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i'm nothing anymore !
ok so my friend that i've known for a couple years met a new friend when middle school started. I wasn't in her class at the begining of the year, but thgen when i got moved to herr class she introduced me to her new friend. for a couple of weeks we were all reall good friends, then they started hanging out together and leaving me out of everything. I don't know what to do, because if i try to talk to them they just get mad of don't listen to me ! help !
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Well, you have two options. You can either talk to them again, or find new friends.
I was in your situation at the beginning of the summer, and I started off with talking to them. Just sit down with them, tell them that you don't want them to get mad, but something has been bothering you lately. Let them know that you're feeling really left out and it's really hurting your feelings. Just tell them how you are genuinely feeling and let them know that you want to hang out with them, too instead of just being left out all the time.
You second option is the option I chose. However, my situation was more intense than yours (think name calling, talking behind back and friend stealing), so I chose to walk away. Sure, I could've tried to talk to them again and I'm sure I could've made much more of an effort, but sometimes you just have to know when to walk away. And if these girls continue to treat you like crap, maybe that's the best option. But don't choose to do this without at least trying to talk to them again. You might regret it (though I don't).
Good luck and if you need anymore help, send a question to my inbox :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Oh maan, i know how that feels :[ I'm sorry, but okay, here's my advice for you... I don't think that you're friend understands that she can have more than one good friend. So I think that you should definetly talk to her about how you're feeling. But the downside to this sitution is that she might be changing and moving on to different friends, or "ditching" you. It sucks, I know. But if she can leave you, don't let it get to you, stand up for yourself. You're a great person, don't let two girls ruin it for you, this is YOUR life and it's what you make of it. I know talking to them might get them mad, but it shouldn't, they should listen and understand, as long as you're being nice about it, they shouldnt have a problem with any of it. Honestly, they don't sound like good friends, and take it from me, they're not worth it and they do NOT deserve your friendship. Go out and hang with other people because in the long run, history repeats itself, and your "friends" will probably ditch you again. You deserve waaaay better, and you'll be so much happier with people who will want to be around you and not just leave you. From past experiences, I would know.
But if you REALLY want to be their friend, just keep trying to talk to them. communication is key. you could say something like, "hey, i know you don't really want to hear this, but I'm feeling like you guys don't want to be my friend anymore and if that's the case then just tell me, because you guys leave me out of everything and it hurts." if you open up to them, they might actually feel bad ... so just talk to them. and you're not nothing :] you're better than them and would NEVER do that to any of your other friends.
good luck, hope i helped ! let me know how it goes and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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