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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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I smoke cigerettes.. Andd i need to quit but i need an easy way to do it!

Your totally right. Its not that easy. I use to smoke but I dont anymore. Its acutually more addicting than heroine, believe it or not. What I did to quit was, every time I had a craving, I would eat a sucker. I suggest you like go to the dollar store or something. You may gain some weight in the end, but thats better than smokeing. If that dosen't work, maybe take up a new hobby, like running or learning how to play some instrument. You'll be to busy to even worry about smoking. This advice may sound weird, but this is stuff I did to stop smoking, and it worked.

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i have a guitar at home. i don't know if it's in tune or not, but i don't really mind too much. i wanna learn how to play it, but i don't know how to start. anybody please help me...? thanks in advance.

Go to your local music store or go on the internet to get a book like Melbay. First you have to learn the different beats like, quater notes, half beats, and so on. Then you have to learn how to read music. I learned the basics just fine with out a teacher and you probaly could to. Just so you know, learning any instrument takes a lot of time and dedication.
Make sure your up for that.
xoxo
Dottie4

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hey im on birth control, Ortho Tri-Cyclen, and ive been getting some spotting..but its sort of close to my period like a week away and im almost done with the pills i know spotting is normal but could this just be the beginning of my period?

It could be. I'm on the same pill. The pill makes your periods regular so you get them at the same time every month. Your periods might have started at different times when you weren't on the pill, but the pill changes your body and slows down hormones. If it's not your period it's probaly break through bleeding. Totally gross, I know. Break through bleeding is bleeding when it's not your time of the month. And your right, the first wk of using the pill, it usually does this. Just make sure you take them at the same time every night. If you don't that can cause break through bleeding too. So gross, I know.

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i have tryed like every kind of acne treatment there is. I dont have major acne but it is noticable. Make up sometimes covers it up. i have also been to the dermatologist and everthing they suggested didnt work. so does any have any ideas for different treatments i could use that work

I have the same problem. Only thing is I had acne really bad, but now it's a lot better than it was. If your a girl, I suggest the bithcontrol pill. It settles down your hormones. Just keep in mind, having acne isn't that big a deal. Just about everyone has some form of acne. Well, I suggest using a mild oil free cleanser like Noxema. Also, I suggest you use some kind of topical medication like, clearisil or something like that. If you do wear make-up, make sure it's oil free. And make sure you wah your face at least twicwe a day. Also make sure you wipe off the make-up when your done. Get those make-up remover cloths. Their fairly cheap. Right now I'm on Zoderm Cleanser and Retina Micro. It helps a lot. Anything with Benzoyl Peroxide is usually good for acne. Less than 1% of the population is alergic to it. (Benzoyl Peroxide that is). Hope I helped.

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ive been playing guitar for a year and piano for about 8 or 7, and ive been trying to write a song, but i just cant.

does anyone have any tips for writing a song with words to it on the piano or guitar? i want like a love song, thats like whats left of me or the scientist, or like that kind of song.

im 13 btw

Well, to start off with theres plenty of great songs out there. Use those as examples. Listen to the beat and the mood of like your favorite love song. When I write songs I just write poems and try to fix the rythym of it later. Just remember, poems don't have to rhyme. It just takes practice. And since your 13, you have your whole life to write great songs. A lot of people have trouble doing this kind of thing. Me too. Unless your like Bob Dylan or Greg Allman. THe songs that you have probaly tried to write are probaly pretty good. Don't throw those out. Most of the greatest song writers ever, there lyrics started out as poetry. Like Bob Dylan and Joni Mitchell. Believe me, I know exactly what your talking about. It's very frustrating. I've played guitar for 2 yrs now.

