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Okay I saw the question you awnsered and it was like why did god do this to me ? or something but my problem is that you said your only 13 and you're already dating steady ? Well I REALLY think its okay to have a steady at this age if your not over doing things,its (in my eyes)good because it probly won't work out but it gives you experiance for real relationships.
I am 13 and I have had 2 steadys now...1 for 2 months and now I'm going out with a guy I've been with for almost a year and its all good and my parents approve ! (link)
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This "experience" is apparently driving you to drink. I stand by my opinion that you are too young to handle it.
Also, you need to get your stories straight - first you say that you desperately wanted a boyfriend and felt unloved, and then you say that you've been with the same guy for almost a year and it's all good?
The previous incident happened to you in September, which by my watch was about six months ago. If you've been with a guy for "almost a year" since then, then you must have gotten over 17-year-old-with-AS pretty quick!
Whatever's going on in your life, I freely acknowledge that I can't understand it. What you say simply doesn't add up.
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So I sort of like this friend of mine.. and we went to see a movie together as friends. Well you know how expensive buying food and drink from the cinema is, so I asked him whether he wanted to share a drink and some popcorn, because I thought it would cut the cost down for both of us and I'm used to sharing when I go out with people to the movies.
And he gives me a strange look and says "Nah I think I'll definitley get my own" I felt really embarassed and taken aback because it was like I had some sort of contagious disease! I don't get what was wrong with what I said.
I know I'm being OVERLY paranoid and looking into things FAR too much but I don't get what I did wrong and I guess it hurt a little bit. Was it wrong to offer to share with him? Or was he out of line? I can't understand his motives! Please help. Thankyou. (link)
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Some people just don't like sharing drinks or food. I think that's all there was to it. In the case of popcorn, I think it's pretty silly, but then there are some pretty silly hang-ups that I have too (for instance, I absolutely can't brush my teeth with someone else in the room, even my wife of ten years!)
Let it slide. It's probably nothing and no slam against you, just his own personal quirk.
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SAM f/14 ok well i really like a good guy friend of mine and have liked him for about a month or so. at 1st i thought he liked me but he told me he doesnt and it really hurt. but he acts like he does and that really confuses me. and wenever it comes up he says he doesnt. but i dunt get it. is he just flirting around all the time for no reason??? i wouldnt want to lose our friendship over somethin like this but hes all i ever think of and i wanna forget him but i just cant. he makes me smile and laugh and wenever im not with him i just think about him.....
i constantly dream about him and i wanna stop,, ive tried to forget him but when i see him (like every single day) i just wanna be with him. i still believe that he does like me even though hes made it pretty clear that he doesnt. there are just so many signs that he does and idk wat to do about it.
its MY fault though for liking him so much and i know i have to stop...
thanx =) (link)
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Yes, you do have to stop. He has indeed made his feelings quite clear, and I suspect that what you see as flirting and "signs" are just examples of him being a friendly person.
What you have is an obsession, and NO guy wants to be the target of an obsession. You're going to have to take control of your feelings and look at the situation realistically. Even if he does have feelings for you, he is clearly not going to act on them, so if you badger him about it it's just going to make him angry with you. I assume that's not what you want.
If you want your friendship to survive, you are going to have to write him off as potential boyfriend material. Otherwise, HE will end it when you begin to annoy him too much.
Don't give up all hope, though. Maybe in a couple of years, he will see you in that light as well. You can't force it, though, and don't count on it.
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Me and a girl work in the library we do the same workstudy job. And, our job description does not include getting books for people unless they really need our help because for one we're not allowed to answer reference questions and most students can find there own books. But the girl asked me to find a book for her i asked her "You don't know how to find books?" she said yeah i do but i'm gonna go look for this book i need. So i agree but then i sas her over there talking to this cutie clear across the room no where near any books than she goes an dhugs another one. So I didn't get it 'cause if she can do that she can find her own book and i told her that. an i wrong, right, or just justified? (link)
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You were right, but you were also rude.
It may not be part of your job to find a book for someone, but that doesn't mean you should give people a hard time when they ask for help. Saying, "You don't know how to find books?" to her was insulting her intelligence. Surely you could have found a nicer way to put it.
Then, if I'm reading this right, she didn't go straight away to look for the other book she needed but instead went and said hello to some friends. Well, all that tells me is that maybe she's a little more socially graceful than you are. Perhaps she saw them unexpectedly and rather than ignore them, she took a brief moment to greet them. Why does that hurt you at all? You had already agreed to help her find the book she needed; her stopping and talking to friends wasn't taking up any more of your time. Granted, she wasn't doing precisely what she said she was going to do, but people sometimes get distracted.
