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Close to someone
I haven't been really close to a someone [as a friend] in about 5-6 years. I was afraid to. [When I was younger, I had a best friend of 5 years and she left me a year before middle school] But now I'm trying to get friends. I'm talking to people now and making plans. Is it supposed to feel weird? I get nervous and everything.. And some of them are going through some emotional problems.. is it normal to feel bad about it? It just feels weird.. usually i dont think or feel like that about people.
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A lot of people are in the same situation. I included. Yeah, of course it's normal to be nervous in front of a new group of people. Try to talk to these people to see if you have anything in common with them. You could join in programs like 4-H or a church group of some kind where they'll be other kids your age. To be honest, I don't have many friends, but the few I do have are great. There always there for me no matter what. Just remember this tip; quality is more important than quanity. I know this sounds corny as hell, but it's the truth. I mean, would you rather have a bunch of friends that use you, or a few that are there for you whenever you need them? Another tip I'll give you, is to be yourself. I know you've heard it probaly a million times, but really think about it. Don't change who you are just for a bunch of snotty clicks. (as in popular girls) (snobs). I'll leave on that note. Also, if you want more advice, go ahead and drop some questions into my inbox.
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Hey, I was in the same situation as you! I was so used to being neglected by friends I couldn't get close to one. I used to feel weird about making plans and sometimes would feel the need to cancel. But once I followed through with them I had a great time! You sorta need to train yourself to learn that people who are you true friends will not leave you and it is hard. I'm still trying to work through it. Keep making plans and talking to the people you are friends with and it will make you feel more comfortable around them and you will start to feel less weird about doing so. If you have nothing to talk about start with school, or plans over the summer or classes next year things like that. It will sure spark up a convo.
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