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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
advice
its kinda weird that i have my own advice cloumn here but yet have more problems then half the ppl here... anyway...
my best friend who ive known since i was like 0 is a year younger then me and this is her freshamn year and shes messing her entire life up shes sneaking out all the time and having UNPROTECTED sex with a boy shes not even dating and who is 17 and whos using her and she knows it but wont stop and shes hanging out with the wrong ppl and her parents favor her older sister and shes just ruining everything for herslef shes a georgous girl and was validvictorian in 8th grade and has everything good going for her and is throwing it all out the window ive talked to her numerous times about all this and she says shes gonna change but doesnt and im just afraid shes gonna end up pregnany with a mixed baby and ruin her life forever PLEASE HELP ME thanks in advance!
Okay, when you say her parents 'favor' her older sister? has she told you this like alot before? or do you just think they do. Because, if she feels like.. bad & stuff about that, i gurantee its a cry for attention. Tell her, your there for her & like all that kinda stuff. & just really want her to stop doing that, because shes way better then that & stuff like that. & if she has told you that she thinks her parents favor her older sister.. when your over her house just be like .. talk really loud so her parents can hear. or something. lol just be like.. yeahhhh they do favor your sister alot. or something. sorry, i dont know how you could exactly tell them yourself, but oh you could tell her to tell them that she feels neglected & stuff too.
Sorry, that that was like all not in order & perfect sentences, but lol my puppy keeps jumping all around & im trying to watch her. ha but hope i helped.
how can i save money besides saving change and shopping smart?
do you get an allowance or anything?
ok, say you do..& you get 10 dollars a week. put 5 in your purse for shopping money & put the other 5 in your piggy bank or whatevs. or like, you could get a job too. like paper route. my brother makes like 100 dollars a month from that.. or babysitting. &then once you get a job or something, just start saving the way i said. itll add up super quick. (:
cyaaaa
okay, so i will get right to it.
last year my best friend and i got in a huge fight & didnt talk for like 3-4 months.. but then we apologized blah blah & so on.. now we aren't best friends, but working towards it again, i guess you could say.
over that time & this year, however, i have also gotten close to some of my other friends.
so flat out, my group of good friends aren't nearly as good of friends with my old best friend so i can never hang out with them both at one time, so its really hard for me.
my group of friends are basically making me choose & think im ditching them for her [ive only hung out with my old bf twice this whole year] and its not fair and i dont know what to do because i love them all so much and i want to have everyone, but they just dont seem to want me to?
i dont know, this is kind of hard to phrase without using names.
but any advice would be appreciated :] thank you so much.
Are you newer better friends kinda snobbish/mean? because, thats how my old group of friends were. they always said that i couldn't hang out with anyone besides the people in the group. or else i was ditching them. & if i did that, then i wasn't a true friend. & thats thee stupidestttt thing i've ever heard. i ended up leaving them [even though it was hard] because they werent true friends if they didnt want me to make other friends, with like.. normal kids. the other kids i made friends with werren't in to all the girly stuff i did, but they actually new how to have fun. so it worked out.
but, i guess your situation is a tad different then mine. because you & your old friend got into a fight..ok. well think.. what made you two split up? & could it happen again? think what group who you truly like better. & whos been there for you more.
i hope that helped. (: cyaa
im 16/f. i used to be a cheerleader a long time ago. i realized that was one of the only things to make me happy and i want to start doing it again, but i have no flexability and i'm pretty out of shape. what are some things i can do to get back into shape before basketball or football cheerleading tryouts? thanks in advance =]
i'd do a competitive team, intill football or basketball next year or whatevs.. & take tumbling too. & exercise. & if you can buy a trampoline.
Being on a competitive team, will help with your cheers & stuff. [which you'll probably need if you haven't cheerleaded in over a year..]
you neeeddddd tumbling. if your not flexible at all, then you really really need tumbling. tumbling will tottally get you flexible & in shape.
trampolines are great too..[depending where you live if its snowing outside or not..] but, well when summber comes deff. get a trampoline. you can practice all over your jumps, & flip on there.
do all of that, & be really devoted to it, & you'll make basketball or football cheerleading.
But, make sure you really wanna be a cheerleader, because its pretty devoting. I've missed alot of fun things, just because I had to be like 3 hours away from home for cheerleading. like, parties & stuff.
