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Was I wrong: you can Do it
Me and a girl work in the library we do the same workstudy job. And, our job description does not include getting books for people unless they really need our help because for one we're not allowed to answer reference questions and most students can find there own books. But the girl asked me to find a book for her i asked her "You don't know how to find books?" she said yeah i do but i'm gonna go look for this book i need. So i agree but then i sas her over there talking to this cutie clear across the room no where near any books than she goes an dhugs another one. So I didn't get it 'cause if she can do that she can find her own book and i told her that. an i wrong, right, or just justified?
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uch, you were 100% right! this girl is just being lazy and using you to get her stuff while she flirts
i do not like this girl
no, this girl was rude, not you!
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You weren't in the right. You were simply rude, and rudeness is never justified.
People in this world are always going to do lazy, silly, hypocritical things. If you respond to each person who you think is behaving this way with self-righteous indignation, you are going to make a lot of enemies and have a far harder time of it then you need to. Having a bit of generosity of spirit will make your own life far more enjoyable.
As I see it, two things would have been 'right' in this situation:
Politely declining to get the book for her in the first place.
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After having agreed to get the book, retrieving it for her despite her behavior and simply taking a mental note that she may not be worth helping in the future.
Take a deep breath dear and swallow a bit of that pride. If you get your panties in a bunch each time it looks like someone may kind of be taking just a little bit of advantage of you you are going to waste a lot of your energy and time being pissed off. In my estimation, thirty seconds of your time wasted on a lazy person is better then behaving like a jackass.
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You were right, but you were also rude.
It may not be part of your job to find a book for someone, but that doesn't mean you should give people a hard time when they ask for help. Saying, "You don't know how to find books?" to her was insulting her intelligence. Surely you could have found a nicer way to put it.
Then, if I'm reading this right, she didn't go straight away to look for the other book she needed but instead went and said hello to some friends. Well, all that tells me is that maybe she's a little more socially graceful than you are. Perhaps she saw them unexpectedly and rather than ignore them, she took a brief moment to greet them. Why does that hurt you at all? You had already agreed to help her find the book she needed; her stopping and talking to friends wasn't taking up any more of your time. Granted, she wasn't doing precisely what she said she was going to do, but people sometimes get distracted.
Strictly speaking, she asked you to do something she could have done herself, used up some of your valuable time, and didn't do something she said she was going to do - at least not right away. But I think you overreacted, you were rude to her, and it's certainly not a good way to maintain a good relationship with your co-workers. Don't be surprised if she's a little cold with you in the future.
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