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So my dad tells me how nobody in reality is going to respect me because i have a tongue ring. I thought respecting somebody wasnt because of how they look [as in having a tongue ring] and because i have 17 piercings. I swear he is embarassed of me and he wants like the perfect little daughter or something

Ew. he makes me so mad. blahh

Oh believe me. I know exactly how you feel. He probaly just wants the best for you and loves you so much that he criticizes you. Believe me I get grief all the time from my dad because of the people I hang out with. Just think of it this way. If he didn't care about you, he wouldn't even speak to you about it. Everybody I know goes through this with their parents. It's perfectly normal. Your dad is just being a dad.

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13/f i like my best friend's boyfriend. i know he doenst like me. hes obsessed with my best friend. all our other friends tease us that we like each other cuz we're always getting into arguments and stuff. my best friend used to say i could tell her if i did, but i know i cant, i know it will just upset her and theres no point. lately me and my best friend havent been as close so it wud be almost impossible to tell her. what should i do?

I would maybe hint to your friend that you like him. Maybe tell her how funny he is or something if it keeps bothering you. This happens to just about all my friends, including me. Ask her boyfriend though. Maybe he can hook you up with someone.

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Where can I find lists of merengue artists and tracks, like popular ones and charts. I've tried google and all I could find was places that sold the actual CDs and live radio stations. I'm looking for charts or something like iTunes has, where it lists the artist, album, and song names. Any ideas or websites that have a lot of music categorized that way? Thanks, will rate.

The Rolling Stones magazine or the website.www.rollingstones.com

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Well, It's really not at the forefront of my mind right now, Byzantine history is, but I am debating my religious beleifs from time to time. I am floating somewhere between a Deist, an Agnostic and an Atheist. Something that doesn't have some sort of personality cult at its center. I enjoy other peoples' opinions on subjects like this. I can handle being preached to if it's something that you believe, but what I most want is something well-reasoned. I would like it if some people who sport some religious affiliation to tell me why theirs makes sense and why that is something someone like myself should believe. Thanks for your participation - I hope the rest of your day is a blast!

Just about everyone goes through this. Even if they don't admit it. Me, I consider myself an atheist. I'm not going to preach to you about being an atheist either. I'll just answer your question and be gone. You believe whatever you want to believe. Don't let other people make that decision for you. Anyone who is well reasoned doesn't want to preach their religous beliefs to you. I think you should do what you want to do. If yu want to go to church go ahead. If you don't want to, don't. Don't let people you don't even know make that decison for you. I'm growing up in a pretty religous home. My parents go to church just about every sunday. They always want me to go with them but one day I just told them my view point and they respected it. A lot of people go through this, religous confusion, if they grow up in a very religous household. Eventually, you'll decide what you believe in.

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What are some good pop and rock 80s-90s music?

Cindi Lauper
Nirvana
The Clash
Van Halen
Pearl Jam
Derek Trucks
The Strokes
Ozzy Osbourne
Dave Matthews
Fiona Apple
ZZ top
Tom Petty
Journey
Kansas
White Stripes
Aero Smith
Rolling Stones
Alanis Morsiette
Chumba Wumba
Natalie Merchant
10,000 Maniacs
Eric Clapton (he does new stuff still)
Bonnie Rait
Iris Dement
Ben Harper
ACDC
Sound Garden
Alice in Chains
Jane's Addiction
Sonic Youth
Metalica
Rage against the machine
Public Enemy
Sex Pistols
David Bowe
Bon Jovi
Iggy Pop
Motorhead
Slash
Hope you like my suggestions

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is it better to be friend first before you get into a relationship?
because my boyfriend broke up with me because he said we messed our relationship up because we really wasnt friend when we went out and he wants to start over and he said he might or might not ask me back out is that bad?? for me??

because i love himm

No, it doesn't really matter. I was like best friend's with my ex and it didn't work out. Actually to honest, were not even friends anymore. People get in relationships all the time where they don't really know the person. Your ex was probaly just trying to give you an excuse, and he couldn't give you one, so he gave a lame excuse like this one. If you want to be friends with him and want to go back out with him, go ahead. I'd say there's nothing wrong with being friends with him, if you still care about him. But since you are probaly single now, don't feel obligated, like you have to wait for him to ask you back out. If you meet another guy you like, go ahead and go for it. You guys can still be friends.