& depending where you live.. or go to cheer..it will most likely be probably every day. so your also probably giving up.. 4 hours of your time [that include cheerleading & tumbling]
so, also make sure you have the time.
cheerleading is veryy fun though. (:
19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?
Thats kinda funny, I practically just went through that same thing, only I'm like 14. ha. & you know, I really really really liked the bad kid he was like different & I wanted to see what he was like. & all that you know what I mean..but, then he wanted me to do things, I wasn't gonna do when I was just 14. so, he got mad & doesn't talk to me anymore, actually that kinda happened twice to me. Only, the first time, I fell for it. Anyways, after going through it the second time, I realized they were both just using me. because according to people at my school, i'm like the best kisser, & then i have like the hottest face & a 'bangin' body? so yep. I think, you should stick with blake. he sounds better then the other guy nate. when bad boys get that reputation, it most likely means they really are.
Don't be too hard on yourself, just stop doing it. & then it'll get better. Nate seems like hes more of one of those guys who treats girls like an item. not a person. I don't know.. thats just what I got from what you said.
You could also just take a break from guys completely.. =/ to figure out what you truly want.
I hope that helped a litle.
Me and my friends really like Fall Out Boy but I think I'm the only one that likes them for them , not just cause Pete it cute.So this guy wants to give their cd to one of us and I really want it but I know he isn't going to give it to me but I really want it! I also don't wanna get all mad at my friend if she gets it or something but I want this "contest" to atleast be fair but my friend doesn't agree with me. What should I do to agree with me or atleast be fair about this thing?
CDs arn't very expensive. (: there only like 15 dollars. Just go buy it, & get out of that arguement with your friends.. so they can figure it out for themselves. (: You can't force them to agree with you.. usually what people believe is what people stick to, & don't let anyone let them change there minds. so just be a good fan & support them by buying there cd. (:
I feel like I have NO friends. People ignore me all the time on AIM, MSN, and Yahoo. I always have to talk to them first, but they never go to me first, even after asking them what's going on, and leaving them alone for months. But when I do that, they just forget who I am on their list, or delete me because of no reason. Even at school, nobody ever goes up to me and talks to me. On the weekends, I beg friends to hang out with me at the movies, but they give me some b/s like "oh, i am busy this weekend" every weekend! So I am always by myself at lunch, or stuck at home having nothing to do. I always have to do the talking first, and when I do talk to them, they have very little to say to me. And ALL of my friends do this!! They never even find time for me.
I just don't see a point in living anymore.. nobody texts my cell phone anymore, even after sending loads of texts (Not ONE response), and waiting for them to text me first (still, NO texts)
I try SO hard to keep up with my friends but they are always going somewhere else but around me. I don't recall once of annoying them in some way. I don't even get messages or comments on Myspace. Friends keep deleting me off without any warning or reason, and they eventually stop talking to me. Friends are always ditching me for their boyfriend or girlfriend. Also, I haven't received a call from any of my friends in a year!! Not one...
I just want to end my life because no matter how hard I try, I can't make new friends, or keep them, because it seems like they are mad at me. I did ask them what is going on and they just give me "oh, nothing...." and walk off.
I tried counseling. Didn't work!! I tried talking to a teacher into getting me friends, and that never even lasts either.
I don't smell. I shower every day. In fact, mostly twice a day. I brush my teeth 3 times a day, use deodorant, and wash my clothes so I wear them clean -- so hygiene can't be the problem. I am nice, polite, and I am extremely giving. On Holidays I give people gifts but I get nothing back. I don't even get invited to my "bestfriends'" birthday parties.
What can I do???? (sorry this is long but I appreciate it sooo much if you helped me out!!) This has been hard for me to endure.
Well, your obviously trying. So, thats not the problem. Maybe you did something. or maybe they think you did something or said something. you know what I mean? Make new friends. forget them, they obviously suck. or, you could ask them what the heck you ever even did to them, like force them to tell you. like just keep asking. because if they go .."oh nothing.." they probably expect you to know what the problem is. just think really hard. what could you have ever ever done, the smallest thing to them.
Do you go to a small school? If you do go to a small school, I'd switch schools. But, if its huge.. then you can find some new friends. Find people who don't know your name or anything. & be super friendly to them, & stuff like that.
