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my moms usually cool but is being reallll dumbb...
16/f.. okay, well my mom is always a really chill and laidback person.. and i love her to death.. which is why she makes me so upset sooo easily. now i won't go into detail, but i have scoliosis [i'm not like defective, it just causes some hardships sometimesss] and she sometimes babies me cause of it.. or feels bad for me and gives in to most things i say. i also have a boyfriend whos the same age as me [4 months older] who i've been with for 9 and 1/2 months.. we all love him to death. but whenever he wants to go somewhere and invites me, if for whatever reason my mom doesn't let me go, she tells me to just let him be with his friends.. which is no problem for me- he IS allowed to have a life haha. but anyway, now he's going on a 2-3 day vacation with his best friend, best friends brother, and best friends dad.. and she's like mad at him for it!!! wtf, rightt!?!? i don't get it.. why does it bother her? and i thought she was just preaching to me let him be with his friends!?? its not like i never see him.. he sleeps over friday and saturday nights usually.. and she's being a total weirdo. whenever he goes somewhere she gets mad at him. and hes the kinda kid, where if someone gets mad at him, he doesn't usually say sorry.. he just gets mad right back [depends on the reason, etc] so last night.. before he got out of our car to go him.. he gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek, and said bye i love you.. she just kinda smirked and looked away.. then he said i'm sorry.. HE SAID SORRY!! for going away with his friends! what the heck dude. and thats my 1st problem with her.. the other one is, she like never wants to talk to me.. if we're in the car and she in a bad mood, if i try and talk to her she turns the radio up so she can't here me. or if we're at home she'll walk away.. or if its on the phone she even hangs up sometimes. i don't get her at all.. she makes me feel like she hates me, and only loves me cause she feels sorry for me.. its like i know she loves me cause duh, im her kid.. but she never cares about how i feel or anything.. and if i try to tell her, she just goes 'oh shut up you're being a baby' now i mean i don't really complain alot about this kind of stuff.. i usually just shake it off and i'm fine. cause i don't wanna sound like a whiner, cause i definitely am not. i just can't take this anymore. i wish my mom would be freaking normal!!! and if i tell her that, she just tell me to shut up. so i'm lost and i have no idea what to do anymore. she already told me to stop calling her at work unless the house is burning down, and i just emailed her and kinda told her how i feel.. and she replied with a simple 'ok' so i really am all out of ideas. thanks in advancee ♥ ♥ ♥
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I think you have a right to feel this way. Your mom is definitely acting weird & only showing a care because of your scoliosis. I mean, she should care about that, no doubt, but that's not all she should care about. She should care about you in general, and how you feel & what you do.
BUT, although you think your mom may not love or care for you, I doubt that is the case. Some people have a funny way of showing they care, or showing someone that they love them. My dad completely ignores me, and rarely talks to me. He doesn't seem to care how I think, or what I feel, and he yells at me a lot. He rarely ever tells me he loves me, and he never shows emotion [unless he's mad] and the only time I've ever heard him tell me he loved me was when I went to Puerto Rico for 5 days last year. But even though that's my how my father is, I know he loves me & he cares about me. But the way he was raised, he doesn't show emotion & it's sort of hard for him too. Sometimes it makes me think he hates me, and rather I wasn't alive, but when my dad gets smashed, my mom said that's when the truth poors out. She told me he said that he loves me and my brother more than anything in the world, and that he wishes he could show us, but he doesn't know how. He also said he wishes he can give us whatever we want, but he can't. He wants to see us happy, but he can't because there is nothing to make us happy.
Although your mother doesn't show it, she cares about you, so don't doubt her. Just sit down with her & talk to her about it calmly. I realize she said you okay, but if you talk to her about it face to face, it might mean more since it's not just another email in her inbox. She needs to hear it to her face. She doesn't wanna read it. I'm sure your mother will understand & try to get where you're coming from, because I definitely know how you feel.
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