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How to get him more interested.
My boyfriend lately has been acting really really weird. He doesnt do the same things as he used to, and if he does, he just doesnt seem as interested to do them anymore. Like in the hallway when we're walking together, he'll hold my hand but he doesnt talk to me anymore.. and I dont know why. And then when he kisses me he doesnt kiss me as hard as he used to its like hes kissing a feather and pulls away really quick. So what I'm asking is how can I get him to be more interested in me or get him.. "whipped." please help me, I've been dating him for 4 months and we havent had sex.. because im waiting for a year before we do that.. and all we did was that he fingered me.
Thank you in advance.
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Your relationship is growing. This is very normal. You get used to each other and you're not as "lovey dovey" anymore. Holding hands isn't as thrilling as it used to be because it's nothing new. If it bothers you that he's not showing his affections anymore, talk to him about it. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. I'm sure after a conversation about it, as long as you don't get angry, upset, or accusatory, he'll be much better about things. Good luck! :)
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His behavior is peculiar indeed. I think there is something going on in his life that he's not telling you about. All the signs indicate that he doesn't want to tell you about something, and doesn't want to lie to you about it either, and is therefore remaining silent.
This doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating, or that he wants to break up with you, or anything else that's terrible (on the other hand, it might mean those things). But there is definitely something on his mind, and for one reason or another, he's reluctant to talk to you about it.
It looks like it's going to be up to you to force the issue. Sit him down sometime when you know that the two of you won't be disturbed for a few hours, and tell him what you've perceived; that he's growing distant, that he's not as affectionate as before, and that your overall impression is that he's behaving strangely. Give him specific examples of what he's doing. Then, ask him directly if he's got something on his mind. Don't accept the first "No" for an answer; press a little bit, and assure him that whatever it is, you'd rather he was honest with you than not.
If he denies it twice, then ask him whether he's noticed how he's been acting and whether this is going to be how it is from now on. He may not have realized the change in his behavior - guys can be weird that way.
Of course, it may be that he DOES have something major on his mind, and the conversation will result in his dropping an unexpected bomb on you. Try to take it in stride and appreciate his honesty. Then, work it out together. Of course, if it's something really major, like "I've been having sex with your best friend," then go ahead and blow up at him.
This could be your first relationship hurdle. How you deal with it will set the tone for how the two of you deal with such things in the future.
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First of all... no guy wants to be whipped. They want to feel like a man and not be completely controlled by their girlfriend.
Have you talked to him about this? And if he doesn't like to talk about relationship issues than maybe he isn't ready for one. Or maybe he's having a problem and doesn't want to bring it up which is definately a sign that you need to talk.
Maybe he's just not that interested in you anymore. We all fall out of love sometimes. Maybe the relationship is just cooling down a bit. That always happens.
And if he is hinting at sex, and you think you should do that to keep him, than he isn't worth it. You should do it with a guy who values you and will wait for you.
Relationships are more than just sex and if you feel that yours isn't much more anymore than maybe it's time for a change. Sometimes time off can be a good thing. Then again it might not. It's your decision. You have to see what is best for the two of you.
No one can make the decision for you. We can only give advice. If you need some more help let us know. But ultimately it's your decision and it's in your heart. So talk to your man and see what's up in his head. And if he doesn't want to talk, look back at paragraph 1.
I hope we answered your question and good luck with your relationship. Hope we helped.
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What you can do to get him interested is start being more sexy. Make him feel like each day he want you more and more. You can probably try having sex with him but if you don't want to have kids use pills so you don't get pregnet. Also, ask him why don't you kiss me like you use to and why You don't talk to me anymore. Also, maybe this kinda over the limit but you can try spying on him if he has another girlfriend behind your BACK cause boys mostly act weird cause they are keeping a secrete from people.
hope i help if he keep acting weird that mean he is cheating or keeping something from you that he don't want you to know
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