If you can switch schools, start off all new, don't hang out with anyone that may know you.
& just be supersuper friendly. & it will get
better, promise. (: & theres always a reason
for anyone to live. so don't do anything you'd
know you'd regret later.
Do you have any brothers or sisters your close to? or mom or dad that your close to? Hang out with them.. sometimes family can be cooler then
you think.
I hope everything works out, & just hang in there. everyoneee goes through a time where they don't have friends. I just actually, went through it. & i know it sucks. so dont worry i know how it feels. but, it gets better. just be happy your the nicer person who didn't do the ditching. because my old friends sucked, they were so mean. be happy they pushed you away, your way better then them.
17/female:
I'm having a confusing problem...
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months (1 year in March). And for a while now I've been kinds thinking like where is our relationship going? Things aren't the same as they were in the beginning and I feel like i'm getting "bored".
I was rushed into the relationship because he fell for me straight away, so I guess I kinda went along with it and then grew to like him later on and hence why we stayed together.
Anyways I went away on holiday with my college to barcelona for a week, and Me and my friend were hanging out with these cool and REALLY good looking guys (that came with us but we haven't really spoken to before because we were new). She told me that she thinks one of them liked me but I thought she was just making things up and I just brushed it off thinking that he was only being friendly.
However when I came back from the trip, I get a text from him saying that he likes me and wants to go out with me. I told him I have a boyfriend and he's still interested.
The problem is that I really like him and I think that he's SOOOOOOO good looking and has a nice personality (really caring etc..). And i'm already going off my boyfriend so what should I do?
Should I dump my boyfriend and see what happens with this guy or what? Because even if I do dump my boyfriend I wouldn't just be doing it to go out with this guy.
Please help, sorry its so long!
I think, you should dump your boyfriend. Because, if you don't like your boyfriend anymore, & have no attraction for him, then why should you lead him on & let yourself miss out on another new person? So, I'd go out with the new guy that you like. But, when you do go out with that other guy, don't like telll everyonee & stuff.. or like your boyfriend or his friends type thing, because then it will make you look bad, that you dumped your boyfriend for some other guy. I don't think it makes a person look bad,but alot of people do.
So yeah, just go with the person you want to be with.
my bff just told me she had sex for her first time when she was 10 and shes still havin sex alot shes only 13 she says not to tell anyone or else she'll be grounded for life
Isn't there a law about how old you can do that stuff? or no. I don't know, maybe not. Anyways, if I were you, I'd tell. Pretend like it wasn't on purpose. Be on the phone with her, & be in the same room as your mom or dad or someone. & then be like.. "So wait.. ___ you had sex with who?" & then your mom will be like.. say whattt. & stuff. She may not like you for it. But, I personally think its for her own good. Shes too young for that stuff. & really doesn't know what shes getting herself into.
ok soo heres what going on. my and my bestfriend (that i have been friends with for 3 years now) are trying to become friends again. after she kissed my boyfriend and slept over his house while i was going out with him at the time. he broke up with me last last monday and went out with my bestfriend!! and they both never even told me and i aksed her 3 times and she dennied it all 3 times!!! and then i found out and she was like lahh i`m sooo sorry and she tried to turn it all around on me but it didn't work! and she would talk shit behind my back and just yesterday she messaged me on myspace and was like ahh i really wanna be friends again blah blah blah ( a huge paragraph) and i was like idon't know i don't really trust you and you talked shit about me and now its like we never even met. i miss her sooooo mucha dn she misses me more then ever! and i just don't know what to do! it was the most bitchiest thing someone has even done to me!! really i wanted to die! and it wasn't just that i had a lot of other shit going on too! sooo should i be her friend again?
No, no, & no.
Don't be friends with her again.
Because, think about the good chance she'll do it again. She knew what she was doing, & she knew it would hurt you, if she did that. Shes not a true friend whatsoever. The only reason shes apologizing so much is because, shes trying to save her self, from everyone hating her. This same thing happened to me somewhat. Ditch her, she sucks.
This guy i like, he knows i like him, we go to the same school and we speak on msn etc. The thing is on msn he kinda acts like he likes me, like i once done this favour for him and (on msn) he kept saying 'oh, your the best, your so great' for about an hour!!! But then, the next day he didn't mention it at all, he didn't even just say 'thanks'.