Strictly speaking, she asked you to do something she could have done herself, used up some of your valuable time, and didn't do something she said she was going to do - at least not right away. But I think you overreacted, you were rude to her, and it's certainly not a good way to maintain a good relationship with your co-workers. Don't be surprised if she's a little cold with you in the future.
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I live in a suburb minutes away from Richmond, Virginia and I was wondering if there are any modeling agencies around there. I'd like to do some modeling, but I don't really know where or how to start. I'm a 15 year old girl. Somebody help me! (link)
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Start by discussing it with your parents, because there is no legitimate agency or photographer who will work with someone under the age of 18 without parental consent.
Then, strongly consider the idea of taking some classes. Modeling isn't just standing around looking pretty; you do have to know what you're doing. You have to know about how to pose, how to walk, what to do with your hands, not to mention how to read a contract and what a fair price for your work is. You have to develop the right attitude such that you can pose uncomfortably under hot studio lights for hours at a time while every square inch of your body is critiqued, wearing makeup that feels like latex paint and vaseline on your teeth, and dealing with one of the most cutthroat, competitive, backstabbing industries that has ever been devised by man.
It's HARD WORK.
Modeling agencies get a LOT of pretty girls who walk in off the street wanting to be a model, most of which haven't the faintest clue of what they're doing. If you're serious about it and don't want to be shown the EXIT door as soon as you walk in, you have to put in the time, the work, and the money to learn the skills required.
You'll need a portfolio, which is expensive ($500 to $1000), and lots of photographers will scam you on this one by delivering a shoddy product to an aspiring model who may not know any better. This is another good reason to take classes at an accredited school; they will help you with this part.
Finally, don't count on being able to make a living at it. There are few who can. It is a very difficult, demanding field with a lot of competition. In other words, have a backup plan.
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So I have a pretty good relationship with my Lord and Savior- Jesus Christ. A strange (but not bad) thing happened to me back in september- and I have yet to figure out why He did this.
This is what happened: I was 13 over the summer- and I spent the whole time crying because I was single and I felt unloved and unworthy of having a relationship. I was praying for a boyfriend a lot too. I felt God speak to me and tell me that he would send me a nice boy who was new to my theater group (that starts in september) who would hit on me. He didn't lie- because on the first night of the class this amazingly attractive and nice 17-yr-old guy told me I was pretty and he asked for my number. I felt like I was dreaming. He called me later that night and started talking to me and we were setting up a date and then he told me how he had Asberger's Syndrome.
So, my point is- I don't see why God would send me such a perfect man exept for his mental disorder. When we figured out it wouldn't work out- it left me in the worst depressed state. I turned to alcohol as well.
I'm confused.
If anyone has any ideas- they'd be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I'm going to start my reply by stating that I do not believe in God - I am convinced that He does not exist. I hope that you are willing to consider advice from one who does not share your religious views.
First and foremost: you must not blame God for your difficulties, no matter whose belief system you go by. By my beliefs, you're blaming an imaginary being, which is pointless; according to the Christian belief, God's love is perfect and He does not cause your difficulties but instead gives you the strength to overcome them. Either way, the responsibility lies with you.
Second: You are 13 years old. That is too young for a serious relationship with a boy. Personally, I don't even intend to let my daughter date until she's 16, let alone have a steady boyfriend! I tend to think that if God was listening, he'd probably agree with me - and if you don't believe me, ask your minister or pastor, whomever you might turn to for spiritual guidance. Furthermore, at 17, he was definitely too old for you.
Third: Beware of the answers you think you are receiving from prayers! Even the most devout believer in God and Christ will admit that sometimes, the voice you hear in your head is wishful thinking.
Fourth: Asperger's Syndrome is not a terrible thing. Simply put, it is a descriptive diagnosis of a not-very-well-understood condition in which one has trouble understanding the subtleties of social interaction (for instance, someone with AS has a hard time understanding when people are trading playful insults or being sarcastic). More information at this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
It is certainly not something that makes a relationship with someone impossible, but of course it is overwhelming for a 13-year-old, which is another good sign that you are just not ready to date yet. (Incidentally, it is also probably a good indication why, as a 17-year-old who is nearly an adult, he didn't understand why it was inappropriate to ask you out.)
