. Your clothes can be cute without being expensive & having a name on it.
[3] No. I honestly like it when people wrap my things. It makes it more of a surprise, and I end up liking it more in the end, and if a girl can wrap nice, you know she takes her time & is neat.
[4] Sometimes. I'd like a girl to be smart, but when a girl is too smart, it's a turn off because then I feel dumb. I'd like to think we'd be equally as intelligent as the other.
[5] Nope. A girl doesn't have to be thin to be beautiful. I actually think that someone's imperfections make them beautiful. There's is no such thing as perfect, so I like flaws. No one will ever be perfect. And I don't expect it.
[6] Yeah. If she's trying too hard to be skinny, then it can be a turn off. I mean, I'm sure she wants to look nice, but going to drastic measures such as making herself cut her breathing off to look thinner is a little extreme. I don't care if they're skinny or chunky. More to love!
[7] A girl doesn't always have to look good & dress herself up & do her make up and hair. A girl can be pretty with sweats & messy hair with no makeup. She'd be just as pretty, and it wouldn't matter to me any less.
[8] Love handles are nothing. Lots of girls have them.
[9] I think athletic girls are more fun because you can do more with them. You can play sports together instead of always sitting around & watching tv or something.
[10] If she's not athletic, that's cool too. Sports aren't for everyone.
[11] I have my blonde moments too, so it's fine. =) I think they're pretty funny & can spice the relationship up because they give you a good laugh. As long as she's not a total airhead, then it's cool.

I'd also like to stress this a bit: I hang out with guys, so I know how my friends think, but not all guys think this way. Some guys are shallow & always go for looks rather than a girls personality, so don't think that every guy is gonna be like this. They're not.

im 15/f. whenever i find out a guy i like is gonna ask me out my immediate thoughts are: how is this going to end? if we date am i going to end up breaking up with him? will he end up hurting me? will we end up hating each other? this always happens and it ruins everything. how can i stop focusing on it ending when it hasnt even begun?

Start and think positively about it. Such as "He might like me, and he might think I'm attractive. This could last, and be a good relationship. We might not break up."

Instead of thinking what you normally do, think the opposite, positive. =)

do not send me to the FAQ.

how many 5's does it take to go up by one point after
getting a 4?

eg. i had a 4.89 rating. i got one 4. it went down to
4.88. i got 3 fives & it went up to 4.89.

or does it all depend on how many ratings / points
you have?

thaaanksss

I think it all depends on how many ratings and points you have.

But remember: 5's are not important. Giving them good, honest advice is. Ratings should mean nothing to you. The real pleasure is in helping them solve their problems.

hey everyone i have this huge pimple above my lips :( how do you pop a pimple?? please anwser as soon as possible ty ty ty !!

To pop a pimple, you squeeze it together until you see puss come out & it bleeds. I don't recommend doing it though because it'll hurt, it'll bleed, and it'll scar.

If you want to lose them the normal way, wash your face twice a day, if not more & just make sure you get rid of your blackheads because they're what leads to pimples. =)

Your shirt in your defualt picture is super cute.
Where is it from!?

Thanks :)

- xWAWCKYJACKIEx

My friend actually gave me that shirt. I'm not friends with her anymore, so I've not idea where she got it from.

But the white shirt underneath my mysterious polo is from Wet Seal.

Thank you, btw. =)

Hey im a 14/f and i have these to guy friends that i have known since 3rd grade and we three are tight andi love them bolth to death!!! And they bolth know that i just broke up with my boyfriend braedon. And obvi. they bolth like me cuz they tolled me and they bolth asked me out. i dont know who to pick one is a skater boy who is like soo sweet and one is really cute and sweet and makes me stuff all da time. so can you help?? who should i pick ?
Love,
tangled in love !!

Pick the one you've got more in common with, the one who's company you enjoy most, and the one you see yourself being happy with.

Is it true that wearing a wired bra to bed stops your boobs from growing as much, and wearing a sports bra makes them have room to grow?

Yeah. That's how my boobs grew. I never wore an underwire bra to bed, and my boobs grow. Now that my boobs are finally good enough, I wear an underwire to bed now so they don't grow anymore.

ok, so i have an 8th grade graduation coming up, and ive been looking for a really cute graduation dress. i have the perfect dress in my mind, i just cant seem to find a pretty dress anywhere. Im looking for a kind of baby doll dress, thats dressy. Maybe a short dress to the knee or something. Please help!

Try Macy's.

umm i havent gotten my period for two months already. is that normal. i havent had any intercourse so i cant be pregnat. what wrong?

Yeah. When you just get your period, it'll be irregular for the first two or three years. As you get older, it'll regulate itself out. No worries. =)

what plae sells board shorts under $30??????! thanx! websites pleeease!

