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well, you see, me and my bf aaron have been dating for almost 10 months, but lately, things have been different. i have heard that months from 9-11 are really hard, but i didnt expect this. i talked to him about this and he says that he will always love me, no matter what happenes. idk how to explain it, we barely even talk, and have been fighting a lot lately, but i dont want to break up with him. what can i do to put back that zest back in our relashionship without doing something to drastic?
-age-15 [both of us]
-gender-female
Well communication is the key.
You cant just suddenly make out or like stuff like that, it cant be physical.
If your emotional relationship sucks, then you need to tlak, and if neither of you can do that, then you need to break up.
well, i'v lost many friends lately. But it seems like i'v lost all of them because of my boyfriend. eithier one of my friends tryed to do stuff with my boyfriend or they went back n told him something i didnt want them too.Now this really isnt the problem i just have a hard time gaining friends, im a shy person once you meet me n i just need advice on how to be more open to people so i could make new friends. Thanx to any1 who helps
Always smile when your talking to someone, listen, dont talk all the time, be nice, and just be yourself. First impressions are actually a big deal, so make good ones on people!
do you know anything about foreign exchange students? i think i might want to be one but i need to know more about it! if you have anything please answer this question! anything will help! sorry i don't know wat category this goes under!
Okay I'm not exactly 100% sure about them, but I know there were a lot at my school. I loved it, they were the sweetest people evver!
I know if you want to be a foreign exchange student if your coming to wherever your from, you have to live with someone else, a different family, most likely someone in the family goes to the school your going to be attending.
To find more information try googling it or calling the school you will be attending?
:)
What does an IOU have written on it.
its my boyfriends bday, and he was recently injured so im trying to do a cute IOU for us to go to a college football game or a local teams baseball game, when hes able to walk again.
what could i put on it?
im gunna have one shaped like a football, then another shaped like a baseball. But i dunno what to put on it.
thanks so much =]
Its pretty simple.
Like IOU to take you to a college football game w hen you get better.
Give this to me when your better ..
etc.
ok...here is how it is...i used to be a happygolucky child then my cousin changed and i acted cool like her but i was so young people thought it was cute...but now i am wearing pink clothes...listening to green day....and hard rock!!!!!! what is wrong with me? and sometimes i want to dye my hair black somtimes i come to my sences and say ..no i would look bad with it...then i turn goth and get moody...then another i am happy sweet loving child..which should i choose..and why am i going through this because i need to make a decision because i am getting new clothes and it would be stupid to be totally opposite..my friends think i am weird because i always have opposite feelings one day and another..goth..prep..punk...prep..punk..goth...it changes...for me i prefer to wear goth clothes but be quiet...but cheeerful i want to have different attitudes ..but then all this mixture is to much...plz..for the sake of pete help me!
Okay labels are so stupid.
Be who you are, you can be quiet on the inside and your fashion can speak for itself.
You can color your hair whatever you like, you can wear what you want.
Seriously dont label it though.
Just be who youare, theres nothing wrong with you,
dont change to fit other molds or labels,
just be you.
Because being "goth,prep,punk," etc.. those labels, that isnt you, your just pretending to be someone else, and its not working so thats why you keep changing.
There is this bunny sickness that has hit more than one of our bunnies. The bunnies become very limp and act like they have no muscle ability left, they just tilt to the ground. They have green liquids seeping from their nose and mouth but their ears are clear of all mites and visible infections. What is killing my bunnies?
Take them to the vet to figure it out, if its killing bunnies it probably can kill other animals, go to the vet and have them figure it out so you wont spread it.
My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"?
Communication is the key.
You need to talk to her about what she does and how it makes you feel, its the only way to get things straight. If you do talk to her and she ends up getting all defensive and yelling and whatever, then you have figured out your answer to if you want to be her friend yet, you know?
