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I want to go back to being friends
I have a clique of 4. We all have been hanging out rather often and having fun together and a horrible thing suddenly happened...I gradually started to have a crush on one of the guys.
When I just got to know him, we both used to keep arguing and keep making fun of each other. I used to find him very irritating and I hated him a lot( and I really mean hate). He just likes to go around making fun of people and whenever he did that to me, I'd scold him.
As time passed, we talked more and he showed a little more sensitive side of him(but he's still darn irritating) and he said and did nice stuff for me which really surprised me. Like for eg, he held my hand and waist when he was teaching me how to dance a school dance. (ok fine duh I know he has to hold my hand and waist) And what the hell..I started liking him. But I know for sure that he doesnt like me. He will never like my type and he seems to be always against how i look, how i talk, how i wear clothes and he always like to tell me bout my hair being too messy, talking too loudly, watever etc. And he just always has this heck-care attitude which is like "i-dun-care-if-you-like-me-or-not-cos-I'm-not-going-to-get-a-gf-and-dun-get-me-involved-in-a-relationship". How do i stop myself from liking him? Cos i just want a nice long lasting friendship among the 4 of us. I really like this clique and I wish to get to know them more. I dun wanna ruin this opportunity to get to be closer to them. But everytime i see the way he acts, the way he walks, its just so ..*sigh*...boyish, manly and cute. I can't make myself hate him again for being so irritating because I've actually like his irritating characteristic as well. Can someone pls tell me how to stop having this crush on him? Its just a crush and i know it'll be easy to get rid of but i need help doing it. so I'd love to see wat advice you guys have to give. :)
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Hi, what usually happens with crushes is that girls like one boy that catches their eye and start liking them for weeks maybe months then as soon as they find someone else who attracts them they quickly get over the other person and start to like him and so on. Its the same with boys as well. Maybe making friends and having an interest in other guys could draw you out of it. Lust usually doesn't last long were as if you felt love it would last a very long time. However crushes don't go away over night and might take a while. It usually comes out in time. Daniel.
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I'm sorry but this isn't advice your going to like. I had the same thing, a group of 4 friends and we did everything together - it was great, and this near to the same thing happend, not with me though, with the 2 other people in the group. If you keep going out in this group, you might find more about him to try and hate and stop having a crush on him, or you will build your lust for him and he will start wanting you more, (perhaps he comments on you a lot because its purely about you and really he wants you and he is trying to find bad points to say just to stop him jumping on you with love) and soon you will start dating, it won't ruin your group straight away, but it will do, quite fast, and you will still be friends with the others in the "clique" except they will drift away, there will be 1 that you will still talk too and maybe once or twice go out with, and the other will nearly vanish. It will be fairly upseting for those two...
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It takes a while to get over a guy.Try hanging out with friends.Make lots of plans so you don't start thinking about this guy.If you do start to think about him,just try to shrug it off.One day,you'll here his name and be like,"who?".LOL,good luck!
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Aw hello
well thats usually how crushes start out ;) from hating to dating. but if he doesnt want to date and doesnt like you at all, the main thing is what you said "get over him" to do that is, try hanging out with other people, and doing other things, I know you said you liked your "clique" or whatever, but its not going to help you get over him if your constantly around him you know? So try meeting new people and occupying yourself in other ways.
And dont worry about your hair or what you look like around him, if he didnt really care before you had a crush on him, what makes you think he does now?
...Although are you sure he doesnt like you?
Beacuse the whole teasing you about your hair being messy is a characteristic of a guy fllirting :) but I dont know, take care:)
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