Fifth: Self-destruction is no way to handle a setback like this. Certainly you can be upset about it, but to start drinking will definitely not help matters - it can only make things worse. To collapse emotionally and get drunk is not only an immature and defeatist way to handle a problem, it's also a poor way to show faith in God. Fortunately, He'll forgive you.
I really have to ask this: where the hell are your PARENTS? I can't imagine that they would have been okay with this relationship even if he was a perfect guy (By the way, the "perfect guy" doesn't exist, so you may as well stop looking. We all have problems.) Furthermore, they're a little remiss in their responsibilities if they're allowing you to become a 13-year-old alcoholic. I strongly suggest that you consider turning to them for some help; if that's not possible, than please find SOMEONE, preferably a human being instead of God.
For you see, God isn't Santa Claus. He doesn't give you what you want - He gives you what you NEED. Perhaps you ought to consider that He sent this boy to you to show you that you are not yet ready for a relationship on that level. Talking to a person, an adult you can trust, can help you sort out your feelings and help you to know what to do next.
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ok your a boy well tell mr this is sex always on your mind or are you differnt (link)
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I'm 35 years old, so I'm well past the point of being a "boy", but I think I can still answer your question.
Sex is not always on the male mind, but it doesn't take much to bring it to the surface. A halfway suggestive comment, a glance at an attractive girl (or woman), a particular scent in the air, the fact that it's Tuesday... all sorts of things can make a guy think about sex. I think that guys are far more easily stimulated to think about sex when compared to girls, and since they will therefore be ready to say something sexually oriented no matter what the occasion, it seems as if it's on their minds all the time.
And it doesn't help that one is almost constantly bombarded by sexual images in advertising and popular culture. Watch any channel on TV at prime time for an hour, and you'll see at least one girl in a bikini. I once drove across the city where I live and counted over twenty advertisements for strip clubs visible from the road. We don't stand a chance!
Guys also tend to judge each other based on their sexual prowess - we don't hold James Bond in high esteem because he's a snappy dresser, we do it because he scored with Pussy Galore! Boys who have a lot of sex are considered Studs, and win the admiration of their peers; girls who do the same are considered Sluts, and are looked down upon. It's a stupid and asinine double-standard that makes no sense, but that's the way things are. HOWEVER, as boys grow into men, they begin to understand that there are better ways to measure masculinity. Obsession with sex and the pursuit of "studliness" is really a sign of immaturity.
Personally, I'd say that at this point in my life, I probably spend about 10% of my waking hours thinking about sex; and I admit I'd probably do it more often if I didn't spend a lot of time at work where I have to concentrate on fixing computers. But don't judge the boys too harshly - I remember very well those raging hormones, and they do NOT make it easy to maintain discipline.
In the end, though, I suspect that boys and girls think about sex just about equally. Boys just talk about it louder.
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i was jacking off and i ejaculated and when the cum came out a little blood came out also i have ejaculated before and his has never happened what is wrong (link)
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This could be a few different things, but I think the most likely explanations are a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) or a kidney stone (they don't always hurt, but when they do, it's brutal!).
Odds are, it's got nothing to do with jacking off. Unless you're rubbing the skin raw, there's nothing about masturbating that's going to cause damage. You happened to notice the blood because semen is a milky-white fluid and blood shows up very well; it's probably in your urine too, but you don't notice it because it's less concentrated.
You should certainly go to a doctor and have it checked. It's very simple, you'll just have to pee in a cup and they'll do a urinalysis. An untreated UTI can cause sterility or impotence, so do have it checked out as soon as possible.
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There's this guy I kind of sort of like. And we've been on a date. Bu I don't know if I want to keep dating him because...I feel like I can do better. I feel really shallow, but I find myself interested in other guys too. I don't know what to do because he's really a great guy but I don't feel comitted. (link)
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Whether you're shallow or not depends on what exactly you feel that this guy is lacking. I don't think it's shallow to have standards, but one must choose wisely what those standards are.
For instance, if he is rude or insensitive to you, doesn't care about his personal hygiene, hides behind a false personality, or has a poor sense of ethics, then I'd say you would be right to think you can do better.
However, if you feel he's not physically attractive enough, doesn't have enough money, or he's not in with the popular crowd, then those are not good reasons to reject him.
Since you say that he's a "really great guy", I can't help but think that your reasons for thinking you can do better have to do with what OTHER people think of him instead of what you think. That is shallow indeed, and it's going to come back and bite you someday.