I just got this shirt and it says "Dude, STFU" on it (cool points if you know where it's from). Well my mom said she doesn't mind if I wear it but my dad wouldn't like it. She told me to tell him STFU stands for something else but I can't come up with anything. Any help?
ahah tell him its a band.
hi this question may be a little weird but my sister thinks that shes ugly and she beautiful yet for some reason she thinks that if your her friend or family your lieing or it dosent count if you say shes pretty in my family your not aloud to date or have a boyfriend until your 18 so she is sad she says the second that she turns 18 shes gonna go out and get a boyfriend now that i dont care about but shes so obsessesd with makeup and tryin to look pretty when she dosent have to and to tell you the truth she looks so much better without makeup i dont know what to do or tell my sister cause i know she really is beautiful theres one thing she says that makes me so mad about my sister she says why couldnt god make me as pretty as my oldest siter u see im the youngest and my sister that thinks she is ugly is the third child and then my brother is the 2nd child and she says that we were all blessed with beauty except her she dosent exactly say that but thats what she probably means help me please
Aww well you cant force someone to accept themselve. But you can help them try to see the beauty of being who they are. You should sit your sister down and have a talk with her, tell her how much you think shes GOREGOUS, and that she looks better without makeup, and that it hurts your feelings when she says she thinks shess ugly because its only bringing her own selfesteem down. Try to make her be more positive attitude on her looks :)
I have a clique of 4. We all have been hanging out rather often and having fun together and a horrible thing suddenly happened...I gradually started to have a crush on one of the guys.
When I just got to know him, we both used to keep arguing and keep making fun of each other. I used to find him very irritating and I hated him a lot( and I really mean hate). He just likes to go around making fun of people and whenever he did that to me, I'd scold him.
As time passed, we talked more and he showed a little more sensitive side of him(but he's still darn irritating) and he said and did nice stuff for me which really surprised me. Like for eg, he held my hand and waist when he was teaching me how to dance a school dance. (ok fine duh I know he has to hold my hand and waist) And what the hell..I started liking him. But I know for sure that he doesnt like me. He will never like my type and he seems to be always against how i look, how i talk, how i wear clothes and he always like to tell me bout my hair being too messy, talking too loudly, watever etc. And he just always has this heck-care attitude which is like "i-dun-care-if-you-like-me-or-not-cos-I'm-not-going-to-get-a-gf-and-dun-get-me-involved-in-a-relationship". How do i stop myself from liking him? Cos i just want a nice long lasting friendship among the 4 of us. I really like this clique and I wish to get to know them more. I dun wanna ruin this opportunity to get to be closer to them. But everytime i see the way he acts, the way he walks, its just so ..*sigh*...boyish, manly and cute. I can't make myself hate him again for being so irritating because I've actually like his irritating characteristic as well. Can someone pls tell me how to stop having this crush on him? Its just a crush and i know it'll be easy to get rid of but i need help doing it. so I'd love to see wat advice you guys have to give. :)
Aw hello
well thats usually how crushes start out ;) from hating to dating. but if he doesnt want to date and doesnt like you at all, the main thing is what you said "get over him" to do that is, try hanging out with other people, and doing other things, I know you said you liked your "clique" or whatever, but its not going to help you get over him if your constantly around him you know? So try meeting new people and occupying yourself in other ways.
And dont worry about your hair or what you look like around him, if he didnt really care before you had a crush on him, what makes you think he does now?
...Although are you sure he doesnt like you?
Beacuse the whole teasing you about your hair being messy is a characteristic of a guy fllirting :) but I dont know, take care:)
Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.
hi hun,
well you are only twelve, and even so turning 13 in 2 weeks, 13 is still a imature age, for most.
I dont want you to be offended, but I'm going to be honest and say yes it is slutty. You both are just using each other for pleasure, and that is wrong. In the end your hurting both of you guys.
Its more though that your doing way to much heavy stuff thats not ment to be done for a very long time, and with someone you trust and actually "love" beacuse this situation sounds more to me like lusting and raging hormones.
Be careful.
Does anybody know about those new tanning beds? The ones that are UV protectant?
I want to find out if they are real or not
I dont want to tan if i could get skin cancer
Any machine or thing that is giving you tan unnaturally, isnt that safe. Scientists have said that they arent even sure what they are in for , for the coming years .. because they think a lot of the young people right now eventually are going to have the highest case of skin cancer. :/
But Try googling this question too, I'ms ure there will be tons of articles!