I only know of Pac Sun and Zumies selling them, but they might be a little more than $30, and a little less than $50.

16/f.. okay, well my mom is always a really chill and laidback person.. and i love her to death.. which is why she makes me so upset sooo easily. now i won't go into detail, but i have scoliosis [i'm not like defective, it just causes some hardships sometimesss] and she sometimes babies me cause of it.. or feels bad for me and gives in to most things i say. i also have a boyfriend whos the same age as me [4 months older] who i've been with for 9 and 1/2 months.. we all love him to death. but whenever he wants to go somewhere and invites me, if for whatever reason my mom doesn't let me go, she tells me to just let him be with his friends.. which is no problem for me- he IS allowed to have a life haha. but anyway, now he's going on a 2-3 day vacation with his best friend, best friends brother, and best friends dad.. and she's like mad at him for it!!! wtf, rightt!?!? i don't get it.. why does it bother her? and i thought she was just preaching to me let him be with his friends!?? its not like i never see him.. he sleeps over friday and saturday nights usually.. and she's being a total weirdo. whenever he goes somewhere she gets mad at him. and hes the kinda kid, where if someone gets mad at him, he doesn't usually say sorry.. he just gets mad right back [depends on the reason, etc] so last night.. before he got out of our car to go him.. he gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek, and said bye i love you.. she just kinda smirked and looked away.. then he said i'm sorry.. HE SAID SORRY!! for going away with his friends! what the heck dude. and thats my 1st problem with her.. the other one is, she like never wants to talk to me.. if we're in the car and she in a bad mood, if i try and talk to her she turns the radio up so she can't here me. or if we're at home she'll walk away.. or if its on the phone she even hangs up sometimes. i don't get her at all.. she makes me feel like she hates me, and only loves me cause she feels sorry for me.. its like i know she loves me cause duh, im her kid.. but she never cares about how i feel or anything.. and if i try to tell her, she just goes 'oh shut up you're being a baby' now i mean i don't really complain alot about this kind of stuff.. i usually just shake it off and i'm fine. cause i don't wanna sound like a whiner, cause i definitely am not. i just can't take this anymore. i wish my mom would be freaking normal!!! and if i tell her that, she just tell me to shut up. so i'm lost and i have no idea what to do anymore. she already told me to stop calling her at work unless the house is burning down, and i just emailed her and kinda told her how i feel.. and she replied with a simple 'ok' so i really am all out of ideas. thanks in advancee ♥ ♥ ♥

I think you have a right to feel this way. Your mom is definitely acting weird & only showing a care because of your scoliosis. I mean, she should care about that, no doubt, but that's not all she should care about. She should care about you in general, and how you feel & what you do.

BUT, although you think your mom may not love or care for you, I doubt that is the case. Some people have a funny way of showing they care, or showing someone that they love them. My dad completely ignores me, and rarely talks to me. He doesn't seem to care how I think, or what I feel, and he yells at me a lot. He rarely ever tells me he loves me, and he never shows emotion [unless he's mad] and the only time I've ever heard him tell me he loved me was when I went to Puerto Rico for 5 days last year. But even though that's my how my father is, I know he loves me & he cares about me. But the way he was raised, he doesn't show emotion & it's sort of hard for him too. Sometimes it makes me think he hates me, and rather I wasn't alive, but when my dad gets smashed, my mom said that's when the truth poors out. She told me he said that he loves me and my brother more than anything in the world, and that he wishes he could show us, but he doesn't know how. He also said he wishes he can give us whatever we want, but he can't. He wants to see us happy, but he can't because there is nothing to make us happy.

Although your mother doesn't show it, she cares about you, so don't doubt her. Just sit down with her & talk to her about it calmly. I realize she said you okay, but if you talk to her about it face to face, it might mean more since it's not just another email in her inbox. She needs to hear it to her face. She doesn't wanna read it. I'm sure your mother will understand & try to get where you're coming from, because I definitely know how you feel.

I'd really like to raise money for a foundation such as the Breast Cancer 3 Day Walk. Is there any other similar websites, like http://www.the3day.org, where I can create my little page to help raise money? Thanks!

I know HTML, but not enough to make an actual site.

Ask this question to theymos since he's like a freaking genius in that type of stuff, & see how he can help. =) Good luck with your page. It's a very good cause.

are new seasons of laguna beach or the hills going to come on tv? i know hills season 2 just ended, but i mean in the future.

I'm sure they will. The hills just ended, and they're definitely going to make a season three of it because they're gonna have to show how things worked out with Spencer and Heidi, and how things are going for Whitney at Teen Vogue.

As for Laguna, they should. They're always the kids younger than the ones on there who are filthy rich. So I don't see why not. =)

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