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my poor boyfriend..
long but bear with me. so basically it goes.. im a sophomore and hes a junior. through highschool up until now, hes failed 7 classes and is now behind 3 credits. the school doesnt tell him these things like mine does until the last minute, so he didnt have time to catch up. [let me add that he worked 6 hours a day for 5 days a week since he was 14, so it was hard for him to be able to do homework and stuff, but he pretty much didnt have a choice]. his only option was to go to night school AND summer school [at a combined $1200] for him to graduate on time, but they cant afford that. so now theres another option, theres this new school thing were he'll be unenrolled from his current school to go to this other place for about 4 hours a day for 8 weeks to get caught up, free of charge, then continue next year as a senior. its all done by computer and its at your own pace so it can be longer than 8 weeks but yeah. hes so worried about getting in though. like hes worried something will come up and he wont be able to for whatever reason [they check things like attendance and if youre a trouble maker and whatever.. hes not a trouble maker but he did miss 12 days last year]. if he doesnt get in he wont graduate until i do and hes gonna be pissed!! and it doesnt help that his mom calls him stupid a good bit. but hes smart like for real. his mom tells him that ill be graduating before him and stuff. apparently she reminds him every day. ive been around her for the past 7 months and yeah shes not exactly the sweetest thing. so i have two questions:
1- how can i convince him that he is smart? ive told him a million times and that he'll get in over there, but he's convinced otherwise.
2- honestly, what if he doesnt get in? ill feel sooo bad for him and he said ill never convince him hes smart if he doesnt. hes a totally mellow happy kinda person for the most part but he said if he didnt get in that id see him MAD for sure. so i dont know what im gonna do. i can understand id be pissed too if i had to stay in high school an extra year, so how can i be there for him and stuff? you can only say things like "itll be ok" and whatever so many times...
im so mixed up =[
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If he doesn't get in, then its his own fault. Like, I get what your saying & everything.. but come on, the teachers i'm sure pass papers back,there is such thing as seeing your grades online [well.. we can.] so, he should know if hes doing bad or not. I mean, you can't force someone to learn. You can't put the knowledge in there head. they have to do that, themselves. & if he doesn't want to..then thats his problem. Like, when he was working, he could have changed his hours & stuff. & you could tell him.. to make a schedule. & to be a little more organized. Just be there for him, & it'll be ok.
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Well, what i can say is that you'll just have to stay with him through the whole thing. You can't take the blame for his actions. Maybe he should talk to his boss and tell him that school and education comes first (if it doesn't, it should) and that he needs time to do homework. If he doesn't make it, then he'll have to deal with it. It was his fault that he failed 7 classes, so now he has to deal with the consequences of it. You can tell him that he should try to make time for school, pay attention in class, and tell him to make sure he does good on tests and that.
And for his mother, he should just ignore it, my mom does the same thing with me, and i get C's and B's.
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But the thing is, you should know if your failing or not. If you arent understanding whats going on then of course you should know your failing. You cant really convince him that he is smart. I mean 7 classes? you wouldnt be able to convice me either. should just push him to do better.
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