I was reading your answer to somebody's question and you said "everything has to be perfect, down to the angle of your face." So if I'm Asian and one eye is bigger than the other but they still look good, am I out of luck?
Oh no dear your not out of luck,
I'm not saying the person has to be perfect,
but for modeling they give you this handbook, and your posture the look on your face, the way your hands are placed, the direction your looking, the way your hair falls.. they make a big deal about that.
So you can be a model if you wanted to! I was just telling her that it can be quite hard work!
I'm asian too by the way. :)
I'm an 18 year old female, living on the East Coast. My friend Jake is 22, living in Oregon. He is suicidal. Is there anything I can do to help?
I've known him for about 4 years. He has been suicidal since he was 10, apparently - that's 12 whole years of "depression". He just came back from the Jop Corps last week for his summer vacation, so yesterday was my first time speaking to him in 10 months. ALLL he would talk about is getting his hands on some tough drugs and then going to the "train tracks", if you know what I mean.
How do I help him? His complaints are pretty much the usual stuff. His family hates him, no one loves him, he doesn't have a girlfriend and now that he is 22 he will never have kids. For years, I've been trying to help him, trying to comfort him, trying to make points where I feel I can. But oh no, nothing works, because.... "no one loves me". When he says that, it actually insults me. What, have four years of my time meant nothing to him? Isn't there only so much a person can do?
I almost blame myself for not being able to help him. I can not contact his friends or family, because I have zero connection to them. He doesn't live with his parents, so there's no address I can find. He only has a cell phone, so that says that. And I don't even know his parents names, or friends, for that matter. I have zero way to get him help.
I know this isn't about me, but I'm losing my patience here. He is seriously stressing me out. I try and try and try, but I am never good enough. What, does he like being this way, or something? Could he secretly enjoy his lifestyle? Could I have a major attention whore on my hands, rather than a suicidal man?
He is also compulsive liar, which doesn't help anything. I'm thinking his other friends (the ones he doesn't have, according to him), probably assume that if he hasn't done away with himself in 12 years, he will never have the guts. That may be true, but I am not willing to write something like a death threat off, I'm sorry... because I know there is always a breaking point.
I consulted a few of my friends, and of course I heard the same thing every time, "Why do you bother talking to him? Oh, I wouldn't talk to him. Screw that guy."
Only, I know that wouldn't contribute anything to his well-being. Right?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, at what point should I disconcern myself, if ever? And what more can I do to help him? Trying to help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves, is usually a failure before the process even commences...
You need to tell him to get help, and if you yourself have helped him to the best ofyour ability, then you just need to stop, and try to move on and it sounds like hes just threatening you and really not goign to do anything. You know? I hate to say this but some people do things for attention, it still may be serious, but they do it for attention, because everyone else supposedly "hates" them so they want attention from one person, and the only way in their mind to acheive that is to lie and threaten their lives. If you know what I mean.
And I can totally understand your losing your patience, all I really can say is if you've done EVERYTHING you know you can, its safe to just move on with your life, knowing that you did all you could you know? Dont let him bring you down.
My hair is really poofy. Even after I straighten it bottom layer, then top. I've bleached my hair and all that good stuff. I was wondering, if I got my hair chemicaly straightened, would that make it non-poofy?
Sorry, for the bad spelling.
Your hair is probably even more poofy since you bleached it, and usually that makes peoples hair really coarse and makes it dry.
I know a girl who got her hair chemicaly straightened, who usually had quite poofy hair and it looked much better. It looked smooth and straight, so yes it would make it less poofy. But sometimes it drys out the bottom tips of your hair.