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does eating chiles make your lips bigger? and also not to be vulgar or innapropriate (btw this s simply out of curiosity!) does sucking male genitals make them bigger (i'm trying to put it in as decent a way as i can.) i apologize if you find this innapropriate, but if you do you shouldn't leaving a comment. what with the likliness of karma ya know.

Chillies do yeah, but only for a little while. And no, sucking male genitals won't. If you really want to make your lips bigger, I reccomend using some of those lip boosting stuff. You can get it at Walmart for like 5 bucks. Or, brush your lips with a wet toothbrush. I know this sounds weird but it does work. Plus it stays that way for a while. No, I don't think this question is inappropriate at all. People ask questions on here like, where the woman's G-8 spot is and how to turn them on. This question wouldn't have went through most likely, if it wasn't appropriate.

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I wear a lot of black clothing. In fact, I'm almost always in black. I'm not attempting to be goth or anything; I simply like the colour in clothes and I feel it suits me. Occasionally I'll wear colours but for the most part I wear black. Ever since this though, I've copped a lot of critisism from people. So many people have asked me why I wear so much black. A couple of guys have said they'd like me better if I didn't wear so much black. One "friend" of mine even went so far to tell me I don't look good in it and to stop wearing it!

I just can't understand it. Why is it such a big deal? I'm a happy person, and am not goth at all. I just like black clothes. What should I do?

First of all, the people that tell you this crap are nothing but jerks. I wear black all the time and people give me crap to. I just ignore them. There not worth it hon. If they keep it up it up though, I would just give insult them right back. Them them something like, I can wear different clothes but you'll still be ugly. It's no one's busniess what you wear. Maybe tell them that too. And as for your friend, she could have just been joking around if it was only a one time thing, but if she does it all the time, about time you get new friends. There are always going to be people who criticize you. Everybody goes through it. Just know that those people will get there carma soon enough. Also realize that they are lowlives and jerks. They have no life if they have to criticize you when they don't even know you.

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Well ok i go to this YMCA Camp at Summer, & well its summer, so anyways, i met a boy named Devin, & i like him ... ALOT! well my friends Alex & Damien say me and Devin make a cute couple and Damien told Alex that he though Devin liked me. & alex told me Damien said that. && Kolton, (Devins Best friend) said "Hey! Devin want's you!! he likes you & stuff" but then Devin makes a face & goes "Ewww. Gross, Sicko!" So i really don't know what to think. Should i give up on love? because thats what i feal like doing right about now, High ratings for just trying. Please. this situation is bugging me, bad! =]

No. Don't give up. Guys are all like this. They don't know how to tell girls they like them, so they act immature. Seriously, I've had my fair share of this. Since I was in like the 7th grade I had a guy that just picked on me all the time. Two years later, he asked me out. What I would try to do is try to be friends with the guy first, and then tell him you like him, after you really get to know him of course. And I know about this to. Sometimes I'll fall for a guy only for the simple fact that there hot. After you get to know him as a friend, you may decide you don't like him like that. Either way, there are plenty of other guys out there. If it doesn't work out with this one, move on. There's someone out there for everyone. It's just a matter of if they found them or not.

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I haven't been really close to a someone [as a friend] in about 5-6 years. I was afraid to. [When I was younger, I had a best friend of 5 years and she left me a year before middle school] But now I'm trying to get friends. I'm talking to people now and making plans. Is it supposed to feel weird? I get nervous and everything.. And some of them are going through some emotional problems.. is it normal to feel bad about it? It just feels weird.. usually i dont think or feel like that about people.