He won't have a proper convosation with me in public but on msn he won't stop talking to me. Like, he would talk to me in public like just messing around, but in class (he's in nearly all mine) all he would do is just give me a little smile but not say hi or anything. We sometimes hang out at lunch, but in a big group so we don't speak that much. But, when we mess around he like takes things from my pocket and that.
Is he doing this on purpose?? And what does he mean by it???
Please help xxx
Hes probably just shy. It's alot easier for people to talk over the internet, instead of face to face. Because, when its over the internet, you can think about what you wanna say, or ask someone what you should say. But, when your face to face with people, you can't be like to the person next to you.."Should I say.." & then you can't like think forever about what you wanna say either. It's so on the spot. I think hes just shy. Don't be shy though, like instead of waiting for him to say something to you, go up to him. & just be like heyy! & stuff like that.
Just be yourself, & keep talking to him. (:
i was talkin to my boyfriend one day on aim and he said he was gonna hack into my computer and i was like um no and he was like why not you have nothing to hide right? well he did it anyway and i know he did because he then proceeded to read me a myspace msg from some guy [i had just met him and he lives on the opposite side of the country so it was just a random msg] and was askin me about it like testin me and sayin i think this guy likes you and all this crap [he said i was cool. thats it] and i was like no how can he i dont even know him?! and he said so youre sayin he didnt say he likes you? and i was like no? and he said dont lie to me. i eventually got him to quit and he swore he wont do it again but i told him that makes me feel invaded and he was like well you have nothing to hide right? and i was like thats not the point! ugh so now i dont know what to do bc i feel i cant do anything on here cuz he'll hack into it. he always says he trusts me and ive never given him a reason not to its not like he was suspicious of me cheatin or anything, so he had no reason to do it! also anytime i say im msging or talkin to or goin out with one of my friends he asks who over and over again until i give him a name [he doesnt even know my friends personally except for 2]. ugh i hate it! i hate sharing so much info. but if i dont tell him he gets irritated with me and holds it against me. i dont know what my question is but helpp?? 16-f hes 17-m.
Hes over protective. He probably cares about you so much, that he always wants to make sure you feel the same way, because hes also insecure. Maybe somewhere gave him a reason to doubt your trust. Who knows, guys are queer like that. haha, but anyways, I'd just be honest with him & just tell him how you feel.
If he never stops, & it reallly bugs you, then dump him.
I"m seriously doubting anyone can help me with my problems but here goes anyway. I have a daughter that just turned 18. She is so lost, she has given me problems since she was 11, well now shes 18 and her life consists of black men,crack and sleeping with as many as she can. She was recently disgnosed with a veneral disease and confessed to her oldest sister that she may of slept with a man who was HIV. She is a leading influence on her 13 yr. old sister who is following in her path as hard as she can. I"ve had to get the law to look the 13 yr. old twice this week. She is failing school and I can't reach her. She and her sister are so full of hate towards me, I;ve been called so many foul names, I can't take much more. I'm thinking of sending the 13 yr.old to boot camp. I tried to send my 18 yr. old last year, but they called me to come and get her because she was threating staff. I am a decent person, I dont drink, smoke, I work hard, I feel like its my fault, they are this way. I so depressed, I think it would be better to be dead sometimes, if I didnt have to keep watch on my 82 yr. old father, I saw a therapist once ,but they cost to much. what do I do?
Send the oldest one to a boot camp, or something. Like, seriously .You don't deserve that..if I ever said bad words or something to my mom, I'd be off to in all girl boarding school. Infact, send the younger one to an all girl boarding school. Save the younger one, before its too late..
long story short -
i spoke to this guy on friday and spoke to him for a whole week. we made out on saturday (last night) he doesnt want a relationship, but i do. i'm sick and tired of hearing about guys breaking girl's hearts. how can i draw him into me? and play hard to get, but not too hard because i already tried that and it's sooo hard, i can't draw away from him that much without making him think i'm not interested (which might him go away and i don't want that) i know the age difference is a lot, but i know this can work. it's possible. i know it. i'm 14/f, he just turned 17. come on guys don't doubt me! any tips at all?
i really liked how those 4 girls in just tucker must die broke his heart. but i can't do the things they did, because this is a different case. please help!