If this guy doesn't live up to your standards of what a boyfriend should be, then it's probably a kindness to both of you if you let him go. But if your standards are not based on the right sort of things, you will never find happiness in a relationship, and the day will come when you look back with regret at all the "great guys" that slipped through your fingers.
Incidentally, feel free to date other guys until and unless you make a commitment to one of them. There's nothing wrong with dating one guy on Thursday night and another one on Saturday, provided it's clear all around that no one is in an exclusive relationship.
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What are some turn ons for guys? I need tons, thanks! (link)
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I'm going to assume you're talking about sex.
The biggest, most universal turn-on for guys is a girl who's willing, eager, and excited about having sex, who enjoys it while it's happening, and doesn't have regrets afterward. Of course, that requires him to put in a little effort and make sure the woman really IS enjoying it, and in turn it will probably require her to let him know what feels good, what doesn't, and what she would like. Here's a secret about guys: most of them will do almost anything you want in bed as long as you show genuine enthusiasm for it!
There are some guys who get more turned on by a girl who's NOT willing, but those are definitely not the ones you want a relationship with.
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Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help? (link)
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You know what you're doing, you know that it's wrong. That much is clear. I'll try not to pass judgment except to say that if I were Blake, I would not forgive you.
One way or another, this must end. Surely you realize that your relationship with either guy cannot continue this way.
Nate is using you. Ordinarily I would condemn him for that, but you don't seem to have a problem with it, and besides you're using him too. I certainly don't get the sense that you love him, only that you lust after him. There's nothing inherently wrong with that - if Blake didn't exist, I'd advise you to do whatever floats your boat and just be aware of the risks involved.
However, Blake DOES exist, and you've made a commitment to him. He's given you a second chance and you've essentially blown it. I might have advised you to explore sex with Blake and see if he could do anything that might bring you close to the level that Nate seems to do, but it's too late for that; at least, for the moment.
Here's why: You are putting Blake's life in jeopardy.
I can just about guarantee you that you are not Nate's only bed partner. He certainly doesn't sound like the sort of guy who goes in for an exclusive relationship! That means that he's putting you at risk for STDs, and you're passing that risk on to Blake. He should NOT have to pay the price for your wanderings.
If you want to salvage your relationship with Blake, there are three things you will have to do:
(1) Stop seeing Nate. Not only stop having sex with him, but stop SEEING him. He is obviously too much of a temptation and you have not been able to control yourself, so you must force yourself to keep a distance.
(2) Have yourself tested for STDs: herpes, syphilis, HIV, the works. If you're positive for any of them, then Blake needs to know.
(3) You're going to have to lie. Blake has shown extraordinary patience and a forgiving nature (too much, I think). He doesn't deserve the additional pain of knowing you betrayed his trust again. It will probably be hard for you to hide your actions from him, and you may be tempted to "do the right thing" and tell him, but instead you're just going to have to live with the guilt. That's your penance and the price you will have to pay for a relationship with Blake.
If, after having done all the above, you find yourself back in Nate's bed (or for that matter, someone else's bed) even ONE more time, then use what honor you have left and tell Blake he must let you go. He deserves better.
Your behavior, as you yourself admit, is deplorable. It is also self-destructive. For you to be essentially raped by a man and then voluntarily go back to him again and again, while betraying a man who truly loves you, is just not normal or healthy. I strongly recommend psychological counseling, for your own sake as well as whomever you end up with in a committed relationship again. Do this before you come to despise yourself so much that you don't want to go on.
Right at the start, I said that under similar circumstances, I wouldn't forgive you. However, you will need to eventually find some way to forgive yourself if you are ever going to feel worthy of being loved. The first step on that road is to stop doing the wrong thing, and start doing what's right. Don't delay and don't go back for "one last time" with Nate. End it now, or watch your life spiral down the tubes.
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Ok I tried doing sit ups but I couldn't like sit up! I'm really skinney but I just have some fat on my belly I'm trying to get rid of so when I tried to sit up only like my boobs and above could go up and I couldn't go up any higher! (link)
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Start slowly. Those muscles are frequently underdeveloped on people who don't exercise regularly (like me, for instance).
Instead of sitting up all the way, try sitting up as far as you can and then HOLDING that position for as long as you can. In other words, TRY to sit up even if you can't go all the way. Repeat 5 to 10 times in three sets, as if you were doing actual situps. Your stomach muscles will gradually become stronger.