Sorry in advanced if it is long. I'm 16/f. So, I broke up with my bf of 4 months a month ago. And the same exact day he got a new gf. And he didnt bother telling him, I found out at a party, I saw them together. And it didn't feel right to me, like he shouldn't have moved on so quickly. But I wasn't really jealous I don't think. And we are still friends, which I'm glad for, and I'm constantly going online to see if he is on. And when he is, my heart starts to race like crazy, and I'm like so happy. We can talk forever but little stuff, we just always find things to talk about. I also think about him all the time no matter what, it drives me crazy. And when I'm not talking to him, I feel a little depressed. I'm just scared that if we do get back together, it will end up like the past. I really don't want to hurt him again, I would just hate myself. And after we broke up, I told myself that I did love him, but just that it was just friendship love. But now I"m not too sure. Can I really still be IN love with him? And I just also need some advice on how to deal with these feelings if they won't go away. I'm just really confused and need some advice.
Well sweetie, he now in a relationship you know? You can admit it would hurt, and definitly feel awkward and not right for you. Because hello, in your mind its you and him, not him and some chick. But yeah I know how you feel about getting online to talk to him, nervous, etc. Yeah, dont dwell on him, because if he's already moved on (dating another girl) then chances are your not going to get back together with him. You can still be in love with him, its always possible, just like if someone you love dies, you will always love them, until you feel you can move on from that loss. To move on from a break up, the best thing I can suggest is go out with friends, have FUN!, dont think about him, I know thats so hard, because people used to tell me that too about this guy, and I couldnt ever get him out of my head or off my brain! ahh. So I know how you feel. If you need someone to talk to, on my advice column I have addresses for aim or msn that you can reach me on :)
Ok im starying back so i wanna make a great impression to my new class mates.So i havent gone close shopping for school so anything is ok.Im 14 and i hope that i can bring out my good vib and tho all of my bad features of myself out the door.I am over weightbut only in my bellyi have a bear belly if u will the rest of my body is thin and is ok but my face is chubby.my checks are chubby so i wanna tryt to hide all that.i need cloths that hide the fat that has collected around belly and make myself look taller.and my hair is super curly its a afro that can be tammed by mouse ,hair spray but i wanna have new styles to my self and my hair and also my make up.im a crazy out going person i love to lauph and i only have a small budget from my close i have 2 other brothers so they need cloths as well im ganna go shoping at wal-mart.jc penny and a few others im looking for a officey confy thinning cloths.but then maybe a few t shirt and jeans im happy with i wanna be kinda like a prep so cloths that last longer is great , plz i need help and thanks
-katie
You dont need to buy certain clothes to make people like you. Honestly, fat can be worked off, with a healthy diet and exercise. So, just work on your confidence and if you say your crazy outgoing person, you should have no problem making friends!
17/f
The pastor at my church is sick and members of my church are going on a juice fast for 7 days. I am 5'6" and I weigh about 130 pounds (mostly muscle). My question is about how much weight will I lose during this and what's the safest way to come off the fast and try to gain my weight back (in muscle)?
Thanks sooooooo much!!!!
You may not lose a lot of weight, BUT if you do, you'll just gain it back, because to keep it off it has to be worked off. But anyways, when your getting back off your fast, dont eat too much too quickly, start off with not a lot, and just go on from there, otherwise you could make yourself sick.
14/f/california
I really want to get into modeling.How would i go about this? Do i need an agent? If so how does this work? if anyone has any experince in this or even in acting.Im about 5'5 and 145lbs,but am sliming down, i am planning to lose 30 pounds.
So just any advice or comments on this would be great.
Well my sister did modeling, and she said it wasnt as she expected it, everything down to your face angle has to be perfect. But since you live in california i would think there would be a lot of oppertunities for modeling? If not, try searching online for a agency close to you, and make sure its no scam and what not.
Good luck :)
I have an injured jaw (with an unknown cause) and I have to go in for an MRI scan. Has anyone else gone for one? How long do you usually stay? (in the machine) I guess. Haha if you could please tell me about your experience it would be greatly appreciated! THANKSSS! :)
I had one of those when I had my BIKE VS CAR accident (car hitting bike) and I had to have my head checked, it took about 10 minutes or less for me, it didnt hurt at all, it was kinda scary being there, but just relax and do what they say, its not that bad! No pain involved, unless you have like broken bones or something.. because broken bones hurt in general. Buy yeah dont worry about it :)
Hah, they also gave me the ex ray of my brain. it was kinda cool, yet creepy.
Good luck sweetheart!