Of course he doesn't want a girlfriend. No one in highschool is usually into serious relationships.. espically guys. Atleast where I live. That is an age difference, & my old brother, whos 17. [i'm fourteen] he would never wanna date one of my friends. he thinks there still imature. so, ehh i'd forget him.
but, i guess to play hard to get.. what I do, is im just not all over him. i like, smile & like twist my hair & stuff, but i'm not all over someone.
i hope that helped a little.
there is this boy and after i dumped him for his friend and he hates me and i feel sooo bad now and i cheated on him onece because i thought he was cheating on me and now everybody hates me and i feel bad and there calling me like a slut or a whore and making my friends hate me and now he heates me and he hates his friend and i feel sooo bad i need help what should i do to make everybody not hate me
Well, what do you expect? I mean, come on. You cheat on the poor kid, & then dump him for his friend, hell, i'd call you a slut & stuff too.
Just keep apologizing, & even maybe try to get some tears to your eyes, eventually, some other kid will do something worse, & it'll be forgotten. If your friends are starting to not like you..then there not real friends. Espically, if you told them what happened & stuff.
Find a way to prove your sorry.
It'll blow over, in a week or two.
i really really want to become friends with this clique. what's the best way to do this? i'm having a party on saturday, and they're going to be there, so how should i go about it?
Like, by clique, do you mean like..the meaner/popularer girls? If so don't waste your time with them..there all fake & they suck. [I know this,because I'm best friends with all of them.]
If you just mean a group of people, that seem cool, or whatever.. then, just go up to them, & start like talking about school or something, & just be super friendly, give big smiles, & sound really interested in what they say to you. & then at the end of the night, if everyone goes well..just be like "guys, i had a tottaly chill time with you.. we should hang out again sometime!" & i'm sure they'll say yes.. & then BAM. you just made a couple new potential friends. (:
For a long time I have not been the typical friend happy wild and crazy party person a lot of people are I am quite boring at times actually but I am a good friend and I can be fun with the right person doing the right things. It is just that sometimes I think that I don't want a lot of friends any way because a lot of times they can cause drama or it's just another person that knows dirt about you that you have to be reminded of everytime you look at them Right now I have associates but no close friends and sometimes I feel lonely. Is it okay to be a loner or not?
It depends, like.. if you like doing things more by yourself or with a huge group of people. Thats kinda got be your decision.
I personally, need people. I can't do anything on my own. I need people there for me. Recently, though I don't. because, my friends suck. So, my weekends, haven't been like, fun. But, i've really enjoyed catching up on like tv shows, [ I tvo everything & watch it in my spare time] cleaning my room, downloading stuff ony my ipod, & junk like that. I like the mix. Like, I like scheduling time to be alone, but I also like hanging out with people & talking on the telephone.
If you feel a little lonely or something.. ask one of your 'associates' or whatever, to hang out or something. Just call them up. & then you won't be lonely (: & before you know it.. you'll have closer friends.
Hope I helped, kbye.
long but bear with me. so basically it goes.. im a sophomore and hes a junior. through highschool up until now, hes failed 7 classes and is now behind 3 credits. the school doesnt tell him these things like mine does until the last minute, so he didnt have time to catch up. [let me add that he worked 6 hours a day for 5 days a week since he was 14, so it was hard for him to be able to do homework and stuff, but he pretty much didnt have a choice]. his only option was to go to night school AND summer school [at a combined $1200] for him to graduate on time, but they cant afford that. so now theres another option, theres this new school thing were he'll be unenrolled from his current school to go to this other place for about 4 hours a day for 8 weeks to get caught up, free of charge, then continue next year as a senior. its all done by computer and its at your own pace so it can be longer than 8 weeks but yeah. hes so worried about getting in though. like hes worried something will come up and he wont be able to for whatever reason [they check things like attendance and if youre a trouble maker and whatever.. hes not a trouble maker but he did miss 12 days last year]. if he doesnt get in he wont graduate until i do and hes gonna be pissed!! and it doesnt help that his mom calls him stupid a good bit. but hes smart like for real. his mom tells him that ill be graduating before him and stuff. apparently she reminds him every day. ive been around her for the past 7 months and yeah shes not exactly the sweetest thing. so i have two questions:
1- how can i convince him that he is smart? ive told him a million times and that he'll get in over there, but he's convinced otherwise.