Jogging will also help. Not only will it help you to melt some of the pounds off your tummy, but the back-and-forth motion of your hips will exercise the stomach muscles further.
Keep it up, and soon you'll be able to do situps properly, and then you'll really start seeing results.
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like what do guys dont like about girls..something that they do...or talk...like how to make your relationship actually last and make that person happy..and you know that person is mad about something but he doesnt really say it!!! you know what i mean??? but i just wanna make that person happy (link)
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It is impossible to give you specifics on what guys like about girls. Heck, some guys don't even prefer girls! It's like asking what people like about food; obviously, there are all kinds of preferences.
However, I can give you some very generalized advice, for what it's worth:
One thing about guys is that they like to solve their own problems; they go for help only when they've exhausted the possibilities of taking care of things themselves. If he's mad about something, and it has nothing to do with you, he may simply prefer to solve the problem on his own and not trouble you with it. However, you should still encourage him to be honest with his feelings and offer your support, because one day he will probably need to take you up on it and it will strengthen your relationship when that happens.
Now, if he's mad about something YOU did, then you deserve to know what it's about, and at times like those he should share his feelings and the reasons behind them even if he doesn't want to. On those occasions, do what you can to bring him out of the shell and encourage him to tell you why he is upset with you. If he just won't tell you, then he is not being fair to you and you should tell him so.
Open communication, honesty, and patience are the keys to any relationship - and that applies to things like friends and family as well as bf/gf or husband and wife. That keeps it alive, and it will keep it alive for the long term.
Keeping each other happy is more about consideration, affection, and empathy. The ways to show these things are numerous and varied, but the best thing you can do is simply be sincerely happy to be with your boyfriend, and show it in small ways like giving him an extra-affectionate kiss now and then, giving him space when he needs it and support when he needs that, and so on. Of course, it goes without saying that he must also be concerned with YOUR happiness, and show you in ways that you can understand.
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My fiance and I have been trying to have a baby for awhile now. I got my period twice last month and have been feeling some symptoms of pregnancy. I've heard that you can be pregnant if you have your period, but is that really true? If so, how will you know for sure if you are pregnant? If you have your period and you take a test, would it cancel out the hormones that the test detects because I have my period?Any help at all would be extremely helpful. (link)
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It is possible, though rare, for your periods to continue during the first few months of your pregnancy. I've never heard of it continuing past the first trimester.
Your doctor can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt whether you are pregnant. Make an appointment and have it checked out. It's probably worth the cost of the visit to be sure - and incidentally, if you haven't had a consultation with your gynecologist about your pregnancy plans yet, you should do that as well. He/she can give you valuable advice about ways to increase your chance of conception, which prenatal vitamins to take, and other useful information.
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My so called "best friend" started slapping me about a few weeks ago. It's over the stupidest things, too! Like, I have a favorite lip gloss that I put on all the time in school. She hates it, so she slaps me really hard across the face for that. Sometimes it doesn't hurt, but one time she left a red mark on my face. I've tried slapping her back a few times, but she always blocks her face, so I just kick her.
She's also been acting like a bitch lately, like she'll be nice to me and then tell me to go away 2 minutes later. Today, I didn't hang out with her at lunch, and she called me a slut because the kid she likes was NEAR me. I'm not even friends with him and we don't talk! I don't understand what her problem is. (link)
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I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship with this person (you seem to be already doing that, if you're putting "best friend" in quotes).
Who knows why people change, but she seems to have done so, and not for the better. You absolutely shouldn't have to tolerate physical attacks (and that's what they are - it's long past the point of kidding around). The next time it happens, make it very clear, by yelling into her face if you have to, that you won't accept it anymore. I'd follow that up with a week of not speaking to her at all. See if she gets the message.
The more subtle jabs, like the name-calling and what have you, are also things you shouldn't have to put up with. Put it to her point-blank: Is this the way she treats her friends? Does she enjoy hurting your feelings? Why is she doing this?
If her behavior keeps up, then start distancing yourself from her. You are under no obligation to maintain a friendship with someone who doesn't treat you like a friend.
Here's a piece of advice I almost never give, but I think it may be necessary in this case (bear in mind that it's up to you whether to follow it - it might just make things worse): If she slaps you again after having been warned not to, tell her that the next time she does it, you will respond with a closed fist. Then, if it comes down to it, make good on that threat. If she's hitting you hard enough to leave marks, then you have the right and duty to defend yourself.
If it escalates beyond that, get an adult you trust involved.
