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my best friend is in jail.
my best friend (he's a dude and i'm a girl) just went back to jail for 5 days and it's his last chance to behave and not mess up probation before he goes away for like 2 years...what can i do to make him not be so ignorant about something so serious..if it helps he just told me he liked me before he went away..he'll be back on tuesday but as i said its his last chance.
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he needs your help go out with him if you like him and then warn him youll only do it if he stays out of trouble!!!
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All you can do is try to talk some sense into him. Since he cares about you, try to use that. Make him want to do it for you. If you're willing to put a lot of work into it, there's something else you could try. I don't know what he's on probation for or how he messed it up, but if you could find a way to curb the actual behavior, there would be nothing to worry about. He needs to grow up and learn how to control himself. I don't think the problem is that he doesn't realize the severity of his situation, the problem is that he can't control what he's doing. If he can't stop doing stupid things, he probably should go to jail for a few years for his own good. For these reasons I wouldn't suggest having a relationship with him until he gets things under control if you're interested. It's obvious that you care about him at least as a friend and it's lucky for him that he has someone like you, but honestly, this is something he needs to figure out on his own. If he makes a bad decision he needs to be able to face the music and take the consequences. Good luck.
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Well if you like him, you should tell him this. And you should also make it clear that your relationship would only work if he stays out of trouble (ie. threatening to break up if he has to go back to prison). If he really likes you, then he would not want to lose you, so he would not break probation.
If you don't like him. You should first tell him how you feel, and explain to him that you don't want to see him throw his life away by going to prison for two years. If he is a really good friend, he will listen to you. Explain how hurt and lost you would be if you lost your best friend and he probably would not want to hurt you so he would not break probation.
I have never been in your situation, but I know someone who has. I hope I helped.
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You bet it's his last chance. If I were you, I'd point out that if he violates probation again, he not only loses his freedom, he loses you too. Make it clear that you have no intention whatsoever of "dating" a guy in prison or waiting for him to get out.
I don't know what he did, of course, but the tone of your question would indicate that he's not taking it very seriously. Maybe he needs it drummed into his head that you DO take it seriously and that you don't want to be associated with someone who's going to behave like a criminal.
Depending on what his original offense was, he probably deserves another chance both from you and from the justice system. If he blows that chance, though, there's really nothing in it for you to give him another one. Think of it - if he's that cavalier about whether he goes to prison for two years, what's his attitude going to be about other things that affect your relationship?
Give him an ultimatum.
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