2- honestly, what if he doesnt get in? ill feel sooo bad for him and he said ill never convince him hes smart if he doesnt. hes a totally mellow happy kinda person for the most part but he said if he didnt get in that id see him MAD for sure. so i dont know what im gonna do. i can understand id be pissed too if i had to stay in high school an extra year, so how can i be there for him and stuff? you can only say things like "itll be ok" and whatever so many times...
im so mixed up =[
If he doesn't get in, then its his own fault. Like, I get what your saying & everything.. but come on, the teachers i'm sure pass papers back,there is such thing as seeing your grades online [well.. we can.] so, he should know if hes doing bad or not. I mean, you can't force someone to learn. You can't put the knowledge in there head. they have to do that, themselves. & if he doesn't want to..then thats his problem. Like, when he was working, he could have changed his hours & stuff. & you could tell him.. to make a schedule. & to be a little more organized. Just be there for him, & it'll be ok.
im kinda fail complected so basically i can tan pretty ok-ish haha but i cant hold it at all! my tan was pretty much gone by like november. i was thinkin about goin to a tannin bed a couple times a week for a month before i go to the beach so i wont look albino and get burnt as soon as i get there. will it be safe to go as long as i use sunscreen every time and dont use accelerator or at least not one without sunscreen in it.
by the way is there a cure for skin cancer? bc i was burned quite often when i was younger and am scared of dying young because of it.
and please dont say bronzers or w/e bc ive tried all different kinds and they turn me orange and ive tried the lotion and it works ok but its soo much trouble to put all over me every other day and i dont wanna worry about that on vacation and that gets expensive anyway.
16-f.
Theres no cure for skin cancer.
But, my moms friend.. who went to tanning beds, got it. & they got it out of her. but now she has this hugeeee bump on her nose. So, I don't know.. I was gonna go to tanning beds & stuff.. but when I found out about that, I was like no. Because the bump on her nose, is not a turn on.
basically, what the girl who said the first thing at the bottom, is what I was going to say. so yepp.
Ugh okay well see I was friends with this girl last year and like we kind of drifted apart this year because we don't have any classes together (I'm a freshman btw.) and so I was like hey Jennifer, want to hang out on friday because I haven't seen you in awhile! And she was like sure! I was thinking you me jessica ashley and some sophmore boys could go to glory days. and I'm like ..wtf? does she think she's cool now because she hangs out with sophomress?
anyways.. so I was like uhh okay well who are the other people and she was like well fredrick, lindseys boyfriend and I was like uhm okay well I don't think fredrick or lindsey like me very much (becaues i did hang out with fredrick one time and like we don't talk anymore at all so I thought he just like doesn't like me) and so she was like no he doesn't remember you trust me but it's okay because he forgets names a lot don't worry about it. and like WTF that makes me feel like shit!! wouldn't taht make you feel like shit if someone doesn't remember you? I really want to hang out with jennifer but I don't want to be with fredrick or lindsey or anyone else.
Like I'm not really a let's go out and party with older guys kind of person.. I'm really more like a let's get together and have a sleepover and spend the whole night watching movies and gossiping and crap. But a lot of my friends have turned into those party people and I have now like maybe a few friends who I have sleepovers with all the time because there not like those party people. and I really don't know what to do.
anyways, I was thinking of canceling my plans with jennifer but I mean I don't want her to think that I canceled just because i don't think that fredrick likes me. I mean I really want to hang out with her, but I don't want to go like woohoo party yeah! and that's starting to be the problem with all of my friends.. and if I talk to her and be like hey I really don't want to hang out with them...she's either to go A) Think I'm a loser and get mad at me or B) be like okay that's fine but then tell everyone else why she's not coming and they are going to think I'm a wussy loser.
I really don't know what I'm asking her but PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!
thank you for reading htis
Love, you need to get out of the house a little more. I mean yeah sure sleepovers are a ton of fun & stuff.. but a party once in awhile is a blast too. It doesn't mean that once you go to a party, thats your whole life. & you can't do anything else. Mix it up a litte,friday.. you go out & party or something..the next day you just chill out more, & have a sleepover. & who cares if this fredrick guy doesnt like you. your not there to see him.. your there to see your friend jessica. its not like you'll be forced to talk to him. (: