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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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What exactly is driving school ? When do you go for it ? And how old could you be to do it? Also do they schedual your appointment to get your liscense or no?

Driving school varies from state to state. I think for all states, it's classroom time and time literally spent behind the wheel with an instructor. However, the amount of time varies by state. I'm sure you could look that up on Google :)


Usually, you have to be 15 to do the classroom portion, and 15 WITH your permit to do the driving portion.


No, you don't schedule an appointment to get your license. You just go, fill out some paperwork, and take your road test.


-Laura (17-f)

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ok well this is going to sound very stupid but what does it mean when you go to second base and what does it mean when you go to third base with a guy?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542078


only search advicenators.com



-Laura (17-f)

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ok so my friend that i've known for a couple years met a new friend when middle school started. I wasn't in her class at the begining of the year, but thgen when i got moved to herr class she introduced me to her new friend. for a couple of weeks we were all reall good friends, then they started hanging out together and leaving me out of everything. I don't know what to do, because if i try to talk to them they just get mad of don't listen to me ! help !

Well, you have two options. You can either talk to them again, or find new friends.


I was in your situation at the beginning of the summer, and I started off with talking to them. Just sit down with them, tell them that you don't want them to get mad, but something has been bothering you lately. Let them know that you're feeling really left out and it's really hurting your feelings. Just tell them how you are genuinely feeling and let them know that you want to hang out with them, too instead of just being left out all the time.


You second option is the option I chose. However, my situation was more intense than yours (think name calling, talking behind back and friend stealing), so I chose to walk away. Sure, I could've tried to talk to them again and I'm sure I could've made much more of an effort, but sometimes you just have to know when to walk away. And if these girls continue to treat you like crap, maybe that's the best option. But don't choose to do this without at least trying to talk to them again. You might regret it (though I don't).


Good luck and if you need anymore help, send a question to my inbox :)


-Laura (17-f)

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i really really reallly want a pair of high top sneakers and not the chuck taylor kind, im talking stuff like jordans and whatever. my question is, does anyone kno where i can get some for under $30.00????

Journey's, Converse and all the stores the person below said will NOT have them for under $30.00.


Try Ebay or Amazon?


-Laura (17-f)

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There is a girl in my class she acts as a boss to me i just want to tell to stop being a bossy girl but i dont have guts to tell this to her wat should i do. and i am from india

Don't ignore her, like somebody said below, it will only make her think it's ok to push you around.


I agree with Jack, stand up for yourself! Don't be rude to her, just be confident and let her know that you're NOT going to put up with her shoving you around.


-Laura (17-f)

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please give me some tips on getting a girl

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545439


From there:


It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.

Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]


Personality wise, here are my top 5:

1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".


2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.


3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.


4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.


5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.


Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.



And: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541093. From there:


First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.

I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?


Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."


So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.



-Laura (17-f)

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hey i asked the question about help could i have your screen name to im you?

Thanks for inboxing!


My screen name is whoawhereslaura. But I'm going on vacation for the week, so I won't be on this week.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hello. I am a female and I'm 14. I met my boyfriend a year ago but we have been dating for 4 months. We recently started having sex--we love each other. We do it because we love each other not for pleasure. Well anyway, we had sex a couple days ago. This is what my question is about: He ejaculated in a condom, waited a litte while, cleaned his penis off with soap and water, and tried sex without a condom. BUT he did not ejaculate without the condom. In fact, I only let him in there for about 15-20 seconds. I was wondering what you thought the chances of me getting pregnant from that are. I finished my period about a week ago, maybe a little more. So, I shouldnt be ovulating for about 5 days to a week. IF there was any sperm, it would have died in me,right? i heard that they cant last more than 5 days inside the vagina. Also, my boyfriend says soap kills sperm. He is sure I am not pregnant-I'm just worried! Help!

"we had sex a couple days ago."


ANY TIME you have sex, there is a chance you can be pregnant. But, if you got your period after you had sex, then you're not pregnant.


Next time, be safe. Or stop having sex at such a young age.


-Laura (17-f)

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I just finished the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer and I loved it! I really want to find books that have the same kind of romance that Edward Cullen and Bella Swan do in the Twilight series. I also like Bella and Edward's romance because it is so impossible (if you know what I mean)! Please help me find a book to match these qualities.

This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen. My favorite book ever, the love story is incredible and I recommend it to every teenage girl on the planet. Your heart will melt.


Other suggestions:
Honey, Baby, Sweetheart by Deb Caletti.
Wild Roses by Deb Caletti.
A Rose for Melinda by Lurlene McDaniel.
A Walk to Remember by Nicholas Sparks.
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen.


-Laura (17-f)

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Okay im looking for a swimsuit like these:

Oh, and this is for school swimming, so it has to be a full piece.

this would be my first choice:
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/onlineProductDisplay.vs?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=EB-221147&page=1&cgname=OSSWMOPSZZZ&rfnbr=158

This is my second::
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/onlineProductDisplay.vs?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=EB-232563&page=1&cgname=OSSWMOPSZZZ&rfnbr=158


Which one do you like better?
Where can I get some that look simular for cheaper?
What year do they look like?


Thanks!

I like the first one, too. But they're both pretty cute :)


You can try looking at Target and Kohl's for a similar style.


As for the year, I'm not sure what you mean? They kind of look like they could be from the 50's or something, but in a really good, stylish way!


-Laura (17-f)


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Really? I saw a few at Kohl's. Maybe all the stores are different and vary by state or something, though...

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I noticed how my friend is so positive about things. She is always looking at the bright side and I realize that I hardly ever do! I'm always ready for failure while she's alway saying things like, "Well, we didn't win but we did our best and that is a great feeling!" I'd like to be more like that. It sounds like a great way to be, really...just more hopeful and happier with the outcomes we're given when we put our best foot forward, you know?

Anyway, how do I start being more optimistic? Are there tips or something?

1. Focus on the GOOD, stop thinking about the BAD.
2. Learn to be resilient.
3. Smile! :)


- Like I said, focus on the good. It's not always easy, but you just need to learn to do it. If something isn't going your way, just look it at from another perspective. Think about how the bad thing is making you stronger, or how it's causing other things which might even be good thing, to happen. Just think of all the good you have in your life, and be happy.


- Your friend is the perfect example. Just because you lose a game does NOT mean you're a loser. Just remember that there's always next time! Learn to bounce back from bad situations. This kind of goes with focusing on the good. Don't dwell on bad things. Learn to move on!


- Smiling does wonders. Smile at strangers. I tried this out at work for a weekend. I smiled at strangers, said "hello" to people I didn't know and told them to have a nice day when they left (which I didn't really do before) and it not only made THEM smile as well, but it made me feel so good inside.


Going with the YouTube links, I saw this a while back and it inspired me:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo


I don't know if you've ever heard of it, or this man, but he is incredible. He was a lecturer, given months to live and was determined to give one final lecture. I watched the entire thing, completely consumed the entire time. I'm reading his book now, and his optimism and outlook on life really helped change mine. I know the video is long, but it's SO worth it to watch it.


Hope this helps :) If you need anything else, send me an inbox!


-Laura (17-f)

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hey everyone, i was just wondering if i could possibly get some opinions on something i was looking into doing. What would you think about getting white converse, regular shoe ones without the high top, and get some fabric markers (gold, silver, etc) and to get someone artistic decorate both of the shoes completely in metalic colors, with my name too. ? any ideas, or opinions appreciated

I think it sounds awesome. I know people who do it, and they have some of the coolest and most unique shoes I've ever seen :)


-Laura (17-f)

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hey i have a bad problem.im one of the most emotional people you could possible meet. like i get all happy ovver good stuff and really sad. i talked to this girl for 2 years straight everyday and i was a ass treated her like shit and she broke up with me after a while. im sitll in love with her and she doesnt want anything to do with me. i cant take it i'd rather her flip at me for trying to talk to her just to hear her voice then not bother with her. but she hates me. i was wrong to treat her like crap and now shes like really messing with my head with everything. i need to be high on something or drunk to keep her out of my head..actually shes still there but im numb so it doesnt bother me .. i dont wanna be like this. is it possible i could go to a shrink for it. would they be able to cure me. help me somehow..not only do i have to deal with losing her i have to deal with feeling bad about it all and now my grandma is not doing to good so thats bothering me to. i need help i feel like theres no point in life anymore. please help asap. and please dont go calling any type of suicide prevention things because thats not necessary. i just need help. thanks

I think you should start by keeping a journal and writing down all of your feelings and everything that's going on in your life. It really does help to let it all out, even on paper. And the best part is, it's all you; you don't have to let ANYBODY else read it :)


Secondly, do things you enjoy. Find a new hobby that you have a passion for, and go for it! Doing something you love really does help make you feel 10 times better when you're feeling down. And aside from a new hobby, be sure to surround yourself with people who love/support you. Trust me, I have learned firsthand recently that staying friends with people who bring you down does nothing but make you feel worse.


As far talking to a professional goes, that's something you and your parents have to decide. I suggest talking to your parents about it and telling them what you told us. Let them know you're feeling extremely emotional (which is totally normal at this age), but you'd feel a lot more comfortable if you could talk to a professional. I've never been to one, but I'd imagine they'd be able to help you a lot more than your parents or a friend could.