A lot of people are in the same situation. I included. Yeah, of course it's normal to be nervous in front of a new group of people. Try to talk to these people to see if you have anything in common with them. You could join in programs like 4-H or a church group of some kind where they'll be other kids your age. To be honest, I don't have many friends, but the few I do have are great. There always there for me no matter what. Just remember this tip; quality is more important than quanity. I know this sounds corny as hell, but it's the truth. I mean, would you rather have a bunch of friends that use you, or a few that are there for you whenever you need them? Another tip I'll give you, is to be yourself. I know you've heard it probaly a million times, but really think about it. Don't change who you are just for a bunch of snotty clicks. (as in popular girls) (snobs). I'll leave on that note. Also, if you want more advice, go ahead and drop some questions into my inbox.

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i feel very frusterated and my lower back seems to have a lot of tension i am also questioning everything i do my faith sexuality so on and so on i do not want to feel this way what is wrong with me? why am i getting this feeling? has anyone else had it? please help me i have been feeling like this on and off since april.

First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. Everybody goes through this. It's a matter as to what extreme though. I'm 15 now and I've had the same feelings you described since I was like 9. I wouldn't worry about going to a doctor. Except maybe for the back pains. Everybody questions these kinds of things. They probaly don't want other people to know about them though because they feel it's not normal.They feel other people don't go through these kinds of feelings. If you go to some sort of quack, all there going to want to do is put you on some sort of medication and make you like a zombie, so they can make money. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. I may be young, but I've been through a lot and have talked to a lot of people. Your just going through a stage that everyone goes through. Trust me. Talking about it can help a lot though.

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My friend gave my number to the guy that I like and he said that he would definitely call me. If he calls me, I know that I'll get nervous and freeze up. In case he does call, how do I stop myself from being nervous and how can I calm down?

Just be yourself. Talk about things that you both may have in common. Then talk about that. Sometimes when a boy calls me the same thing happens. I like to have a friend there with me. It makes me less nervous. If you like this guy, act like your really interested in what he has to say. Say things like, that's cool, really, and ask questions about that topic. Trust me, I do this all the time and the guy falls head over heels. Plus, you won't have to talk much. He'll be doing all the talking. And I'm sure hon, he will be just as nervous as you are. Trust me. Believe me, all guys may seem like there cool and calm and know everything. There clueless, hormonal raging machines. I'll leave on this note, they really like to talk to talk about themselves, so keep the topiv on them.

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ok, so ive tried everything but i sweat alot under my arms
does anyone have any tips on how to make my arpits stop sweating so much?
thanks

I have the same thing. What I do is wait a while after taking a shower and then put on the deoderant. You could also, I know this sounds bad but bring deoderant with you in your purse but be discreet about it. I do this. I also wear loose cotton shirts so it doesn't attract as much heat and you won't sweat as much. Also, make sure you stay hydrated by drinking at least 8 glasses a day of water. Hope I came of some use.

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If i don't wear makeup and wash my face with acne products.. would my face be clean/clear?
Doesn't makeup/acne products/SOAP irritate the skin?

Yeah. If you use regular soap then it can really dry out your skin bad. I would just use a mild cleanser on my face like Noxema. I use it and it works fine. It doesn't dry my face out at all, and I have horrible skin but it's gotten a whole lot better by just doing simple things.And no. You can still wear make-up as long as its oil-free. Look at the foundation before you buy it to make sure it says this on it. Just make sure you take it off before you exercise or if you play any sports, take it off. With my skin routine, I wash my face 3 times a day with Noxema and put a light moisturizer on, like Dove's. Hope I helped.

dottie4

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I have always had a problem with friends. I used to have some reallygood friends but we had a huge fight and we aren't friends anymore. Right now I have only like 7 friends but only two really close ones. My question is how can I make some more close friends? I am going to be in highschool there and people keep telling me well you can make more friends in highschool and stuff. There is one problem though...I live in a small town with only one junior high that goes into te highschool. I basically already know everyone.Where do you think I could meet friends outside of school?

Thanks in advance

You'll still probaly make more friends in high school. People become more mature. Most small towns offer programs like 4-H or FFA. Or you could go where everyone hangs out. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I live in a small town myself, and theres basically nothing to do out here but I am in 4-H and have made tons of friends in it. Also you could invite your really close friends over, and tell them to bring someone along.

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