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my best friend (he's a dude and i'm a girl) just went back to jail for 5 days and it's his last chance to behave and not mess up probation before he goes away for like 2 years...what can i do to make him not be so ignorant about something so serious..if it helps he just told me he liked me before he went away..he'll be back on tuesday but as i said its his last chance. (link)
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You bet it's his last chance. If I were you, I'd point out that if he violates probation again, he not only loses his freedom, he loses you too. Make it clear that you have no intention whatsoever of "dating" a guy in prison or waiting for him to get out.
I don't know what he did, of course, but the tone of your question would indicate that he's not taking it very seriously. Maybe he needs it drummed into his head that you DO take it seriously and that you don't want to be associated with someone who's going to behave like a criminal.
Depending on what his original offense was, he probably deserves another chance both from you and from the justice system. If he blows that chance, though, there's really nothing in it for you to give him another one. Think of it - if he's that cavalier about whether he goes to prison for two years, what's his attitude going to be about other things that affect your relationship?
Give him an ultimatum.
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My boyfriend lately has been acting really really weird. He doesnt do the same things as he used to, and if he does, he just doesnt seem as interested to do them anymore. Like in the hallway when we're walking together, he'll hold my hand but he doesnt talk to me anymore.. and I dont know why. And then when he kisses me he doesnt kiss me as hard as he used to its like hes kissing a feather and pulls away really quick. So what I'm asking is how can I get him to be more interested in me or get him.. "whipped." please help me, I've been dating him for 4 months and we havent had sex.. because im waiting for a year before we do that.. and all we did was that he fingered me.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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His behavior is peculiar indeed. I think there is something going on in his life that he's not telling you about. All the signs indicate that he doesn't want to tell you about something, and doesn't want to lie to you about it either, and is therefore remaining silent.
This doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating, or that he wants to break up with you, or anything else that's terrible (on the other hand, it might mean those things). But there is definitely something on his mind, and for one reason or another, he's reluctant to talk to you about it.
It looks like it's going to be up to you to force the issue. Sit him down sometime when you know that the two of you won't be disturbed for a few hours, and tell him what you've perceived; that he's growing distant, that he's not as affectionate as before, and that your overall impression is that he's behaving strangely. Give him specific examples of what he's doing. Then, ask him directly if he's got something on his mind. Don't accept the first "No" for an answer; press a little bit, and assure him that whatever it is, you'd rather he was honest with you than not.
If he denies it twice, then ask him whether he's noticed how he's been acting and whether this is going to be how it is from now on. He may not have realized the change in his behavior - guys can be weird that way.
Of course, it may be that he DOES have something major on his mind, and the conversation will result in his dropping an unexpected bomb on you. Try to take it in stride and appreciate his honesty. Then, work it out together. Of course, if it's something really major, like "I've been having sex with your best friend," then go ahead and blow up at him.
This could be your first relationship hurdle. How you deal with it will set the tone for how the two of you deal with such things in the future.
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Is there any good websites out there to help plan weddings? (link)
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I'm sure there are thousands, but here's one that may be particularly useful:
http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_main/gen/eh_index.shtml
It's called "Etiquette Hell" and it's full of stories about weddings gone horribly wrong. It's a great place to go to find out what NOT to do.
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Would shaving my pubes make me look bigger and better? (link)
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It depends entirely upon the personal preference of who's looking. Some people like the shaved look, others do not. The good news is that it's self-correcting; if you find it isn't working for you, then just let it grow back!
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I had sex with someone I liked a long time ago
and we both lost our virginity to eachother.
I havent done anything sexual with anyone since then, and I know for a fact he hasnt either.
I still think about it all the time, literally all the time and I want to do it again.
It drives me crazy because I think about it so much.
Do you think he thinks about it too?
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I'd be willing to bet he thinks about it almost constantly, especially if it HAS been his only time.
However, I can't help but wonder why the two of you haven't been communicating since then - or if you have, then why this rather important topic hasn't come up. Are you still in contact? If so, I think that a deep conversation is in order, about what it meant to both of you and whether there is a relationship in your future.
You aren't giving a lot of details - for instance, you say that you think about it all the time, but are you thinking about him as a person, or just the great sex part? Do you want him as a boyfriend or do you just want to have sex again? While it is possible to have a relationship based primarily on sex, it is usually unsatisfying after a short while and they don't tend to end well.
The best advice I can give you is to get together with him (while dressed)and explore whatever feelings you may have. Hopefully, you can make an emotional connection as well as a physical one.
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