Good luck and if you ever need to talk, send something to my inbox and we can chat :)


-Laura (17-f)

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We've been dating for 9 months. I just broke up with him about an hour ago. It was a gut feeling, really, so I didn't have much of a reason. I mean, I didn't want to be with him anymore I guess. He was my first boyfriend. Anyway, now that I've broken up with him I feel kind of bad and sad. How long will this last? I know I couldn't have stayed with him forever, right? Sure, he was wonderful and I was happy but he's just my first boyfriend. It just wasn't realistic to have hopes of "lasting forever" with him, right? :\

-Regretting-The-Break-Up

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


From there:


I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:


Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...


Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.


Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.


Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.


Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.


Best of luck! :)


As far as how long you will feel bad, it really depends. Sometimes, it's only a week. For other people, it's a month. It depends on how resilient you are, and how good your support system is. I strongly suggest using your friends' shoulders to cry on.


No, you probably wouldn't have lasted forever with him. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince, but one day, you WILL find the person that you're meant to spend forever with, I promise :)



-Laura (17-f)

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A good friend told me he wanted to come visit me. He got here and within 48 hours had hooked up with a complete stranger. I never saw him at all for three days straight after that - then he went home without even calling to say "good-bye"!

Is it right that my feelings are hurt or should I be happy that at least he had a good time?

I am wishing him bad thoughts. Like, he'll get syphilis or something. Which is likely.

Am I a bad friend?

I think you should be feeling a bit of both. You should be glad he had a good time, but a bigger part of you has the right to have hurt feelings.


He told you that he wanted to come visit YOU, and then he ditched you to hook up with somebody that he just met. You should be a bit upset with him, because that's not very nice at all.


As for the bad thoughts, it's ok to be angry with him, but you don't need to wish bad thoughts upon him. Talk to him, let him know that you're hurt. Otherwise, he'll just do it again and again and again, because he won't know that it bothers you as much as it does.


-Laura (17-f)

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okay. im a 7th grader. and all the 7th grade guys are basicly complete assholes. and i just like as friends. i met some 6th graders. and there really nice and cute and pretty cool. this one likes me and i wanna go out with him. but hes in 6th grade and all the 7th grade guys are now always like "omg hes a fag he tries to be cool" and stuff. idk what to do!

Go out with him! My boyfriend is a year younger than me and I could care less. Age really stops mattering once you get older. Go for it :)


-Laura (17-f)

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A kid at school really dosnt talk at all.even when questions are asked.I would like to be his friend.at lunch he sits at a bench and twidles his thumbs and has his head looking at the ground.he seems abused and or lonley.sat with him many times before and invited him to sit W/ me and asked his name and told him my name even.what should i say and do? please help me make his life a little better.i am 13 years old a male

It's great that you're reaching out to this kid. I think it's very nice of you, especially at such a young age. You sound like a really nice kid.


As far as talking to him, he's obviously very shy. Start off slow. Maybe this will help?:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311


From there:

1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.


2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.


3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.


4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.



Good luck! And if you need any more help, send a question to my inbox :)


-Laura (17-f)

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i'm trying to find new and exciting things to do with my girlfriend but i'm debating on some things. i want her to piss on me. should i let her?

I don't think it sounds appealing at all, for either party. It sounds rather grotesque, in fact.


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I'm 18/f in the US, in a long distance relationship with a guy from the UK. Haven't told my parents, and don't think they'd be very understanding, they're very uhm..old fashioned and strict people.

Anyway, my boyfriend and I want to share a journal, like he'll have it for a month than mail it here, and vice versa. Problem is, if my parents see mail to me from the UK with some guys name on it, they're gonna ask questions. Also, they'll have to drive me to the post office to mail it back, as I do not have a car.

Can anyone think of something I could tell them? I thought of saying I signed up on a penpal website, and this is my penpal. But, I don't know if they'll buy it. Any other suggestions, please help!!

I really think that you should just be upfront with them and tell them the truth.


Lying to your parents is NEVER good idea, and it is nothing but a sure way to cause problems with them. Just sit down with them and explain your situation.


Now, don't let them think that this is some serious, we're-getting-married type of thing. Just tell them you met this guy, and you really like him and he really likes you. You'd be surprised at how much parents can handle, let me tell you. Start by telling them something like "Mom and dad, I know this might sound a bit odd, and I know it might not sound like me, but I met a boy and I am really interested in him and he's really interested in me..." and make sure to mention that you are trying to be honest with them rather than hide the truth (because this will help; they'll like that you're being open with them.)


So, like I said, be honest with them and tell them the truth. It's much better to be open with your parents (they'll respect you telling them the truth) than to get tangled up in a web of lies.


-Laura (17-f)

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I am pretty sure the Jonas Brothers sings the song. My friend is teaching me how to play "Give Love a Try" on guitar but I want to sing to it too. I don't want to look stupid and get the words wrong though. Where can I get reliable Jonas Brothers lyrics to this particular song?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532580


Try that website.


-Laura (17-f)

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